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How does a woman know when she's had an orgasm?
Q. How does a female know she has had an orgasm? i know that sounds stupid. but my boyfriend is always telling me that i should just let go and orgasm already or are you going to orgasm soon and i dont really know what it is like i dont know how i ...
A. 23 November 2009: It sounds like you have not reached orgasm because the feeling is very distinctive and unlike anything else.
When you become aroused and close to orgasm your pelvic structures become engorged with blood and this causes significant pressure... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but I'm developing an attraction for a guy at work. What do I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and I love him to pieces. Recently, I met this other guy at my job and we've been talking a lot. I'm starting to have strong feelings for him. Its the best/horrible feeling in the world. No way would I ever ...
A. 23 November 2009: You may not be able to help the attraction you are feeling but you can take charge of your actions. You say that no way would you cheat on your boyfriend... well yes you would cheat if you allow this situation to continue.
If you value yourself... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend about my ex raping me?
Q. Should I tell my bf, that my ex bf raped me during my relationship with my ex? I dont know if I should tell him or not. I am afraid of how he will react. At the same time, I also believe that because we are partners we should tell each other ...
A. 11 November 2009: Yes, I think he has a right to honesty, by not telling him you are unintentionally allowing him to draw false conclusions about why you are waiting. You are creating a false image of yourself. There is nothing wrong with you that you need to do ... (read in full...)
What would the symptoms be of pregnancy 2-3 weeks into it?
Q. what would the symptoms be of pregnancy 2-3 weeks into it? any at all? its about 4 days before im supposed to get my period and my nipples are sore, pains in my sides and lower abdomen and insideeee my vagina and im crying all the time sometimes ...
A. 11 November 2009: Those could be symptoms of pregnancy or they could be pms and anxiety. You need to take a pregnancy test if you don't get your period in the next week.... (read in full...)
What would the symptoms be of pregnancy 2-3 weeks into it?
Q. what would the symptoms be of pregnancy 2-3 weeks into it? any at all? its about 4 days before im supposed to get my period and my nipples are sore, pains in my sides and lower abdomen and insideeee my vagina and im crying all the time sometimes ...
A. 11 November 2009: Those could be symptoms of pregnancy or they could be pms and anxiety. You need to take a pregnancy test if you don't get your period in the next week.... (read in full...)
Why won't my wife go down on me?
Q. Why is it my wife wont go down on me yet she has no problem with me pleasing her orally? Before marriage i never had to ask. But now i only gotten head 3 times this decade yet i do her 3 to 4 times a month. Every time i even make a suggesti...
A. 11 November 2009: Accountable is right I wasn't trying to say you were a taker. We all feel like we give more than our share in some way. And when we are giving what WE want instead of what the other person wants/needs... we do end up feeling slighted.
You m... (read in full...)
Why won't my wife go down on me?
Q. Why is it my wife wont go down on me yet she has no problem with me pleasing her orally? Before marriage i never had to ask. But now i only gotten head 3 times this decade yet i do her 3 to 4 times a month. Every time i even make a suggesti...
A. 10 November 2009: Since we are speculating here... how many times in the last ten years have you shared a true heart to heart emotional connection with her?...3 times maybe?
You say before marriage you never had to ask for her to go down on you, but now she does... (read in full...)
I cheated so why isn't my wife angry?
Q. I had an affair. She ended it. I was no longer in love with my wife. The situation wasn't fair to either of us, so I told her everything and that I was ready to leave (she'd had her suspicions). She broke down and couldn't really function, so I ...
A. 10 November 2009: What you did was a terrible betrayal to your wife. You made a very horrible cruel decision and I think somewhere deep down you know it. Sometimes we shut off our emotions in self-defense.
There is something about infidelity that tends to set o... (read in full...)
I'm having a strong desire to run before I am hurt. What should I do?
Q. Feeling so uneasy with this. He didn't say he loves me back, and I'm afraid of how this is affecting me now. Yes, it's important that he treats me well, and he does. He says he doesn't want to jinx anything. Meanwhile, I'm having a strong desire ...
A. 10 November 2009: That's GREAT! So nice to hear happy endings.... or I mean happy beginnings!
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I'm having a strong desire to run before I am hurt. What should I do?
Q. Feeling so uneasy with this. He didn't say he loves me back, and I'm afraid of how this is affecting me now. Yes, it's important that he treats me well, and he does. He says he doesn't want to jinx anything. Meanwhile, I'm having a strong desire ...
A. 9 November 2009: I think CaringGuy is right... actions for men are what counts.
I think before you run, you should tell him what you said here. Don't expect any words of love or anything at all, but just say it straight up... "I am having a strong desire to run, ... (read in full...)
Husband seems close to his female colleague. Should I speak up?
Q. My husband is friends with a female coworker and lately it has been making me feel uneasy. My husband and his female coworker started working in the same building about 8 months ago. Prior to that they worked for the same company, but in cities t...
A. 9 November 2009: I think you are right to be uncomfortable. There are many signs of either an existing affair or one that could catch fire easily.
If you decide to speak up, don't do it impulsively and make any accusations or come across as a jealous, insecure... (read in full...)
Confused...is he interested?
Q. dear cupid, i am really confused about this guy that i think im really starting to like!! it has been a while since i met someone that im slightly interested in since my last break up. and finally im starting to like someone but i am really confused...
A. 9 November 2009: You said he just came out of a long distance relationship, he may be just uncertain and a little scared of jumping into another relationship. Or he may still have feelings invested in his prior partner.If there was any betrayal in either of your ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help her get over this?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend, "Nicole", for almost a year now. I have had one previous girlfriend, "Molly", who I dated a few years before Nicole. I'm Nicole's first real boyfriend and she is very turned off by the fact that Molly and I had an ...
A. 6 November 2009: Maybe you should take her at her word. She says she can never get over the fact that you have been intimate with another girl. You can't undo that and if she truly feels that way she shouldn't be expected to change either.
She hasn't been int... (read in full...)
Could my ex be father of my baby?
Q. ok i had sex with my ex boyfriend aug 19- and i got my period on aug 20th- and on aug 27th i had sex with my new partner i found out i was pregnant can this baby be my ex boyfriends??...
A. 5 November 2009: It is possible but unlikely. Did you have a normal period? Normal length, normal heaviness, everything about period the same as usual? Was your period at the expected time of the month? If everything was normal and typical for you... then you ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by staying with my husband?
Q. I'm very confused, and feel like my brain is not functioning properly, I make a decision know it's the right one, then change my mind. I really want your advice. Should I stay with my husband. I want to stay and be happy together, but do...
A. 30 October 2009: I read your post the first day before anyone answered. I couldn't respond then because it stirred up too many emotions in me. I think you should give yourself a big break from this... it sounds like you are emotionally and probably physica... (read in full...)
Is it ok that I am 21 and she is 15?
Q. OK... If i am 21 can i go out with this girl that is 15 and she loves me and i love her. her parents like me and trust me, they don't mind if i go out with there daughter. I am a Cristian and i wear a purity ring and i am faithful to my promise with ...
A. 29 October 2009: No as a Christian it is better to look out for her best interests first. She needs time to grow and mature. And the best way to protect your vows of purity is to avoid temptation to begin with... that ring is only a symbol of your intent. It... (read in full...)
What would girls recommend that a guy with a small penis do in bed?
Q. What kind of things could a guy with a small penis do to give a girl a good time in bed? Mine only measures about 3 and 1/2 inches when erect, 4 inches if I push the fat in a little (I'm a bit on the heavy side), but clearly I'm not going to be ...
A. 27 October 2009: Losing weight will give you length... I think it only takes a ten pound weight loss to gain an inch. Not to mention the endurance and attractibility you will gain from a healthier body... Good luck.... (read in full...)
Should I clear the air with him?
Q. I'm very confused why I can't stop thinking about him. We are both married with children. My spouse could not be more perfect for me. We are both so alike in so many ways. The "spark" left our relationship once our first child was born. We go months ...
A. 27 October 2009: Absolutely do not clear the air with this coworker! Don't plant those kind of temptations and enticements into his head. Yes, he may very well be attracted to you but that doesn't mean he doesn't want his marriage, his wife and his family. You ... (read in full...)
How do I sweep him off his feet?
Q. the guy i love has loved a girl for 15 years,and he told me that he wants to forget her,and that he thinks that im the one who could make him do that..can anyone please tell me how?please can you help me think of something?i wanna sweep him off his ...
A. 27 October 2009: Oh please don't even try... that is a line a mile long. Please don't fall for it.
Aside from the obvious age issues and the likelihood that he's married or barely out of a marriage that defies normal male/female dynamics. It is typicall... (read in full...)
I have cheated on my husband resulting in 3 abortions and now he wants a baby!
Q. its been 10 weeks since my abortion im trying for a baby but it keeps coming negative.iv had 3 abortions. Due to careless behind my hubbys back.but now my hubbys really desperate for a baby.please help....
A. 27 October 2009: I think you are asking for abuse by making that post. Why would you post like that? You provided nothing that would make people feel sympathy and compassion for you... instead you stated your plea in a way that will make most of us hope that no ... (read in full...)
What is behind his accusations?
Q. My boyfriend has accused me of looking at other men in a sexual way and of cheating on him, for a little more than one year. I have officially gone insane and the other day I freaked out on him and shouted that I finally understand why h...
A. 27 October 2009: Right now it doesn't matter what his words/accusations mean. His actions are speaking loudest... yes it sounds like he is in pain... depressed ect, but he is being abusive to you and you are allowing it (unintentionally).
You need to speak wi... (read in full...)
Should I forgive her and trust again?
Q. Hi everyone, please any advice at all would be much appriciated!!, sorry this might be abit drawn out but I need serious help with my love life. I met a girl when I was 12, it was love a first sight for both of us and immediatley we hit it off, for...
A. 26 October 2009: The person you love is not the one you are dealing with right now. You love someone that does not exist and may have never existed. She has some very serious issues that are her responsibility to deal with... I know you love her and this hurts y... (read in full...)
I need help with ending a relationship!
Q. I will be ending an eleven-year relationship. She knows I am considering it, but she is very hopeful I will choose to stay. I care about her and she still feels very strongly for me. When the time comes, is it wrong for me to be there to comfort ...
A. 6 October 2009: I hear your words and I think that much of what you say is what my husband must have felt when he left... especially the frustration even anger ... that the change would happen now... now when you feel you've made a decision... why now?!!! and not ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with someone who isn't my wife!
Q. I am so confused. I am married and our sex life doesn't exist, but there is someone else that I want to be with. I am 40 she is 18 and we are very flirty with each other. I don't know if its the lack of sex at home or what but I am finding myself ...
A. 6 October 2009: You have a very real need for sexual fulfillment and meaningful sex. You want fun and excitement ... and to feel youthful again. The eighteen year old might give you that ...MIGHT... but it will be short-term. To have an affair is one of th... (read in full...)
Is is possible to build trust in a relationship again?
Q. My husband and I have been together for almost 20 years. Recently, I came to discover he likes porn a whole lot more than I realized. He looks at way more online porn than I am comfortable with. I also found out that he was having "chats" online ...
A. 6 October 2009: I don't want you to get paranoid, but honestly I think your marriage is at risk. Its not the porn itself (although I am with you on the uncomfortable issue)... its just as softtouch says its the lack of intimacy, and his loneliness. Eventually, ... (read in full...)
I need words of wisdom. I'm a girl in a dark place...
Q. I think all my problems start with the vivid memories of my childhood. I remember I must of been only four, I was pounding on the door, screaming for my mother and when the door opened, another woman was standing there - naked. It must of took us ...
A. 5 October 2009: You've had a hard life and already experienced a lot. I know its painful but as hard as it is the things we learn the most from are usually our worst mistakes or hardest experiences. I understand how easy it can be to lose faith in God... but th... (read in full...)
Was this incident sexual assault?
Q. Is this sexual assault or acquaintance rape or anything of that matter? I had a long day and one of my best guy friends were sleeping over. He always had the hormones and hots for me and I liked him, but before the incident I was never the person to ...
A. 3 October 2009: Sexual assault is never your fault. I am glad that you were saying no verbally all along that makes an entirely different picture... so based on that yes it does sound like assault.
Now having said that your boundaries are still an issue. ... (read in full...)
I need help with ending a relationship!
Q. I will be ending an eleven-year relationship. She knows I am considering it, but she is very hopeful I will choose to stay. I care about her and she still feels very strongly for me. When the time comes, is it wrong for me to be there to comfort ...
A. 3 October 2009: Being there and a soft shoulder and all sounds great, but it will also be sending her mixed signals. You are also likely to feel a lot more than you expect to once you actually break it off with her. Goodbye sex will be a big temptation and for a ... (read in full...)
Was this incident sexual assault?
Q. Is this sexual assault or acquaintance rape or anything of that matter? I had a long day and one of my best guy friends were sleeping over. He always had the hormones and hots for me and I liked him, but before the incident I was never the person to ...
A. 3 October 2009: I don't mean to sound harsh, but where are your own boundaries? I don't know if this was assault or not it sounds like you agreed every step of the way... until you cried. Then he stopped which is lucky for you. Why was he sleeping over to... (read in full...)
Should I confront her?
Q. I want to explain a situation. I have a daughter who is in fifth grade in school and is very shy. It is a small school, and there are only three other girls. The other girls are all very bouncy and outgoing. I feel that my daughter is kind of ...
A. 3 October 2009: Its a no win situation you are in.. if you confront then it could back fire on your daughter. If you don't it seems like you are giving others permission to take advantage. I don't think you are over-reacting. I would feel the same way, but I ... (read in full...)
He is friends with the girl he cheated on me with. Should I just get over it?
Q. Hi so I had been with my boyfriend for a year and a half when he cheated on me with a girl i was kinda friends with, he says its not cheating coz we werent together at the time coz we had been fighting a lot but i never knew we had actually broken ...
A. 3 October 2009: No you are not meant to just get over it. He's still cheating with her... emotionally if not physically. He has an obligation to put your needs and feelings first... whether he has a "right" or not to be friends with her. You have the "right"... (read in full...)
Is my diet good for my general health, overall?
Q. hi there. ok well for about a year now i have been going without eating lunch everyday .and eventually got use to the routine of not eating until the evening. (due to work ) i moved in to a flat 4 months ago so when i get home from work i coul...
A. 2 October 2009: Really not enough information...
Do you eat breakfast? if so what?
Any protein? Any fruit? Dairy? Whole grains?
How tall are you and how much do you weigh?
With the memory issues there might be some nutritional deficits... start ta... (read in full...)
What is PMS?
Q. Does anyone know what PMS stands for ? I hear a lot of people saying it but i don't know what it means....
A. 1 October 2009: Interesting fact... when women are PMSing their hormones drop to the level of men's all the time! We only seem sociopathic because we are normally so sweet, agreeable, and loving :)... and the shock of acting like an ass just about sends us over ... (read in full...)
If I talk to another guy, is that cheating?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for about 3 months and i finaly asked him what are we and he told em that we are dating... if i talk to another guy is that cheating ?...
A. 30 September 2009: Talk to another guy? No that's not cheating... and dating is not a committment... its an exploration, get to know you better, see if we're compatible enough to go further kinda thing.
So I am not sure what would constitute cheating when you are ... (read in full...)
Should I stay and be with number 2 or go home and be with number 1???
Q. My problem is that, About 4 years ago I was with a great man who adored me. We were together for 2 years but I really wasn't ready for the relationship at the time and made the worst mistake and cheated on him near the end of the relationship (which ...
A. 27 September 2009: I think you should say no to them both and move home if you want to... Lib is right this is a self-centered issue. Its the same issue that got you in trouble to begin with when you had the first affair. You're going to have trouble re-build... (read in full...)
I forgot to tell him about my vow of abstinance!
Q. Im a too in love with my boyrfiend and Im 16 and have taken a vow of abstinance that I would love to uphold. The problem is I kinda forgot to tell him that 6 months ago and now Im about 80% sure he thinks he's gonna get to sleep with me and Im about ...
A. 27 September 2009: Why break up with him without just telling him the truth? If he truly loves you he is going to accept your decision out of respect and love for you. If he can't accept your decision... well, he certainly does not deserve to have sex with... (read in full...)
I'm married to an alcoholic and I'm tired of being mother and nurse!
Q. I really do not know what to do. I have been married for 13 years to an alcoholic. We have two beautiful boys. I am miserable. He has been seeking help through AA on and off for the last year, but still he chooses to sneak and get drunk. Last ...
A. 27 September 2009: You're wrong, you are not stuck. I know it feels that way and you may have true financial need, but don't let that be your cop-out for staying. The kids may have to make adjustments but again you are making excuses. I am not trying to be uns... (read in full...)
His reaction to my unintended pregnancy has made me doubt him!
Q. I'm not exactly sure what i'm asking for here, but i couldn't find any 'answers' from any other source, so i thought i'd give it a go. I have just experienced a miscarriage. I think the most part came yesterday but i have been having a lot of ...
A. 25 September 2009: I think you are grieving... I know you only had your baby for a week, but as you said you were starting to plan your life and the changes you needed to make. Your hormones are probably going a little crazy right now too. A miscarriage is e... (read in full...)
Does the way I dress scare women?
Q. The reason I ask is because I often get some strange looks from women as I walk past. They often give me a look like they're scared. I'm wondering if its because of the way I dress. I often wear a black coat, usually wear black jeans, have black ...
A. 24 September 2009: Yes, it sounds like you have answered your own question. Why don't you try a different style of dressing and see what kind of response you get... add a smile. ... (read in full...)
Sex with pregnant wife?
Q. I can Have sex, when my wife is 10week of Pregnant. kindly advice me?...
A. 17 September 2009: Yes, you can have sex with your wife ALL through the pregnancy so long as it is comfortable and desirable to you both, unless you have been advised by a doctor to abstain for medical reasons. Your wife however may be experiencing a lack of desire... (read in full...)
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