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writes:Well I just started seeing this guy and well I really like him. But he asked me to be his girl friend a few days after I met him and then one night I went over to his house and he told me he loved me. I think that was way way to fast. What should I do? I mean I really like him but I dont know what to tell him, Please help me Reply to this Question |
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reader, Paito +, writes (18 May 2009):
That happened to me too.. I turned him down.
Sure, I liked him a lot too.. and he was a real sweet, but I knew it was too soon and though I felt so horrible afterwards, I had to say no.
However, TELL him CLEARLY the reason you're turning him down. Don't tell him no just because. Tell him that you're scared, and you feel that it's too soon. If you have any feelings for him back, however, express them. Make sure he knows exactly what you're talking about.
If he really truly loves you, he'll ask you again. The man I said I turned down asked me again a while after. And that was when we got to know each other a LOT better, and he comforted and assured me that he'll try to be the best for me. Now we've been going out for awhile and are a happy couple^^* I'm sure the same thing will happen to you if you tell him what you want and what you feel.
I feel that for him to ask you to go out with him wss a bit sudden and fast, and of course you'd be scared. If he can't understand that then he needs a little time himself to think things through ;/ Don't go for it just yet. Step back and see what kind of man he is overall, and whether it's really a wise choice.
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (18 May 2009):
Tell him the truth. Do NOT say "I Love You" if you don't mean it. Love might be a four letter word but it has A LOT of meaning to it and I think he did say it too soon. Just tell him that you really really like him and want to date him longer and get to know him better before saying something that you're not sure you mean just yet. He should understand. He might've just got caught up in the moment and got all excited like TaoTang said, and just said it without thinking first.
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reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (18 May 2009):
 I once had a guy ask me to marry him on our third date, ON A BUS, and I was just 16 at the time. It scared the heck out of me and the fact IS, he Actually married the next girl he dated! OBVIOUSLY TRUE LOVE! Before the end of high school! I think that he had issues, and was desperately searching to be loved. To me, it smacks of desperation and it has NOTHING to do with what love is all about.
Anyone worth knowing will be willing to slow things down and wait, WAIT, until they get to know you better.
Proceed with extreme caution or do what I did, run in the opposite direction, depending on how you feel about him...
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reader, abhimen  +, writes (18 May 2009):
Well if u like him then don't play around otherwise u might miss something precious. At the same time, get his commitment n don't get into physical relationship n tell that thing straight to him that he has to be into relationship for a year without any sexual relationship n till that time u'll get to know him better as a person n if he also loves you truly then he can wait for you at least a year otherwise.....forget him he's faking around.
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reader, TaoTang +, writes (18 May 2009):
 I suggest you tell him that you dont love him yet, but you really like him, tell him that you want to get to no him better and be with him for awhile and than maybe you will start saying i love you to him, he probally didnt mean it and he just excited that he got a girlfriend
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