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My ex told me he cant get married as he still loves me! Im totally in love with my bf and now im all confused and so lost!!!

Q.   Someone please Help me.. I really need replies that arnt the obviouse ones, but the really helpful ones... My ex and I have a child together who is now 4.. He and I split up after she was 1.. I am now with my significant other.. We have been tog...

A.   3 March 2007: Thank you all once again... Now I know what path to follow.. I almost made this BIGGEST mistake ofmy life.. Thank you, Sadi... (read in full...)

Shall i wait or find another man who is willing to give me my wish in my life?

Q.   im 35 years old with 2 children. im supporting them alone since their father left me and didnt take any responsabilities., i have no problem taking care of my kids, my question is, i have my boy friend now who promise to love me and marry me., we ...

A.   3 March 2007: i would say this.. You say that you "mention" it.. Well, I think its something you really need to sit down and discuss. Tell him that you're not getting any younger.. But between us, it's hard finding a great guy that knows he needs to take care of ... (read in full...)

I don't know if I can forgive him, can I trust him?

Q.   Hi, I’m really confused at the moment. I was seeing this guy for a couple of months, it was on and off between us. At one time, my mobile phone was corrupted. I gave him my email address instead so he could contact me. We arranged to meet...

A.   3 March 2007: You said you moved on in your life... By "moving on" does that mean you have a boyfriend? If so, I would definitly say no..... If not.. well, break ups can be pretty rough.. Some people us dating sites as a re-bound.. But it sounds honest to me.. A ... (read in full...)

I don't want to get back with him, I just want to make him jealous!

Q.   A few months ago me and my boyfriend split up. Not long after it he gets a new girlfriend, I get so jealous when i see his name pop up on msn with a different name beside it!! Sometimes I think he wants me to get jealous. I want to get him back, ...

A.   3 March 2007:  The reason why you want him to be jelouse, is so he can feel pain.. Kinda how he is making you feel... You say that you think he is doing all this, to make you jelouse.... Well, If he is trying to make you jelouse, its cause there are feelings ... (read in full...)

In the US, what is involved in getting a divorce and how much does it cost?

Q.   Can anyone tell me what is involved in getting a divorce in the united states? How much does it cost? I really dont' know what to do as my husband and I have agreed to get divorced, but don't know the first thing about what to do. Thank you....

A.   3 March 2007: Well, The first thing you need to do is go down to a court-house, and file for one.. You walk in there, find out what department to go to, and someone would guide you the rest of the way... Now, if money is tight, and would possibly become an ... (read in full...)

I am pregnant and due any day now. I dont know who the father is-what can I do?

Q.   i am pregnant and due any day now. i dont know who the dad is because i slept with one guy while on my period and then 10 days later i was with my ex-boyfriend. i told my ex it was his and he is so excited and taking responsibility. my ex has dark ...

A.   3 March 2007: I think when the child is born, you should have the "one night stand " guy there, and in the hospital, ( with-out your b/f knowing ) Have the one night stand guy take a paternity test,,, that way, if it comes up not his, then. p.h.e.w .... And if ... (read in full...)

Is there any way I can find out... if this guy I like is gay like me?

Q.   Alright. I'm a closeted 16 year old male and I've never been in a relationship with a guy or girl. I've often dreamed of having a secret gay relationship, and there is a cute guy in my class who I am 90% sure is gay (if not gay, then ...

A.   3 March 2007: Ok I got it.. When I was in junior High, I had a gay friend who was in the closet as well.. I was the ONLY girl who knew.. He had a crush on this guy, and we absolutly could not tell either.. So my friend asked me the same advice... Now I am 22 yrs ... (read in full...)

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Q.   Has DearCupid changed your life in a positive way? If so, please let me know. Either post here (anon if you prefer) or send me a private mail. Sometimes when I'm coding at midnight or tinkering with an errant database, or wondering wh...

A.   3 March 2007: I think this site has helped EVERYONE who has ever wrote here. I had read some frightening things on this site.. Example... People wanting to commit suicide, People breaking up with there loved ones over something rather stupid, people wanting to ... (read in full...)

We live with his mother and she's driving me craaaaaazy!!!!

Q.   Ok my husband and i have lived in his mothers house for about 7 months and i have hated it sence we have moved in here. his mother is ocd and she is really getting on my nerves she is always telling me to tell her and anyone what i think about ...

A.   25 February 2007: WOW.... I was once in your EXACT situatioin... And believe me, my marriage ALMOST hit rock bottom... This is what you need to do... Sit down with your mother in law, and your husband ( WITHOUT jade around ) and basically say that you love everyone... (read in full...)

My boyfriend told he's moving! We're so in love with each other! What am I going to doooo???

Q.   Me and My Boyfriend Love Each other Hes 17 And Im 14 Nearly 15. I know people will say that we cant love at this age but your wrong. I Love Him And He Loves Me. But Yesterday He Told Me He Is Moving To Cornwall To Live With His Mum Insted Of His Dad ...

A.   25 February 2007: Hi. Its Sadi again, and I just got your reply.. Wow, I know how much you DO love him. Okay, Girl, I know You said that you didnt want to tell him, but if you do love him as much as it sounds like, girl, You need to tell him how you feel.. I know y... (read in full...)

He likes me a lot but I am thinking...is he "too keen too soon'? What do you all think?

Q.   Hello I'm 33, female and single! Have had so many ups and downs in relationships - tend to always attract the "bad boys"..... Anyway, have just met a nice man via online dating....and he ticks so many boxes in terms of what I want in a relat...

A.   22 February 2007: You need to give love another shot... Go for it.. You're so scared that he is going to end up a heart break like the rest of them, but, you should really give it another try,, Men, well lets just say that 80 % of them arent what they seem, and those ... (read in full...)

I dumped him b/c I was told he was cheating on me! He wasn't and now he won't get back w/ me. How can I get him back?

Q.   i dumped my boyfriend a week ago because his mates were saying he was 2 timing me. i didnt belive them as he told me he wasn't and i knew he wasn't anyway. now i feel really bad and want him back so i asked him out again but he said no and now i re...

A.   22 February 2007: Wow hun.. Okay let me start off by sayig .. your friends, and your boyfriend are two WAY different things,,, What would you do if the tables were turned? How would you feel if he did the same to you? There are a type of friends who will act like... (read in full...)

How can I put our past behind us and concentrate on making this work?

Q.   My boyfriend lied to me about a few things. I gave him another chance and he has been proving to me how much he loves me and wants to be with me. At times though, when I think about all the lies he has told me, I get so upset and I fight with him ...

A.   22 February 2007:  A relationship is nothing without trust.. But at least you have found it in your heart to forgive,.,, I comend you on that,., A few things you need to ask yourself is this... 1) Is he worth another heartach? 2) Is he the type of man you would wa... (read in full...)

My boyfriend told he's moving! We're so in love with each other! What am I going to doooo???

Q.   Me and My Boyfriend Love Each other Hes 17 And Im 14 Nearly 15. I know people will say that we cant love at this age but your wrong. I Love Him And He Loves Me. But Yesterday He Told Me He Is Moving To Cornwall To Live With His Mum Insted Of His Dad ...

A.   22 February 2007: In this type of situation, it is going to be hard on you... And, It will also help you grow up.... It is one of the hardest thing to let someone go.... But it's going to happen wether you like it or not,. Take lots of pictures before he goes, so... (read in full...)

I know he just uses me for sex, but I want to tell him how I really feel about him. What should I do?

Q.   im 17 and started having feelings for a 22 year old. we got really close and ended up having sex but he didnt want anything serious just fun. we have ended up having sex regulary but now my feelings have become really strong for him. i want to tell ...

A.   21 February 2007: Hi.. I am a 22 yr. old girl, and i think that he is USING you... For one thing, ( no offense ) you;re a minor... Apparently he has no self control.. If you two did have a seriouse thing, and here he is sleeping with a minor, what makes you think he ... (read in full...)

Should I try to make a go of it with this guy or pass him by?

Q.   hey! im just curious? theres this very hot guy who tells me he likes me. He's taking it really slow and i like that but theres a bit of a downer..he has an 8 month relationship! we all know he doesnt love her anymore. He's tried to break up with her ...

A.   21 February 2007: Hi cunfused... Personally, You said that he is already in a relationship... Put yourself in his girlfriends shoes... if you two started dating.. and some other girl tris to convince him to break up with you, and he did, You would be heart ... (read in full...)

My guy can't last longer than 10 seconds! What can we do?

Q.   is it normal for guys to only last no longer for 10 seconds? the guy im with now cant last longer then 10 seconds we even clocked it one day....its sad i feel like its getting in the way of our relationship i just dont know what to do i need help ...

A.   14 February 2007: If you keep throwing that 10 sec. in his face, hes going to develope an insecurity stage.. And it will only get worse,, Try different things.. Example, when foreplay comes into action... dont touch him.. Have him touch you... That way, your getting ... (read in full...)

We fight more often and he's gone quiet! He won't talk about it-what should I do?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. When we first met I had just lost a couple close friends in a car accident and was going through a pretty tough time. He pulled me through it. In a little more than a year we have been through a ...

A.   14 February 2007:  Losing people you love is the hardest thing ever... Im sorry about your friends... When you are in a relationship, theres the butterflies, and the whole getting excited to see him... stage.. sounds like you had that butterfly feeling for awhi... (read in full...)

Why do I always go for the wrong type of guy?! It's so annoying!

Q.   why does it always seem that i always seem to fall for the bad boys? and then if its not a bad boy its a pretty boy but either he thinks im ugly or he has a girlfriend or they are too fresh?? its like im never gonna find someone..and i dont wanna ...

A.   14 February 2007: Hi there.. See , I was the type of girl who were the " bad boys" in EVERY relationship... And I always got hurt... I liked them short, blond hair, brown or blue eyes, and "bad".. Not exactly the " bring home to mom " kinda guys.. Then, I d... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have wanted to have sex for ages but he says he's still not ready.

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have wanted to have sex for ages, but now he doesn't think that he's ready. I don't want to rush him into anything but I know that he's the one that I want to do it with. What should I do???...

A.   14 February 2007: Is he a virgin? Or are you? Either way,,,, if he would be your first, and he is fully aware of it, Maybe he doesnt see your relationship going anywhere,, Or... Sorry hun, but Ive seen this plenty of times,,, Maybe hes sharing this moment with som... (read in full...)

My stage "husband" has a crush on me, what do I do?

Q.   I do a lot of community theatre but my current show has thrown me for a loop. The thing is, my "stage husband" has a crush on me. He's a great guy and we have a lot in common...problem? He's 19 I'm 26...what do I do??...

A.   14 February 2007: Hi there... Sounds like a problem to me... But hears what i tell others... Life is full of suprises.. Sometimes life is hard, Sometimes life is easy... But in life, not everyone finds love.. Poeple crave it... Personally, I think that age is just... (read in full...)

Re: concert ticket update....what do you think of this plan to surprise her?

Q.   So I decided I am going to suprise my ex for Christmas with concert tickets (I think anyway). Here was the last post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-surprise-my-ex-with-concert-tickets.html What I think I would like to do, based ...

A.   23 November 2006: Mike, that is so sweet. Anyway, my man did this for me, and it was sooooooooo sweet...... 1) tell her to have the day free on this specific day. 2) leave leading notes.. such as,,, if u have a table by the door... leave a candel lite, with a note ... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant and I think he's having an affair! Advice please?

Q.   hiya, im 32 weeks pregnant and married for nearly 3 years and recently our sex life is non existant. i think my husbands gone off me!i also saw him texting some girl who i think he is having an affair with. help me please...

A.   22 November 2006: wow, okay where do i start... ok, i JUST had a baby... and being 32 weeks pg make u ALMOST ready to deliver,,,,, and with being said,,, your hormones are SO out of wack... has the idea of you having a belly may not turn ur guy on as much cros... (read in full...)

He left me for a life 'on the road' and I need help moving on (long post)

Q.   My name is Paula and I have just been left by my lover and partner, Joe. I am a 40 year old woman. Joe is 45 and divorced this past January. this is long, sorry but pls read it. i want your input. Joe and I met online in May. We fell hard...

A.   22 November 2006: hi there miss confused.... Seems to me that when he was with you, he acted towards his ex that he was with someone else, and had no need to be with her anymore... and now look.... things arnt workin out with you and now he isnt talking to you. Do ... (read in full...)

My gf wants a surprise Christmas prezzie, Oh Joy! What do I buy?

Q.   I've been going out with my girlfriend for nearly 6 months now and I have a problem - Christmas. I asked her what she wanted and she said surprise me. Brilliant. So can anyone tell me what type of present I should get her. She knows what I lik...

A.   19 November 2006: hey get her a VERY expensive dildo. There expensive for a reason hun, and think of how much that will open up ur sex life. If she has one already.. so what...... GET IT... im tellin u, you can NEVER go wrong with that.. and if u have more cash to ... (read in full...)

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