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Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help. I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and have written for advice columns in the past.
I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and have a special aptitude with people. I have been active on this site for a number of years. I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, very spiritual, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.
If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.
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12 July 2010: I have written this blog a few times but I thought I'd write it in an "article", that way people can always view it. To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love"...
Some tips for a happy marriage!
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16 October 2008: MARRIAGE - WHAT IS EXPECTED IN A MARRIAGE? Once you marry, don’t expect everything just to fall into place. Marriage is a serious commitment but it needs to be continually worked at. Too many people today go into marriage for the wrong reasons, t...
20 questions to ask someone on a date!
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16 October 2008: So many of the younger ones on this site tend to be a bit tongue tied about what to ask their date so here are 20 things to ask someone on that first date. 1. What do you like to do when you're not working? 2. Where in the world would you most...
Why do you think marriages break up more now than in the past?
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16 October 2008: Do you remember years ago when families used to sit in at nights? They had no TV, no computer games, no telephones, no DVD's, no video recorders etc etc. They had one another! They had TIME to get to know one another, to BE with one another to ...
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Do I have trust issues or am I right to worry?
Q. So I'm not officially in a relationship with this guy, but we're very much a couple. For new years, he is planning on going to Whistler (a ski resort in Canada) with his best friend who is a huge major player. I trust my guy but when he's drinking ...
A. 29 December 2008: I'm afraid I can't add anything to what Eddie has already said. His answer is spot on and very informative. TRUST is the key here. Great advice Eddie!
~Eve~... (read in full...)
Can an alcholic be someone who just goes out at weekends like my husband? What should I do?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 13 years and we have a 12 year old and a 6 year old. He has been drinking for years, he goes out at weekends saying he is just going for 1 pint and ends up coming home at all hours calling me names and recently ...
A. 23 December 2008: Yes! Alcoholics don't always drink every day. Your husband certainly DOES have a drinking problem but he's in total denial. I would recommend that he goes to an AA meeting but if he won't then I strongly recommend that you go to an Al Anon ... (read in full...)
My hubby is great now but I can't forget that he cheated a year ago, help!
Q. Hi - I'm really confused - I love my husband but don't think I am in love with him any more. A year ago he had an affair. We broke up, were almost at the point of divorce, when he begged me to try again. He moved back in 2 months ago. We get on f...
A. 23 December 2008: You have a lot of resentments built up inside of you and until you let them go you'll never be the same with him again. You will continually be asking yourself lots of questions - "Why did he cheat?" "Was I not good enough for him? "What did this ... (read in full...)
I've given her space around the office... what more can I do?
Q. Hello. I've had a bit of a thing for this woman at work for a good few years now (unbeknownst to her). Recently she became divorced and so I made my move... rejected... she was already seeing someone else from the office! I don't know how long she ...
A. 23 December 2008: If this woman was interested in you then you'd know, she'd be giving you signs but she's told you plainly that she's NOT INTERESTED. The fact is, you're just not her "type". If I was to receive a note from a colleague stating their feelings for me ... (read in full...)
I've met him twice but he never calls...
Q. I am dating this guy I met on the internet. He was honest by saying he want only an affair. The problem is the last 2 times I spent the weekend, after I had gone back home, he does not write me or ask how my journey back home was. Is it normal i...
A. 20 December 2008: He's not really interested in you and he's using you... simple as that! Get rid and don't waste any more time on him, he's a waste of space.
~Eve~... (read in full...)
I LOVE my wife but I'm not IN LOVE with here any more.
Q. Dear All, I have been with my wife for close to 18 years now. A lot has transpired during out relationship. We have had the good and the bad as most do. However I have had the brunt of most of the bad. During our time together she has had numerous...
A. 20 December 2008: You need to do what is right for YOU! You have given so much of yourself to your wife and family over the years, now your family is almost grown and your wife is not going to or willing to change so you need to sit down and give yourself a reality ... (read in full...)
How can I attract guys? What's wrong with me? Am I that repulsive?
Q. My name is Kristen and I havn't had a boyfriend in so long ever since freshman year of highschool (I'm twenty years old and a junior in college). Ever since then,my self-esteem has gone even lower than before. I'm think I'm too short (I'm 4'5"),I'm ...
A. 12 December 2008: "Make sure you have 8 hours sleep a day as this will keep you more mind more alert, it's also good for your skin, hair, eyes etc and be more aware of your diet." - I meant 8 HOURS SLEEP A NIGHT... as this will keep your mind more alert.
I thi... (read in full...)
How can I attract guys? What's wrong with me? Am I that repulsive?
Q. My name is Kristen and I havn't had a boyfriend in so long ever since freshman year of highschool (I'm twenty years old and a junior in college). Ever since then,my self-esteem has gone even lower than before. I'm think I'm too short (I'm 4'5"),I'm ...
A. 12 December 2008: You are so full of resentments and negativity and THAT is what is turning guys away from you. Like David rightly said, "it will form a guy's visual towards you". Guys can tell, just by your body language whether or not you are happy with yourself. ... (read in full...)
I'm not in love with my husband any more, please help...
Q. I need some advice please. My husband is just hateful and full of anger, nothing abusive. I left him once 2 years ago, which I use to be the one crying and begging all the time, now it's him, not as much crying as telling me how much I am "his ...
A. 10 December 2008: Your husband seems very very insecure and needs and depends on you more than you know. What you want to find out is WHY he is this way. As Fade rightfully said, this is definitely down to his childhood or something that has happened in his past ... (read in full...)
What is the best masturbatory device for us men?
Q. Hi guys an gals - ok so we keep hearing about 'rampant rabbits' and the like for you gals, but what do y'all think is the best masturbatory device for us men? (Bin on my own lately an my right arms' knackered!)...
A. 10 December 2008: Okay so your hand is getting boring right? Have a look at this link for more ideas!
http://nawtythings.com/formen3.html
Have fun!!!
~Eve~... (read in full...)
Looking for contraception that will stop me bleeding all the time.
Q. Please help me... I am 31 and have 2 children age 8 and 4. I am trying to find a contraception that will stop my constant bleeding. I tried the injection for 9 months and bled all the time, so I am now on the mini pill and this is even worse!! Any ...
A. 10 December 2008: You could try the single rod contraceptive implant. It's a very small plastic rod inserted into your skin that contains a hormone called etonogestrel to stop you falling pregnant, it lasts up to 3 years. I know people who have used this form of ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if she's cheating on me?
Q. I think my girlfriend is cheating on me she tells me she doesn't want sex as much because we are not all about that, I ask her what she's doing quite a lot and she says "why do you always need to know what I'm doing?" I've asked her quite a few ti...
A. 9 December 2008: Uncle Phil!!!!! lmaooooooooo... (read in full...)
Need legal advice!
Q. I have a felony for cashing fraud checks. It's my first and only offense. I've been sentenced to 5 years of probation. I have only 5 months left. I was told that I can get it expunged. How would I be able to go about that? Also... the main thing ...
A. 9 December 2008: Go to this site and type in your question. They are lawyers and will give you legal advice for free. Tell them where you live though so they can be specific in their answser.
http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Law/
~Eve~... (read in full...)
How can I find out if she's cheating on me?
Q. I think my girlfriend is cheating on me she tells me she doesn't want sex as much because we are not all about that, I ask her what she's doing quite a lot and she says "why do you always need to know what I'm doing?" I've asked her quite a few ti...
A. 8 December 2008: Okay, you need to ask yourself some questions... Has her manner changed recently or has she always been like this? Do you still see her as often as you used to? Are you fighting more often? Are you finding that YOU are always the one making first ... (read in full...)
Do people believe in Soul Mates?
Q. Hey, I was wondering how many people believe in soul mates? I really think I've found mine... Here's why: - We seem to say exactly the same things at the same time and it could be something really random compared to what we were just talking abo...
A. 7 December 2008: I cannot tell you here and now who your soul mate might be but what I can do is show you what characteristics they will have so that you will be able to recognise them and look for them yourself.
Your soul mate is a person with whom from the outs... (read in full...)
My husband is back from detox, now he's drinking again, any advice?
Q. Is there anyone who has any advice for a mother of two young children whose husband and their father is an alcoholic? He just came out of detox a week ago and is back to drinking again. What do I do?...
A. 5 December 2008: Your husband has to WANT to stop drinking and by the sounds of it he has got further to go before he hits rock bottom. Not you or anyone else will stop him drinking.. only HIM and his genuine WANT to stop! I strongly advise that you go to a ... (read in full...)
Why won't he come and see me?
Q. I am seperated and have 2 children, I got talking to a nice man on the internet and we have been in contact now for 10 months, we have emailed and text each other every day and we have chatted for hours on the phone. He is divorced and has 2 grown ...
A. 30 November 2008: Then he's not worth it. Don't get in touch again unless he does! Even although he's started a new job, he WILL get holidays!!! I know it's hard for you, he boosted you up and now when push comes to shove he doesn't follow through. HIS LOSS! ... (read in full...)
Why after 15 years of blissful marriage have I just started to look at my wife and ask myself do I fancy her???
Q. Why after 15 years of blissful marriage have I just started to look at my wife and ask myself do I fancy her any more. It has just started and driving me crazy, I can't talk to anyone as I don't want to upset her, I love her to bits . I just want to ...
A. 30 November 2008: You need to change your mindset. Instead of thinking about the negative things about her think of positive things. Think to yourself all the good times you've had together, how she's been there for you when you've been sick, how you've battled the ... (read in full...)
Why won't he come and see me?
Q. I am seperated and have 2 children, I got talking to a nice man on the internet and we have been in contact now for 10 months, we have emailed and text each other every day and we have chatted for hours on the phone. He is divorced and has 2 grown ...
A. 30 November 2008: If he says he's fallen in love with you then he would move hell and high water to come up to see you. HE is the one with the grown up kids, he is free of those responsibilities. He should never expect you to go all that way to see him when you ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble getting over my girlfriend's past
Q. I'm having trouble getting over my girlfriend's past. She is a virgin, so with her being a virgin, I believed she had never done anything remotely sexual. I was wrong. Within the first 3 months she told me about flashing some random mexicans. I...
A. 28 November 2008: You have strong feelings for your girlfriend and are proud of the fact she's never been touched by anyone else, she's been put up on a pedestal by you then this! Of course it's going to hurt you. The very thought of another guy coming onto her or ... (read in full...)
She shared a bed with her ex... I want to trust her, but I don't trust HIM
Q. I've recently started seeing someone. We've been together for about a month now, but something bothers me. She told me recently that she and her ex boyfriend booked tickets to go to a concert together. That was fine, I had no problem with that. Then ...
A. 28 November 2008: Every relationship should have their boundaries. You need to talk to her and let her know you like her very much and trust her enough to spend time with this guy as need be, however also let her know that you don't trust him and if he comes onto ... (read in full...)
I think my best friend is flirting with my girlfriend!! What do I do?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 6 months now, and i really like her, but my best friend is not the tallest guy around and hears that my girlfriend said she would never go out with him because he is too small so decides to confront ...
A. 28 November 2008: Have a word with your best friend and ask him what he's playing at. Let him know what he's doing is immature and annoying you AND your girlfriend and that he's only making a fool of himself.
~Eve~... (read in full...)
Wife dreamed of Ex!
Q. My wife and I have been together for a year, recently she had a dream of her ex boyfriend. Her ex boyfriend and her lasted 4 months, she said he was a horrible boyfriend who treated her like crap, well, in the dream he came back from deployment, and ...
A. 25 November 2008: One of my hobbies is analysing dreams and I can confirm to you that to dream of an ex in the way your wife did is just confirmation to HERSELF that she is happy with you and her subconscious is boasting this to the ex especially as he wasn't good to ... (read in full...)
Break up money trouble?
Q. Hiya, I've recently had a relationship break up which has been very difficult. It was me that did the breaking up and obviously the feeling wasn't mutual so my ex seems to have been rather bitter about it, this of course I understand. However w...
A. 25 November 2008: As I see it, if the credit card is in HIS name then HE is liable for the debt... end of! Have a look at this site entitled "Answer Bank". In this link you can ask for legal advice free of charge and they answer within 10 minutes or so. This will ... (read in full...)
New Years party but we MUST dress up! Any ideas?
Q. Well I thought maybe you people could help me, I'm going to a new years party this year and you have to be in fancy dress, it's either dressed up, or don't get in but I have NO IDEA at all what to go as! All the other girls will probably be going ...
A. 24 November 2008: Okay, problem solved. Have a look at this link. They do fancy dress costumes that will make you think you're Twiggy! lol There's still plenty time to order too.
http://www.flagshipfancydress.co.uk/ladies-plus-size-costumes-148-c.asp
And hav... (read in full...)
Should I or shouldnt I call him?
Q. I really like this guy and I want him to like me back. A friend of his told me that I wasn't really his type. He gave me his mobile number and I gave him mine but I'm so afraid to text him because when we're both on bebo he never really talks to me ...
A. 23 November 2008: I wouldn't call him. The friend is trying to let you down gently by telling you you're not his "type". He ignores you when you're online too so read the signs! If you call him you're only asking for a let down. MOVE ON!
~Eve~... (read in full...)
She's thinking about cheating on him with me
Q. She thinks about cheating on her boyfriend with me. We haven't done anything, yet. But the more we hang out, the higher the chances of something happening. I want to have an exclusive relationship with her. What do I do? ...
A. 21 November 2008: Good for you, I think you have made the right decision. Seems if you got with her you'd only ever be second best. Hold your head high, won't be long till you DO meet someone who can put you first and love you exclusively.
~Eve~... (read in full...)
Can his feelings change just like that?
Q. I am married and have been having marital problems for some time. My bf is a guy and we have been best friends for longer than I have known my husband. Recently, we shared with one another that we had feelings for each other. He told me that he had ...
A. 21 November 2008: Were you in the midst of your separation when he told you how he felt for you or did the seperation happen after he told you? If it was the latter then he might have taken cold feet and feels pressured that you're leaving your husband for him. If ... (read in full...)
I bought eye concealer instead of foundation, can I still use it as a foundation?
Q. Hi all, This is a beauty question. I have just spent a fortune on a max factor concealer and went home and put some on my face only to realise it's eye concealer!!! Does it matter if I use it on my face i.e chin, jaw line area as I'm unabl...
A. 21 November 2008: I would keep it and use it as an eye concealer only. Why not ask for some foundation testers in a few different shades. Most places are happy to give you testers and they can last a week or so. That way you can still have a foundation for your ... (read in full...)
She's thinking about cheating on him with me
Q. She thinks about cheating on her boyfriend with me. We haven't done anything, yet. But the more we hang out, the higher the chances of something happening. I want to have an exclusive relationship with her. What do I do? ...
A. 21 November 2008: If you want an exclusive relationship with her then you'll never have that as long as she's still with her boyfriend. What do you do??? YOU take the lead here and do the right thing. Tell her you'd love to give things a go with her but ONLY if ... (read in full...)
Just broke up with my Boyfriend of 6 years and I'm depressed
Q. hi i just broke up with my long term boyfriend of 6 years as we drifted apart he treated me great and he is still calling me and texting as he doesnt want to loose me im 23 and hes 30 i broke up with him because we drifted apart and i dont know if ...
A. 21 November 2008: You were with him a long time so it will be difficult to get used to being on your own again. I take it from your age, he has been the most serious (if not only) relationship you've really had. You have a past together and even although you've now ... (read in full...)
She says she was forced into oral, but is there more to it?
Q. alright, so my girlfriend told me recently that the reason she doesn't go down on me all too often is because she had a bad experience with it once. she said she was forced to do it by a big, aggressive guy she was kind of seeing after a break up...
A. 20 November 2008: Let her know that you would never force her to have oral with you in any way and reassure her that it must have been awful for her, especially him being so dominant about it. Give her plenty of oral too and in time when you talk about sex more, ... (read in full...)
She says she was forced into oral, but is there more to it?
Q. alright, so my girlfriend told me recently that the reason she doesn't go down on me all too often is because she had a bad experience with it once. she said she was forced to do it by a big, aggressive guy she was kind of seeing after a break up...
A. 20 November 2008: I think she probably did like him at one time and got along well with him in other ways and felt compelled to give him oral BECAUSE he liked it even although she didn't. He was most probably quite dominant about it and that made her feel ... (read in full...)
My boss gave me the green light... what can I do to ask him?
Q. Hello, My boss, whom I am very close with, and I took a young unmarried man and his colleague to lunch today to introduce our company to his. It was a very good lunch, lots of laughs and conversation unrelated to business flowed easily. I though...
A. 20 November 2008: You seemed to be able to chat away to him easily. Why don't you ask him out to lunch again one day, just you and him and drop something casually into the conversation; for example what does he do in his spare time or does he have a significant ... (read in full...)
My long distance girlfriend hates my in town female best friend, help!
Q. Hello Cupid. I am currently in a long distance relationship. Everything is going well so far and I have no complaints. The one thing that is putting a stress on our relationship is an issue my girlfriend has with a very good friend of mine....
A. 20 November 2008: The reason your girlfriend is acting this way is because she's jealous, plain and simple! This female friend is a threat to her, she's terrified that the friendship you have with her will grow into something more. The other female friend who lives ... (read in full...)
Is he just taking things slow? What do you think?
Q. I met a really nice guy few days ago. He says I can come over anytime I like. I have been to his place about 3 times now. We aren't exactly dating but I guess you can say we act like a couple. When we sit he sits more towards my way, we have given ...
A. 20 November 2008: If he asked you if you minded if he "dated around" then he definitely doesn't want an exclusive relationship with you. The best way to find out for sure is to lay it on the line with him and let him know you really like him and would love to date ... (read in full...)
Are all redheads bad tempered?
Q. Are red heads really tempered?? Cause my bf has red hair and oh man he has the "temeper of a red head. Haha he is one like one time he was drinking and he didnnt get something that he wanted on the game so he sqeezzed my leg dropped the guitar. ...
A. 19 November 2008: Lance isn't giving advice here bad or otherwise, he's simply stating old folklore. He's right, rumour has it that redheads did originate from Scotland but like ebonyblossom rightly pointed out it's like saying every woman who is blonde is dumb! (I ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused, I've been seeing him for the past 3 years, but lately contacts are rare. Should I leave it at that? He has a family.
Q. I guess i already know the answer to this question, but i need to hear it from someone else really. I have been seeing a guy for the last 3 years, we met online, chatted, then met, and ever since we have been really good friends, he is/was my bes...
A. 17 November 2008: "If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were..."
~Eve~... (read in full...)
Was I right in dumping him?
Q. I am a 20 year old female. I was in a relationship with a guy for 6 months. We were friends for around a year before that. During the course of our friendship I came to get to know both the good and bad sides of his personality. We worked on a few ...
A. 17 November 2008: Don't feel guilty about ending this relationship, you did what you felt was right for YOU! Never stay with someone because you don't want to hurt them or feel sorry for them as you'll never be happy. The reason we have relationships with others is ... (read in full...)
Is he ashamed to take me out in public or just simply scared that someone else might come along?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months now. We've always been very close and honest with each other. But recently it seems like he's ashamed to take me out anywhere, or even show me affection in front of family. I've told him that a ...
A. 17 November 2008: You're more likely to lose him if you keep asking him to show you affection in front of his friends and family before he's ready. I don't think he's embarrassed with you at all, he just doesn't like to show his affection openly. Just be patient ... (read in full...)
I know I've done a really stupid thing... I just don't know what to do...
Q. In the last year I have become really close to a girl I met in my local pub. We are very good friends and go out in a small group of friends every weekend. But now I'm worried that I could lode her friendship over something really stupid that I h...
A. 17 November 2008: Don't we do silly things when we've been drinking? I suggest you have a word with your mate's brother and tell him it was a one off (not for now anyway, but for good!) and that he never mention it to anyone, especially your ex or his sister and if ... (read in full...)
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