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writes:Hey everyone,I'd like to thank everyone who helped me a month ago to realize that I had to break up with my long distance boyfriend who was in the army. It was the best decision I ever made.It was difficult to end it because he kept talking to me the next day as though nothing had been said or he'd keep stringing me along by saying that HE needs the space and acting like it was ME who ruined the relationship. If ever I brought up that he'd hurt me he'd play innocent and turn it round so that he was the one being ambushed and hadn't done anything wrong. If any of you read my previous question then you'll understand exactly what I went through. So in the end the only way to end it was for me to just not talk to him. For 2 weeks he hadn't said I love you to me or wanted to see me (he was home on leave so basically his 'space' really meant he wanted time to go get pissed every night with his mates like he normally does). So one night, he phones me up on his way home drunk and says stuff like 'I f'ing Love you, I wish I could go back to yours and smash you' i was like what :|!!! After two weeks of hardly talking to me and thats what he says to me as if what he wants is all that matters. He asked me to meet him the next day and I said i'll ring u 2moro about it. So I never did. And I havn't spoken to him since. What's great is I never cried, I felt a relief after doing it and I just felt happy. For once I was happy! I think it proves I never truly loved him, but to be fair I think deep down I knew it wasn't love the whole time. Maybe I was forcing myself to believe I was.So anyway, what's annoying me now is that only a month ago was he like ' I Love you, you're the best thing that's happened to me' etc etc. Bare in mind he was a man of broken promises, huuge arrogance, ingorance and insensitivity. But now i've seen on his facebook that he's already talking to someone else, from his home town. Who is my age!! (He's 23). I noticed the first message was exactly a week after i'd stopped talking to him after that phone call. It was something about letting her know he doesn't have the right sim card in his phone so he won't be able to talk to her, but will come online to talk to her later. And another one was flirty saying something about 'you don't have to wear your fleece this time ;)' I was fuming! Because he obviously met her on his leave while he was STILL seeing me! It's made me so angry, this is on top of his pathetic facebook status's about how drunk he is and how drunk he plans to get at the weekend and take loads of 'chicks' back to his friends place or 'have sex with a wheelie bin'. Argh it annoys me because he's so arrogant and in love with himself and thinks he's so funny (I never found him funny :() But everyone else on the planet seems to worship him. He's a womanizer and I had a feeling he was from day one because people all over facebook would call him 'casanova' or 'lady pulling legend'. Facebook was needed in our relationship because we could hardly ever see each other.The latest message is 'I miss you :) xxx' on her wall. It's funny because when he first met me, he did the exact same thing. He would go out get pissed and on his walk home he'd leave 'I miss you' messages on my wall. I can't believe I fell for it! He must do it to everyone!It angers me that nobody else see's how horrible he is, he's got thousands of facebook friends and most of them are random girls he's probably never met. Why does everyone worship him :(. I know full well his status's and his childish behaviour is for attention and he loves it.So basically I just need some advice please anything. I want to delete his facebook just cut him out of my life along with all his friends and his mother, but I'm going to Uni in exactly a week and I want him to see how much fun i'm having without him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2011): You'll have more fun in Uni if you don't have to keep up with making him jealous or looking at his page.
Have you considered disabling your profile? I know people who did that only when they were at university so as not to distract themselves from work. And...that by disabling your profile, you eliminate the temptation to check up on what appears to be his urge to make your jealous.
You're right, he's arrogant, apparently a womanizer, and immature...but isn't it just as immature trying to get back at him over facebook? You can easily cut him out of your life, you just have to make the decision to do it. I think you figured this all out on your own, you just have to do it.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (10 September 2011):
 "I know full well his status's and his childish behaviour is for attention and he loves it." - It's also to get YOUR attention and your back up and it's working. Why are you even bothering about him now? Why have you not already deleted him from your contact list? What does it even matter whether or not he knows you're having fun without him???
As long as you keep looking at his wall and seeing the rubbish he's putting up there, you'll continue to build up anger and resentment against him. He's probably even drunk when he writes anyway.
DELETE HIM! Delete him from Facebook AND from your mind. In my opinion you had a lucky escape from him. Don't beat yourself up about him one minute more, it's only stressing you out. Instead get rid of him once and for all and move on with your life. He really isn't worth all the stress.
~Eve~
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