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Wife of many years asking to be spanked

Q.   Hi my wife and i have been mnarried for many years and we have had a good sex life. A few weeks back we went on a cruie and one night could hear the couple next door having sex which turned us both on. then we heard the wife asking to be spa...

A.   5 April 2011: Hi thanks for your answer, yes i have just read my question again and yes it does't look like i realy asked anything. yes she seems to enjoy it and its been very erotic, she as always been what i call 'santin and lace' and now wants to be spanked ... (read in full...)

Wife taking 24 condoms on holiday when she is going with 3 other women.

Q.   hi my wife and i have funny kind of marrage (i think we have been married a lot of years) yes i know how many 30. each year she and 3 old (well same age girlfriends go away on holiday for a week. this year they are going on a crusie and i was...

A.   3 October 2010: hi i spoke with one of the others hubby today and he said what goes on tour stays on tour and all he know is when his wife comes home she just wants sex too. he said he knew his wife take her dildo and condoms... (read in full...)

Wife taking 24 condoms on holiday when she is going with 3 other women.

Q.   hi my wife and i have funny kind of marrage (i think we have been married a lot of years) yes i know how many 30. each year she and 3 old (well same age girlfriends go away on holiday for a week. this year they are going on a crusie and i was...

A.   2 October 2010: hi all well thanks for the answers, yes i too think she is going to get laid a few times. the answer about the toy she never bothers with that normally. she is away for 10 so i will check when she get home and let you know if you like. ... (read in full...)

How do you have anal sex painlessly?

Q.   my boyfriend wants to penetrate me from the 'rear' can anyone offer advice on how to do it painlessly?...

A.   9 July 2010: hi like all have said lots of lube, relax and make shore you want to try. it can be very hornie for you both but you will need to be turned on. good luck and lets all know how you go....... (read in full...)

Why was my boyfriend grossed out by this?

Q.   Hi I would like to ask all you Aunts out there this question.Why would my boyfriend be grossed out by this.We had been mucking around and he started to put his finger down on my vagina.he then said your dry as,i turned to him and said no way and i ...

A.   5 July 2010: Hi its his issue not yours if he is happy watching you (like most men)why he would not feel your wet finger god know. have you asked him to explain. i know i watch my wife and will jion in with her... (read in full...)

I hate performing oral sex, but I like receiving it. Am I selfish?

Q.   I have tried oral sex numerous time, but I still hate it. I don't understand how anyone can enjoy performing oral sex on a man. I feel sick, I get a sore throat, my jaws hurt, the taste is awful and the sight of semen make me want to vomit. My b...

A.   5 July 2010: hi so let us know how you went, do you or did you not....... ... (read in full...)

I hate performing oral sex, but I like receiving it. Am I selfish?

Q.   I have tried oral sex numerous time, but I still hate it. I don't understand how anyone can enjoy performing oral sex on a man. I feel sick, I get a sore throat, my jaws hurt, the taste is awful and the sight of semen make me want to vomit. My b...

A.   4 July 2010: hi i agree my hubby commentted i am the same i do it but can take it or leave it do what you think sister when you want to do it do it they will always do it to us..... (read in full...)

Problems staying erect, think it's psychological

Q.   Hello,Im a very frustrated 49 years old guy right now. Im married 22 years ago,and I love my wife.But I have a serous sex problem. I cant stay erect,and also I have no sexual desire,and on the top I have premature ejaculation,and it goes on now quit...

A.   4 July 2010: hi the same as happend to me. i found if my wife talked dirty or spoke about fantasies ect i would get hard. i even went to see prostitute. you are normal relax a bit and try intoducing some toys to get her off. my wife found if i was close or... (read in full...)

I hate performing oral sex, but I like receiving it. Am I selfish?

Q.   I have tried oral sex numerous time, but I still hate it. I don't understand how anyone can enjoy performing oral sex on a man. I feel sick, I get a sore throat, my jaws hurt, the taste is awful and the sight of semen make me want to vomit. My b...

A.   3 July 2010: hi my g/f can take it or leave it but what she gets out of it is seeing what it does for me. i expect your b/f likes doing it to you so don't worry about that. make him shower and there should be no tast to him only when he comes. for speci... (read in full...)

I'm desperate, How can I turn my wife on??

Q.   I'm desparate to have sex with my wife but she's not interested. I know that once she's interested she's amazingly interested!!!!! but how can I turn her on...

A.   3 July 2010: hi i expect it her age and time of like so my thoughts are take her away for a nice weekend and talk with her and then maybe talk to her about how you feel for her. tell her you love her hold her hand and let it happen. we should all smell th... (read in full...)

Threesome!

Q.   I have been with my partner for 9 years and the sex is great were both up for anything really , but recently a friend of mine had a threesome two girls one man , I know my partner would love it and I definitly would ,but i cant help thinking would i ...

A.   2 July 2010: hi like others have said if you are happy with what you have and you want to try try but set limits. my wife and i had done it a few time but only on hoilday. i love to see her with another guy and it keeps us charged up. we have fried ffm but ... (read in full...)

My wife lets on that mine's not big enough

Q.   My wife had sex sometime before we were married to a guy with a very large penis and has let it slip a few times that mine does not measure up. How do I keep from letting this affect our sex life?...

A.   29 June 2010: hi first size does not matter believe me its what we do as lovers that makes the differance. let me explain. my wife get off on the thought of a big black guy but its me that gets her to that state. we have a very large dildo that we use when she... (read in full...)

Will my body adjust to his large penis size to ensure a long and happy sexual life for us?

Q.   My boyfriend and I are getting ready to make love after being together for awhile. My question is his penis is 10 1/2 inches long and 3 inches wide, how can i adjust to this size to enjoy the intercourse? I know lubricants will help, but will my ...

A.   25 May 2010: hi my new wife x was a very big guy like your man. at first i thought she was big but over time she as adjusted to suit me so i think you will adjust to suit him. but one thing she as told me she had trouble when he wanted to do it dog way and ... (read in full...)

Why has my husband gone off sex?

Q.   What are the reasons for a married man to completely gone of sex? I really don't know what to think.. This is my husband ,after 26 years... Around 4 years ago ,he stopped touching,having any sexual feelings all together. Almost feels like a spell......

A.   22 May 2010: Hi i will put a guy side to this. the same as happend to me. i would long after my wife and want to do all kinds of things with her (which we have done) she started to push me away and i kept tring untill about 6 months ago when i thought i was ge... (read in full...)

Why won't he let me finish him off?

Q.   During sex everythings great and right before he cums he pulls out and jerks off! Why? Has anyone ever had this happen? ...

A.   7 May 2010: hi does he cum over you some guy like that and its what they see in the porn movies. have you asked him why too... (read in full...)

Fantasising about my wife with other men

Q.   I have been married 30 years and I keep fantasising about my wife with other men all started about 10 years ago when my wife has a checkup at a private clinic doctor gave her a full examination while I watched I couldn't believe it I got the biggest ...

A.   29 April 2010: hi you will find lots of guy share this thought and i am one. i love the thought of seeing my wife with another guy and have try a few things too, with her concent, like arranging her to have a full body nude massage whilst we was on holiday.... (read in full...)

I love my husband but not this forced celibacy!

Q.   Im an totally sexually deprived. My husband does not have any sex drive. We tried to fix this problem , but never got better. But now, I realized, if I dont want to leave ,its better just leave him alone.He is nice guy,I don't know what happened to ...

A.   29 April 2010: Hi why do you see masterbation as dirty. its normal and you should use it. men do so there is no reason woman cannot. we have the same issue. i have ED at the present and my wife always said she could take it or leave it but when its not there sh... (read in full...)

Our first sex toy - any advice?

Q.   Hi, I'm new to this site and just wanted to introduce myself and ask a question. Recently me and my partner have been having alot of sex, and we wanted to make things more interesting. Like bringing sex toys into the bedroom. Neither of us h...

A.   29 April 2010: my wife says enjoy she has for ages and when i am away she uses it daily. it can be anyone you like..... lets us know how you like it ... (read in full...)

Our first sex toy - any advice?

Q.   Hi, I'm new to this site and just wanted to introduce myself and ask a question. Recently me and my partner have been having alot of sex, and we wanted to make things more interesting. Like bringing sex toys into the bedroom. Neither of us h...

A.   23 April 2010: hi try the rabbit type (with the beeds and clit tickler we introduce it manay years ago and my wife still love it and uses it most weeks... (read in full...)

Bad fit!

Q.   I have an amazing relationship with my girlfriend, no complaints at all, our sex life leaves much to be desired. With a combination of both our anatomies, my guy doesn't fit very well to say the least. We're to the point now at least where she can ...

A.   28 March 2010: hi do you use lube, my wife asked how big are you as her ex was very big and she say they all seem to fit... (read in full...)

Will my husband still love me if I have the 3-some he wants?

Q.   Good day to everyone!!! I do hope that you can help me. My problem is my husband and I have been married for 5 years. Well my husband always wanted to have a 3ssome... the thing is we love each other so much and he said he will never cheat on me or ...

A.   18 March 2010: hi i know where you are coming from here. i did the same with my wife and after several years she agreed. it was good and we both found it a great turn on. except 2 f and 1 m the f can out last the 1 m if its an all night thing. it was sex with... (read in full...)

Another threesome story... should I do it?

Q.   Help my boyfriend asked me if I would be willing to have a threesome. I am not attracted to women, but I would do anything to stay with him. We have a 6 year old son together, and he is the love of my life. I offerd to turn a blind eye and let him ...

A.   18 March 2010: hi i have in the past said try it as long as you are ok with it and can live with it in the future. but i feel form the way you asked you don't want to. would you consider mfm and do you think he would if you think he wouldn't ask him about th... (read in full...)

My boyfriend never reaches climax during oral sex, only intercourse. Any suggestions?

Q.   My boyfriend never and I mean NEVER cums when I give him a BJ. I have went over 25 minutes and he never cums. I told him I want him to cum and he does not. Is this his own self control, or am i doing something wrong. His penis remains erect very ...

A.   18 March 2010: hi i am the same my wife can do it to me all night i its hard for me to cum but if she uses her hands as well it seems to work. one other said about having sex first that works for us too. another way is for me to use my hand and get close th... (read in full...)

Should I fulfill my wifes FFM fantasy?

Q.   My wife and I have been married for several years and have a one of a kind relationship. Most people we know tell us wehave the perfect marriage. We just communicate very well and are best friends and can't be 2 hrs without eachother. Our sex has ...

A.   15 March 2010: hi i have read your question and the answers given by others and they all make sence. my wife had a fling once with a girlfriend of hers whilst they were away on a girls weekend. she had never been turned on by the thought of another woman jo... (read in full...)

How often on average to people have sex?

Q.   Just another question out of interest. but how many times a week is it considered normal to have sex? I heard a guy at work the other day say He and his partner had sex at least 4 times a day. I thought that sounded pretty excessive? I realise...

A.   15 March 2010: hi grat question what is normal i have been married for 20 years and i would say twice a week then we go on hoilday and twice a day for the first week. a girl i work with says she get it monthly and as to look after herself the reset of the tim... (read in full...)

Impotent man who has completely lost his sex drive.

Q.   My husband is impotent. The doctors don't know anything wrong with his health. He does not know why. He never wants sex,and he gets limp,when finally we have some. I don't know what to do anymore. It goes on like this 5 years ago. I can't...

A.   15 March 2010: hi what you are going through is very hard and i think there are a lot more people in the same situation than you think. i am going through the same issue with my wife. mine started about 5 years ago and as got worse. i have tryed to hide it... (read in full...)

Any worries with anal sex.

Q.   I am 26 and have been with my partner for 8 years, for the past few years we have often been having anal sex as well, although I was apprehensive about it at first and thought it was a bit wrong I do enjoy it, I have mentioned it to a few friends ...

A.   14 March 2010: hi i am not sure but my wife and i tried it for the first time some 20 years ago. we have done it most months since then and she as never had any issues, but it think the woman need to like it and be at easy with it. how often do you do it... (read in full...)

Does her having large sex toys mean she is not happy with me?

Q.   I have been with my partner for 8 years and I have always assumed we both enjoyed sex, but I have recently found a very large dildo and 2 large vibrators which she has obviously been using, to be straight about it I feel she does not enjoy sex with ...

A.   7 February 2010: hi no it dose not mean that they are toys maybe you should ask about them you may find it fun using them with her. my wife as 3 and i remember the first one i bought her was too big. let us know how you go... (read in full...)

My wife's sexual fantasy excluded me! Should I feel badly about this?

Q.   I have a question; my wife and I have been together for 15 years or so. We have talked about sexual fantasies in the past and my wife claimed she never had any, or the ones she did were like me and her having sex in the backyard etc. she said tha...

A.   31 January 2010: hi remember its a fantasy, she my well like to idea but its a fantasy and that all. i have had fantasies that have included my wife and some that are about her and not me. she tells me hers and i am sure she would never carry them out and often i ... (read in full...)

Why does he lose his erection if I want foreplay?

Q.   So. My husband gets hard pretty easily and can stay hard if we have sex immediately once he's ready. But if I need a little more foreplay so that I can get wet and ready, he loses his erection. Why is that/? Is it something wrong with me? Or he has ...

A.   30 January 2010: hi its not you i say its his age, but let him forplay you and you hold onto him or try things when you are ready and i am sure he will soon be hard again. it happens to me my wife like to cum first and like lots of forplay, if she talks dirty,... (read in full...)

How do I get through to him that while he might find it attractive I find shaving my pubic area sleazy and gross and uncomfortable?

Q.   My husband keeps asking me (repeatedly) to shave (or at least severely trim) my pubic area. I prefer to just shave the sides to keep everything inside the underwear. If it was up to me (i.e. no embarrassing moments at the pool) I would stop shaving ...

A.   30 January 2010: hi you sound just like my wife, she say the same, but at least you do it as a treat. yes men find i attractive, i know i do and its a turn on for him knowing that you are shaved. so i am not sure i can help have you tried creams and used talc i e... (read in full...)

Obsessed with my wife's past...

Q.   I have been married to my wife for 14 years,we have three children and on the whole we are happy. I was 19 when i met my wife and she was 23 and we got married two years later. Before i met her i'd only slept with one other woman and my wife tells ...

A.   26 January 2010: hi whats in the past is in the past and i understand where you are coming from when you say sometimes it turns you on. i too have a partner that has been married before and during that marrage had 2 affers. over time she told me about them and... (read in full...)

Can't orgasm - tried everything even a vibrator.

Q.   So I wrote on here once before asking for help with an orgasm. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now and I still haven't orgasmed. He's done oral, fingering, inter-course. But nothing seems to work. We've gone for as long as an ...

A.   25 January 2010: hi a number of years ago i had a g/f who was the same, she said she had never cum either by herself or using toys of with a man. we tried all kinds and one day it all clicked we had had a very nice day out and was relaxed, as we watched tv i sta... (read in full...)

I'm hurt about my wife's sexual past so what should I do?

Q.   My wife was married for 5 years in the seventies.Her marriage evolved into swinging.She has had sex every way you can, from anal to group sex, she was quite the party girl.Toward the end of her marriage she got knocked up to reel in her husband and ...

A.   18 January 2010: hi i agree with ti6er me and my wife did most things when we where together and we learned together. my new g/f is great in bed she does thing to me that i always wanted my wife to do as normal stuff and she dose them because she want to please m... (read in full...)

Role playing...

Q.   can you help us by suggesting role playing ideas! me and my wife are looking for some. some thing that is not off a filthy porn style, but of a nice fantasy....

A.   16 January 2010: hi you could try being watched by another couple who are turned on by what you are doing to each other. or that you are in a taxi on your way home after a nice night out and you both feel hornie and cannot wait to you try to be discrete. or you a... (read in full...)

Can being too wet be a bad thing?

Q.   This is a question coming from an obvious virgin, but I'm a little worried at the same time. I get wet very easily and very fast. It's enough to saturate my underwear. My only problem is I'm worried I'm going to be TOO wet when I actualy have sex. ...

A.   15 January 2010: no you are just right and it will feel like velvit to him. enyoy it as it will not always be that way... (read in full...)

My husband doesn't want sex, and I have run out of ideas

Q.   If your husband does not want to have sex with you for more than a year, will you divorce him or ?or stay with him , for the rest of your life? I really don't know what to do...I tried almost everything medical ,no problems, sex therapy ,spice u...

A.   15 January 2010: hi have you asked the direct question why. has he got somone else. have you always been the person who wants it... (read in full...)

Where can I find older men not interested in a sex based relationship?

Q.   Any suggestions?? I am an 18 year old female, but am mostly attracted to men at least around twice my age. This is not a sexual desire for "more experienced" men, in fact sex doesn't really interest me. What I like is the maturity and life experien...

A.   14 January 2010: hi as we are both in oz pm me and i will tell you... (read in full...)

My husband has been watching real life couples having sex on a porn site whilst he is working away, is this normal?

Q.   been married just less than a year and found out that my husband who works away has been viewing real life couples having sex on a porn sight. i am shocked and wonder if anybody thinks that this is what men do when working away and is it normal?...

A.   13 January 2010: hi i see your point has he put stuff on and have you spoke to him about it... (read in full...)

Why does husband need to masturbate when I'm home?

Q.   I have caught my husband masterbating and i'm wondering if there is something wrong with our sex life why do he feel he needs to do that when i'm in the house? I can see us doing it together or me watching but, he is doing it without me when i'm in ...

A.   9 January 2010: hi you said you seeyou both doing it together or you watching does he know that as i think its normal what he is doing and you may find you are in his thoughts whilst he is doing it. you sould ask. pm if you like... (read in full...)

My husband has been watching real life couples having sex on a porn site whilst he is working away, is this normal?

Q.   been married just less than a year and found out that my husband who works away has been viewing real life couples having sex on a porn sight. i am shocked and wonder if anybody thinks that this is what men do when working away and is it normal?...

A.   7 January 2010: so what do you think about it and if you knew before you married him what as changed. pm if you like... (read in full...)

My husband has been watching real life couples having sex on a porn site whilst he is working away, is this normal?

Q.   been married just less than a year and found out that my husband who works away has been viewing real life couples having sex on a porn sight. i am shocked and wonder if anybody thinks that this is what men do when working away and is it normal?...

A.   6 January 2010: hi first i think it is normal but you should talk to him about it. have you looked with him that may bring a whole new chapter in your relationship and if you do he may not look when he is away. ... (read in full...)

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