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Help with bullying

Q.   i have been bullyed for a while wat shall i do?...

A.   12 April 2008: If you're 10, you're still under the age of prosecution. Deal with it any way you feel necessary... (read in full...)

I hit my pregnant girlfriend and now she is ignoring me! I feel awful...

Q.   I hit my girlfriend and she is 5 months pregnant i feel bad and everthing but she is ignoring me and i dont get. I said sorry she was winding me up and i hit her i really need to see what can i do please help i feel awful. PLZ HELP?! she is alot ...

A.   12 April 2008: You hit a 17 year old pregnant girl? I'm assuming you got her pregnant in the first place and so now have totally nailed her coffin shut nice and tight, she pretty much has no choice but to rely on you. And then you go and hit her. Nice one pal,... (read in full...)

My mother the tart! She's lied to my face and has a new sexy image- this has to be an affair!

Q.   I think my mother is having an affair, I found txts and stuff on her phone and its awful and devestating to think of it. I love my parents and am very close to my dad so its killing me. I tried to confront her but she just yelled and then lied to my ...

A.   10 April 2008: These people below clearly cant tell the difference between 'family' and 'friends'. When your friend gets him/herself into a big fight its ok to back off and let them get their butts kicked, its their problem. But when its family, you get in there ... (read in full...)

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he's been abusive for 2 years.

Q.   We started off happy, but then he became homeless so I was there for him, I slept outside with him some nights even in his car. I didn't want to leave him alone, we stayed at my parents a lot which is when they started disliking him. For 2 years ...

A.   8 April 2008: how much of an ass kicking do you really need to figure out you need to leave? You think anyone's advice here is gonna tell you to stay and try change him? Geez, wake up! You should've left a long time ago, why are you even asking for advice, you ... (read in full...)

Can I ever be be forgiven for cheating?

Q.   ive been with this man for 3 and a half years.. people say were a perfect couple but they didnt know that it's only because of me , that our relationship last. because everytime we fight, its always me who needs to make the first move.. i felt that ...

A.   6 April 2008: well sorry that I have to be an ass here cos no one else will for sure. Here's the thing, we dont KNOW how you was treated, being told you'd never cry in a relationship is just total BS and actually expecting to never cry or feel upset in one is ... (read in full...)

Why do men manipulate you into thinking that YOU are wrong - when they are the cheats?

Q.   A few days ago, I decided to contact 'the other woman' to find out what type of relationship there was between her and my boyfriend. I suspected that my s/o was having a relationship outside of ours, and after finding evidence of cheating ...

A.   6 April 2008: well I feel for you, your guy is a total crap but your last sentence, the actual question, was very unfair in assuming all men do this. Anyway to answer your question, they dont, only the jerk ones do and you picked yourself a reall asshole there. ... (read in full...)

Is it possible for my fiance to be drunk enough to not remember having sex?

Q.   My fiancee, who admits to dating and making out with a boy,(often), while wearing only her panties, and in his bed, while 300 miles away in college already engaged with the ring, says they had no sex, and she's still a virgin. My question ...

A.   4 April 2008: Umm you usually can figure out if you did, there's always some fuzzy memory of it. But buddy, this is your fiance doing all that right?? Seems to me that there's some pretty big problems up ahead... (read in full...)

I'm so disgusted with myself I didnt mean to kiss this other guy

Q.   Please help: Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly three years now and love him so much. It's marriage for sure. He's the most geniune guy I know and would never do anything or cheat on me. Hes not the type. Neither am I, but was out with my ...

A.   28 March 2008: Marriage for sure huh? Geez I wonder what you'd get up to on your hen night... That said, its probably best not to mention the fact that you kissed some random guy. I only say this cos there's been 3 years worth of emotional investment in this ... (read in full...)

My husband hit me--should we separate?

Q.   My husband told me tonight that we should separate. He says if I went away for a year and lost some weight and sorted my pms, out he would reconsider. I am very hurt. Last week he hit me over the head with a glass and caused injury. He says it ...

A.   28 March 2008: Its no one's fault he hit you except his very own. He's a real asshole to be blaming it on you too. Pretty much when physical violence gets thrown in to the relationship, its over. Or should be over cos the violence will only get worse. And W... (read in full...)

How can I leave my husband with out hurting my kids?

Q.   To explain my question I have to give some back ground. I grew up with extreamly over protective parents and was never allowed to date. Two months after I graduated high school I moved out. Two days after I moved out I went on my first date and was ...

A.   24 March 2008: well since everyone's sugar coating it or refusing to tell it how they see it, I'll go ahead with it: to hell with the whole damn thing, this life sucks so bad. just leave and take YOUR kids with you, you got no responsibility for the other 5, ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend thinks my son is his, but it might be his brothers! Should I tell him?

Q.   i think my son isnt my boyfriend's, i think its his brothers the thing is we have planned our life together and he really loves him do you think i should tell him or just let things be the way they are ...

A.   24 March 2008: geez the answer is obvious. get a paternity test asap and then tell him if its not his kid! keeping that sorta thing hidden is the lousiest thing anyone could ever do. why should he have to stick around and raise some other jerk's brat just cos u ... (read in full...)

What is the expiry date on a lie?

Q.   What the expiry date on a lie. When we were teenagers my girlfriend never turned up for a date. I went on to marry this girl and later find out she went out on a date with your best friend instead. Does the lie invalidate everything inbetween? like ...

A.   20 March 2008: To quote Dr. House from the TV show house "The longest lasting relationships are those that are based on a lie. You're off to a good start" geez, never thought I'd find a situation to use that one:-P... (read in full...)

My wife and I are considering getting her tubes tied.

Q.   My wife and I are considering getting her tubes tied. What are the chances of her getting pregnant even though her tubes have been tied? And is she able to give birth to a baby if she DOES become pregnant?...

A.   18 March 2008: how about you go for the vasectomy instead? So much easier, cheaper and works wonders... (read in full...)

Keep the baby for me or abortion to make him happy?

Q.   I'm a 23 year old female and I am pregnant. Doesn't seem like a big deal but the guy that I'm pregnant by doesn't want me to have to baby because he says we should wait and because he's not ready. He has tried EVERYTHING to make me have a abortion: ...

A.   18 March 2008: now folks, we dont know for sure that sex was unprotected, there's nothing about that in the post so lets not judge the guy on that just yet huh? As for the abortion issue, the guy is like in college no? He hasn't even had a full taste of independ... (read in full...)

I doubt anyone has ever been in such a situation with his girlfriend

Q.   Before everyone begins with the "nah bro, dump her dump her" stuff, read it completely, and put yourself in my situation, and atleast TRY to understand how I feel. I'm with a girl right now, and quite frankly, she is amazing. Whether we're talking ...

A.   18 March 2008: Read it totally, put myself in your position and you wanna know what, the only thing to realise is that there's a total lack of self respect going on here. How can you let her cheat on you so often and still get back with her? She really is sorry ... (read in full...)

Follow up: BF Ego Problem After I Bested Him.

Q.   Hi! I'm the girl who asked a week ago about whether I should allow my BF a re-match after I beat him in a wrestling challenge. (March 13: "Ego problem after I bested my BF"). He still insists I got lucky when I pinned him--even tho' I know jud...

A.   17 March 2008: For a guy named LazyGuy, you sure type a lot and all of it good stuff! Do NOT let your guy win on this, like LazyGuy said, there is no winning on this issue for him, no matter what happens, he loses. If you give in to a rematch, be sure to beat ... (read in full...)

Making myself sick to lose weight, will it work?

Q.   I'm 15 and I weigh 11 stone. I look at myself as fat, but I know I'm not that fat but for my age I am over weight. Ii stopped eating for 4 days once and I lost half a stone. As soon as I ate again I put on half a stone again but recently I've bee...

A.   12 March 2008: we're not gonna help you gain an eating disorder, there are plenty of websites out there that can do that already... (read in full...)

Girlfriend Cheating On Me

Q.   My girlfriend of 7 months cheated on me one week after losing our virginity to each other. We were at a party and I hardly got to speak to her because she was with her girl friends, however I said goodbye to her then went home with my own friends. ...

A.   10 March 2008: You got cheated on so many times now by the same girl. If you get back with her, then you have no self respect and that my friend, makes you less of a man than a eunuch... (read in full...)

What does celeste mean?

Q.   Simply, what does celeste mean? I feel stupid but I have absolutely no idea lol....

A.   3 March 2008: type 'definition celeste' on google... (read in full...)

Do the famous always travel from good to bad changes, chasing reputation?

Q.   Hey guys I just wanted to know something, let's just say someone becomes famous, are they giving up everything in their life? Well if so how. I mean famous people are just doing what they love right?? They just go from good to bad. What are the ...

A.   2 March 2008: Pretty much everyone changes once they achieve fame. Lets face it, humans aren't exactly nice creatures (every nice action they do is explained by the selfish gene theory). Before they become famous, they cant get away doing certain things but ... (read in full...)

How can I snoop on my boyfriend's cell phone to see if he's been looking at porn?

Q.   How can I snoop on my boyfriend's cell phone to see if he's been looking at porn? How do you find out? Do you look at the Internet options on the phone? Please give me some help, I'm so nosy, but I don't want him to know I looked at his phone-ugh. ...

A.   2 March 2008: Hey, you can check out the internet options section on the phone. On the later phones, they have a history section you can look up. But most phones atleast have a 'last page viewed' option where it'll load the last page that was on. Just look ... (read in full...)

What are the advantages of watching porn?

Q.   I'm sorry to ask ladies and gentlemen but i need help in this area. Are there any advantages in watching porn? if yes what are they?...

A.   28 February 2008: Your question isn't clear, advantages in what way? If you mean does it make you a super lover then the answer is no, not really... (read in full...)

I am considering cheating

Q.   I have been married for 10 yrs have 2 children but have had an all but non existent sex life during the marriage. I have tried seducing her buying presents doing all the household chores and even explaining that i will have to walk away from the ...

A.   28 February 2008: Its a shame you got kids involved in this, otherwise it would be such an easy course of action to take. Just wondering, have you talked to her about it and found out why she's being like that? Maybe there's a reason she doesn't wanna have sex. ... (read in full...)

I need a release to move on and forget that I used to allow dogs to lick my intimate area, as I now realise the wrongness of it.

Q.   When I was a young girl in grade school, a handful of times I allowed dogs to lick my private parts. My rationalization for this cannot be given, for I cannot explain today why I did it. I stopped doing it, but it deeply disturbs me that I allowed ...

A.   4 February 2008: dont worry about it, its no big deal, let it go. there was an episode about a dog and a woman on nip tuck some time ago:-P have u seen it by any chance?... (read in full...)

Boyfriend addicted to World of Warcraft!!!

Q.   hi all, My boyfriend and I have had a pretty good relationship for the last two years, and we both lead independent seperate lives even though we live together (I mean, we each have our own friends/jobs/social lives). He has always been really i...

A.   4 February 2008: You dont think playing MMOGs are 'cool'? Well guess what, its a bigger thing than you think, a lotta guys (especially college guys) play them. If its just world of warcraft that you have a problem against, ask him to switch games. There's loads ... (read in full...)

Once a month sex life ...if I'm lucky

Q.   My bf and I are very much in love with each other and planning a long term future together, only problem is he says he has a very low sex drive. We only have sex about once a month which to be honest is not my usual way, as I have quite a high sex ...

A.   30 January 2008: your boyfriend doesn't know what he's giving up. soon he'll be 40 (i'm guessing he's around the age you've indicated you are) and his sex drive's gonna totally disappear at this rate, then he'll just regret not having enough sex when he had the ... (read in full...)

Should I give blow jobs at parties because all my friends do it?

Q.   i am 16 and go to quite a lot of parties with people my age (house parties) whenever i go all my friends go and give head (blow jobs) and seem to think nothing of it. and some of then often have the favour returned. i am th eonly one who doesn't ...

A.   30 January 2008: its hard resisting from peer pressure isn't it? its how my next door neighbour's 'good' (15 year old) ended up getting stabbed (yes its true, i live in a messed up rat hole atm) resist from peer pressure... (read in full...)

My wife had a boob job, after I said no. I am leaving her!

Q.   My wife went and had a boob job and I find it absolutely disgusting. Once she had small, pretty breasts and I loved them just the way they were. she kept asking me if she should get them "done" and I told her no, not only no but, H--L NO!!!!! I ...

A.   30 January 2008: i wish the female reader who posted that comment at devilish etc didn't answer as anonymous, those are some seriously good points raised and some good comebacks! but yeah, in a relationship, you cant just do whatever the hell you feel like right? i ... (read in full...)

My wife had a boob job, after I said no. I am leaving her!

Q.   My wife went and had a boob job and I find it absolutely disgusting. Once she had small, pretty breasts and I loved them just the way they were. she kept asking me if she should get them "done" and I told her no, not only no but, H--L NO!!!!! I ...

A.   29 January 2008: good on you pal, leave already. when you're married, what one person does affects the other, regardless of who owns what. take for example, an episode of CSI i watched a while ago. there was a guy who blamed all his problems on his leg and so ... (read in full...)

What are the steps in getting an abortion?

Q.   hi all i found out im pregnant from last week and been thinking and decided to get a abortion , does anyone know what i have to do to go through this , im 26 and weighed the options of keeping itand the options of not out weigh it , please dont...

A.   9 January 2008: Check the link, it'll give you everything you need to know. Gotta warn you, its not free for people over 16... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is addicted to computer games!

Q.   My Boyfriend just turned 20 years old. I am going to be 21 in october. We have been together for 7 months and have an apartment together. All he wants to do is play computer games. He says that when he gets home from work he just wants to relax and ...

A.   11 May 2007: I'm sure he'll grow out of it by 21 at the latest. None of my pals are into it anymore (except for the richer ones with the PS3 and 1080p HDTVs... who can blame them...) I can tell you something that would work though. Tell him he's getting fat.... (read in full...)

I'm thinking of packing my GFs bags because she flirts and latches onto random guys when we go out together!

Q.   Hi Havent done this before so hope Im doing it right! I have a girl been seeing for almost a year right. Nice lass and good fun. One thing. We like to go out a bit. When we are out as a couple we meet other couples and this is fine. Good...

A.   8 May 2007: Hmmm this is probably the sort of thing you wanna take care of BEFORE moving in together... but kicking her out (even temporarily) will only fan the flames. Only kick her out if you decide for yourself that this isn't something you can handle and ... (read in full...)

Does a number really matter if both people are equally interested in one another ?

Q.   hi, im a 17 year old nearly 18 year old seeing a just turned 27 year old, we've been dating for a month now, ive told my parents about this and they seem to think that he is using me and repeatedly say "why would a 27 year old be interested in a ...

A.   16 April 2007: Here's the reality of the situation, age doesn't matter to you, but it does bother people who aren't directly involved in the relationship (parents, friends, strangers on the streets might think things too) Unfortunately for everyone in a simi... (read in full...)

Am I being too harsh to tell my gf to stop doing this thing that makes me very unhappy?

Q.   My girlfriend is doing something that is making her happy and while im not happy and she wont quit because she loves doing it but it takes a lot of time out of being together but then she says she loves me more than anything... am i being to harsh ...

A.   16 April 2007: She being a hooker? Then you're totally not being harsh asking her to stop. I doubt she's robbing banks, we'd have heard of that on the news by now:-P Well whatever she's doing, she shouldn't be leaving you alone for so long. Just cos she says... (read in full...)

Moved to Germany to be with her. After finding pics of her and a guy on her computer, I am thinking about leaving!

Q.   i have been going out for a long time with my GF, and after some time now i moved out to her home country, (Germany), and been feeling isolated and lonely as i have nothing to do while she is at work, so anyway i started to look at her pics, and ...

A.   16 April 2007: Deleted my ass. If they were really deleted, they wouldn't have been accessible in the recycle bin. I dont know if you seriously over reacted, you forgot to do one thing on those pictures: check when they were created. Cos if it was while you two ... (read in full...)

How do I tell my family that I love crossdressing?

Q.   hi all im 16 and live in elland since i have been about 12 i have love to dress up im my sisters underwear how do i tell my family that i love crossdressing ...

A.   12 April 2007: Why would you want to tell them? You dont expect them to be supportive of you do you? And imagine what your sister will be thinking if she found out you put on her underwear. Do it in your own time, no one else needs to know... (read in full...)

Is it possible for a person to carry other people with him to reach same emotional/spiritual level in life?

Q.   Is it possible for a guy to take his partner(a girl) to the same heights that he may reach in his life? or viceversa? Broadly speaking, is it possible for a person to carry other people with him to reach same emotional/spiritual level in life?...

A.   12 April 2007: This whole spiritual/emotional level thing is all to do with the person's mind itself. So if you believe it can be done, then it can be done. I mean its not like a physical thing like carry someone to the top of Everest. The whole thing's in the ... (read in full...)

I am 18 and my girl friend is 14... Is this wrong?

Q.   I am 18 and my girl friend is 14... Is this wrong?...

A.   10 April 2007: Short answer: yes it is When she's 16, you'll be 20. When I was 16, there was a girl dating a 21 year old. You wouldn't believe the number of times he got called peado. And that was with them both at the legal age. The difference between ... (read in full...)

I found a used condom underneath my boyfriend's matress and it's not been with ME!!!

Q.   I found a used condom underneath my boyfriends matress which he claims was ours, however im not that stupid! however this has now lead me to believe that he has been cheating, can anyone find any other answer to this?...

A.   10 April 2007: Strange... how in the world can a condom get underneath a matress, underneath an entire bed maybe but just the matress? Sounds pretty wierd but not cheating wierd I dont think. He's probably not cheating. If he was, why would he hide it under the ... (read in full...)

Do you bleed the first time?

Q.   I'm a virgin and what i'd like to know is if you definetly bleed the first time you have sex? And also if you bleed still when you've broke your virginity? Thanks...

A.   10 April 2007: There's no gaurantee you will bleed, there's a chance you wont. But you know, just cos you didn't bleed doesn't mean you wasn't a virgin. Google it, there's plenty of cases where the girl didn't bleed the first time.... (read in full...)

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