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Why does my boyfriend ejaculate all over my stomach?

Q.   I wonder if any of you could help me. My boyfriend who is one year older than me always withdraws from me during sex and ejaculates and squirts it out all over my stomach. I am just wondering if anybody has experienced this before? Is this an ...

A.   11 March 2012: My boyfriend does this most of the time when he doesn't wear a condom and I've never thought of it as him marking his territory. He is just simply very cautious about not wanting me to get pregnant because neither of us are ready for that ... (read in full...)

His ex girlfriend is his roomie!

Q.   Well, my bf and I have only dated for a week. I have a really good feeling about him and I. But I have a problem. Let me start with some background information about him: He and I met last year, we've been pretty good friends since. We secretly...

A.   5 March 2012: Just move on. Everything about this is wrong. Yes, it is ok to feel the way you do. What's not ok is for you to continue putting your time and energy into this relationship. It's not going to change and you're only going to become more and more ... (read in full...)

I think my boyfriend is still too emotionally invested in his ex girlfriend

Q.   I am confused as to handle this situation with my boyfriend concerning his exgirlfriend. They were together for a year but have been broken up for almost 3 years. He told me when we met that he was still friends with her and that was something that ...

A.   4 March 2012: I suppose I should add more details. I didn't want to make my question too long, but without them it doesn't seem as puzzling. Yes, I guess you could say they were friends with benefits. She still has feelings for him which he now admits but ... (read in full...)

I want to express my feelings but should I do so on facebook?

Q.   I just graduated from college and was in class with a guy I was attracted to all semester. I was too shy to flirt with him publicly in a classroom like that, and he seemed very reserved as well. We did talk maybe two or three times before class ...

A.   3 June 2011: hey honeypie we are still conversing back and forth just simple friendly questions like he asked me what i was studying in school. i decided to message him to answer one of the questions he asked me instead of putting it on his wall just because i ... (read in full...)

I want to express my feelings but should I do so on facebook?

Q.   I just graduated from college and was in class with a guy I was attracted to all semester. I was too shy to flirt with him publicly in a classroom like that, and he seemed very reserved as well. We did talk maybe two or three times before class ...

A.   23 May 2011: I'm sorry I misread your response. I understand what you mean now. Thanks for your reply:) I'm just trying to figure out what to actually say now... (read in full...)

I want to express my feelings but should I do so on facebook?

Q.   I just graduated from college and was in class with a guy I was attracted to all semester. I was too shy to flirt with him publicly in a classroom like that, and he seemed very reserved as well. We did talk maybe two or three times before class ...

A.   23 May 2011: I think you missed the part where I said I graduated and will literally never see him again unless I make the first move and tell him my feelings:/ I can't talk to him about it in person... (read in full...)

Now I feel like my body is ugly, how do I deal with his comments about my body?

Q.   Last night my boyfriend and I were watching TV. There was this movie where a guy was watching porn, and they showed the porn star a lot, with her huge boobs all over the place. I kind of got upset, but said nothing, yet my boyfriend picked up on it ...

A.   22 November 2009: Your boyfriend SHOULD make you feel like you're the most beautiful girl in the world. I'm sure you like to make sure that he feels wanted and needed, why can't he do the same for you? He disregards your feelings by saying the way you feel is stupid, ... (read in full...)

I think I might have caught my husband on a dating site?

Q.   Dear cupid, I was looking though our computer last night and came across a site that should not have been on there when my husband asked me what i was looking at i asked him if he knew about this site he said no its a pop up i dont know alot abo...

A.   11 March 2009: Only websites that you yourself type into the browser stay saved on that drop-down menu, if that's what you mean. If it was in the history I still don't think pop-ups stay in there either, but I'm not sure so please don't accuse him just yet! If it ... (read in full...)

Should I continue to justify my resentment, or should I just move on?

Q.   I know I have a huge anger problem. I have had this problem since I was little. I know the cause of the problem; I just don’t know how to plan for a positive outcome. I know that a lot of my problem comes from early childhood when my mother and I ...

A.   10 March 2009: Well, I think you should just leave him, cut ties like you said. Of course you're going to resent a man that cheats on you twice a week and physically abuses you!! That's not your fault, that's his! That's absolutely riduculous that just because you ... (read in full...)

Where did it all go wrong?

Q.   I have been dating a married man for two years. He always told me he was preparing to divorce his wife but he wanted to make sure his kids would be okay (ages 10, 14, and 18). He finally got a divorce about two months ago. He stayed at his house for ...

A.   9 March 2009: All I can say is if he wanted to make sure his children were going to be ok he shouldn't have started an extra-marital affair. Would you want that man to do that to YOUR own kids? Imagine how this is going to mess up their idea of a family, a ... (read in full...)

What is it like to swallow semen?

Q.   What is swallowing like? I want to swallow my bf's semen but I'm kinda afraid because some people say they gag. What do they gag from? Do they gag from the taste? or the semen going in their mouth and down their throat? I have horrible gag ...

A.   9 March 2009: I would rather swallow it because, at least in my case, you taste it less than when you spit it out. To spit it out you have to let it sit in your mouth for a at least a second but when you swallow you just swallow while he is coming and you barely ... (read in full...)

Puberty means one thing to me... ACNE!!!!

Q.   Huh!!! I feel soo frustrated!!! Puberty, puberty!!! Yeah I'm happy knowing that I'm growing and stuff but puberty also has a dark side!! ACNE!! oh my god I hate it. I feel soo self conscious about it, when is it gonna just go away!! I have it ...

A.   4 March 2009: Pro-Activ worked for me, I started using it after having pimples for 11 years and it was the ONLY thing that ever cleared up my skin besides an antibiotic I took called Trimethoprim (I hope that's right, it's either that or something that sounds ... (read in full...)

Questions about vaginas

Q.   Do smaller skinnier girls have smaller/tigher vaginas compared to big girls? And does your vagina get smaller when you lose weight? Thanks....

A.   4 March 2009: Nope, height and weight doesn't play a role in that at all, or at least never that I've heard of. And your vagina definitely doesn't get smaller when you lose weight, that I'm positive of.... (read in full...)

I need to tell my parents that I may have schitzophrenia

Q.   This can really change my life and the people around me. I am ready to tell my parents that I may have schizophrenia, I am ready, I am not that afraid, I am, but I can take it, I just don't know how to tell, my mom, someone help, this can really ...

A.   4 March 2009: I think you should get evaluated by a licensed professional before you tell your parents that you may be schizophrenic. There are many other mental illnesses that have similar symptoms as schizophrenia such as Paranoid Personality Disorder and ... (read in full...)

Are women put off by skinny men?

Q.   I know everyone has different tastes and personal preferences, but in general, are women put off by skinny men? I'm 22, and while I eat like a horse, I just have never been able to put on any tangible weight, and have virtually little...

A.   27 February 2009: I prefer skinnier men. I don't know why, I just always have. My boyfriend weighs less than me though and that does bother me, but that's my own issue. It's also probably because he's only about an inch and a half taller than me and I've got boobs ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that I am not obsessed with sex?

Q.   hey everyone, ive got a question. well, im 16 going on 17, i have a lot of friends, guys and girls, and were all pretty much open about everything, homosexuality, sex etc. well im just wondering, everyone around me is soo obsessed with sex, guys a...

A.   27 February 2009: No, you're not weird and you're totally normal. I was always that way in high school and now I'm in college and I'm still that way. I have been with my boyfriend since I was a senior in high school and I find him attractive and sexy, but sex just ... (read in full...)

She doesn't trust me since I lied about watching porn, how can I make it right?

Q.   Hi everyone. I'm a male, 20 years old. I need some serious help. I've been with my girlfriend (we got engaged recently) for almost 3.5 years now, and we have had a great relationship. I love her to death, she loves me, and everything was fine until ...

A.   18 February 2009: Um, what that gumbbo said is totally stupid. If you want to lose your girl forever, go ahead and follow his advice and lie AGAIN. If you truly love her you wouldn't pull bullshit like that. You either have to stop watching the porn and stop lying or ... (read in full...)

Why does my boyfriend treat me so badly?

Q.   i am very confused about what to do about the relationship i am in. Me and my boyfriend have been together now for about a year. It has always been a very intense relationship and we were breaking-up and getting back together as soon as we started ...

A.   6 February 2009: No, you will not be able to make him realize what he's doing, trust me. Get out of this relationship NOW NOW NOW, please do this for yourself. This will only get worse, I know from experience. The sooner you leave him the better. You're in an ab... (read in full...)

Haven't been to doctor yet will my baby be ok?

Q.   im 8 weeks pregnant and my body is feeling great..the first 4 weeks were horrible all i did was throwup and complain..just a week ago it all stop..im able to eat more not everything but more,,i still cant stand the smell of anything being ...

A.   4 February 2009: Many pregnant women have aversions to certain foods, this doesn't mean anything is wrong with the baby. What you're experiencing is normal. Just take it easy until you're able to see a doctor, I'm sure you know what to do/what not to do i.e. don't ... (read in full...)

How can I overcome thinking about how explicit they were?

Q.   Hi, I posted last September about my husband of 31 years having a text affair with a colleague, although they don't work at the same premises, he sees her at meetings. It is now 7 months since the first discovery and I found another batch in July ...

A.   30 January 2009: So according to tiger66 this is all your fault and you should have done all those things she listed all along and maybe your man wouldn't have strayed. Tiger66 is completely wrong. You're married and NOTHING you did warrants his behavior. It's ... (read in full...)

He told some foreign girl online that he was single--leave him or dismiss it?

Q.   I've been going out with this guy for about 3 weeks now, and I was friends with him for about a month before that. Anyway, like it or not, a standard protocol of mine when I am with a guy is to, after a few weeks, go into my bogus myspace ac...

A.   26 January 2009: Myspace causes so many problems. A lot of people consider it to be the new "booty call" because many people use it just for that, to flirt and get a quick ego boost when they have a new picture comment. My boyfriend deleted his myspace (his ... (read in full...)

We broke up because he's so close to his female friend

Q.   My boyfriend, well now ex, and i have been together for about a year and a half. He has always had a female friend who i have always felt quite uncomfortable about as he would always meet up with her without telling me, spend alot of time with her, ...

A.   17 January 2009: No, it's not really normal. I mean the relationship he has with her could be normal if he didn't have a girlfriend or if he let you meet her and you were also on good terms with her. The whole tattoo thing though, I wouldn't even get a matching ... (read in full...)

Is it time to give up on this relationship?

Q.   Hi, I will keep this as short as i can,it is quite long story. I had to go into hospital, this was approx 4 yrs ago because of my marriage break down, I was suffering from severe depression. I met a guy while i was there, he was also in for de...

A.   14 January 2009: I think you were right in deciding to take a break. Mr. X sounds very immature and selfish. He may have a mental illness but you cannot be expected to be his mother and his partner and his doctor. You also have a history of depressi... (read in full...)

Is it time to give up on this relationship?

Q.   Hi, I will keep this as short as i can,it is quite long story. I had to go into hospital, this was approx 4 yrs ago because of my marriage break down, I was suffering from severe depression. I met a guy while i was there, he was also in for de...

A.   30 December 2008: You both have depression and low self esteem, you have gone from one horrible relationship to another. You need to give yourself time to heal instead of going to another man who is dealing with so much himself that he cannot take the time to ... (read in full...)

Worried that my boyfriend will go off with my best friend if he has a 3some with me and her!!

Q.   I am 15 and me and my boyfriend are having sex reguly,we've been dating for 3 mounths now but the sex is getting boring and my boyfriend asked if we could have a treesome with my best friend, I am ok with having a treesome but I'm worried that he ...

A.   27 December 2008: Don't have a 3some, you're only 15 and you probably shouldn't even be having sex in the first place. Not only that, it is going to cause you problems with your self esteem, which you seem to have already anyway from reading your question. And it ... (read in full...)

How important is it if a guy has no friends. Not a party animal and doesn't drink?

Q.   He's 26! How important is it if a guy has no friends. Not a party animal.. doesn't drink. And his last relationship was (2) years. ago. Is that a warning sign that he can't be in a long-term relationship with someone? Great guy but I have my doubts ...

A.   24 December 2008: That's just probably just his personality. He may not enjoy those things. I don't have many friends but it's not because I can't be in a long-term relationship - I've been in one for 3 years. People look for different things in friends, he may ... (read in full...)

I'm in a band and my g/f doesn't approve of my onstage behaivor

Q.   Hi, I need some help here. I recently broke up with my girlfriend (now ex) (we were together since I was 18 and I am now 20). I was pretty sad about the whole thing for a while and I moved to a large city from the small little town I grew up in. I ...

A.   22 December 2008: Tell her everything you've told us. Talk this out with her, you're in a relationship so you should be able to share your hopes and dreams and you should each understand and respect where one another is coming from. Make her feel secure at the same ... (read in full...)

We never have sex and he doesn't want to talk about it...

Q.   I need some advice, I posted a question about a month ago or so when I was very upset after having found out my boyfriend had been watching porn behind my back throughout our entire relationship. He denied it for a while and finally admitted it and ...

A.   11 December 2008: Well thank you for your answer, I appreciate all of your honesty. Let me start with the first thing I read: "How could you also have been a passionate sex kitten and give him sex anytime and any place he wanted? Take time and be honest about the ... (read in full...)

We never have sex and he doesn't want to talk about it...

Q.   I need some advice, I posted a question about a month ago or so when I was very upset after having found out my boyfriend had been watching porn behind my back throughout our entire relationship. He denied it for a while and finally admitted it and ...

A.   9 December 2008: Well he doesn't work out, and he could be stressed. I am trying to figure out the factors leading him to the decreased sex drive but he won't talk to me about it, he just brushes me off and even gets mad sometimes. Maybe I'm offending him but I ask ... (read in full...)

We never have sex and he doesn't want to talk about it...

Q.   I need some advice, I posted a question about a month ago or so when I was very upset after having found out my boyfriend had been watching porn behind my back throughout our entire relationship. He denied it for a while and finally admitted it and ...

A.   8 December 2008: Well I do see it as something negative, and my issue here wasn't really the porn. He knows different positions and all that, he knows how to please me. I know how to please him. There are other sources of learning, such as talking it out with your ... (read in full...)

Can a shy man be attractive?

Q.   Hello. Do women find good looking articulate loners attractive - albeit strictly those who do not exhibit psychotic tendencies!? Many thanks....

A.   2 December 2008: Yes, I find shy men attractive. Shy does not mean unconfident, so yes many women are attracted to confident men but that doesn't mean that therefore they are unattracted to quiet men. Most other females I know go for the quieter type as well. I... (read in full...)

How do I stop my boobs from growing?

Q.   Okay i'm 15 years old, i'm 5'1 and my boobs are way too big already, i just want to know if there's anything i can do to stop growing anymore! I'm already a 32F, no 15 year old at my short height should have boobs that big, and i'm really quite ...

A.   30 November 2008: You are just going to have to wait it out - until you stop developing. My mom is 5'2" and I don't know what size her breasts are but they're huge and they cause her back to hurt all the time. She talks about a reduction all the time but puts it ... (read in full...)

Porn no longer scares me

Q.   I have had a breakthrough re porn and I thought it might interest you. My main worry was not understanding what is fantasy and what my partner would like in real life. I found it really hard to talk to him and I was very scared therefore hopeless ...

A.   27 November 2008: Well I actually skimmed that article you mentioned, but I will be reading it more thoroughly later. What I read so far I agree with totally, this is something being seen as so blase but really hurts people. My boyfriend admitted to me last night... (read in full...)

How can we get the "I love you" out??

Q.   im 21 and ive been with my boyfriend whos 25 for 9 months and im completely and utterly in love with him. We are completely honest with each other and can talk about nearly everything. the only "problem" we have is that we've never said the "i love ...

A.   23 November 2008: Maybe what he is trying to say is he loves you so much that just the words "I love you" won't be enough. If you want to tell him you love him go ahead and say it! If he doesn't say it back because he isn't ready that doesn't mean he doesn't love ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't my girlfriend believe that I don't watch porn?

Q.   Hi, I am in a relationship with a great girl, we have been together for 3 years. One problem we have is that she doesn't believe me when I tell her that I don't watch porn at all. I don't watch porn, at all, but she thinks I am lying. Why does ...

A.   21 November 2008: Just look at these threads on this website, women are told that ALL men watch porn and that it's healthy, and then when they have problems with it the women are critisized. My boyfriend told me for 3 years he didn't watch porn and I found out he ... (read in full...)

Porn no longer scares me

Q.   I have had a breakthrough re porn and I thought it might interest you. My main worry was not understanding what is fantasy and what my partner would like in real life. I found it really hard to talk to him and I was very scared therefore hopeless ...

A.   21 November 2008: What exactly did you say to him? I found out my boyfriend had been watching for years behind my back because he KNEW it would hurt me so he didn't say anything. He has since stopped (after denying it for months) but it is eating me up inside that he ... (read in full...)

Are some guys REALLY afraid of commitment?

Q.   There is this guy who Im seeing. We're not official yet because he says he will feel pressured in the relationship and he just got out a 3 year serious relationship. I know for sure that I wont sleep with him until I have a commitment but I feel ...

A.   21 November 2008: It doesn't sound like he hasn't grown up yet, in fact it sounds quite the opposite to me. He is putting his future first by assuring he will get into medical school, which is no easy task. Maybe his last girlfriend took up a lot of his time and he ... (read in full...)

I bought eye concealer instead of foundation, can I still use it as a foundation?

Q.   Hi all, This is a beauty question. I have just spent a fortune on a max factor concealer and went home and put some on my face only to realise it's eye concealer!!! Does it matter if I use it on my face i.e chin, jaw line area as I'm unabl...

A.   21 November 2008: It may make you break out if it has a thicker consistency, which under eye concealers usually tend to have. It also takes about 2 weeks for a pimple to come to the surface, so if it is causing you to break out you won't know for a little while. If ... (read in full...)

He lied about watching porn for 3 years. Should I dump him??

Q.   My boyfriend have been together for nearly three years. The topic of porn is something that has come up in our conversations before and he knows it is something I really do not approve of. I found out back in June that he has been watching porn ...

A.   20 November 2008: Thank you everyone for your answers. I am still very unsure about what to do. Some days I tell myself that it's normal and I shouldn't worry as long as he isn't doing it anymore and some days I can't help thinking about how much he hurt me by ... (read in full...)

She says she was forced into oral, but is there more to it?

Q.   alright, so my girlfriend told me recently that the reason she doesn't go down on me all too often is because she had a bad experience with it once. she said she was forced to do it by a big, aggressive guy she was kind of seeing after a break up...

A.   20 November 2008: I can really understand where your girlfriend is coming from. I went through the same thing with some guy when i was about 16 or 17. I felt emotionally forced to do it, it was terrible. I had a rough time when it came to oral with my current ... (read in full...)

He lied about watching porn for 3 years. Should I dump him??

Q.   My boyfriend have been together for nearly three years. The topic of porn is something that has come up in our conversations before and he knows it is something I really do not approve of. I found out back in June that he has been watching porn ...

A.   11 November 2008: I forgot to add this, but he stopped watching the porn back in July. I'm sorry, I was trying to add everything and left out a main point. He stopped watching when I found out and even though he still lied about it, he stopped. And I am sure he ... (read in full...)

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