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Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help. I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and have written for advice columns in the past.
I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and have a special aptitude with people. I have been active on this site for a number of years. I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, very spiritual, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.
If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.
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I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 23 March 2009: Well you said you can feel the chemistry between you and what he said was he wasn't interested in a serious relationship! Right?
~Eve~... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 20 March 2009: If you're both fire signs (Leo/Aries) then you both have a lot going for you. However if he's a Taurus you have an uphill slog ahead of you! lol. Leo wants to be first, King (or in your case) Queen of the jungle, you want to be noticed and ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 20 March 2009: Hey I told you all along, contrary to what others think/say... he DOES like you! I can spot the signs a mile off. Go easy on the emailing, might be a good idea NOT to reply to his compliment. Remember... play hard to get (guys like the chase) so ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 20 March 2009: 1. It's the vibes he's sending out, what he's saying and what he's not saying, the way he acted on your date compared to the way he was before. Lots of things, I explain it more in some of my posts. Trust me, I've been doing this job for over 25 ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 19 March 2009: I totally agree with you there Karen, it WILL be a lot of hard work, maybe years of hard work and it still might not work out. I agree too that she should be his friend and nothing more and continue to live her life and socialise too.
If he reall... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 19 March 2009: It's not a matter of "saving him" at all! How many times have you said something to someone you like to save face, when all the time you mean something else? Come on, we've all done it before and guys are no different. It's not just looking at ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 19 March 2009: Hi, sorry for the delay in replying. Every time I tried to catch up, more posts appeared, that and doing a million things besides…. Anyway, here is my take on it from what I’ve heard. I can see where Star and Rhythmandblues is coming from but ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 19 March 2009: In all fairness to the guy Karen, I think he's been hurt big time in the past and he's told himself he will never do "serious" again. It started out this way with the poster, chatting and a laugh but as he's gotten to know her better he's come to ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 18 March 2009: No, don't send him a text (he might even be expecting you to do that), leave things as they are. He might even be hoping you text him but don't! Let him sweat... Let him miss you! He'll realise that he's missed out having a relationship with you, ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 18 March 2009: Hey I'm not mad at you for talking to him. If you felt you had to do this to clear the air then it was the right thing to do.
The reason he's "switched off" is because he respects you and doesn't want to hurt you. He's probably used to taking w... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 18 March 2009: At least you got a lot off your chest asking him "what the score was" and now a lot of how he's been acting will make sense to you. He's told you he likes you but he doesn't want a serious relationship with ANYONE! You need to respect that. What ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 18 March 2009: If you prefer to send me a private message than that's okay. Just click on my avatar and click "send AskEve a private message". It will come up as female anonymous so let me know it's you.
Either that or you can write it on here, that way the ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 18 March 2009: Hi, Eve here... tell us your update!... (read in full...)
Please tell if what I did was wrong or right...
Q. I was in love with a girl for the last 3 years. It was totally from my side. It was unconditional, unadulterated and pure [typical Taurean me]. We were really good and close friends. Actually we met on net. We were classmates for a short period ...
A. 8 March 2009: Astrology is a hobby of mines and although lots of people say on here to forget what sign you are, I think you can tell a heck of a lot from a person's sun sign and how they tick. Go into it in even more depth and they're an open book! I have ... (read in full...)
Please tell if what I did was wrong or right...
Q. I was in love with a girl for the last 3 years. It was totally from my side. It was unconditional, unadulterated and pure [typical Taurean me]. We were really good and close friends. Actually we met on net. We were classmates for a short period ...
A. 8 March 2009: Long distance relationships can be very difficult. You can say anything to the other person you meet on the net but it goes nowhere unless you both meet up and see how that person acts, their mannerisms, how they hold themselves, how they look, see ... (read in full...)
I keep dreaming I'm sleeping with Present Bush!
Q. This isn't exactly a relationship question, but I'm in desperate need of help here! This is going to sound really weird and borderline gross, but please bear with me. I am a young, female, Liberal Democrat of nineteen (voted for Obama and suppor...
A. 7 March 2009: You slept with your ex, you're feeling horny and you're into politics. All of this has been on your subconscious and is part and parcel of why you are having these dreams. To dream that you are having sex with the president, (even although you ... (read in full...)
Could I wind up messing up a wonderful thing because of my doubts?
Q. Hello. I'm new to this kind of thing, but in reading over some of the other submissions, I suppose the way is to simply spill it. I'm a three-year divorcee from a marriage that I put my all into, and was met with a faithless, and ultimately decid...
A. 6 March 2009: Divorce is only a formality NOT a necessity. Think about it... does it make any difference to you both (at the moment) whether she's divorced or not? You both love each other and want to be together, THAT is your priority! You don't NEED a ... (read in full...)
Besotted...
Q. Hey, so I'm kinda in a pickle. I was once friends with a girl as a little boy, she moved across the planet. I haven't seen or contacted in almost 10 years? except for a brief encounter about a year or so ago where neither of us said anything so ...
A. 6 March 2009: I can see where you thought besotted means "very drunk". If you google the meaning then that IS one of the meanings it comes up with but if you look further down it defines besotted as: infatuated; intellectually or morally blinded; intoxicated ... (read in full...)
Why is he being so distant???
Q. hey, I'd really like someones help! Well ok it all started last July with this guy who is 37, and we became bf and gf (I'm 17) and at the start he was really kind... always told me he loved me and texted me loads... now its March and I went to see ...
A. 5 March 2009: Well that girl wasn't much of a friend so no loss to you there. He "stuck by you" when all this was going on. Had he slept with you yet when he "stuck by you"? Quite honestly, you deserve much much better than this guy. You're right, he IS a ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 5 March 2009: That is the reasons we HAVE relationships (go out, date etc), to see if we're compatible... you and him are not! You don't have to ignore him blatantly, be courteous, he'll be gone soon anyway so I would stop worrying.
~Eve~... (read in full...)
Why is he being so distant???
Q. hey, I'd really like someones help! Well ok it all started last July with this guy who is 37, and we became bf and gf (I'm 17) and at the start he was really kind... always told me he loved me and texted me loads... now its March and I went to see ...
A. 5 March 2009: I'm sorry if I seemed a bit harsh earlier. It's not a reflection on you. You've fallen for this guy's charm. He's 20 years older than you and far more experienced in the dating field and he knows to say and not say to charm the pants off of you. ... (read in full...)
Why is he being so distant???
Q. hey, I'd really like someones help! Well ok it all started last July with this guy who is 37, and we became bf and gf (I'm 17) and at the start he was really kind... always told me he loved me and texted me loads... now its March and I went to see ...
A. 5 March 2009: I still stand by what I said in my earlier thread. MOVE ON! He's found someone else and he's playing you. He's using you... simple!
~Eve~... (read in full...)
Why is he being so distant???
Q. hey, I'd really like someones help! Well ok it all started last July with this guy who is 37, and we became bf and gf (I'm 17) and at the start he was really kind... always told me he loved me and texted me loads... now its March and I went to see ...
A. 5 March 2009: You are not being straight with him. You're trying to act like his friend (but still having sex with him) but you're crazy on him (you must be if you'd marry him!) Okay, now the bad news! This guy is seeing someone else. The constant texts o... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 5 March 2009: Do you WANT to give things another go with him (remembering how he's been towards you) or have you had enough and want to move on? THAT'S what you need to ask yourself. If you DO want to give things another go then the next time you both pass one ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 2 March 2009: Only he knows what is going on in his mind. The graphic texts would be a very big red flag to me I'm afraid and I certainly wouldn't encourage them.
~Eve~... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 2 March 2009: He's attracted to the CHALLENGE! I get the feeling he's not the best with words. He probably wanted to go into your office and make things right and when it came to it he couldn't put it into words. Does he seem shy when you dated him?
~Eve~... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 2 March 2009: Even if you DID get together with him, does he live close by that you'd still be able to carry on seeing him if he WAS nicer to you? No, I thought you did well. You rose above it and kept your cool. You could quite easily have started to sound ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 2 March 2009: The least he could have done was apologised to you for being such a twat in the past, but he didn't do that. You did well, well done to you. Hopefully now he'll get the message and leave you in peace. He's obviously still attracted to you but ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her that I can't let go?
Q. So, I've decided that I'm not gonna let him go. The thing is that one of my friends likes him too and I promised her to give him up but I just can't, I've decided that I'll fight for what I want, but how do I tell her that I can't let go? HELP....
A. 1 March 2009: HE sounds like an object. Does the man in all of this have a say at all?
~Eve~... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 1 March 2009: If he refuses to work with you then he's not very professional is he? He won't get you fired, not from what you've told us anyway, he'll just move on...
Don't let him get to you the way he's doing. You've had excellent advice from Star and Sati... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 28 February 2009: I don't think he's the type to gossip to others, telling stories, it just doesn't seem his style at all. Chatting and flirting and being the joker (when in a confident mood) yes, but I don't think he's the gossip type. (Just a hunch.) You were ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 28 February 2009: Don't text him again. It's all a game with him, the texts and telling you what he'd like you to do to him, it's as if he's "grooming" you for when he makes his move! Hey, men have mood swings too. He probably felt horny one night and that's why ... (read in full...)
I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!
Q. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...
A. 28 February 2009: This guy would love to settle down with someone but he has too many hangups at the moment. He seems the quiet sort, keeps everything inside and takes all of his anger and resentments out on others, in this instance... you! You have only ever been ... (read in full...)
What should I do here for the best? I'm so confused!
Q. Well I feel kind of silly asking strangers for help but I don't know what else to do or who else to ask. I was a single parent for a couple of years when I met my current partner, at first it seemed like the ideal relationship, he showed interest...
A. 28 February 2009: You answered your own question. You love your boyfriend but you love your son MORE! Problem solved! You do what is right for you and your son. Your son has even told you that your partner makes him unhappy. He's at a very critical age right now ... (read in full...)
I resent that she's turned the tables on me and wants me back AGAIN.
Q. Having read much of the excellent advice given on here I am hoping that someone can help me. Over my 17 year marriage my wife and I have split up 3 times. The first time was after 8 years and was partly because of my social anxiety disorder ...
A. 28 February 2009: You were both very young when you got together and you are both very used to one another however I can see how the doubts are there with you. What if you get hurt again? What if you move heaven and earth to take her back and she wants to throw it ... (read in full...)
Should I keep me mouth shut and hope for it all to fall in me favour?
Q. Me best mate is a woman. I've been in love with her since Year 9. She is getting married in six months. She frequently tells me she's getting cold feet about it all and I try to reassure her that she picked the right guy. But in my heart, I know I ...
A. 28 February 2009: You need to let her know how you feel. I think she KNOWS already that she's making a terrible mistake and is just going along with everything, going with the wave so to speak. The very fact she's telling you she's getting cold feet could be a hint ... (read in full...)
Will it really take 7 years to get over my abusive relationship?
Q. I have been having these emotional outbursts from anger to sobbing but mostly sobbing for the last couple of days feeling so bad for my man how much I am going to miss him, the pain he must be going through to why did he do this to me, goodness you ...
A. 27 February 2009: I'm sorry to hear of your distress. How long were you together? How is he going through pain? What has he done to you? What happened? If you can give me a bit more information then I'd be happy to help you more.
~Eve~... (read in full...)
MSN problems...
Q. I'm 14 years old, I have MSN and a lot of people I didn't know added me, I blocked them and deleted them but once one freak added me several more did it was like when I didn't come online on MSN a lot of people added me and when I came on I had a ...
A. 19 February 2009: In your contact box, click on Tools (up at the top) then options/privacy. You will see a box in there entitled "only people on my Allow List can see my status and send me messages." TICK IT!
In the meantime do a clear out of all the people y... (read in full...)
How can I stop getting so angry at him when I'm out drinking with friends?
Q. I have a problem that's really starting to get to me. I'm 19 years old and been with my boyfriend (22) for 7 months now. We have a great relationship, very caring, loving, trusting etc, however our only problem is when I go out drinking... If I'm...
A. 18 February 2009: Sounds to me as if your drink consumption has gone out the window. You're certainly more than "tipsy" if you can't remember what happened the night before. I suggest you either NOT drink, cut the drinking down (know your limits), leave your phone ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with my soulmate but it's a friend of my wife...
Q. Hello, Let me just come right out and say it, I fell in love with one of my wife's friends. Yes, I'm sure I will get bashed here but it wasn't something I planned on doing. I have known this person for 7 YEARS and always found myself with her even ...
A. 16 February 2009: I totally disagree with PVT guy, soul mates DO exist, not everyone finds their soul mate in this lifetime, not everyone can even BE with their soul mate but we definitely all have one. How can it be infatuation? He's known her for 7 whole years ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with my soulmate but it's a friend of my wife...
Q. Hello, Let me just come right out and say it, I fell in love with one of my wife's friends. Yes, I'm sure I will get bashed here but it wasn't something I planned on doing. I have known this person for 7 YEARS and always found myself with her even ...
A. 16 February 2009: Tell me this... does your wife know you and her "friend" are seeing one another? Have you been intimate with your girlfriend and if so for how long?
~Eve~... (read in full...)
Ideas on how to get my boyfriend to give me gifts on holidays and treat me like he values me?
Q. How do I get my boyfriend to give me gifts on holidays and treat me like he values me? My boyfriend is affectionate, a good friend, and the sex is off the charts outstanding. Weve been together for 8 months now. For my birthday and xmas which are a ...
A. 14 February 2009: lmaooo @ army medic. I bet someone tries that!
~Eve~... (read in full...)
He doesn't care...!!!
Q. Today is valentines day.... and he hasn't even called me or sent me nothing! ...
A. 14 February 2009: If you have been seeing him for a while then it would have been nice if he'd have taken you out to dinner or at least sent you a card. It's possible he doesn't even believe in valentine's day. He might surprise you yet you never know. If he ... (read in full...)
How should I tackle the future given the problems my husband and I have had?
Q. I don't know where to start. I've been married to my husband since 2002. We've known each other since we were about 18/19 and got together when we were 21, just after leaving university. We moved in together very quickly - after about three months ...
A. 13 February 2009: You need to be able to tell him how you're feeling, the fact you want some tenderness and reassurance from him and where you stand with him. Remember, communication is the key always! Can I ask both your dates of birth?
~Eve~... (read in full...)
How should I tackle the future given the problems my husband and I have had?
Q. I don't know where to start. I've been married to my husband since 2002. We've known each other since we were about 18/19 and got together when we were 21, just after leaving university. We moved in together very quickly - after about three months ...
A. 10 February 2009: I can totally understand your pain and hope I can help shed some light on the situation and help you see that all is not lost here for your marriage. Your confidence has taken such a knock over the years, from early childhood through to your ... (read in full...)
My fake boyfriend.
Q. I asked my crush if he liked me and he said no and that he was about to go out with my best friend. I got mad at her and him and now at school I told 3 of my closest other friends that I had a boyfriend that lived in Canada and they believed me ...
A. 7 February 2009: You sound a lot younger to me than 26-29. And you're still at school at that age??? lol
~Eve~ ... (read in full...)
Husband embarrassed me in front of relatives...
Q. I am recently married. I did not marry at all until I was 50 years old and have always been very independant. I guess, that's why I am having some trouble adjusting to married life, step motherhood, etc. But, I love my husband very much and he's ...
A. 6 February 2009: Absolutely, you were right to pull him up for it and showed him respect by doing it in the privacy of your own home. That's what HE needs to learn to do too if there's anything he's not happy about, either to ask if he can talk to you for a moment ... (read in full...)
Should I be annoyed my wife is discussing our marital problems with her friends.
Q. Should I be annoyed my wife is discussing our marital problems with her friends. Because I am! I know we have problems but I haven't talked to my friends about it, I feel it's private information. What do you think?...
A. 3 February 2009: Women are far more emotional than men and they DO confide in their CLOSE friends, like it or not. That is how they deal with problems, they talk them out, air them, confide in friends and get it off their chest in order to make them feel better. ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep thinking of cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. Dear cupid. I'm thinking about cheating on my boyfriend. I do love him and we have a baby together and there is a guy totally hot for me and we kissed today, and the thoughts I have about him are wild. And I can't get this feeling out my head that ...
A. 3 February 2009: I feel sorry for your boyfriend. If you are thinking of this other guy to the point where you've actually kissed him (and like you said, if it wasn't him it would be someone else) then your relationship has run its course and you need to end it. ... (read in full...)
Am I really starting to fall in love with my brother?
Q. My older brother and I have been sexually active with each other for some years now. I know this started as him abusing me but I no longer see it that way and I think I might be falling in love with him. He is 4 years older then me and started uni 2 ...
A. 1 February 2009: To male anonymous: Just WATCH your spelling and grammar. If it's too bad or mixed up the answer will be rejected.... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 1 February 2009: That doesn't surprise me at all, it's great news. DC is becoming more and more popular, it's a place to ask advice and meet up with friends and word about it is obviously spreading like wildfire. It keeps moving with the times, growing better and ... (read in full...)
Touched by my cousin and don't know what to do...?
Q. Okay so tonight I was at my aunties and uncles house, and I'm really close with my cousins. So me and my cousin were watching a film in the front room but I was on the side of his chair so I could go on the computer, he put is arms round my waist ...
A. 1 February 2009: Why are you letting him do this to you? You are old enough to know this is wrong, your gut instinct is telling you it's wrong yet you let him continue? Do you fancy your cousin? Do you stay at the side of his chair to see just how far he'll go?
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Bullied in college, what to do?
Q. recently in college a girl has began bullying me, making comments about things i have posted on myspace and saying awful things about me i had talked to her a couple of times before and we seemed to get on quite well but now shes just attackin...
A. 1 February 2009: Sweety Pie is right, ignore her! Fighting back or even answering her is only giving her more ammunition and feeding/fuelling her to say or do something else. If you say NOTHING and ignore her, she'll soon get fed up that she's not getting a ... (read in full...)
Dysfunctional Friendship/Romance
Q. I live with my best friend in the whole world, but in the past we were a bit more than friends. I regret it now, but we've slept together many times - but it never felt like just sex, it was always really... loving. I started to fall in love with ...
A. 31 January 2009: You have been too easily accessible for him, you're only a commodity. He's charmed his way into your bed I'm afraid and your emotions have gotten in the way so that you've fallen for him. You see it as more than just friends, he sees it as sex, a ... (read in full...)
Is he ashamed to take me out and be seen with me?
Q. Hi folks... look at me the bore sitting in on a Saturday night!!... Okay, so I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We dated loads before we said we were 'official.' And in any respect, we've done the whole relationship thi...
A. 31 January 2009: What's desperate about it? You've been together now for 3 months! It's only natural you want to see the kind of guys he hangs around with and after all, he's met your mates. If it's annoying you so much (and it is to the point where you're ... (read in full...)
Is he ashamed to take me out and be seen with me?
Q. Hi folks... look at me the bore sitting in on a Saturday night!!... Okay, so I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months now. We dated loads before we said we were 'official.' And in any respect, we've done the whole relationship thi...
A. 31 January 2009: Yes, I think you're being paranoid. Instead of letting these worries grow why don't you just ask him if you can meet some of his mates, even try to organise going to the pub with a couple of his mates and their girlfriends. He probably doesn't ... (read in full...)
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