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writes:In the last year,my wife has talked sexier and much more than in the pastwhile having sex,started to exercise,swallowed several times giving me oral sex a couple times in one week when she. Has only did that twice before in 20yrs and became interested in aquiring sex toys which we did.we didn't use them together after they arrived.But 2 weeks after they were delivered,I found out that she had started using the "pocket rocket" vibrator but never mentioned it or brought it out when we were together.I am a 57 year old male in good shape and get told I don't look that age(younger).She is 45 yrs old,and even though I never caught here cheating,over our 23 yrs I have had a suspicion.Question: Do these new behaviors be a red flag that she is or thinking about cheating?
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (22 August 2013):
 going by what you wrote , sounds like my wife at that age area when she was around mid 40s. she is now 49. at that age my wife started giving more oral "swallowing" which i enjoy, sex toys, and more.
unless she is going out staying gone, change of habits while gone, hiding things from you, lying to you, with holding sex from you " because of guilt" and attachment to someone else then i would be worried. i would think if she was cheating sex would be less, and unemotional from her.
unless she is hiding things from you and withdrawing from sex then i would worry. sounds like you two have a good marriage.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 August 2013):
 Nothing you write raises a red flag for me.
Women's libido can be a come and go in our 40's. So maybe the pocket rocket is because it's not waning but increasing. Her masturbating here and there with it I don't really see a problem with.. UNLESS it means you two have sex less.
Maybe (with the swallowing) she is less conscious about what you might think of her if she does it. Maybe SHE is trying out "new" things.
Maybe the sex toys wasn't for the two of you, but for her? Maybe it was her way of asking permission to buy HERSELF a toy?
I'd say after 23 years you two should be able to have a little pillow talk about what's up...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 August 2013):
 I LOVE My pocket rocket... just saying...
other than these changes is she out more? is she hiding her email, is she locking her phone? is she dressing better to go to work?
have you ASKED her what's changed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2013): Women at her age are at the height of the sexuality. Sexually she is a at a hormonal peak; just before the menopausal stage.
We're in the 21st century, and she's done some reading and has been talking to other women. She also watches talk shows, where women are educated more about their bodies and sexuality.
She is maturing and sees no reason she shouldn't enjoy sex as much as she ever has.
I think 23 years of loyalty is a pretty good record.
My question to you is, what are you complaining about?
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