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writes:My boyfriend is moving away in about 6 months to his hometown and he is moving later on to another continent for his job. I really wanna go with him but i cannot travel because of lack of documents. There is two options, one is a very long process that takes up to 15 years and the other one is only 6 months. The thing is that the 6 month process is IF you marry a us citizen which my boyfriend is. But i really do not want to offer that to my boyfriend. I mean my believe is that you marry someone because you love the person. We do love each other but i don't want to sound like if im only interested in that because im not, i would love for us to get married so i can go with him and we wouldn't have to be far away for a lot of years. Oh because when he leaves his going to be gone for about 3 to 6 years depending on the job. He is 28 and im 19, i would obviously when i move i would start working as i cant work right now, and help him pay for anything expenses and i would pay for my school. Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (11 January 2012):
 First he's going to move to his home town - how long will he be there? And after that will move to another continent for his job? What continent is that?
Maybe you should talk with him about the possibility of getting married. He PROBABLY won't necessarily assume you are bringing up marriage just because you don't want to be away from him, but you need to be honest as well as listen to what he has to say.
How long have you been together? If only a year or less it might not be a good idea to marry because it takes at least a year or two to really know if two people are compatible. I know this because one man I thought was suitable, after a year and going on toward two years, it turned out not to be a good match - not that there was anything particularly wrong, we just weren't all that well suited, once the initial newness and getting acquainted stage of the relationship had had time to develop......
You don't have to take my word for it: at least a year and more is fairly common to determine whether things will work out well for the long term.
Besides, what do you know about the country where he will be working, for, presumably the foreseeable future? How do you know whether you could adapt to a very different way of life, and culture?
I hope you will seriously consider these issues and be very honest with yourself, and with him.......
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