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writes:I have been dating this guy and he seems unsure of what he wants. He lives in another town so the distance makes it hard to see each other. I know he is going through a hard time because his daughter was just born a few months ago. He and his ex wife just seperated about a year ago. I really like him and want a relationship eventually, but don't know if I should say anything or not. We are good friends and talk a lot, but we hardly see each other. I could see us ending up together, but don't know what to do. I don't know if I should just wait around for him or say something. When I talk to him he acts like he really wants to see me and it is usually his idea to hang out, but it usually doesn't happen. Should I just try to stay friends for now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): With the whole LDR thing and him stuck in that town with a newborn, it's not like he can realistically meet the requirements of a long distance relationship. I think it may be a little premature to bring up wanting a relationship given the fact you hardly see him and you'll probably see him even less now that his ex just had the baby. The other thing is that even though he acts like he wants to see you, it doesn't happen. Asking for a relationship is not going to all the sudden make that happen. I would just stay friends and not put your life on hold. He already knows you are interested in him because you are dating him and want to see him but you really do need to be in a position where you see the person regularly for anything to progress beyond friendship.
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (31 May 2009):
 Maybe he's got a lot on his plate now, so he is focused on other things. Maybe he has lots of things to work out with his ex-wife.
That said, you also need to know where you stand with him, and that is not going to happen if you stay quiet and wait for him. You don't have to be aggressive, and you don't have to demand that he pays more attention to you, but perhaps you could make your interest known, and then give him time to sort himself out?
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