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*ylan McK
writes:My step mum thinks im gay, which theres nothing wrong with, but its annoying. How can i convince her? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Dylan McK +, writes (1 June 2009):
Dylan McK is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys, all advice will be used.
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reader, Boogs +, writes (1 June 2009):
Hi Dylan, families get some weird ideas into their heads don't they!
Forgive me if this sounds very obvious but I'm guessing you've tried telling her you're not? Does your dad know about this? Maybe you could explain to him how frustrating you're finding the situation and ask him to set her straight (no pun intended!). If you're feeling assertive enough you could try telling her that you appreciate she's interested in your life but you don't want to have to talk about your sexuality all the time and if she won't believe you then could she possibly agree to differ and not mention it again?
Remember, it's no one's business but your own so embarassing though it must be don't feel you have to do anything to 'prove yourself'.
Good luck with it whatever you decide to do.
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (1 June 2009):
 I don't think it's very appropriate for a step parent to label such a young teen as "gay" or to place him in any kind of sexual category. Sexual preference, at whatever age, is personal and I would question the motive of any adult who openly imposes such a thing. I know there is nothing wrong with being gay but it's still not her business, it's your personal business, whether you are heterosexual or bi or whatever.
I wouldn't convince her of anything, I would tell her that you are comfortable with who you are and she can keep her thoughts to herself. Tell her you aren't comfortable talking about your sex life with her and then walk out of the room- that'll really get her! No, don't do that but wouldn't it be fun?
You could also start messing with her like asking for a pink shirt for your birthday or when you go to the supermarket, tell her some guy has a great ass.
When I was mad at my mom when I was around your age, I would call her "grandma" in public - strike a deal with your stepmom, you won't annoy her and she won't annoy you.
Hopefully it won't have to come to that and she'll listen when you tell her she makes you uncomfortable when she talks about sexuality with you.
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reader, KiwiiTOS +, writes (1 June 2009):
 Just tell her. If she refuses to believe you, just respond saying you think she's lesbian. A taste of her own medicine. But seriously, be open and communicative.
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reader, Legioness +, writes (1 June 2009):
 Bring a girl over, she'll assume you're getting with her, thus assuming that you're straight :D
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