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Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help. I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and have written for advice columns in the past.
I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and have a special aptitude with people. I have been active on this site for a number of years. I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, very spiritual, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.
If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.
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12 July 2010: I have written this blog a few times but I thought I'd write it in an "article", that way people can always view it. To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love"...
Some tips for a happy marriage!
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16 October 2008: MARRIAGE - WHAT IS EXPECTED IN A MARRIAGE? Once you marry, don’t expect everything just to fall into place. Marriage is a serious commitment but it needs to be continually worked at. Too many people today go into marriage for the wrong reasons, t...
20 questions to ask someone on a date!
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16 October 2008: So many of the younger ones on this site tend to be a bit tongue tied about what to ask their date so here are 20 things to ask someone on that first date. 1. What do you like to do when you're not working? 2. Where in the world would you most...
Why do you think marriages break up more now than in the past?
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16 October 2008: Do you remember years ago when families used to sit in at nights? They had no TV, no computer games, no telephones, no DVD's, no video recorders etc etc. They had one another! They had TIME to get to know one another, to BE with one another to ...
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I slept with my sister's ex husband and I feel terrible about it!
Q. I feel in a terrible situation, I went out the other night and got quite drunk, I bumped into my sister's ex-husband, they have been divorced for about 7 years, we started to dance with each other, chatted about old times but it didn't stop there, ...
A. 16 February 2008: I am very close to my sister too but I think on this occasion you are right NOT to mention it to her. It's definitely not worth the pain and upset. You have made the right decision not to say. Just make sure it NEVER happens again! Good luck.
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Any tips for getting over being messed over by a guy?
Q. Hi, Has anybody got any tips for getting over being messed about by a guy. I keep thinking about him all the time. Sometimes I'm angry at what he did, sometimes I remember the chemistry we had and I'm hoping he will call me, other times I'm trying...
A. 16 February 2008: So what happened? How has he messed you about? What did he do? Were you going out together? I'm afraid I'll need more information before I can even begin to reply.
~Eve~... (read in full...)
Is God the reason my answers aren't being posted?
Q. I don't understand. I've responded with reasonable answers to reasonable questions on this site and my answers are not being posted. Has anyone else had that problem? I've responded to some questions that are very meaningful to me becuase I've ...
A. 15 February 2008: Have a word (email) with Andrew (the boss of the site), he goes under the name of "DearCupid". He'll be able to explain to you and tell you exactly why some of your answers aren't being posted okay?
~Eve~... (read in full...)
I have been wanting to be part of that group for ages, but I can't gather the courage to talk to them as the girl I like is there.
Q. Hi, Okay, im in a bit of a mood with myself:P At High School (i'm 15), i've always been friends with "geeks" and i've never had any reall female attention and i'm seen as a "geek" also. There is a group of people i've been wanting to make friends ...
A. 15 February 2008: The good thing about being shy is that no one knows, you don't have a label on you saying "I'm Shy!" It's all on the inside and no one can see what goes on in there. The other good thing is that you're by no means alone feeling like this, most ... (read in full...)
I slept with my sister's ex husband and I feel terrible about it!
Q. I feel in a terrible situation, I went out the other night and got quite drunk, I bumped into my sister's ex-husband, they have been divorced for about 7 years, we started to dance with each other, chatted about old times but it didn't stop there, ...
A. 15 February 2008: No, thankfully I have never been in your situation before. It's not the end of the world though. You've come to your senses now. Although your sister is no longer with him, I'm sure she would be appalled that you did what you did so the sooner ... (read in full...)
Heartbroken and confused...
Q. Hello. I'm finding it really hard to cope losing my girlfriend. She ended our relationship Tuesday because she was not happy but I really love her. If we were still together today it would of been 14 months and 2 weeks. I love her so much my heart ...
A. 15 February 2008: I'm sorry to hear your relationship has broken up after so long and I know it's hard for you. The best thing you can do is keep your chin up and give her some space. Don't go running after her as she'll only dig her heels in. Give her the chance ... (read in full...)
Ex wife wants me back and she has new child
Q. Please help. I am a 30 year old male who at the age of 12 fell in love with a girl, also 12. At 15 we started dating and 13 years later we were married with 3 kids. The relationship had its moments and to be honest the arguments were mainly over ...
A. 14 February 2008: I think you have made the right choice! Doesn't mean you can't still be amicable with your wife and of course you can still see your kids when you want too. YOUR happiness is the most important. If you're happy then you can function better and be ... (read in full...)
I can't cope with the long distance relationship so I decided to break up during his visit in my country. Good idea? What to say to him?
Q. Hi, I really need advice on how to let my boyfriend go easily. We have a very long-distance relationship, he's older than me (21), i'm 17 but he is like my 4th boyfriend, i am his first. So as u all probably know, it really hurts when ur f...
A. 14 February 2008: Explain to him exactly what you've said here. You find that the long distance thing isn't working out. You're both still young and have a lot of living to do before you settle down with anyone. Let him know you're studying hard (or something ... (read in full...)
He does not kiss me in bed, except rarely. Is it normal?
Q. My husband rarely kisses me in bed. His says: "We don't have to kiss every time we have sex." Ladies, are your husband like this too? Because I always thought that if you don't love, you don't kiss. And to be honest his not kissing me in bed turns ...
A. 14 February 2008: Does he kiss you at other times? I must admit, this is rather strange. Kissing (in my opinion) goes hand in hand when making love to someone. Tell him it turns you off when he doesn't kiss you and ask him why he doesn't feel it's important. Tell ... (read in full...)
Ex wife wants me back and she has new child
Q. Please help. I am a 30 year old male who at the age of 12 fell in love with a girl, also 12. At 15 we started dating and 13 years later we were married with 3 kids. The relationship had its moments and to be honest the arguments were mainly over ...
A. 14 February 2008: Why did you and the wife break up? Just because there was no sex life or was there more to it?
Eve... (read in full...)
Ex wife wants me back and she has new child
Q. Please help. I am a 30 year old male who at the age of 12 fell in love with a girl, also 12. At 15 we started dating and 13 years later we were married with 3 kids. The relationship had its moments and to be honest the arguments were mainly over ...
A. 14 February 2008: Listen... YOU have the right to be happy too, in life AND in the bedroom. I'm going to stick my neck out here, even if you don't go back with your wife you can still see your children whenever you want. Your ex sounds very set in her ways and I ... (read in full...)
Ex wife wants me back and she has new child
Q. Please help. I am a 30 year old male who at the age of 12 fell in love with a girl, also 12. At 15 we started dating and 13 years later we were married with 3 kids. The relationship had its moments and to be honest the arguments were mainly over ...
A. 14 February 2008: Wow! You DO have a tricky situation on your hands. As long as you are with your current girlfriend you won't be able to think clearly so I would suggest moving out of there even if it's only temporary to THINK. You don't want any current emotions ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else felt this way after breaking up with their ex? How do I move on?
Q. Hi there, I broke up with my ex almost 6 months ago and I'm still madly in love with her. I'm majorly deppressed and on the edge of a nervous breakdown. My doctor has given me tablets to try and get me better but it's just not working. I have felt ...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi Luke, I'm sorry to hear you and your ex broke up. Can I ask you how long you were together and what happened to cause you both to split?
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Site News: We hit another milestone :-)
Q. For the first time we broke the 400,000 visitors mark over the past month! We had 412,222 people visit the site from Jan 13th 08 - Feb 14th 08 according to google analytics! Thanks to all the mods, the aunts and everyone who shares their pro...
A. 13 February 2008: I'm not surprised it's continuing to improve. All the hard work you put in here Andrew and at no cost! It's a haven for young ones (and the not so young lol) to ask a questions free of charge and be given different points of view. Not every ... (read in full...)
What does my dream mean - 'my wife having sex with friends'
Q. Hi If there is anyone who knows about dreams what does this mean. About several times a month I dream about my wife flirting and then having sex with some of our friend's husbands, who I know are attracted to her. She hasn't done anything i...
A. 12 February 2008: Subconsciously you have noticed that your friends find your wife attractive and this is making you feel somewhat insecure. You are also inadvertently taking things a stage further in your mind and questioning how you would feel about it if she did ... (read in full...)
Sex films and best mates
Q. My wife often lets me film her perform sexual acts on herself and me. I had never considered showing them to anyone until one day she told me I could show them to my best friend aslong as I pretended she didn't know. At first I was shocked by this....
A. 10 February 2008: I wouldn't go there. You're only opening up a can of worms and your friend certainly won't respect your wife for it. He'll be asking you for "a shot" of her next! Your sex life should be kept private and how do you know you can trust your friend ... (read in full...)
She will just laugh at me and think I'm a freak, what should I do?
Q. I'm 16 and a virgin. Everyone is doing it accept me but the thing is I have a small penis and it's wonky so I'm too scared to get with a girl cause when she wants sex she will just laugh at me and think I'm a freak. What should I do?...
A. 10 February 2008: You're not nearly mature enough to have sex with anyone. So what if everyone else was doing it? If they were all taking drugs or shoplifting would you want to do that too? You should stand tall and just get to know girls more, be fun to be with ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him we shouldn't talk anymore without offending him?
Q. Hey Aunts, I just want to ask you a question - I'm having a little trouble with me and my boyfriend of 2 years. We broke up and he is so confusing, just always giving me mixed messages, I miss him so much. I've just realized it's time t...
A. 10 February 2008: Just don't log on to wherever it is you talk! Simple!
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I need to get over my jealousy because it's having such a serious impact on my life.
Q. Help I need to get over my jealousy because it's having such a serious impact on my life. I mainly get jealous of my close friends (the closer they are, the more jealous I feel) and my jealousy makes me want to sabotage the good things they have...
A. 8 February 2008: Jealousy is rife in the world today especially in relationships. Feelings such as jealousy are based on fear and do not come from love at all, we say we feel like this BECAUSE we love the person but this isn't the case at all. Jealousy comes from ... (read in full...)
I think I may have caught a sexually transmitted disease. What now?
Q. i like having sex, but after i have it i feel really bad, i have it with my cosins and i am afaid i might have cought a dissease .what do i do? tell my my mum and get cheaked out or leave it and keep it too myself . by the way don't think im a...
A. 7 February 2008: You are WAY too young to be having sex at your age! At 11 your body isn't even fully developed yet. You should confide in your mum and go to have it checked out. Thankfully, most STD's can be treated - see the link below which will help.
http:... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I want to make love to her?
Q. how do i tell her i want to make love to her...............i feel realy stupid about this because i'm 45 and should no what i'm doing.i no she considers me more then just a boy friend we are even going on a trip to newyork in a few weeks same room ...
A. 7 February 2008: There's absolutely nothing wrong with you and it will happen in it's own due time and when it does I'm sure it will be worth it. Why don't you invite her over to your place for dinner, set some ambience in the room with candles and soft music and ... (read in full...)
I aspired to find someone with the same level of professionalism and potential so should I go with the flow of the courtship and choose this man who is a seller?
Q. OK so I met this guy two days ago when he sold me my new mobile phone. He is 35 I'm 33 we are both single and from the same religion. We hit it off quickly and spent like a half hour talking about our personal lives. He seemed very interested and ...
A. 6 February 2008: "I don't know if I should go with the flow of the frienship/courtship because he is looking for something serious and me too" - You've only known him a couple of days, how do you know he's looking for something serious? He may be in the middle of ... (read in full...)
What can I do about the situation and can I deny the DNA test, given that I'm a teenager pregnant with my cousin's baby??
Q. I'm 17 years old. Me and my cousin have been dating for a while, it feels weird to be attracted to my cousin but i really do have lots of feelings for him. Anyway i'm about 5 months pregnant with his child. My parents already know about my pregnancy ...
A. 6 February 2008: This will all come out in time so (in my opinion) I think it's best that you come clean with your parents and tell them the truth. Have your cousin with you when you do for moral support. They may be angry at first but they'll come round (the same ... (read in full...)
How can I solve our communication problem??
Q. hey.. I've been dating this guy for a year now, we will be celebrating our 1 yr anniversary 3 days before valentines day :) (yes we have had the exclusivity talk). My major problem has been communication.. he doesn't call me as often as i would...
A. 6 February 2008: First of all if you exert pressure on him all the time then he'll back off! You've been going out for a year, that doesn't mean to say he has to "call in" every night. Give him some space, spend a night away from the PC and pamper yourself, let ... (read in full...)
Do you think she loves him more?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. Me and my whole Family love each other but even though we don't see each other all the time. My 22 year old cousin(girl) has two boys. A 8 month old baby and a 2 year old. Every time the 2 year old comes over he gets all the ...
A. 5 February 2008: Of course she doesn't. The 2 year old is on his feet all the time so needs an eye kept on him and kids that age do the funnies things. He's just cute, that's all. I don't think for one minute you're loved any less than anyone else. Why don't you ... (read in full...)
How do I stop thinking about my ex and her relationship?
Q. I keep having nights where I can't get my ex out of my head. We broke up a year ago next month, so I would have liked to believe that she would have left my head by now, even if we were together for 2 years. But no. I still think about her, and it ...
A. 5 February 2008: The more you think about your ex the more you're dulling your senses to look around and see how much happiness IS actually out there! Get out more, take up a hobby, go to the gym. You will never be able to successfully move on as long as she fills ... (read in full...)
Nothing happend so why is everyone making such a big deal out of it?
Q. There's this guy, 18 (im 15), and I've known him all my life since the day I was born (let's call him Ollie). Hes been like a brother to me all my life and looks after me helps me etc. We've always been very close and would cuddle up on the sofa, ...
A. 5 February 2008: Dazzerg is absolutely right! Forget all the gossip, YOU know the truth and that's all that matters. The more you let people see it worries you, the more they'll do it. Let them think what they want... "todays gossip is tomorrows history" as ... (read in full...)
He seems to want to get more intimate but I'm scared I'm doing something wrong.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for one month. I love him to pieces and love spending time with him. I recently went over to his the other weekend and we watched a film. We lay on his bed kissing for a while and he put his hand up my top and ...
A. 5 February 2008: From the sound of it you're not nearly ready for this kind of intimate relationship. Intimacy like this should come naturally between two people. Enjoy being together and getting to know one another first before jumping into something that might ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend's best friend that I will break up with my boyfriend to begin a new relationship with him?
Q. I have feelings for my boyfriend's best friend, we have a lot in common and I really can imagine us dating. How do I tell my boyfriend's best friend that I will break up with my boyfriend to begin a new relationship with him?...
A. 5 February 2008: You're trampling on very dodgy ground here. Your boyfriend's best friend might decide to remain loyal to him and won't want to go out with you even if you DO tell him you're going to finish with your boyfriend. Better tell your boyfriend first as ... (read in full...)
What does it all mean?
Q. There is this boy who is a year younger than me and we started emailing because we both have the same friend but I really fancy him but he seems really shy as he's younger and I don't know what he feels. At first he didnt know who I was, but then...
A. 5 February 2008: This friend of yours doesn't seem ready to be in a relationship with a girl yet. Girls mature faster than boys and I think he's quite happy with his friends for now. Give it a couple of years and I'm sure things will be different.
~Eve~... (read in full...)
I like my best friend, what should I do?
Q. Me and this guy know each other for 7 years now. we are great friends and we always call each other if we need to talk about something. We know everything about each other but when we are around each other we are always flirting and picking ...
A. 5 February 2008: You have told him you like him, it may be he's a bit shy. You could try moving closer to him when you sit, taking his hand etc and see if that helps. It may be he just wanted to hear you say nice things about him in order to give his ego a boost ... (read in full...)
She's married with kids! Am I nuts for wanting her?
Q. it may seem crazy at my age! and i'm not sure what it is but it hurts so much, i want so much to be with a woman i have know for so long now but she is married with 2 fabulous boys and i can't tell anyone but i want to tell the world, i could go on ...
A. 3 February 2008: Admire her from a far... SHE'S TAKEN, end of!... (read in full...)
My husband cannot see how serious his pot-smoking problem really is. Please help.
Q. I have been married for over 20 years. My husband has always smoked pot. I always thought this was just a phase, and that he would grow up and quit. We have grown children, and it was a big issue when they were young. I almost left him then, but ...
A. 1 February 2008: He's been doing this for 20 years and is dependent on it now and to be perfectly honest the thought of giving it up will absolutely terrify him! He feels he needs pot the same as he needs air to breathe. Anything you say to him will only come ... (read in full...)
I really love him but cant take anymore lies...is walking away the right thing??
Q. I have been in a relationship with a married man for the last 4 years. Initially we started off as friends but became much more than that. He was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a very controlling woman. They were supposed to be ...
A. 1 February 2008: He has no backbone and is just using you. I have no doubts he is fond of you but not fond enough to give up the life he has with her to be with you exclusively.
There is no reason why he can't move out of the house, find himself some place to... (read in full...)
My ex has a lot of money but only pays a little towards child support. What should I do?
Q. My ex is a real piece of work. He never wanted our son and has done everything he can to avoid paying child support. He has even gone as far as saying that he doesn't feel he should pay child support as I already claim Child Benefit and Tax ...
A. 1 February 2008: Unfortunately he can't be forced to pay CSA money to you (at least that's the case in Scotland). I agree with Annalisa, go to the Citizens Advice Bureau and see what they say. If you don't get any satisfaction from them and you know for a fact ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a non-sexual relationship?
Q. I really need someone out there to help me this important decision of my life.....I am 35 years old and has been trying very very hard to go after a guy of 43 years old for the past 2 years. He is a successful businessman, financially stable, ...
A. 21 January 2008: I have asked you for more information in reply to the email you sent me Jane. Regarding telling him you know about his "secret"... BIG MISTAKE!!!!! All you will do is undermine him and make him feel very small in your presence, it will put pressure ... (read in full...)
What should I do? What is 'true love'? I must know!
Q. Help! I've been seeing a truly fantastic girl now for seven months. But recently, I've been having some vague feelings that things weren't really shaping up the way they are supposed to and decided to come clean and tell her that I just didn't feel ...
A. 14 January 2008: You really are confused here aren't you? Here is my definition of love for you.
To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love" with them but of course this can... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a non-sexual relationship?
Q. I really need someone out there to help me this important decision of my life.....I am 35 years old and has been trying very very hard to go after a guy of 43 years old for the past 2 years. He is a successful businessman, financially stable, ...
A. 28 December 2007: Thank you for getting in touch. I read your question carefully and it seems to me that this is indeed a very caring man, but also a very clever one. He NEEDS you in order to make his business grow, you are his supplier and without your business ... (read in full...)
I'm having some disturbing dreams... Can anybody explain why?
Q. Recently i have been having some disturbing dreams.It all started when i was searching for something in our loft. I found a shoe box with some photos of my mother before i was born. She was wearing a really skimpy dress and despite myself i got abit ...
A. 28 December 2007: You're perfectly normal. You seen pictures of your mother when she was closer to your age and realised how pretty she looked and actually how fanciable she looked. This has stayed in your subconscious and when you dreamed you had sex with her, the ... (read in full...)
I got this text from my ex and I am confused
Q. Ive got a dilemma (man! woman are funny creatures) ive been crazy about my ex for ages and finally mastered up the courage to tell her, she was shocked and said she's sleep on it. she then text me this morning want to know how i should approach...
A. 20 December 2007: You don't deserve the heartbreak and if you continue to think negatively then all you will bring to your life is negativity so come on... THINK POSITIVE!!! I am a great believer and ambassador for positive thinking and I'm proof that it works too. ... (read in full...)
I got this text from my ex and I am confused
Q. Ive got a dilemma (man! woman are funny creatures) ive been crazy about my ex for ages and finally mastered up the courage to tell her, she was shocked and said she's sleep on it. she then text me this morning want to know how i should approach...
A. 18 December 2007: She is telling you "tactfully" that she doesn't want to be romantically involved with you any more. If you continue to contact her after this then you're only making a nuisance of yourself to her and she'll lose all respect for you. Text her back ... (read in full...)
I'm too slow to act and suffering the consequences. Can you help me out?
Q. There is a little bit of background to this so bear with me. I have been at university for a year and a half now and last year I met a girl. We had some stuff in common (we are part of the same society - it was how we met) and whenever I saw h...
A. 18 December 2007: I think she's used to having around and it's obvious she likes your company as well as her boyfriend's. If I were you I would make myself scarce for a little while. If she asks you what's the matter just tell her you've been busy and have had ... (read in full...)
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