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writes:how do i tell her i want to make love to her...............i feel realy stupid about this because i'm 45 and should no what i'm doing.i no she considers me more then just a boy friend we are even going on a trip to newyork in a few weeks same room one bed you get the idea~we have been seeing eachother for three months and i told my self this time i would not press the sex thing real early with this one because i really like/love her but now when i'm with her i feel like i'm going to explode/frustrated i want to tell her i want to make love but can't seem to......whats wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (8 February 2008):
 First off, no your not stupid...because you have no idea what's probably going on in her mind and all what she has been thinking. Calm down...it will be great!! I think it's actually awesome that you both have waited so long..meaning, you nor her have taking the "plunge" from either side pushing it, but, sounds like maybe both of you want to now...one room, one bed???
Let me say this...if it were me, I would already be thinking..yep..were gonna be strapping it on that night. So, depending on how and what you really want to do and make it...I would think so much and highly of my boyfriend if he did a few things to spruce up the hotel room. I would bring a few scented candles along, some wine or a nice beverage/glass to have it in and most definately a rose on the bed with a card. Sometimes it's nice to say what you feel in a card and something she will cherish to. I would bring some nice soft music...maybe call the hotel see what they have to offer ahead of time. Set the mood, believe me...it's not that it will make it happen any faster, it's the thought of YOU doing these thoughtful things for her! Regardless, I know she knows. Women sense alot of things, believe me. But it sounds like she wants you to take the initiative, not her. If you like/love her that much, it will come out, when "it's" ready...meaning THE WORDS, whatever they may be for you. When your ready to kiss her...just look in her eyes...eyes have meaning..and we see that to, especially if words can't come out. :)
I probably rattled on...however, from one 40 something to another, good luck and best wishes to you both!!
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (7 February 2008):
 There's absolutely nothing wrong with you and it will happen in it's own due time and when it does I'm sure it will be worth it. Why don't you invite her over to your place for dinner, set some ambience in the room with candles and soft music and some nicely chilled wine or champagne then just take it from there.
I'm sure she knows you like her very much and I bet she likes you too and can't wait to make love to you. You are two consenting adults, just take it one step at a time and it WILL eventually happen when the time is right.
~Eve~
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