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Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help. I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and have written for advice columns in the past.
I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and have a special aptitude with people. I have been active on this site for a number of years. I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, very spiritual, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.
If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.
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Why do you think marriages break up more now than in the past?
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16 October 2008: Do you remember years ago when families used to sit in at nights? They had no TV, no computer games, no telephones, no DVD's, no video recorders etc etc. They had one another! They had TIME to get to know one another, to BE with one another to ...
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I come fourth in his order of priorities. Shouldn't I be first?
Q. we broke up and now he said when were together for the last 2weeks i wasnt his top piority , he sed his life was in the order of Job , Mates , Football , Me and then he asked for me back i asked why he said that "because everything else was dragging ...
A. 30 October 2007: We enter into relationships to see if we're compatible with one another. He's obviously got other things on his mind right now and just feels a relationship with you (or anyone) is way down his list of priorities right now. I would forget him and ... (read in full...)
Help before I go bonkers
Q. hi! i've been with this girl ,A, for the past 2 years, i even got into her parents good books and we were as close as family. and when things began to get sour i made the ultimate mistake and ended the relationship. a month later, i was out with...
A. 29 October 2007: Then you need to prove to her parents by your actions that you're serious about A this time. Take things slowly and set boundaries with A. Let her know that although you missed her very much there should be no more lies between you. Trust, honesty ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 29 October 2007: I'm so pleased for you. Things seem to be coming on heaps and bounds for you in this new relationship. And you're right, your ex was more familiar to you and 3 years is a long time but now you've moved on and seem to have found yourself a lovely ... (read in full...)
I'm not a virgin, but I'm scared of having sex with my new bf, what should I do?
Q. So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now. And we dated years ago in jr. high too. ne way. We havent ever had sex yet, i mean we have done other stuff like kiss and hes fingered me and i've given him a hand job. but now he wants to ha...
A. 29 October 2007: You are still very young at 16-17. When you had sex with this other person you were younger again and it sounds like it wasn't a very pleasant experience for you. I feel you're frightened to have sex with your boyfriend in case you feel the same ... (read in full...)
Love, what is it?
Q. What is the difference between saying "I love you" and "I am in love with you"? Is there a difference?...
A. 29 October 2007: There IS a difference. You can love a person for who they are, male or female. You admire and respect them and all that they stand for. You love your mother and your father, your brother or your sister but you're not "in love" with them. However ... (read in full...)
How to get her a way to wear lingerie
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years. I love her to bits but I've always had this fetish for her to wear lingerie like a a nice corset etc. Seems like no matter what approach I take, she just doesn't want to. I have no problems being n...
A. 29 October 2007: It sounds to me as if she's shy about her body and would feel embarrassed more than anything else to dress this way for you. She might also not have a clue about the kind of lingerie you'd like her to wear and doesn't want to buy anything in case ... (read in full...)
Help before I go bonkers
Q. hi! i've been with this girl ,A, for the past 2 years, i even got into her parents good books and we were as close as family. and when things began to get sour i made the ultimate mistake and ended the relationship. a month later, i was out with...
A. 29 October 2007: What happened in the relationship to make things go sour?
Eve... (read in full...)
She doesn't talk much, is she just shy?
Q. So I'm just starting a relationship with this girl. we like each other and like spending time with one another. the thing i like most is that i have this certain feeling of peace around her, so i know there is something there. the thing i worry ...
A. 29 October 2007: She's just shy but I'm sure she enjoys your company just the same. The more she gets to know you, the more she'll come out of her shell. Ask her more about her as women like to talk about themselves. The more talkative you are the more she'll ... (read in full...)
Should I take him as a partner?
Q. my freind whom iv been knowing from childhood is 2 years younger to me.even though he has a girl friend-now hes liking me so much. he does everything for me.but now our freindship has turned more.he meets up with me evry week an behaves close with ...
A. 29 October 2007: You need to take control here and ask him what he's playing at. Tell him you're not interested in him as long as he's in a relationship with someone else. Do you feel nervous in his company BECAUSE he's seeing someone else?
Eve... (read in full...)
My ex wants to come over for Halloween.
Q. I'm in desperate need of advice! My ex, we still talk a little. He's in a class with me, so it's kind of hard to avoid him. While we were dating I told him about how my family likes to do a lot of decorations for Halloween. Well, he wants to come by ...
A. 29 October 2007: Let him know there's nothing to stop him driving PAST if that's what he wants to do but that the party is strictly for FAMILY ONLY. It may be that this is his way of trying to get back with you so you need to nip it in the bud right away and let him ... (read in full...)
Do you think he still likes me?
Q. I just broke up with my ex and actually he was the one who initiated it as he's busy with his stuffs and in fact, his schedule was pack all the way to November, maybe December too and so he told me that he think it's better for us to remain as ...
A. 29 October 2007: Egghead is absolutely right. He may have split with you in haste and is now regretting that and is now asking how YOU feel about not having him in your life any more. He can't read your mind so tell him how you feel. Let him know you miss him and ... (read in full...)
I'm the one doing all the running - should I just call him when I feel like it?
Q. hey ok so my boyfriend and i have been dating for 8 months now, we had the exclusivity talk 3 months ago and everything is going pretty well between us. he treats me right and is sweet to me. the first 4 - 5 months of our dating period, he ...
A. 29 October 2007: From what you write it appears that you are far more hooked on him than he is on you. I'm sure other aunts will agree, if a guy likes you A LOT then he will want to call you and make arrangements to see you. This sounds like a very casual ... (read in full...)
She has Anaemia - will it affect her ability to have children in the future?
Q. Hi guys,i'm forever grateful to the advise you give.However,i need some education on a new development in our relationship.My girlfriend was recently found with Aneamia?I wanted to know if this can affect her capability to have children,in future.It ...
A. 29 October 2007: Anaemia is when there is a lack of red blood cells in the body which can cause unusual tiredness. It can be due to bad diet with little iron and can be remedied by upping their iron intake, taking in more vitamin B12 and folic acid. Anaemia is ... (read in full...)
Is he kidding or is he serious?
Q. Hi There's this guy at work, (just a friend) who say he would like to ask me out, but that i'm too good looking and would make him work like a mule to keep me. So it wouldn't be worth it, because I would eventually end up with some handsome gu...
A. 29 October 2007: If you're as good looking as he says you are then your looks might intimidate him and he thinks he's not in your league. I would tell him that looks are only skin deep, it's what the person is like on the inside that matters. He doesn't seem to ... (read in full...)
Should I 'Quit it'?
Q. I am currently 18, and I'm dating this 40 year old who used to be my teacher in high school. My grandma and aunt heard about us, and told me to "quit it" because it just isn't acceptable. We've been dating for a total of 6 months now, and I must ...
A. 29 October 2007: That depends on you. You're an adult now and can make your own decisions. YOU know how you both are with each other. Does he take you out and treat you well or do you just meet to have sex? Do you feel he respects you? Listen to your inner ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a liar. What do I do?
Q. my boyfriend of six months received a text message from his ex and deleted it so i couldnt see and then said it was from his mum what do i do?...
A. 16 October 2007: He's obviously said this because he knows you'd get upset, mad, jealous, give him a hard time etc. How long have these texts been going on for? It could be nothing, then again it could be more. You need to sit down with him and let him know that ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out? My head is in a mess!
Q. Got a bit of a dilema Had the same girlfriend for 7 years. But in the summer see went around the world for a year. At first I was fine with it and was happy that she was doing something she wanted to do. But last week I meet a lass, and I h...
A. 9 October 2007: A year is a long time to be away from someone. Seems to me she's pretty much your first love. If I were you then yes, I would ask her out and see how it goes. Keep things on a friendly basis until you are more sure of your feelings for her and if ... (read in full...)
Shall I ask her out but risk our friendship? What would you do?
Q. i need help deciding. Would you recommend me to ask out a friend i like but risk our relationship or live with it and go crazy everytime she talks to me and makes my day amazin whenever with me. So shall i tell her my feelings or not? Thanks...
A. 7 October 2007: If you both get on well and you feel she really likes you too then I say go for it. Who knows, she might feel exactly the same way but is too shy to ask you. There's no reason why you can't casually ask her if she wants to hang out, go with you ... (read in full...)
Is okay to go to 2nd or 3rd base with a person you are not dating?
Q. hiya I was just wondering what peoples opinion was on the subject of going to second or third base ( ie oral sex and handjobs etc) whilst not being in a relationship with the person? Is this considered slutty behaviour? ...
A. 20 September 2007: If you do this then you'll find you'll be very popular with the guys. Word in the male community will spread like wildfire and you'll lose total respect for yourself. I would say YES, this would be viewed very much as slutty behaviour. Oral sex ... (read in full...)
I've been with him for 7 years, and I think we are losing each other
Q. me and my boyfriend we've been together since 7 years but we have some fights in the middle but lately we had alot of fights and im afraid that i feel we are loosing eachother i love him and he loves me but i feel that he dosent care anymore i feel ...
A. 20 September 2007: If I were you I would cool things a little with him and give him no pressure whatsoever. It may be he's worried about his father. Ask him if there's anything you can do to help him or even suggest you both take his father out for a meal somewhere. ... (read in full...)
Is there any way that I can help my friend, who is dating someone much older?
Q. Am worried bout my friend shes 16 and has been spending alot of time with an older man hes 48 - thts older thn my dad!! few months ago her parents found out - she was still 15 then anyways they contacted the police n he was gunna b done for b...
A. 20 September 2007: It seems to me you don't know all the facts here. The best thing you can say to her is to look after herself and be careful. Let her know you're there for her if she ever needs to talk and leave it at that. She's continuing to see him desite what ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 18 September 2007: I'm so pleased for you. It's a true saying, when one door closes another one opens. Enjoy being in each others company and getting to know one another and who knows what might happen. Again, well done! Keep us posted.
Eve... (read in full...)
My best friend died, I will do a speech tomorrow at the funeral, please advise me.
Q. okay this isnt a love problem but the thing is my best friend luke died on the 4th of september and his funeral is tomorrow, ive been asked to do a speech and i need help what do i write about and if there is some poems what people know could you ...
A. 13 September 2007: I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. Here is a quote you might want to use...
"A friend is a hand that is always holding yours, no matter how close or far apart you may be. A friend is someone who is always there and will always, always c... (read in full...)
Most of my hubby's friends have stopped talking to him, I think it's because of his need to correct people all the time, which is now very frequent and upsetting.
Q. I'm having a problem with my husband. He always feels the need to correct EVERYONE about almost EVERYTHING they say. For example, I'll say that the sky is blue and he'll "correct" me by saying that it's cyan. Or if a friend says that they're col...
A. 13 September 2007: Every time he does it, pick him up for it! Time and time again, if it annoys you when he corrects you then it will annoy him MORE when you point out what he's doing. It's all a power thing. Tell your friends and family to point it out too when he ... (read in full...)
Having a torrid affair with a woman who has a bf! And.I am jealous of her bf!?
Q. Hi all. Advice needed. In love /lust with a woman who has a boyfriend. Yes it has turned into a torrid affair. Thing is we became close and realized how similar we are. But with her cheating, me being single she gets incredibly jealous but still ...
A. 13 September 2007: She's having her cake and eating it here and you're her "bit on the side" just now, horrible to hear I know but true nevertheless. If you want to win this lady over you need to be firm and stand by what you say! Put your cards on the table with ... (read in full...)
Here is my list of the "perfect" boyfriend! What do you think?
Q. Here is my list of the perfect boyfriend. Are there any men like this? 1. Shares all email and IM passwords 2. Has none, or only one, female friend 3. Tell's me when his only female friend calls 4. Tell's me when he goes basically anywher...
A. 7 September 2007: I think you'd be better off with a robot!
Eve... (read in full...)
I know if I admit to having an affair he will go beserk as he gets very upset if I only just mention an ex's name in our conversation.
Q. I have been with my bf for 9 months. He's a lot younger than me (he's 22 and I'm 32), and he says this is the best relationship he's had, he loves me very much and almost puts me on a pedestal. I love him very much and feel the same, he's kin...
A. 6 September 2007: To be honest with you if it were me, in this instance I wouldn't! Breaking news of you being with other guys will only devastate him as you said he is very sensitive AND very loyal! What you CAN do however is get the STD seen to immediately and ... (read in full...)
Last week he confronted me on some things that I've lied about during the course of our relationship.
Q. Hi all, please help. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. We own a home together, have a 1 month old son, and I have a 4 year old daughter who he treats as his own. Last week he confronted me on some things that I've lied about during the ...
A. 6 September 2007: He needs to learn to trust you again and trust needs to be earned. Let him know how much you love him and tell him you will NEVER ever lie to him again. Do something nice for him, paint his name on a banner "__________ (name) I love you signed ... (read in full...)
One of my friends is at an all time low... she hates herself. How can I give her her self-esteem back?
Q. One of my friends is at an all time low... she hates herself. How can I give her her self-esteem back?...
A. 6 September 2007: You need to give her plenty of compliments, tell her how good she looks, how well she does things, how she's so clever and wise. Tell her you wished you were more like her. Give her the confidence she needs to boost her self esteem up again and in ... (read in full...)
I hate rejection but I so want to tell him how I feel about him...
Q. Well I've known this boy for two years and at first he liked me but I didn't feel the same way but after two years we've been so close, he's been a great friend to me but I have started to have feelings for him. I want to tell him how I feel but I ...
A. 6 September 2007: Is he actually going out with this other girl or does he just fancy her? If he is going out with her then you need to hold your feelings back and NOT tell him as this isn't fair on her. Why don't you ask him to write YOU a poem. Tell him to put ... (read in full...)
What can I do to see him as just a buddy and not get attached?
Q. I'm falling for my sex buddy who has a girlfriend and I don't want to end it because I enjoy the sex so much and the idea of telling him is awful because I come across so strong minded and kinky, what can I do to see him as just a buddy and not get ...
A. 6 September 2007: Once you start to have sex with someone there's always the fear of an emotional attachement, it's inevitable, more so for women. My advice to you is DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM, PERIOD!
Eve... (read in full...)
Should I just take a break with him and focus on my life?
Q. Should I break up with him? I really love him and he loves me we have been going out for 8 months now. I'm just not into anything sexual or anything like that, I like him more as a companion right now. It is also probably becuase I am a big ...
A. 6 September 2007: You're still young and are enjoying life which is what you should be doing just now. You enjoy his company more as a friend than a boyfriend. If he has a problem with this and wants to be with you more or wants to move the relationship to the next ... (read in full...)
Am I supposed to wait while he gets over his committment issues? And if he does decide he wants to commit, how will I forgive him for lying? How can he earn my trust back?
Q. My boyfriend has been lying to me about where he has been going out, does that mean he's cheating too? How do I get passed the lies and trust him again? My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. I'm 31, he's 28. I recently found o...
A. 6 September 2007: Your boyfriend is going out and is enjoying himself. He's been used to the "single" life with his friends and is enjoying it. It may well be that he's seeing someone else or has his eye on someone else but what he's telling you is he doesn't want ... (read in full...)
Is this wrong that I had a meaningless fling with someone and now I've fell for his brother?
Q. I had a brief relationship a few months ago with a guy. We used to go out socialising together and sometimes his twin brother would be there. He got a job abroad and we would see (and sleep with) each other now then when he was home. It was not ...
A. 6 September 2007: As long as the first brother felt the same way, ie the relationship was casual then it's up to you who you want to pursue a relationship with. It might be that the first brother IS very fond of you and took the "casual" relationship for more than ... (read in full...)
She's thinking of dumping her boyfriend, am I in with a chance?
Q. Hi, I'm having a slight dilemma here, there's this girl I like, I'm pretty sure she likes me as well cause she flirts with me a lot but she's got a boyfriend though and they've been going out for a year, she's spoken to people about dumping him ...
A. 6 September 2007: Keep your ears open until you know her and her boyfriend have split up, get to know her a bit better then ask her out, simple!
Eve... (read in full...)
I crave attention from him, our sex life hasn't always been great and I've had to come on to him if I want to make love, this is now adding to my fear of him being gay even though he swears he is straight.
Q. I'm so confused and I'm at the end of my tether, my partner of 4 years is a cross dresser, he lied about it for a good year then told me, I told him to prove it as I thought it was his way of trying to finish the relationship, so I dug out a pair of ...
A. 6 September 2007: Try to understand how he feels. Talk to him in depth about it, ask how long he's felt this way and you'll find he'll open up more to you. It might be that you feel you can't handle this but if you want, you can compromise and tell him that HE can ... (read in full...)
How can I alter this shirt to fit me better?
Q. My mom brought me a shirt for school and it is a bit baggie on me (I cannot return because I have already worn it) can someone give me any ideas on making tighter please?!!!!!...
A. 6 September 2007: Take the shirt, button it up and turn it inside out. Lie it flat on a table then get some dressmaking pins and pin it about half an inch (or how much you think) at either side. Tack down it in big stitches with a thread different to the colour of ... (read in full...)
My ex and I have unresolved issues. Is there anyway I can make things right?
Q. hi, i'm a 20 yr old female who has just come out of a relationship, which lasted about a year and a half. i had lived with my x partner for about a year and a few months ago fell pregnant, my partner wanted me to keep the baby but i didn't as i felt ...
A. 6 September 2007: It's definitely you having the abortion that's causing the problems here. It has hit him a lot harder than it has you and he'll have lots of different emotions going on inside him right now. Did you both talk it over thoroughly? Did you go into ... (read in full...)
Where can I find a Counselor?
Q. Okay I have come to realise that I have some SERIOUS emotional issues and I think I need counseling. Actually I know I do, I won't lie... I'm borderline crazy. Well I definitely have a lot of emotional and psychological problems anyway. I ...
A. 6 September 2007: If you're looking for help then I can help you but it will take time. As a Relationships Expert and Life Coach with over 20 years experience I am willing to work with you to help get your life back on track. Contact me at ... (read in full...)
What do you do when the person that you love just isn't capable of giving you love back?
Q. What do you do when the person that you love just isn't capable of giving you love back. She tells me she loves me, but is seemingly incapable of the thoughtful intimacy that lets someone know you love them. She has her issues as I have mine. But ...
A. 6 September 2007: It sounds to me as if your girlfriend is still having problems about her past and has never actually dealt with it. Has she ever been to counseling about it? I suggest you as her to go (if she hasn't) and you could even offer to go with her. She ... (read in full...)
My older girlfriends daughter is worried I'm only using her mum for sex, even though we haven't even had sex yet!
Q. I am a 34 year old male and am dating a 41 year old woman for two weeks now everything is going great between us. we have not had sex yet as i am prepared to wait till she is ready, but the problem is she has a 21 year old daughter who is worried ...
A. 4 September 2007: Take her daughter aside when she's on her own and have a quiet word with her. - "I just wanted to have a quick word and let you know that I like your mother very much. It is still very early in the relationship but I would never do anything to ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 16 August 2007: I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it to but at least she was honest with you and you can put closure on it now and move on. Things WILL get better, there are plenty more fish in the sea as the saying goes and with every day that ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 10 August 2007: You see, she's beginning to notice a difference in you. Continue with your Counselling, you'll come on heaps and bounds and most importantly continue to have a positive attitude towards life. Remember, YOU are in charge of your own destiny so get ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 6 August 2007: You will have times like that but hey, you'll kiss a lot of frogs before you find your princess. It may be your ex it may not be and if you're to be together then you will be. Just take one day at a time, think positive, get on with life and if ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 24 July 2007: Hey I'm so pleased for you! I would say you have a definite admirer there. She seems just as keen on you as you do on her so well done there! See? Your positive thinking has payed off for you. The world doesn't end when your ex wants to call it ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 17 July 2007: You're missing her and thinking negatively now. Just get on with things and keep a little bit of her in your heart then when December comes meet up again like you both agreed. A lot can happen between now and then but it will certainly test you ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 15 July 2007: She will be wanting the break for all of the things that you mention, she'll be wanting to test her feelings for you. I do believe in fate and think that if something's meant to be then it will be, it will find YOU so if you ARE both meant to be ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 12 July 2007: You sound far more positive and relaxed about things now. I smiled when I read your comments as you seem far more focussed on your way ahead now, I'm so please for you. Like you said, you can both live your lives with freedom of choice.
Keep ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 9 July 2007: It's not fair of her to keep on playing with your emotions, mentioning things in the past (the towel incident for example). She is more or less putting the guilt on YOU here saying she felt pressurised but that to me is an excuse. You get on with ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 9 July 2007: I am so sorry that the decision she made wasn't the one you hoped for. Things happen in our lives for a reason and maybe you two just weren't mean to be although you won't see it this way at the moment. Unfortunately we can't make someone love us ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 6 July 2007: Okay, I read over all of the posts again just to clarify things in my mind. This woman is crazy on you BUT she doesn't want to give you her all and you leave her again. In your very first post in this thread you say this - "Leaving the home has ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 4 July 2007: Here are some sites you can look at, one is to help you "Find Yourself" and the others are to help build up your confidence and self esteem.
http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Yourself
http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence
http://pi... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 27 June 2007: Just keep busy and keep thinking POSITIVE and the time will fly in. Under no circumstances must you get in touch with her though. If you do then anything positive that's been achieved will be undone. Let her MISS you! ;o)
Eve... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 25 June 2007: Okay, I misread your meaning of the "old days", it was a positive rather than a negative. I think you have both done exactly the right thing. NO CONTACT for 4 weeks. That will help both of you see whether or not you are right for one another. It ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 25 June 2007: Nice to hear from you again! I was reading your posts again. You seem to miss her when she's not there and enjoy keeping in touch with her, wining and dining her and meeting up but when it comes to the actual crunch of being together for too long ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 20 April 2007: Yes, she is missing you, hence the reason she wants to involve you more. Just remember and don't always be too willing, have your own opinions and your own mind and don't be so accommodating all the time and I reckon you've cracked it!
I wish you... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 10 April 2007: You have pulled back a bit and now she's chasing, simple as that! Because you've not seen her as often then she's missed you. Talking on the phone for long periods of time, although nice, can mean that you do say things you regret so you should ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 31 March 2007: I'm glad things are going well for you but I would pull back even further. You said you have seen her 6 days out of 7. Reduce that 4 days out of 7. Let her know you have things to do but would love to see her (Wednesday). MAKE HER WANT YOU!!! ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 18 March 2007: She NOTICED you didn't reply right away! That's good! If she calls you tomorrow asking to arrange something, suggest you call her back in an hour to be sure, say you have something else you needed to attend to and don't know if you can leave it or ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 17 March 2007: Nooooo, you came across loud and clear the first time. You went for coffee, went back to her house to collect something then spoiled it lol by asking her did she want company. You poor love, I know how you are feeling, clutching at anything to ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 17 March 2007: It IS the best way, you'll see I'm right. Woman like a bit of a challenge and don't like a guy to always just "be there" when they snap their fingers, they lose their appeal. Keep in touch :o)
Eve... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 16 March 2007: She cried because she knows how much you feel for her and you calling to ask if she wanted some company only confirmed that. If I were you I wouldn't call her or text her. Let HER do the running. She really IS trying to get her head around all of ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 15 March 2007: That is why you both need to move back down a couple of gears, take things very slowly, don't see one another as often and try not to sleep together as this only messes with your head and emotions. Put some space between you to see if you actually ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 14 March 2007: I'm glad things are working out for you and your night was a success. Yes, keep us posted and let us know how things go! Be there for her without being too "in her face" all the time and you'll be fine. I wish you both all the very best.
Eve... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 12 March 2007: Here is what to do if you want to win her back. She's getting the best of both worlds just now. She has her freedom to be with her friends and she has you! You said you still see her a couple of times a week and still have a kiss and cuddle ... (read in full...)
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