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Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help. I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and have written for advice columns in the past.
I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and have a special aptitude with people. I have been active on this site for a number of years. I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, very spiritual, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.
If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.
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We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 29 October 2007: I'm so pleased for you. Things seem to be coming on heaps and bounds for you in this new relationship. And you're right, your ex was more familiar to you and 3 years is a long time but now you've moved on and seem to have found yourself a lovely ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 18 September 2007: I'm so pleased for you. It's a true saying, when one door closes another one opens. Enjoy being in each others company and getting to know one another and who knows what might happen. Again, well done! Keep us posted.
Eve... (read in full...)
My older girlfriends daughter is worried I'm only using her mum for sex, even though we haven't even had sex yet!
Q. I am a 34 year old male and am dating a 41 year old woman for two weeks now everything is going great between us. we have not had sex yet as i am prepared to wait till she is ready, but the problem is she has a 21 year old daughter who is worried ...
A. 4 September 2007: Take her daughter aside when she's on her own and have a quiet word with her. - "I just wanted to have a quick word and let you know that I like your mother very much. It is still very early in the relationship but I would never do anything to ... (read in full...)
Could it be that she feels awkward that we innocently met up as it's now dawned on her? (she has a boyfriend)
Q. Wwhere I used to work I used to exchange occasional emails with a colleague, she was quite quiet and shy in the office but always warm and friendly towards me. She did have a boyfriend with whom she seemed totally loved up and the only time I ...
A. 4 September 2007: You wait... that's what you do. It might be she's feeling a bit guilty for meeting you when she has a boyfriend, especially if her feelings are growing for you. It could also be that her boyfriend found the card you gave her and is giving her a ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and want to have sex! I'm scared but I want to. Should I???
Q. i am 12 i want to have sex with my boyfriend. what should i do? i am so scarde but i want to, so should i have sex with him ...
A. 4 September 2007: The fact you are so scared is proof that you are NOT ready for sex, besides your body is still that of a child and NOT that of an adult. It is also illegal to have sex at your age, just another reason not to. WAIT until you are mature enough! ... (read in full...)
I met a guy on line. He called loads and we met up but now I haven't heard from him. Should I try and call him again?
Q. I met a guy online - -he kept emailing me, I replied then he asked me to call, I said I prefer to be called he called and texct me, we met then he test me and called me everyday. Then he just stopped I calle dhim and he is yet to respond....I really ...
A. 4 September 2007: It sounds to me as if he's changed his mind about you. Even if he's lost your phone number he still has your email address and if he's still interested he'll get in touch but I certainly wouldn't call or text him back, it will only make you seem ... (read in full...)
I live with my fiance but I am having dreams about her 25 yr old married daughter. Do I tell her?
Q. Hi, I dont know where to start with this so I guess it will be at the beginning...I live with my fiancee and our 3 year old son and I love them both dearly. My fiancee has two elder daughters one is 23 and the other is 25, just recently I have been ...
A. 4 September 2007: Get your feelings under control, only YOU can do that. Why don't you involve your partner in your fantasies? (NOT the one about the daughter of course). Ask her what her fantasies are too. Talk about this in the bedroom, it can be very erotic and ... (read in full...)
I live with my fiance but I am having dreams about her 25 yr old married daughter. Do I tell her?
Q. Hi, I dont know where to start with this so I guess it will be at the beginning...I live with my fiancee and our 3 year old son and I love them both dearly. My fiancee has two elder daughters one is 23 and the other is 25, just recently I have been ...
A. 4 September 2007: I agree totally with Eddie here. Enjoy the fantasy, you're a hot blooded man but keep it as fantasy. Telling your fiancee will not only hurt her but make her feel very insecure, not to mention protective towards her daughter. Concentrate more on ... (read in full...)
My girl wants to lie in a bed of snakes when having sex! What kind of person am I dealing with?
Q. my girlfriend stated that she wants to lie in a bed of snakes when having sex. she owned boa constrictors in the past when she used to strip for a living. what kind of person am i dealing with? ...
A. 3 September 2007: It sounds to me as if your girlfriend is a bit of an exhibitionist and likes to do things to shock. She's only looking for attention and will (in my opinion) go through a lot more men after you before she's ready to settle down. If you have a taste ... (read in full...)
My mates have all had experience with boys. Why does noone want me?
Q. Im 15 and have had ZERO experience with a boy. All my friends have snogged boys, gave and been given oral gave handjobs, been fingered. And i have not done any of that. The most i have done is hugged a boy! I feel so repulsive. Im 5"1, 9st 5 and the ...
A. 3 September 2007: You have received some good advice from Yos and Jess below. Everyone is different. You yourself are unique! You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, you're sensible so don't let the fact you haven't been with anyone get you down. Tell ... (read in full...)
Why is my guy putting his friend before me and our baby?
Q. I need some help, my fiance and i have been together for just over 2 years now and we have a baby but he is not the bioloical father and has adopted my child, the problems started about 6 months ago he and his friend from work are just complete ...
A. 3 September 2007: You need to sit down and have a serious talk with him and let him know how you're feeling. Let him know you feel unloved and neglected and if things don't change they he's gone. I get the feeling you are terrified of going it alone, you want ... (read in full...)
My mum has MS and my dad is having an affair with my mums best mate! Do I tell???
Q. My mum has MS (Multiple Sclerosis) and uses a walking stick most of the time. But even when she does not use a walking stick, she totters around and can barely walk. She cries most of the time and is very depressed. Dad has told her he is leaving ...
A. 3 September 2007: I feel your mum has enough problems right now. Is she close to this best friend? Does she see her and confide in her? You need to look at the facts here, your dad is leaving the marriage, that cannot be changed by anyone except him. If he's ... (read in full...)
I'm having fantasies about rape advice please!
Q. Hey guys. Well, I'm not sure if it's normal or not, but I've been have these fantasies that I was being raped, and I enjoyed it. I'm only 14 years of age, and I know I'm going through puberty and all. But is it normal to feel like wanting to get ...
A. 3 September 2007: You are becoming more aware of your sexuality and most probably have a strong character. You want someone who is strong willed and more of a challenge to you hence these rape fantasies. The difference is though, they rape you the way YOU want them ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my sister in law to have sex with me?
Q. Q. I am married for the last thirteen years but I am in love with my younger sister-in-law for the last eleven years. I always fantisize about her during sex with my wife. I have an obssessive compulsive disorder about her. I told her that I wanted ...
A. 1 September 2007: You say if you could help it you would. Of course you can help it, you just CHOOSE not to.
Remember always: You have a mind, your feelings come from your mind therefore you can control your feelings. In other words, YOU are in charge and nobody e... (read in full...)
I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when she is on her period and I insist that she sits on my face...
Q. hello my name is vince and I am curious to know whether anybody else out there believes in vampires, I believe I am of this origin. I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when ...
A. 31 August 2007: I'm sorry but this has GOT to be a wind up. You say your name is Vince. Your second name doesn't happen to be Price by any chance??????
Eve... (read in full...)
Is my wife being honest about going through with a threesome?
Q. Is my wife being honest about going through with a threesome? I have had the fantasy of seeing my wife with another man for 2-years now. I have asked her about it and she always said no. I make little comments and suggestions all the time. Finall...
A. 30 August 2007: I can understand where you're coming from. I have a very good friend (male) who felt exactly the same way you did. He loved his woman passionately and was very much a man's man and is always assertive and strong but would do anything for his ... (read in full...)
Have any scorpio men out there that have cheated and been dumped or been in relationships where you've been down right wrong and been dumped, and then realized that you made a mistake and will change? or have you changed?
Q. I am a very paranoid and superstitious person! i think that because of my past it has made me less trusting in alot of people i always read horoscopes they have always given me a certain path or idea of what tomorow is goin to give. as fa...
A. 30 August 2007: A Scorpio man is not easy. That is because whathe really wants most, he most deeply fears, therefore he thinks he wants something else. That something is a close stable relationship that is secure and will allow him a certainmeasure of control. ... (read in full...)
I accidentally had sex with a 14 year old girl
Q. ok I have a (hypothetical) question. I am a male in my mid 30's. My wife my 2 daughters (3 and 7) and my niece (15) and her friend (14) went on a road trip to Florida. We stopped halfway there and got a hotel room, my wife and I in one room the...
A. 24 August 2007: You didn't know it WASN'T your wife? I don't buy that for one second!
1. She'd smell different
2. Her technique would be different
3. She would be tighter/slacker down below
4. She'd kiss differently
5. She'd be vocally different
Co... (read in full...)
A relationship break???
Q. A relationship break??? I have been dating this wonderful woman for 9 months now. We hit it off perfect and everything was going great. I can remember about 3 months into the relationship she could not wait for us to move in together, have kids ...
A. 23 August 2007: She just came back from her camping trip yesterday though didn't she? Continue to be patient and WAIT for her to contact you. I know it's hard but I'm sure she'll have did a lot of soul searching this past few days. She'll contact you before ... (read in full...)
We have a great sex life but that's about it! Is he just using me?
Q. I am dating a 28 y/o guy and i m 33. He never hardly talks to me and i found all these text messages to other girls who he claims are just friends. But he has lied to me when he's made plans with one of them before. I broke up with him but he begged ...
A. 22 August 2007: Yep, he's using you I'm afraid. He has these other girls on his phone as he's keeping his options open. You are a play thing to him and being older, a security blanket for him and nothing more. Get rid before he really hurts you!
Eve... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to a 13 yr old girl! How do I stop this urge?
Q. Ok this is going to sound wierd and make me sound creepy and like a pedophile. I'M NOT!! I am attracted to a 13 year old girl. I am 17. How do I stop my urges toward a girl this age? I mean I have always dated younger girls but never one 4 years ...
A. 22 August 2007: It may be that she looks more mature or acts more mature for her age but at the end of the day BOTH of you are still too young to have a sexual relationship. (Not saying that's what you had in mind of course) There's nothing wrong with just being ... (read in full...)
He wants to stop the sex, why?
Q. I have a very good male friend who is going through a divorce. We talk on the phone all the time, and one evening he asked me over to his "new place". I went and we wound up having sex. A couple nights later we had sex again. It was fantastic!! He ...
A. 21 August 2007: He likes you but he has enough going on in his head at the moment without another sexual relationship confusing him more. Sandman gave you good advice too, if his wife found out he was seeing you then he could stand to lose everything so just be ... (read in full...)
He wont introduce me to his family!
Q. Dear All, Ihave been with my current boyfriend for almost 2yrs. I am 21 and he is almost 25. I have recently got back from a year abroad during which he waited for me. My problem is his family and how during this 2yr period I have never met ...
A. 21 August 2007: Why are you jealous??? Jealousy is a very negative emotion and you derive no benefit from it whatsoever! Get rid of the jealousy, he's with YOU! He loves YOU! His family are important to him and he's probably proud of his brother and sister and ... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex (who has a girlfriend and a baby)... now I've found out I have genital warts - how can I tell him??
Q. i recently slept with my ex who has a girlfriend and a baby and i just found out i have genital warts. how can i tell him without people gettin hurt...
A. 21 August 2007: Why on earth would you even consider sleeping with your ex when you KNOW he has a girlfriend and a baby??? What comes around goes around. I suggest you call him and tell him asap... and get yourself checked out at a clinic, they're easy enough to ... (read in full...)
His insecurities and controlling drove me away, but I really love him!
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for 8 months... we were always together. Not only was he my best friend but the love of my life. The more time we spent, I noticed that he was insecure... I could see he needed someone to tell him often that they ...
A. 21 August 2007: Communication is the key here. You both need to sit down and have a good heart to heart. Tell him exactly what you told us here. You love him so much and cannot imagine your life without him but he's got to learn to trust you! Reassure him that ... (read in full...)
How can I get aquainted with a girl at work
Q. I am a 40 year old male and work with a 30 year old Asian female. She began being friendly but I was not sure how to respond because other co-workers were getting nosey. How can I reacquaint my self with this female? Row...
A. 21 August 2007: The best way to reaquaint yourself is just to be friendly back to her. Forget what other co-workers think, it's none of their business. Just make sure that she isn't married (or you aren't for that matter) or you'll have the workers gossiping ... (read in full...)
My 16 year old daughter is dating a 48 year old man!
Q. This problem worries me A LOT and I really need your help, so please help! Apologies for the length... sorry! I'm a mother of two, been married to my husband for 20 years - my son's 19 and in university (living away from home), my daughter's 1...
A. 20 August 2007: I really feel your pain here. We all want what is best for our kids and while it is a big age gap it might work, it might not, we can't play God and decide what is best for her, she needs to decide that for herself and no amount of TELLING her is ... (read in full...)
A relationship break???
Q. A relationship break??? I have been dating this wonderful woman for 9 months now. We hit it off perfect and everything was going great. I can remember about 3 months into the relationship she could not wait for us to move in together, have kids ...
A. 19 August 2007: Yes, it does sound like she loves you. Don't text her (whether she gets a signal or not) during this 3 days, let her MISS YOU!!!! And let me know how things go okay?
Eve... (read in full...)
A relationship break???
Q. A relationship break??? I have been dating this wonderful woman for 9 months now. We hit it off perfect and everything was going great. I can remember about 3 months into the relationship she could not wait for us to move in together, have kids ...
A. 17 August 2007: Trust me, she's still too emotionally involved with you to NOT continue contact with you! Just be patient okay?
Eve... (read in full...)
A relationship break???
Q. A relationship break??? I have been dating this wonderful woman for 9 months now. We hit it off perfect and everything was going great. I can remember about 3 months into the relationship she could not wait for us to move in together, have kids ...
A. 17 August 2007: I agree with the other aunts here. If you know for certain there isn't anyone else involved then you just need to go at her pace and be patient. Let HER make the moves for now and see what happens. If she really DOES love you then she'll miss you ... (read in full...)
Do I try to ignore her hoping she'll come when she sees sense and has to make decisions?
Q. Please help. I'm a little confused. Have just shut off contact with a girl who I had an affir with (I'm single she's in an unhappy relationship, no kids don't live together etc but feels trapped by everone elses expectations). Thing is I love her ...
A. 16 August 2007: She is having the best of both worlds here, having her cake and eating it! The reason she said she felt really down is because she DOES like you, you make her FEEL special, loved and womanly but things are going reasonably well with her partner and ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 16 August 2007: I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it to but at least she was honest with you and you can put closure on it now and move on. Things WILL get better, there are plenty more fish in the sea as the saying goes and with every day that ... (read in full...)
Engaged but having feeling for my ex bf! Is this because I am feeling unfulfilled with my fiancee?
Q. Okay, I cant turn to anyone, cause my problem is top secret. I am engaged and fairly happy. Wedding is soon, and my family is very very excited. Been with my Fiance for over 4 years now. I recently met up with my ex after not seeing him for n...
A. 15 August 2007: Marriage is a commitment for life and if you're having any doubts at all (which you are) then you need to postpone the wedding to sort your head out. (When IS the wedding by the way?) Let me put it this way... how would YOU feel if the shoe were ... (read in full...)
What are the signs when a guy is using you? Am I just his "money comfort?"
Q. What are the signs when a guys is using you? He works full time but has called in sick I think too many times. I wish he was more responsible. I feel like I support him and me. Eventhough he gets paid twice as much as me. I am almost everyday buying ...
A. 14 August 2007: I have to agree with the other aunts here. This guy has become complacent. So what if he doesn't have the money, he'll get it off good old YOU! Put a stop to this NOW! Next time he doesn't have his credit card then let HIM deal with the ... (read in full...)
I always swore to myself that I'd never be a victim, and just writing this, I feel like one...
Q. I have a boyfriend whom I love very much.. He's a nice guy, usually. And he treats me well. He'd never hit me, and he doesn't hurt me on purpose.. He's a little older than me, and sometimes I don't understand things, or I don't know things, and I'm ...
A. 14 August 2007: If THAT is your gut feeling ("part of me has a fear that those harsh words could become harsh actions") then be very careful with this man. He's doing this to belittle you, it's a form of control. He's being condescending and patronizing to make ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to realise the consequences of his actions??
Q. My girlfriends son is 13yrs old and talks to his mother like she is dirt. He always wants and wants but never shows appreciation for what she provides for him. He throws temper tantrums and slams his door to his bedroom, or pouts and won't talk to ...
A. 14 August 2007: Can I ask how long you and his mum have been together and how long you've lived together? When did his mum and dad split up? What's her son's date of birth? How many live in this household? You have one son of your own right? How old is he? If ... (read in full...)
Engaged but having feeling for my ex bf! Is this because I am feeling unfulfilled with my fiancee?
Q. Okay, I cant turn to anyone, cause my problem is top secret. I am engaged and fairly happy. Wedding is soon, and my family is very very excited. Been with my Fiance for over 4 years now. I recently met up with my ex after not seeing him for n...
A. 14 August 2007: How many times have you seen your ex again? How old are you both? Have you slept with him? Is he with anyone right now? Has he told you he still wants to be with you? I take it your fiance knows nothing of this? Knowing this information will ... (read in full...)
My ex bf doesn't trust me..and I want to get back together with him! What can I do?
Q. Will my ex bf ever feel the same about me? We were together for nearly 2 years and i honestly beleive he's the person i want to be with forever. I know he loves me but he says that as i went with someone else during a brief split that i thought w...
A. 14 August 2007: Do your OWN thing and stop feeling so needy and dependant on him. Begging him to get back with you certainly won't win him over. Stand up for yourself and let him see exactly what he's lost here. Be confident and assertive and be proud of who ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had similar lack of feelings towards their husband/ bf and what did you do?
Q. i've been with my bf for 6 yrs and i am feeling fed up with our relationship and im not sure what to do. to start with he was the man of my dreams we had fun together i felt i could trust him completely and we could talk to each other about an...
A. 14 August 2007: You're right, your partner doesn't care for your feelings, in fact he's very selfish and has no respect for you or what happened to you in your past. This isn't just watching porn, this is an addiction he has and it won't be easy for him to stop ... (read in full...)
I'm just really confused because he hurt me and I don't really want anything to do with him but I just can't stop thinking about him.
Q. I used to go out with this guy, and he really loved me. But he dumped me by text and it wrecked me. I thought I was over him, but now I realised that I'm not and part of me is saying that I do love him but I really dont want to love him. Now I'm ...
A. 14 August 2007: He didn't love you that much I'm afraid when he couldn't even say to your face he wanted to finish it. You still have feelings for him and are angry because of what he did to you. Tell yourself you deserve MUCH better than him. He didn't even ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been text messaging and calling with at least four different girls!
Q. I looked through his phone and found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has been text messaging and calling with at least four different girls. He says they are just friends and that I don't have anything to worry about. What should I do??...
A. 14 August 2007: It depends what the text messages said, were they suggestive or flirty at all? There's a small chance they ARE only friends but I'd be more inclined to say he's just keeping his options opened I'm afraid.
Eve... (read in full...)
Whilst deep down I know she's right, it's really hard and part of me wanted to try a long distance relationship.
Q. I'm relocating at 400 miles for a job, and I have recently being saying goodbye to all my friends that are staying put. Since May I've had a crush on a friend who I suspected (occaisonally) may have returned the feeling, and after walking he...
A. 14 August 2007: She may have kissed you thinking what does she have to lose; big kiss or small kiss, you're leaving anyway although she did say you could ring her so that's encouraging. I WOULD ring her a few times and see how it goes. If you don't you'll always ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this jealousy problem?
Q. I'm 30 a year old male and in a relationship with a wonderful attractive 25 year old female who adores me and I adore her. I've always had jealousy issues with ex's liking other people/celebrities and I've never managed to get rid of it. My girlfr...
A. 14 August 2007: You definitely have low self esteem. Why is this? You have a lovely girlfriend who obviously loves you to bits! Deep down I think you fear of losing her to someone "better looking" but hey, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What or who you ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 10 August 2007: You see, she's beginning to notice a difference in you. Continue with your Counselling, you'll come on heaps and bounds and most importantly continue to have a positive attitude towards life. Remember, YOU are in charge of your own destiny so get ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 6 August 2007: You will have times like that but hey, you'll kiss a lot of frogs before you find your princess. It may be your ex it may not be and if you're to be together then you will be. Just take one day at a time, think positive, get on with life and if ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 24 July 2007: Hey I'm so pleased for you! I would say you have a definite admirer there. She seems just as keen on you as you do on her so well done there! See? Your positive thinking has payed off for you. The world doesn't end when your ex wants to call it ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 17 July 2007: You're missing her and thinking negatively now. Just get on with things and keep a little bit of her in your heart then when December comes meet up again like you both agreed. A lot can happen between now and then but it will certainly test you ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 15 July 2007: She will be wanting the break for all of the things that you mention, she'll be wanting to test her feelings for you. I do believe in fate and think that if something's meant to be then it will be, it will find YOU so if you ARE both meant to be ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 12 July 2007: You sound far more positive and relaxed about things now. I smiled when I read your comments as you seem far more focussed on your way ahead now, I'm so please for you. Like you said, you can both live your lives with freedom of choice.
Keep ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 9 July 2007: It's not fair of her to keep on playing with your emotions, mentioning things in the past (the towel incident for example). She is more or less putting the guilt on YOU here saying she felt pressurised but that to me is an excuse. You get on with ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 9 July 2007: I am so sorry that the decision she made wasn't the one you hoped for. Things happen in our lives for a reason and maybe you two just weren't mean to be although you won't see it this way at the moment. Unfortunately we can't make someone love us ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 6 July 2007: Okay, I read over all of the posts again just to clarify things in my mind. This woman is crazy on you BUT she doesn't want to give you her all and you leave her again. In your very first post in this thread you say this - "Leaving the home has ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 4 July 2007: Here are some sites you can look at, one is to help you "Find Yourself" and the others are to help build up your confidence and self esteem.
http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Yourself
http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence
http://pi... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 27 June 2007: Just keep busy and keep thinking POSITIVE and the time will fly in. Under no circumstances must you get in touch with her though. If you do then anything positive that's been achieved will be undone. Let her MISS you! ;o)
Eve... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 25 June 2007: Okay, I misread your meaning of the "old days", it was a positive rather than a negative. I think you have both done exactly the right thing. NO CONTACT for 4 weeks. That will help both of you see whether or not you are right for one another. It ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 25 June 2007: Nice to hear from you again! I was reading your posts again. You seem to miss her when she's not there and enjoy keeping in touch with her, wining and dining her and meeting up but when it comes to the actual crunch of being together for too long ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 20 April 2007: Yes, she is missing you, hence the reason she wants to involve you more. Just remember and don't always be too willing, have your own opinions and your own mind and don't be so accommodating all the time and I reckon you've cracked it!
I wish you... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 10 April 2007: You have pulled back a bit and now she's chasing, simple as that! Because you've not seen her as often then she's missed you. Talking on the phone for long periods of time, although nice, can mean that you do say things you regret so you should ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 31 March 2007: I'm glad things are going well for you but I would pull back even further. You said you have seen her 6 days out of 7. Reduce that 4 days out of 7. Let her know you have things to do but would love to see her (Wednesday). MAKE HER WANT YOU!!! ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 18 March 2007: She NOTICED you didn't reply right away! That's good! If she calls you tomorrow asking to arrange something, suggest you call her back in an hour to be sure, say you have something else you needed to attend to and don't know if you can leave it or ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 17 March 2007: Nooooo, you came across loud and clear the first time. You went for coffee, went back to her house to collect something then spoiled it lol by asking her did she want company. You poor love, I know how you are feeling, clutching at anything to ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 17 March 2007: It IS the best way, you'll see I'm right. Woman like a bit of a challenge and don't like a guy to always just "be there" when they snap their fingers, they lose their appeal. Keep in touch :o)
Eve... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 16 March 2007: She cried because she knows how much you feel for her and you calling to ask if she wanted some company only confirmed that. If I were you I wouldn't call her or text her. Let HER do the running. She really IS trying to get her head around all of ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 15 March 2007: That is why you both need to move back down a couple of gears, take things very slowly, don't see one another as often and try not to sleep together as this only messes with your head and emotions. Put some space between you to see if you actually ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 14 March 2007: I'm glad things are working out for you and your night was a success. Yes, keep us posted and let us know how things go! Be there for her without being too "in her face" all the time and you'll be fine. I wish you both all the very best.
Eve... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 12 March 2007: Here is what to do if you want to win her back. She's getting the best of both worlds just now. She has her freedom to be with her friends and she has you! You said you still see her a couple of times a week and still have a kiss and cuddle ... (read in full...)
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