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writes:I'm 17 years old. Me and my cousin have been dating for a while, it feels weird to be attracted to my cousin but i really do have lots of feelings for him. Anyway i'm about 5 months pregnant with his child. My parents already know about my pregnancy but i told them a whole different story on who was the father. Now they want to have a DNA test to find the father based on the story i told them. I need help on what to do.....and do i have the rights as a teen mom to reject the fact that my parents want to do a DNA test............?????? someone please help me out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): What state do you live in? Being with your cousin is NOT insect. In fact in recent years it has come out that having children with your cousin will not result in birth defects, for the most part, anyways. I believe it is a 3-4% change of birth defects if you have a child with a genetic stranger and a 4-6% rate of birth defects with a first cousin. That isn't that much of a larger number. In fact, the difference is the same as a woman over 40 having a child compared to a younger woman.
To answer your question, tell your parents that you don't want a DNA test. Honestly, I think the best thing to do is to have your cousin stand there with you while you tell your parents that it is his child. Sure they'll be upset. Then they'll get over it. In a few months time they'll have a lovely grandchild.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): The odds of genetic mutation with first cousin pairings is not significantly higher than the general population. Don't have an abortion over that concern. You should tell your parents who the father is.
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reader, Ileana  +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Hey,Well firstly a first cousin? I think that would result in your baby having some genetic disorder! Despite myself i would say for the babies sake have an abortion - im so sorry to say that because i have 5 weeks old twins myself. But what are you going to tell that baby when it grows up and asks who their daddy is? How can you teach it morals and right from wrong when they were concieved in something unlawful? Im sorry to be harsh but someone needed to put this in perspective for you,Your having your cousins baby, your mothers sisters son. Theres a high chance of genetic conditions and it illegal for a reason. So babies wont have to be born like that.SorryIileyanaxx
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reader, rcn +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Incest is unlawful, now the geneology chain changes from state to state. Some states it's unlawful for first cousins to engage in ANY sexual behavior with one another. You can deny the DNA test, but being you feel your old enough to have sex, you need to step up and take responsability for your actions. The paternity test is set up to establish paternity. You don't have to take one if your cousin says it's his.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 February 2008):
 This will all come out in time so (in my opinion) I think it's best that you come clean with your parents and tell them the truth. Have your cousin with you when you do for moral support. They may be angry at first but they'll come round (the same way they did when you told them you were pregnant.) What's the point in your parents spending hard earned money on a DNA test when you already know for sure who the father is anyway.
Now that you're going to be a mother you'll find you'll mature a lot quicker so start now by being mature and telling your parents the truth.
I have given you a couple of links which I think you'll find helpful.
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/If_cousins_were_allowed_to_marry_and_they_had_children_how_likely_would_it_be_for_the_children_to_have_genetic_problems
http://www.washington.edu/newsroom/news/2002archive/04-02archive/k040302a.html
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): Try doing a little research.If you are 16 or over, I'm pretty sure you don't need their permission for a DNA test, nor can they force you. But the truth will out some day and the sooner it's done, the better for all concerned.What the hell are you thinking getting it on with your cousin? You don't live in the U.K. so don't do it.Flynn 24
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (5 February 2008):
 Well, I'm pretty sure incest is illegal in the U.S. now-a-days ?
As a teenager, I think it varies from state to state, but I believe you cannot deny the DNA test if your parents request it.
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