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Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help. I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and have written for advice columns in the past.
I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and have a special aptitude with people. I have been active on this site for a number of years. I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, very spiritual, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.
If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.
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Why do you think marriages break up more now than in the past?
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16 October 2008: Do you remember years ago when families used to sit in at nights? They had no TV, no computer games, no telephones, no DVD's, no video recorders etc etc. They had one another! They had TIME to get to know one another, to BE with one another to ...
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We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 29 October 2007: I'm so pleased for you. Things seem to be coming on heaps and bounds for you in this new relationship. And you're right, your ex was more familiar to you and 3 years is a long time but now you've moved on and seem to have found yourself a lovely ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 18 September 2007: I'm so pleased for you. It's a true saying, when one door closes another one opens. Enjoy being in each others company and getting to know one another and who knows what might happen. Again, well done! Keep us posted.
Eve... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 16 August 2007: I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it to but at least she was honest with you and you can put closure on it now and move on. Things WILL get better, there are plenty more fish in the sea as the saying goes and with every day that ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this jealousy problem?
Q. I'm 30 a year old male and in a relationship with a wonderful attractive 25 year old female who adores me and I adore her. I've always had jealousy issues with ex's liking other people/celebrities and I've never managed to get rid of it. My girlfr...
A. 14 August 2007: You definitely have low self esteem. Why is this? You have a lovely girlfriend who obviously loves you to bits! Deep down I think you fear of losing her to someone "better looking" but hey, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What or who you ... (read in full...)
I am so worn down by my husband (married 14 years) and my life.
Q. I desperately need advice. I am so worn down by my husband (married 14 years) and my life. I feel like he plays mind games with me but I constantly doubt myself because of what he says. He seems to get angry with me when I don't react or do what ...
A. 14 August 2007: Believe it or not but your husband is insecure and this is how he deals with it. He tries to "control" you as this gives him power! You need to stand up for yourself and let him see he can't keep telling you what to do all the time. He's trying ... (read in full...)
Am I losing feelings for him?
Q. Hey all, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 months now, it's both our longest relationship to date. I am particularly proud of that achievement but things have ground to a halt. I hardly ever see him now, what was once 2 or 3 times a wee...
A. 14 August 2007: I'm glad things went well. Keep us posted!
Eve... (read in full...)
Am I losing feelings for him?
Q. Hey all, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 months now, it's both our longest relationship to date. I am particularly proud of that achievement but things have ground to a halt. I hardly ever see him now, what was once 2 or 3 times a wee...
A. 14 August 2007: He knows he's been complacent so he's wanted to reassure you. Although he can be fun and make you laugh at times, he can also be very sensitive and deep and holds a lot of his feelings inside, fearing to say how he really feels in case of rejection. ... (read in full...)
How do i know what love is?
Q. im 14 years old and ive been going out with my 15 year old boyfriend for 6 months now i think i love him but how do i know what love is and am i too young for love x?x ...
A. 14 August 2007: If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't make me orgasm! It's really annoying, no matter how turned on I am when we're together, nothing seems to work!
Q. My boyfriend can't make me orgasm! It's really annoying, no matter how turned on I am when we're together, nothing seems to work! When I'm doing it to myself I can do it easily, like, within a matter of less than 15 minutes. I take careful note of ...
A. 12 August 2007: There's nothing wrong with you, you just need to talk to your boyfriend and TELL him exactly where to touch you. He doesn't know where your sensitive spots are and how to touch/stroke them so you need to tell him. Tell him when you're in bed one ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my instincts and wait or should I just move on?
Q. I met this guy about 2 days ago on the net and he's like my dream guy and he's made me do something I never thought I'd do.... I said I'd wait 4 him. He is funny, sweet, charming, sensitive and amazingly hot but he said because I live on the Isle of ...
A. 12 August 2007: This guy is playing you hun. He's just keeping your interest and charming you with words. He has no intentions of meeting you. If he was in any way interested then he would find a way to come and see you. Don't fall for his charm, he probably ... (read in full...)
My son is 24 and his dad has never taken anything to do with him, now I here he's asking after us, what should I do?
Q. hi, Just want advice on what to do. I have 2 sons, 24 and 15, the eldest one's dad has never acknowledged him since he was born. Now he's asking my friend to tell us he's sorry and asking after us. I don't want anything to do with him whatsoever. ...
A. 12 August 2007: There comes a time in a person's life when the feel full of guilt and remorse for not being able to be part of their child's life (for whatever reason). This time has come for your ex. Does your son know who his father is? You owe it to your son ... (read in full...)
My mum is about to find out I smoke and will go mental. What can I do?
Q. I really dont know what to do!!! It's not a relationship question but I'm proper panicking. I started smoking a few week ago with my friends when out and about and hanging out and I think I have become addicted. I am trying to stop and for it not t...
A. 12 August 2007: YOU STOP... kick the habit, that way when your mom confronts you, you can honestly say you did try it but it tasted disgusting so you've stopped. Smoking is disgusting and a total waste of money and good health. Put your mind to it, buy a mint to ... (read in full...)
How can I make my mum feel better when my father is dying from cancer...?
Q. Hi, My problem I think is a bit deeper then the rest and I hope you can help me. My father got cancer in his face and the local hospital has sent him now 500 km away now for help. The problem is geting worse by the cancer spreading further. I get ...
A. 12 August 2007: I am so sorry to hear about your father, it must be awful for you both to watch someone you love waste away. Be strong for your mom but prepare her for the worst. Let her know that you're there for her and don't be frightened to talk about your ... (read in full...)
My husband won't make a decision on our adoption plan, when do I give up on him?
Q. My husband won't make a decision on our adoption plan, when do I give up on him? Some of his concerns are legitimate some are crazy. He says he needs to make more money (true), I'm not healthy enough (crazy). I'm 36, he's 39 We have a 12 year o...
A. 12 August 2007: It sounds to me like he's already decided. Have you sat down and talked to him seriously about this? Is he "for it" but just not yet? Adopting a child is a big responsibility and not everyone can do it. The fact that it is not their flesh and ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend I didn't make it to his party?
Q. I have a new boyfriend and he invited me to his house for his birthday today and we are about 2 hours away and my mom said she would drive me but she didn't. He called but I'm afarid to answer or talk to him cause I don't know if he will be mad, ...
A. 12 August 2007: He's only calling to see why you didn't show. Don't worry about it, be truthful and let him know something came up and your mom couldn't take you. I'm sure he'll understand and if he's really keen on you then this shouldn't put him off.
Eve... (read in full...)
I used to be smitten with him but these days all we seem to be doing is fighting and when we're not fighting he's spending all his time lying to me.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, but lately he has been treating me horribly. Every weekend he goes out, and never comes home until the next morning, it has changed the way I feel about him too. I used to be smitten with him but these days ...
A. 12 August 2007: This relationship sounds like a relationship of habit more than anything else and looks as if it's on its last legs. If he's never there, spends all night somewhere else and all you do is fight and argue there IS no relationship! Time to move on ... (read in full...)
He spends a lot of time alone with my aunt when my mom's not home... should I be worried???
Q. My aunt (my mom's younger sister) has moved in with us because she is going through a divorce and has no where else to stay. My mom and dad both work... but my dad comes home from work a lot earlier than my mom. He spends a lot of time alone with my ...
A. 12 August 2007: Do you see any flirting going on? If your dad gets in first and you're mom's still at work and you're worried then maybe you can make sure and spend some time in their company until your mom gets home. Watch them both carefully and form your own ... (read in full...)
I cry myself to sleep, I can't talk to her, and worst, I don't like how she's treating everyone.
Q. My best friend is dating a 21 year old guy (she's 16). She has been treating me and all her friends like crap because we keep asking her to quit being VERY touchy-feely with him around us. It makes us really uncomfortable. We made a vow to not...
A. 12 August 2007: Your best friend is growing up I'm afraid although she should keep her sex life to herself. When someone decides to lost their virginity is up to them I'm afraid. I think you have feelings for her and the fact she has someone else has hurt you the ... (read in full...)
Do I be selfish and end it now or wait until he is on his feet and can make something of his life?????
Q. I am stuck in a marriage of 12 years with 2 children, my husband has always put me and my children 2nd to everybody else, only now I feel so stupid that I have put up with it so long. I have just changed my career and have met loads of lovely ...
A. 12 August 2007: I get the impression your husband is working long and hard to make a comfortable life for you all and you are bored, have started a new career and have met someone else. Whether you don't consider it cheating because you feel your marriage is "non ... (read in full...)
Am I losing feelings for him?
Q. Hey all, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 months now, it's both our longest relationship to date. I am particularly proud of that achievement but things have ground to a halt. I hardly ever see him now, what was once 2 or 3 times a wee...
A. 11 August 2007: Although this man likes you, he's not as serious on you as you are on him. If he was, he'd make it perfectly obvious. Has he ever been hurt by a past relationship? It may be that he's keeping a distance and not wanting to get too closely involved ... (read in full...)
I certainly don't want to lose his friendship but how can I find out diplomatically if he is gay or not?
Q. I need some good advice! I'm a gay 58 year old male who is quite attracted to a young 23 year old guy. We've been friends ever since he was a little fellow. I believe he is gay but I'm not 100% positive about it. We're planning to take a trip ...
A. 11 August 2007: There's still 4 months to go till you take that trip with him so make it your point when you're in his company to talk about some gay issues. If you know each other as well as you profess then this shouldn't be a problem. Has he ever had a ... (read in full...)
Am I losing feelings for him?
Q. Hey all, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 months now, it's both our longest relationship to date. I am particularly proud of that achievement but things have ground to a halt. I hardly ever see him now, what was once 2 or 3 times a wee...
A. 11 August 2007: Do you both still keep in contact by phone/text/email regularly when you're not together? What are both your starsigns?
Eve... (read in full...)
How can I start to think for myself and stop being so influenced by my mother?
Q. Hi - I wonder if anyone could help. My mother recently told me that she got very hurt in her teens (she is now 62) because she found out her mother (my grandmother who is no longer alive) had an affair. Her father never found out and she never ...
A. 11 August 2007: I totally agree with you, your mother's behaviour IS because of what she found out when she was younger and this has affected her whole life (sadly) and you and your sisters. Now that you know that you shouldn't take what your mum says so ... (read in full...)
But there have been a few questionable things that have happened in the past that made me wonder whether I should worry about these strange little disappearences or not...?
Q. Maybe I'm being paranoid but why is it every time my boyfriend's cell phone is on the "charger" here at the house, everyone can still reach him. Meaning it still rings, while it's charging and he can answer it and talk while it's on the charger. ...
A. 11 August 2007: When he told you his phone was on charge, why did you not tell him "that doesn't make any difference", tell him you don't button up the back, that you know if a phone is on charge it can still be called and answered. Going from his past record re ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 10 August 2007: You see, she's beginning to notice a difference in you. Continue with your Counselling, you'll come on heaps and bounds and most importantly continue to have a positive attitude towards life. Remember, YOU are in charge of your own destiny so get ... (read in full...)
Why cant I trust my boyfriend? He hasnt done anything wrong!
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years now and the only real problem in our relationship is Me. My problem is that Im super insecure with him. Ive had a few boyfriends in the past and I never worried about them meeting someone else or ...
A. 9 August 2007: You need to learn to love yourself more and get back some confidence and self esteem. Look in the mirror and tell yourself he's lucky to have you.
Low self esteem feeds on negative messages and thoughts so DON’T indulge in self criticis... (read in full...)
I want to split up, but he wont leave
Q. with my partner 12 years drifted after 5, found out sperm no use cant get pregnant. had 1 ivf cycle and failed now gutted. im 41 his 49 alcoholic. life feels endless now . dont no what to do . want to split up, i have no love for him he wont leave. ...
A. 9 August 2007: My advice to you if you're living together is first of all to find somewhere else to live. Let him know that although you're fond of him you're not in love with him and things aren't working out, you've given it 12 years and just find things are ... (read in full...)
We have only been married a year, but she says she has no feelings for me
Q. Hello, I have only been married with my wife for 1 year and we have been together for 3. We got married right after the birth of my son. I have been married for 1-year, with a 1-year old son. I haven't been the best husband and recently she fo...
A. 9 August 2007: First of all I commend you for trying to sort out your marriage. I don't blame you for getting angry though, it's only natural but DON'T give her ultimatums like telling her to delete her ex as this will only make her dig her heels in more. What ... (read in full...)
I finally called, just to find out that he's back with his ex...
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up about 2 1/2 weeks ago, (our anniversary is in about 20 more days) He did the whole not talking thing to me, and I couldn't bottle it in anymore that I wasn't over him, so I finally called, just to find out that he's back ...
A. 7 August 2007: The reason we form romantic relationships is to see whether or not we're compatible with another. You and him obviously weren't as compatible as you first thought and him getting back with the ex only confirms this.
You need to keep busy now, tel... (read in full...)
I don't want to split up with him but I don't know what to do, should I believe him?
Q. I had been going out with a lad for a few months when I found out he had been cheating on me. We split up for 6 months and then he asked me to go back out with him and that he was sorry for what he had done. I have now been going out with the sam...
A. 7 August 2007: Looks to me like he's back to his old tricks again. He's your guy and he has pictures of nude girls on his phone??? He's telling another girl she's gorgeous and he's had his pic taken in a compromising position with another girl doing rude things ... (read in full...)
I don't want to split up with him but I don't know what to do, should I believe him?
Q. I had been going out with a lad for a few months when I found out he had been cheating on me. We split up for 6 months and then he asked me to go back out with him and that he was sorry for what he had done. I have now been going out with the sam...
A. 7 August 2007: Looks to me like he's back to his old tricks again. He's your guy and he has pictures of nude girls on his phone??? He's telling another girl she's gorgeous and he's had his pic taken in a compromising position with another girl doing rude things ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 6 August 2007: You will have times like that but hey, you'll kiss a lot of frogs before you find your princess. It may be your ex it may not be and if you're to be together then you will be. Just take one day at a time, think positive, get on with life and if ... (read in full...)
Please can you help me get some direction in my life
Q. I have been married for the past 18 years and love my family very much. Recently my wife moved out of the house because we were having some finanacial problems but I think that there's more to that. I have been trying very hard to bring my family ...
A. 31 July 2007: Hi,
Please email me if you want my help here, I have other questions I need to ask you before giving you guidance on this. Thanks.
Eve... (read in full...)
How can I break this vicious cycle? I need a miracle, I need to find my way back to how I used to be.
Q. I've got bipolar disorder and most of my life I've been clinically depressed. I'm on medication for many years now, but you know what? When your life is miserable and sad then there cannot be no magic pill to make you feel better. I've got a PhD, ...
A. 30 July 2007: Hi Lilian,
Please get in touch with me by email, I think I've just found you a miracle!
Eve... (read in full...)
He kissed someone else by mistake.
Q. Boyfriend of 3 years kissed a coworker by mistake i want him back he dont want to be with her and he dont feel the same about the relationship he dont think we can get back what we had HELP!!!...
A. 25 July 2007: No one kisses anyone by mistake!!! There have obviously been problems in the relationship for him to let this happen. It sounds to me as if he's decided you and him aren't working out and this relationship has run its course. Talk to him, see ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he is cheating.
Q. I have been married for a little over a year, my husband and I fight constantly. I think he is cheating but I am not sure. I found a few phone numbers but nothing that confirms he has dated or had sex with another women. He has outside children...
A. 25 July 2007: If he's cheated on you before then it may well be, he's at it again. Here are some things you can do as a checklist:
Partners who are cheating are often guilty of their actions. They will apologise over small mistakes and go out of their way to m... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so angry?
Q. Few weeks ago split from a yr long r.ship. We are in our 30's. He had only just split with someone when we met. She caused him a few probs but after couple of months we heard no more. Or so i thought. I didnt ever feel i could trust this guy but my ...
A. 25 July 2007: You're right, you can't change the kind of person he is. To me he is devious and a pathalogical liar and he'll always be that way. He'll say ANYTHING to have a quiet life, even swear on his daughter's life! You would never be able to trust him ... (read in full...)
I want to get divorced, but I am terrrified of the wrath of G-d!
Q. I want to end my 25 year marriage because my husband and I have grown apart and there is absolutely no attraction in it for me. But I have tremendous religious guilt and worry incessively that God is going to punish me for doing this horrible ...
A. 24 July 2007: It's the way you have been conditioned to think, that's all. If you listen to stories enough times then you start to believe them. Those who ought to know better have been educated to believe in "the system" whatever such religion may be, for many ... (read in full...)
She tells everyone how she misses me, and how this is the worst breakup she has ever had, and that she wants me back... but then she doesnt act it.
Q. I dated a woman for a little over a year. I ended up breaking up with her because of a few lies about her past. I couldn't care less about what she did in her past, but the lies made me realize that I can't trust her. I have moved on since t...
A. 24 July 2007: How did you find out about these lies from her past? Who told you about them? Have you considered she was maybe really embarrassed about her past and thought if you knew it was true you wouldn't want to be with her any more?
Everyone has skel... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 24 July 2007: Hey I'm so pleased for you! I would say you have a definite admirer there. She seems just as keen on you as you do on her so well done there! See? Your positive thinking has payed off for you. The world doesn't end when your ex wants to call it ... (read in full...)
How Do I Approach/Talk To Women when I'm Socially Inept?
Q. I'm 21, a student and my problem is I'm socially inept when it comes to approaching/talking to women. Men I can talk to whenever etc have no probs. Am funny, loose and a right 'mans man', just make everyone laugh etc. Women however, I just dont know ...
A. 22 July 2007: I meant to add... no matter how nervous or shy you feel when talking to a woman, she doesn't know it, she can't see inside you so just be brave about it. Take a deep breath when you see someone you like and just go for it! Tell yourself she's just ... (read in full...)
How Do I Approach/Talk To Women when I'm Socially Inept?
Q. I'm 21, a student and my problem is I'm socially inept when it comes to approaching/talking to women. Men I can talk to whenever etc have no probs. Am funny, loose and a right 'mans man', just make everyone laugh etc. Women however, I just dont know ...
A. 22 July 2007: All you need to remember is that a woman likes to talk! Ask her about herself, her interests, likes and dislikes. Compliment her too, that will go a long way. Just remember they're human like you are. Be yourself and be genuine, if you like what ... (read in full...)
'No kisses, cuddles or holding hands' and thats 8 months in.
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 8 months now and we get along great. We share similar values, we have great conversations and our hobbies are very compatible, but there's one thing about our relationship that's bothering me more and more...
A. 22 July 2007: Everyone's sexual libido differs, some people like to have it 5 times a day where others are happy to have it once a week. Some people can live together for companionship and aren't interested in having sex at all. You need to ask her why she ... (read in full...)
' I love him', but 'i don't fancy him anymore'
Q. I'm 18 and love my boyfriend of over a year but I'm not sure I fancy him anymore. I do love him to pieces but the physical attraction just isn't the same for me. I don't really want to split with him because I don't want to lose the closenes...
A. 22 July 2007: You are very fond of your boyfriend as you have a history together however you DON'T love him, if you did you would never "not fancy" him. You need to decide whether you want to stay in this relationship or not and if you stay, you stay because you ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 17 July 2007: You're missing her and thinking negatively now. Just get on with things and keep a little bit of her in your heart then when December comes meet up again like you both agreed. A lot can happen between now and then but it will certainly test you ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 15 July 2007: She will be wanting the break for all of the things that you mention, she'll be wanting to test her feelings for you. I do believe in fate and think that if something's meant to be then it will be, it will find YOU so if you ARE both meant to be ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 12 July 2007: You sound far more positive and relaxed about things now. I smiled when I read your comments as you seem far more focussed on your way ahead now, I'm so please for you. Like you said, you can both live your lives with freedom of choice.
Keep ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 9 July 2007: It's not fair of her to keep on playing with your emotions, mentioning things in the past (the towel incident for example). She is more or less putting the guilt on YOU here saying she felt pressurised but that to me is an excuse. You get on with ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 9 July 2007: I am so sorry that the decision she made wasn't the one you hoped for. Things happen in our lives for a reason and maybe you two just weren't mean to be although you won't see it this way at the moment. Unfortunately we can't make someone love us ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 6 July 2007: Okay, I read over all of the posts again just to clarify things in my mind. This woman is crazy on you BUT she doesn't want to give you her all and you leave her again. In your very first post in this thread you say this - "Leaving the home has ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 4 July 2007: Here are some sites you can look at, one is to help you "Find Yourself" and the others are to help build up your confidence and self esteem.
http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Yourself
http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence
http://pi... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 27 June 2007: Just keep busy and keep thinking POSITIVE and the time will fly in. Under no circumstances must you get in touch with her though. If you do then anything positive that's been achieved will be undone. Let her MISS you! ;o)
Eve... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 25 June 2007: Okay, I misread your meaning of the "old days", it was a positive rather than a negative. I think you have both done exactly the right thing. NO CONTACT for 4 weeks. That will help both of you see whether or not you are right for one another. It ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 25 June 2007: Nice to hear from you again! I was reading your posts again. You seem to miss her when she's not there and enjoy keeping in touch with her, wining and dining her and meeting up but when it comes to the actual crunch of being together for too long ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 20 April 2007: Yes, she is missing you, hence the reason she wants to involve you more. Just remember and don't always be too willing, have your own opinions and your own mind and don't be so accommodating all the time and I reckon you've cracked it!
I wish you... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 10 April 2007: You have pulled back a bit and now she's chasing, simple as that! Because you've not seen her as often then she's missed you. Talking on the phone for long periods of time, although nice, can mean that you do say things you regret so you should ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 31 March 2007: I'm glad things are going well for you but I would pull back even further. You said you have seen her 6 days out of 7. Reduce that 4 days out of 7. Let her know you have things to do but would love to see her (Wednesday). MAKE HER WANT YOU!!! ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 18 March 2007: She NOTICED you didn't reply right away! That's good! If she calls you tomorrow asking to arrange something, suggest you call her back in an hour to be sure, say you have something else you needed to attend to and don't know if you can leave it or ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 17 March 2007: Nooooo, you came across loud and clear the first time. You went for coffee, went back to her house to collect something then spoiled it lol by asking her did she want company. You poor love, I know how you are feeling, clutching at anything to ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 17 March 2007: It IS the best way, you'll see I'm right. Woman like a bit of a challenge and don't like a guy to always just "be there" when they snap their fingers, they lose their appeal. Keep in touch :o)
Eve... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 16 March 2007: She cried because she knows how much you feel for her and you calling to ask if she wanted some company only confirmed that. If I were you I wouldn't call her or text her. Let HER do the running. She really IS trying to get her head around all of ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 15 March 2007: That is why you both need to move back down a couple of gears, take things very slowly, don't see one another as often and try not to sleep together as this only messes with your head and emotions. Put some space between you to see if you actually ... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 14 March 2007: I'm glad things are working out for you and your night was a success. Yes, keep us posted and let us know how things go! Be there for her without being too "in her face" all the time and you'll be fine. I wish you both all the very best.
Eve... (read in full...)
We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!
Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...
A. 12 March 2007: Here is what to do if you want to win her back. She's getting the best of both worlds just now. She has her freedom to be with her friends and she has you! You said you still see her a couple of times a week and still have a kiss and cuddle ... (read in full...)
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