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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Her negative comments about cheerleading really bothered me. Do I have a right to be angry?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4584 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so do I have a right to be angry? I am trying out for cheer. Well, I tried out today (haven't gotten results) but this event takes place before then. So I tried out for freshman cheer, and at my school we have three clinic days where we learn the dance and cheer for tryouts ... (251 words)

Love bites: sexy or disgusting?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Love bites, "hickeys", do you like giving them? Do you like receiving them? Do you find them a turn on or romantic? Or do you think they're silly or a way of "marking your territory"? Do you think they're hot or just plain gross? ... (44 words)

If I was so repulsive then how can he not think that now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My spouse is 1/2 my age and had an affair with a woman closer to his age (actually his step daughter, my own child). I am 40 and durring his affair he told her, and his best friend and a few other people that touching me was disgusting. He described me as having droopy old ... (175 words)

What should I do to make everything be okay?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - What do I do? I feel like I'm loosing everything, I've lost one of my best-friends, broke up with my boyfriend, and my dad's moving to another country. I feel like everyone's moving away from me and I don't know what I've done wrong. I feel horrible all the time because I d... (88 words)

Could this just be lack of experience on his part?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a question about men and sex. Recently I started seeing a new man, he is in his late 20's and not very experienced. He told me he didn't really enjoy penetration and could take it or leave it. When he does have sex he tends to favour girl on top because he comes... (124 words)

Do I tell her I invaded her privacy and looked through her phone to get some answers?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing this girl for 4 months now and things have been great. I knew she had an x-boyfriend, as most people do by your early 20’s, but when she spoke of him it was never that she longed for him, there was mostly resentment for the way things ended. He is in the Army ... (1419 words)

Should I continue talking to this guy that's still in love with his ex girlfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4584 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So this guy I've been friends with since about last November/December, but only basically online friends. We met on Twitter and just talked online as friends, he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. But he expressed interest in me, saying he wanted to meet me but I kind of ... (362 words)

Does she fancy me or is it just a phase?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so im freely bisexual and have slept with as many women as i have men. One of my best (female and straight) friends lives with her partner and has been with him a year. Recently, we have been out on the town a few times and iv got quite drunk. she aint much of a drinker and ... (229 words)

Caught boyfriend sending gay emails to other men, now what?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4181 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I honestly don't know where to go from here. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years and we recently bought a condo together. Long story short, I was moving my stuff in one weekend and needed to use his laptop to check my email when his email popped open (sti... (207 words)

Does this profile picture mean she's in a relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi. This girl I really like uploaded a profile picture on Facebook with her smiling in a photo with a boy. I'm not added as a friend so I can't see her relationship status. Does this mean that she's likely in a relationship? Why else would she upload the photo? What a... (68 words)

A wifes past the good and the bad

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age - what is meant by the comment of a wife's past, or sexual past when i see women replying( her past has made her the wife who she is today) . what is the positives , and the negatives . are there any benefits or lost benefits . ... (49 words)

Should I wait for him to text? Or should I text him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4584 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Should I text him? So, I met this guy, and I really like him. Apparently we've known each other since we were kids (which I don't remember.) and I've seen him lately, but I've never actually talked to him until 2 weeks ago. So, he and I really seemed to have hit it off. We ... (329 words)

I'm just not interested in having a relationship. What's wrong with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (?) age 41-50 - I'm just gonna' jump right in here... Almost a year ago I lost my Dad. At the time I was in a relationship that was coming to an end. Anyway, when my Dad passed my partner at the time told me she was pregnant. But because of the timing of my Dad and the state of our relations... (298 words)

I'm worried he may fall for her fake charm! Do you think he likes me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Heyya :) As most girls my age, I have boy I like at school. We started talking and I have started walking home with him. As we walked home for the first time, he was always talking to me and to hardly any of his friends. He made sure that he was walking next to me (He was tryi... (240 words)

What are the ethics of dating and intimate relationships in the workplace?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4584 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I would like to ask a question....what do ypu think of intimate relationships/dating between co-workers? for example are they right? should they be avoided? also is dating between a boss/supervisor and a lower worker ethical? also can some of the agony aunts and uncles give ... (62 words)

How do you define "sex"?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age - So here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/women-how-important-is-sex-to-you.html someone asked how important to you is sex. I have a slightly different question... DEFINE IT... is it just the act of intercourse? is foreplay mandatory? is it the actual act of pene... (107 words)

How do I not let him in when I love him so much?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4583 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please don't judge me.I know what I did was wrong and that is why I stopped it. Any advice would help me out so much. 18 months ago I got locked out of my apartment and my neighbour helped me in.I had seen him a few times in the gym that is in our buliding, we had only talked a... (515 words)

Should I stick around to see if he'll ever love me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - He said, "I do love you" the other night...in the dark. I took it to mean he's trying to convince himself he loves me. He's already told me he loves just me and his brother. I'm guessing he's not in love with me but he does care and love me - he treats me well and is a shy ... (110 words)

I've put so much effort into our relationship and he won't even try to understand the sh-t he's put me through!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please people, please help me on this one! I've been very depressed and i don't know who to talk to. I hope that I will get some good advice here. That would be appreciated a lot. Basically, I'm Vietnamese and my boyfriend is English. He came to Viet Nam a few years ago to... (752 words)

Should I bother trying to be her friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My friend and I had an argument over a lie I told her and had a huge fight! She quit talking to me. I tried talking to her but she was so angry she cussed at me and told her to not speak to her ever again. Then over the course of a few weeks (once a week) I sent her an apology ... (176 words)

Do I follow my heart and move far away from my kids or try to stick it out?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi again guys. Since last time I asked a question, I made the decision to end the marriage, and filed for divorce a few months ago. Nothing was getting any easier, and my soon to be ex even started going on dating sites while I was trying hard to talk to her and repair the ... (206 words)

I feel waves of romantic emotion toward her, I'm not sure about an LDR but I want her to be happy.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - She is pomosexual I am a demiromantic pansexual who identifies as male and sometimes androgynous. She lives up North, while I live down near the Carolinas and Florida. We're both in college. We share similar hobbies. She and I talk on the phone, over Skype, Facebook, multiple ... (308 words)

Should you date again if you aren't completely over an ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Is it wrong to start dating again even if you aren't completely over an ex? My last relationship was short term, but it me and her shared an amazing connection and our break up was purely circumstantial. The break up happened several months ago so I feel like I should try to ... (112 words)

FWB doesn't call me gorgeous like he does other girls

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4584 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi, i am seeing this guy for past few years.. we stay in separate cities so it is not exactly exclusive but we aren't really seeing anybody else .. it is basically more sexual than emotional! we sex text a lot and such stuff.. recently he shared his facebook password with me ... (195 words)

Older student has feelings for tutor, should I not pursue it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - A few months ago I wrote for advice on this issue and the general concensus was that the man seemed interested but that I should wait and just remain friendly. Basically, I need some reassurance about what is going on as I am finding it very hard to do this! Do people think ... (1469 words)

Boyfriend and best pal, can't chose between them!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i was in love with my best friend. A problem occured and a misunderstanding occured because he doubted me of cheating him over my another friend. I was so heart broken and went to my bestpal for advice. My bestpal advised me to breakup with my boyfriend. I took his words ... (323 words)

Am I being played? Will I ever be happy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4584 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I really dont know where to start its been a rough few years but i guess ill start toward the beginning i was with "M" for 9 years and 3 kids and come one night about 5 years ago now she tells me she is seeing someone else. Well she only stayed at the house for maybe anot... (728 words)

My FWB is being far too casual with me. Is he losing interest?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't understand my FWB guy. He seemed really into me and said that he just wanted "a bit of fun" I am fine with this. But what I don't get is that I just hardly ever hear from him. If I text him he doesn't always reply we're supposed to be meeting at the weekend we arran... (144 words)

I fell in love with my cousin's cousin. Should I try to pursue him or just move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, I have never done this sort of thing before but I have run out of options and advice from friends. I fell in love with my cousin's cousin and need some advice from a stranger. So here's my story. I have known him since I can remember and he is now recently divorced... (272 words)

How should I control my jealously and this shock that my girlfriend defeated me in a game of soccer?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Six months back, I started teaching Soccer to my girlfriend. We have been together two years. Two days ago, we had one-to-one match and I got shocked to death that she beat me by 6 goals to 3, out smarting me in every aspect of the game. It got me so pissed off that sinc... (169 words)

My BF of two months gave me a promise ring. But how do I handle this? Another guy wants me to go with him instead.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4571 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I don't know if I'm making the right choice or not!!!! Okay so my BF of two months gave me a promise ring at my Homecoming dance. I accepted it thinking it was so sweet and he was my Mr. Right. Well now I don't known if I'm making the right choice or not. Mostly because I NE... (140 words)

Am I setting myself up for heartbreak yet again? 17 and in love with my possibly lesbian teacher.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so I will get right to it. I'm 17, female, a lesbian, and in my senior year of school. Lately I've been having feelings for a teacher at my school (also a female). Firstly, let me just clarify that I've never been in a proper relationship, only a couple of emotional ... (521 words)

Am I having a mid life crisis? It seems so important to increase the number of woman I have sex with. So would paying for it be a quick solution?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4547 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age - I am single and am no spring chicken anymore, although Im not exactly geriatric either. In my life I havent really had many girlfriends and can count the number of sexual partners I've had on one hand. Im starting to feel that 'I've missed out' a bit and should have been... (396 words)

Help! Getting mixed signals from my man. Is it a casual relationship or more serious?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - OK, so this is a bit of a long winded one so bear with me and apologies in advance :) I am 29, have been separated from my ex husband for 18 months and have a two year old little boy. I met a guy, lets call him J, in April through mutual friends. Nothing happened, strang... (655 words)

Why did my last guy refuse to give me another chance? I know I cheated. What should I do?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Since as long as I can think back I have cheated on every guy I dated. I had been with my soul mate now for 9 years. For 2 years I did resist cheating except for the first 6 months. We was about to set a date to marry when he found out I was sex texting guys (but only for a jo... (190 words)

What is do the numbers signify? What's normal for you? Is more sex with more people success? Or is more relationship with one person more?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4584 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Out of curiosity, how many a) romantic relationships (i.e. dated for a while, no sex) b) full-on-committed relationships (i.e. with sex) and c) sexual relationships did you have by the time you were 22/23? This question is both for men and women. I'm 22 and have only been ... (651 words)

What to do? The Cook and I made out in the back room of the restaurant. Do we continue? He's married.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4584 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I work at a restaurant as a server. I get along with everyone I work with fairly well, but the cooks exceptionally. All the cooks are men (but I've always been more partial to having male friends than females) Somehow I managed to attract the attention of one cook in part... (196 words)

Did I somehow drive him away? What's he about? Cuddle one day. Then ignore me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently a new guy started working where I work. After hanging out a few times we exchanged numbers, and soon after we were hanging out all the time. He'd even text me a few times a day just to talk. For about 2 weeks he'd always want me to come pick him up to hang out, and ... (199 words)

It's not official. So is it wrong to be dating two guys at once? and how do I choose?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am dating two guys at once and it feels like cheating to me even though I'm not officially with either of them and its just dating. I was assured by a friend (having been single a long time and out of the dating game) that if your a free agent this is the done thing now?. But ... (564 words)

Am I too sensitive? Or is he insensitive? And when do you call it quits when it comes to a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am engaged to my guy for a year and a half now. In the beginning everything was great, I was completely ready to marry my guy. However, the past 6-8 months is making me re-think this whole marriage thing. We're hardly ever intimate, we hardly ever go out alone, he bemoan... (379 words)

She contacts me all the time. I ignore her. I am heartbroken. How do I move on? How do I forget her?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I Just recently broke up with the love of my life. We broke up about a month ago. I cant stop thinking about her. I want to so badly. I broke her heart and i want to forget her. I cant. I thought maybe I can get her back, But i realized there is little to no hope. She is... (307 words)

What's wrong? I'm cute and fun he was not bored but something happened right? I'm lost

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F) age 41-50 - I met a guy in 2007 but at the time we lived in different cities so we stayed friends through email then Facebook. We talked frequently with laps in between when dating other people etc we are in the same industry so we have lots in common but he's much more successful then... (207 words)

Does my teacher like me or is he being nice to me ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so i need to clarification. I have this theater teacher and he is in this play and i'm part of the running crew. Hes always telling me i'm going a good job but he adds complement in or he'll tell me personally for example . Your doing a great job o' well dressed one or ... (145 words)

Ladies in their 40's, can you share your birth control solutions?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Any ladies in their 40's who have finished their families, just wondering what type of birth control you use? I'm not sure if anyone else still takes the pill at that age like I do as it is raising my blood pressure. Dr has advised that she wont do tubal ligation as it isn... (95 words)

Don't want to scare him away. But how can I drive him wild and make him fall for me? Any reliable strategies please?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've known this guy for about a year now, we've been just friends, but recently he's been texting me about hooking up and being friends with benefits. But he even said a couple times that it would just be fun, nothing serious; so I guess that means no relationship obvi... (126 words)

Everything was great, why is he pulling back now? Has he changed his mind or is this some sort of freak out that will run its course?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm dating this great guy, but he's been pulling back for a couple of days and I'm wondering what's going on. We've been dating for about three weeks. We live in two different cities so its about a three hour round trip for him to come visit. He's come out to the city I li... (295 words)

Why do I have trouble completing sex in a committed relationship yet can reliably cum during flings and one night stands?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm a bit confused here, I'm 20 years old, and have only had 2 SERIOUS relationships, the previous lasting 4 years, and one currently. In between, and before the relationships I've had several flings / one night stands, etc. I've noticed I've no issues what so ever, se... (154 words)

Why do I find myself obsessing over the things I say and do in social situations?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why do I find myself obsessing over the things I say and do in social situations? It has really become a hindrance to me, almost uncontrollable; every time I think back on something 'stupid' I've said or done (which is quite a long list, and the list grows everyday), it pains ... (501 words)

My fiance is inexperienced in so many ways. Should we grow old together and learn together? Or should I call it off?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Would you be worried if your fiance was inexperienced? Inexperienced with life, relationships, and sex. Would it be enough to call it off, even if everything else compatibility wise was perfect? Any input would be greatly appreciated. ... (37 words)

B/f recently told me that one of his girlfriend's was a prostitute! Now I cannot get the nasty image out of my head

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4583 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - During an argument, my boyfriend of almost a year, revealed to me, that in his past,many years ago, that he had a girlfriend who was a hooker. He could see in my eyes how disgusted I was, and of course I said I wanted to vomit. Now, days later, I cannot get the nasty image of ... (213 words)

I think my ex heard what I said about him, when I was talking to my friend! What should I do now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4587 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Today I was in a side room in my uni building. I was talking to a friend about my ex and I said "That dick wad dumped me!". My ex was standing right outside when I said this, and I don't know if he heard me or not. I feel so guilty, but I am very bitter towards him. What should ... (74 words)

My crush isn't showing any interest, should I just leave him alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4584 days ago

6 October 2011 (?) age 26-29 - After you've known your crush for a month and after you've been talking to him and trying to get know him And yet he still doesn't really show any interest Would it be best to just leave him alone Or just tell him how you feel so that he'll know? Because you see....I'm ... (234 words)

My boyfriend is taller than me, and I don't know how to kiss him!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4587 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 22-25 - Ok so i'm 13, never had my first kiss, but i have a boyfriend in 8th (i'm in 7th). We have been together for like 2 days but i know the kiss is coming sooner or later (dont judge). I'm a shortie 4'9" and he's 5'8" big diffrence to me. To get the idea when i hug him my head is ... (153 words)

My husband has given me STIs!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been treated three times for STI's in the past five months. My husband claims he knows nothing of it. I have not slept with anyone else except him. I now insist we use condoms and he complains its not proper for people in marriage. Should i just leave him, because are ... (59 words)

He makes excuses to avoid sex.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

6 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have had a gorgeous little boy 7 months ago,everythings going great,okay a few arguements but over silly things,our relationship with our son is great its just our relationship that seems to be going down hill. We havent had sex for 2months now and im getti... (179 words)

I'm 30 and have no sex drive.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4587 days ago

6 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I am a 30 year old male I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years now and she is 26. I have a problem with sex. I just don't seem to want it that much, I can go a month without it and I don't know why? My girl ask me for sex all the time but I just make excuses, I just ... (95 words)