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writes:I have a question about men and sex.Recently I started seeing a new man, he is in his late 20's and not very experienced. He told me he didn't really enjoy penetration and could take it or leave it. When he does have sex he tends to favour girl on top because he comes too fast in other positions. Could this just be lack of experience talking?I really like this man, and would like us to have a fulfilling sex life. If I could help him enjoy things more that would be amazing.I would be interested to get some male opinions on this!
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reader, Htsn47  +, writes (7 October 2011):
 Speaking as an inexperienced man myself, yes - it could be lack of experience, or lack of confidence. I know that I felt more comfortable with my gf on top. But when she explained how exciting it was for her for me to take more control sometime, it was a real turn on for me. It was like proof that she really, really wanted me. Maybe expressing to him why you want to change things up would help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did wonder if it was down to bad experiences in the past. He has openly admitted he was a late starter in that department.
I would like to help him open up and enjoy sex, because it is very obvious when we are together that he is... attracted to me. (not sure how else to put that politely).
It is almost like he is scared of it a bit - he can't quite believe someone wants him? I don't know.
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (7 October 2011):
 He might not enjoy certain aspects of sex because he hasn't had good sex partners in his past, or perhaps like you said, he's just lacking experience.Experiment with new things, new positions and ideas etc. If he's cumming too fast, maybe tell him to slow it down until he finds a pace that's comfortable for both of you.Sex with someone new can be exciting but also challenging because you're still finding your chemistry with them and trying to discover what they like and dislike etc.Just try new things and suggest new positions for him and see if he starts to like it some more ;)
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