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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello, I have never done this sort of thing before but I have run out of options and advice from friends. I fell in love with my cousin's cousin and need some advice from a stranger. So here's my story. I have known him since I can remember and he is now recently divorced, and has a five year old daughter. In high school he dated my older sister then after that he got with his now ex-wife. When his wife first left him with no good excuse, he was devastated and became very depressed. I was there for him as a friend for a while, but after a family function and a few drinks later he kisses me and our "friends with benefits" relationship started. Our intimate relationship was known by the family but it was never a confirmed "dating" relationship. We spent about four months being intimate with each other and I then confronted him about where we were taking it. I told him how I felt and let him know that I was not scared of being with someone who has his daughter and ex-wife in their life. He gave me the "it's me not you speech" and I just decided to end it right there. It is still difficult for me to get over him, we work together and he flirts with me constantly. What should I do? His daughter loves me and he tells me all the silly and amazing things she does. I guess all I am asking is should I try to pursue him or just move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2011): Thank you very much for your response. I will deffinately try to keep my mind off of him. I started a new hobby, so hopefully that will help. It is difficult sometimes, exspecially at work.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 Honestly darling I think that you need to just move on from him and accept that he is not wanting anything at the moment. If he changes his mind well then he knows where to find you. It is very unfair off him to flirt with you after everything that has happened. You have fallen for him and I guess he just is not ready to commit to anything serious at the moment. He has been hurt deeply by his now ex wife and that takes time to get over. You at that stage where the rebound and I guess it is going to take him some time before he even consider a relationship. To save yourself more hurt and pain the best thing that you can do is to keep your distance and try and move on.
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