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writes:I Just recently broke up with the love of my life. We broke up about a month ago. I cant stop thinking about her. I want to so badly. I broke her heart and i want to forget her. I cant. I thought maybe I can get her back, But i realized there is little to no hope. She is stubborn and her past is so messed up I dont think there is any way too. I try to hangout with friends but I just think of her. I try to workout but I just get so sad. I tried to get rid of everything that reminded me of her but couldnt. Everything reminds me of her. I try to take my mind off of her and watch movies But there is always that movie with the love seen and i think of her. She contacts me all the time. pretty much everyday. I ignore her. Whats the point to talk if there is no hope? She said she wants to be on good terms and be friends. I said fine were on good terms but if you want a friend? Maybe get dog?How can you be friends with the girl you love more then anything on this planet?! I just want her back and nothing I could do can get her back. what should I do to forget her? Should I move on? I have been getting mad at her and trying to hate her to forget her. It sucks I dont want to but I don know what else to do. Help me please?I wanted to join the military but she wouldnt let me. Im at the point where im about to drop out of school and join the military.. idk, im lost
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (8 October 2011):
 Change your phone number!
Simples! :)
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reader, 1sunshine +, writes (7 October 2011):
 Plain and simple. Block her texts too, start all over. Who needs a girl that plays games? Just like my ex. He was playing mind games with me and it sucked. Now that I look back.... I AM SO HAPPY HE IS OUT OF MY LIFE!! Really... he was poison to me and I didn't see it at the time. I don't think anyone does because you are so wishing things would get better.. and hoping there is a chance things would change. There are so many girls in this world and you need too see what else is out there. I truely believe there is someone for everyone. They might not be perfect, but perfect for you. Take some time to be by yourself. Hang with your friends and family. Take some time to breath, ect... You will eventually realize that she IS nuts and you can do so much better!
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reader, landomando +, writes (6 October 2011):
landomando is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere is no talking to this girl at all. She is so stubborn/hard headed she doesn't listen to me at all. She just wants to talk. She didn't listen to one word I had to say when we were fighting and breaking up. So I wrote a blog. saying exactly what I said to her. She didnt listen to me. But one of her friends found my blog (no idea how) and showed it to her. She believed me after her friend showed it to her.... Just how stuborn she is. also, I once had rumors made up about me and another girl 7 moths ago. I never got to even say 1 word to her about the rumors and how they were fake. She believed the rumors and broke up with me. I had to get everyone at this party, the girl involved with the rumor and the guy who made the rumors explain to her everything. Did she listen to me when i tried to explain it to her. Nope. When other people did she listened... idk if im making her sound crazy or a loony.. or if i seem like a dick. sorry. but she is the most amazing girl I have ever met.. also I have told her I cant be friends with her. she doesnt listen... She texted me last night when I was asleep "I am a mess I need you. and texted me I need you right now" a couple times but seriously I dont want to be there for her if all i am doing is comforting her until she is back up on her too feet. Its not fair for me.. Idk what to do. I blocked her on my fbook and she got pissed about that. I ignore her, I dont know what else to do. Its making this so so so so so much more painful. I need help. Shes saying one thing and showing me different things. Im getting mixed signals from her. ......Help
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reader, 1sunshine +, writes (6 October 2011):
Yes. You need to tell her to stop texting you. I had the same kind of situation 6 months ago. ( I'm a girl though ) He broke up with me an still wanted to be friends with me. It was so hard to get over him... I know the feeling that everything reminds you of her... For me, every day was getting a little better for me. It was a hard adjusment for me at first. Cried it out for days... Eventually started going out with friends, even dating again to see what was out there. Just kept busy. I even joined a dating site and after about 2 months met the love of my life! We are together now and I am so happy!! My ex did me the favor of a life time and broke it off with me :D Time heals... keeping busy & reading self help books are also great. I read a great book by John Gray about moving on with a break up. Go buy it!! It really helped me :) Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2011): I think you need to have a serious talk with this girl. Tell her how you feel, that you want all or nothing. She needs to be put on the spot to make a decision.
If she is still contacting you everyday I would say she still has feelings, regardless of what she has said that you are a friend and obviously you still love her, so both of you need to talk and resolve this, before taking, what seems like the easy way out and ignoring her.
Tell her either she wants to get back together or she has to stop contacting you because its not fair on you as it hurts too much.
Good luck.
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reader, phungstyle  +, writes (6 October 2011):
What is the determinant point when u broke up w her? as i see u r a sensitive n vulnerable man so being with a stubborn might be a good choice. There are many hopeless love because the one was gotten over by the other one. That means u r luckier than u think ;) if ur love gone away there's nothing left to do, but if it still exist even though u tried to forget, maybe those things shouldn't be forgotten. Now is the time to open up your mind, send a simple mess like " i miss u " n feel when she text u back. Hard process happens to every couple, some of them can make it through then they happy together, some of them can't then they lose each other forever. And here is my personal opinion, don't join the army.U live ur life, don't ever make a decision because of someone. U just remind me about my buddy, he's about to join the the army after graduate in the next summer. i adore him so much but i can't tell him don't go cause that's national duty(he's Korean). U do have many people who loves u, some of them respects ur option so they keep thoughts in silence but i can tell, the day u left is the day their heart will be torn to pieces.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (6 October 2011):
You really want to forget her? First of all, she needs to know that she can't text you everyday. That's the first step, she needs to give you some space.
Second thing is to keep busy, yes, things will remind you of her, but in time you'll begin to feel less anxious when you watch a love scene.
Take regular walks, if needs be take a notepad and pen to write down your thoughts and feelings as you go along. You can keep the notepad if you want, or just chuck it when it's full. Try try try to carry on working out, hanging with friends, and gradually the pain and loss you feel will eventually start to die down.
Tell this girl straight that you are on good terms with her, you just can't be her friend as it's too hard for you right now. Who knows, maybe in time you could be friends again one day...
Good luck, keep your head held high :)
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 You just broke up. You need time to refresh your mind and to make sure your break up wasn't a mistake. Maybe you need mental adjustments to accept her past. If after a month you find that you won't change your mind or she won't change her (...blank) ways then you know she's not yours. For right now there is no need to do anything drastic such as moving away. You can handle the intense emotions better than you think. Emotions are just that, they can't cause you bodily harm and your body knows how to be healthy after grieving. If you can't find anything to do to lessen the pain perhaps the solution is to do nothing and just focus on the moment.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (6 October 2011):
 Hi, If there is no chance of a relationship then you are right about the friend's business. Don't bother with that one. You will spend months and months of hoping and be stuck in limbo. So, firstly don't let hate come into it. This is not good. Simply state you require all or nothing and that is the only outcome you will settle for. It seems she doesn't want this so it is of no help to keep in contact. If I were you, I would follow your dream and join the military. This is what you had wanted and you have the chance now. You are free and you make the decisions. Don't hang around in hope of any relationship because your life will simply go on hold.
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