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Archived questions from: 16 October, 2011 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Should I leave my boyfriend or am I overreacting?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. And we are about to buy our own house. He takes care of me etc..i don't know if all guys are like this or just him. I need to know if I'm making the correct decision. Anything sets him off when things don't go his way he gets angry ... (219 words)

Girlfriend's promiscous past confuses/excites me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - After a long relationship followed by 12+ months of a very active dating life, I've met an incredible girl I've fallen deeply in love with. More so than anyone I've met previously, she is perfect for me. We have an amazing connection - in and out of the sheets. Her ... (267 words)

I think I hit and abused my gf while under the influence of alcohol!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My life long best friend has been a girl we will call Jill, when we were 16 we decided that we would start dating. We have always had an amazing friednship and relationship. We are the type of couple that can go out with our friends and have fun with out the other person being ... (480 words)

I want him to go back to the way he was when we first met!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - just wondering if anyone here can offer me any advice cause I'm at a complete loss. been with my bf for over three years, one of those years was long distance. I'm far better educated than him - to MA level - while he barely has his leaving cert (a-levels in england, HSD in ... (464 words)

Why does my mom hate me so much?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why does my mum hate me so much? am so upset? My mum was washing the dishes and I went to get a plate to make a sandwich then she told me to wash it after and I said "that's enough I will wash it" I didn't even finish the sentence and she slapped me on the eye. It real... (207 words)

I love her but she's confused on which path to take!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am a 35 year old girl who has been in a relationship with another girl for 8 months.She has asked me for a break between us, to see what she really wants.She says she loves me but she is confused on what path to take.To be with a man in order to have a baby or to be with ... (96 words)

I'm desperate for advice about my boyfriend and his priorities!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - This is going to be super long, but i really need some advice and i really appreciate any one who takes the time to read this and reply. I've had a boyfriend(C) for about three months now. he's my first serious boyfriend. He's been doing some things that kind of make me unsure ... (735 words)

I don't how to conduct myself in front of my girlfriend's friends, please guide me out of this messy thing.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am in a relationship with this girl for the last two years . I have one problem and that is that I don't know how to conduct myself in front of her 3 girlfriends when I confront them in her presence . When I talk to them sweetly then afterwards my girlfriend taunts me sayin... (166 words)

Have I over-reacted?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Oh my goodness, what a day! Right... did i over react? My son has been ill all week with a chest infection, he is 9. His dad and i split 4 years ago and he has never been consistent in our childrens lives since. He can be brill with them when he wants, then he will disappea... (474 words)

How can I keep other girls away from me ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - yo, I've been having problems with girls eyeing me and asking me out. i keep telling them I'm with some one already. how can i keep them from asking me out when I'm already with someone?... (37 words)

Was it an accidental text? Or was it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

- My Ex of 3 weeks(she dumped me after 6 month relationship) sent me a 'Smiley' text on it's own. Then, a few minutes later she sent another saying ' apologies, my baby nephew was playing with my phone'. We haven't really been in touch since the split and I didnt reply How ... (80 words)

He's become distant and has trust issues and it's effecting our relationship. Please I need advice

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok so i will start from the beginning. I've been dating a guy for the last 10 months, we met at work but due to his job in the forces he has been re-posted for the last 4 months and we have been long distance but still finding time to see eachother. but i recently went away ... (293 words)

I like her, she likes me and him and won't chose!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Alright so here is the deal: I started High School about 2 months ago and,as always for youngsters,I managed to get a crush on this girl. Luckily for me,she appareantly felt the same way about me. Things were going great but a bit fast,after only 2 weeks we basically saw each... (426 words)

My friends think I'm a slut, I'm just trying to get over him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - It's been a year since, i guss you could call it a fling ended. For the first 6 months I couldn't really talk to any guys let alone flirt, now it seems i can't stop flirting, but i'm not at all attracted or want anything to happen between the guys i flirt with. My friends ... (310 words)

Am I secretly attracted to my Teacher?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay so the other night i had a really weird dream about my teacher. I had a dream i had a crush on him and that i started making out with him. The weird part was after i woke up i felt kind of turned on? I know that's gross. And i Never ever dream about a teacher like that, ... (118 words)

I don't want this guy to think I'm one of the easy girls

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - He took my pin and number at a party like 6 months ago, and we talk on BBM. He called me once breifly. I find him attractive, and my feelings vary. Sometimes he puts ne off because he's so blunt and I find it rude at times. And other times he's quite sweet and gives nice advice ... (326 words)

I h ave given up everything for him and he cannot give anything back. Do I cut my losses?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4571 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - hi aunts and uncles, hope you can shed some lignt on my situation please. I met my partner 4 years ago, it was long distant at first but i moved in with him 2 years ago, left all my family and friends cause i wanted to be with him, he has children from his first marraige... (503 words)

I took the emergency 72 hour pill 4 weeks ago and I'm still bleeding?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I took the emergency 72 hour pill almost 4 weeks ago now and ive been bleeding ever since. Can someone tell me why and when will it stop? Ive started taking the mini pill and also had tablets prescribed by my doctor to stop the bleeding but they only make it lighter.... (96 words)

My Sister In Law obsession? But harmless? pls Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4567 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I never thought it would come to this point where i need to just unload it all on paper or typing so to speak. I am 26 i am single, and i've known her since i was a kid, about 8-9 years old, Now i will type it all as it has unfolded and things that have just made an impact o... (1007 words)

I'm single and I'm obsessing over a married woman. I want to get closer to her. Is this an emotional affair?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - A young woman recently transferred to my place of work. She's from another country, and extremely beautiful. I'm a single male in my mid-20s who works on the opposite side of the building. After her first or second week we just hit it off, started chatting and became instant ... (456 words)

We both had sex for the first time last night but he lost his erection!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for ten months today. And last night, we both gave each other our virginities. I am very tight though, it was our second attempt, But I finally had relaxed and found a position to get it in. I was in so much pain and he was scared of hu... (876 words)

Any tips please on how to get him back? I love him and want him back. he's been depressed.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 3 years dumped me 6 months ago and I am still not over it. We still talk now but online and I miss him like you wouldnt believe. He dumped me because he had became depressed as he had no idea what he was doing with his life and so on but now he is fine and h... (224 words)

My man is in a low mood and acting differently. I don't know what to do about it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - hi im hoping you can help me. about 3 months ago i met this man and things have been great, he,s everything i ever wanted and more. he left his wife 10 months ago and i am divorced and apart from my ex husband 8 years. we moved in together last couple of weeks ago and this last ... (145 words)

How do I make my ex regret his actions?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4567 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex dumped me out of the blue by text, after a year. He was rude and it was full of insults. I was a good girlfriend and never cheated. He turned everyone against me. How do I make him regret it? Do people like this ever do?... (48 words)

What can I do to look older so girls won't think a school boy is asking them out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hiy guys so i'm 18 but i really don't look it people always are shocked when i tell them i'm 18. i don't have much a problem when people say this but when it comes to girls i feel like they think its a young kid sort of just looking for them. i am 5ft6 not many spots on my... (136 words)

I want to get better at socializing and get a girlfriend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm 25, and I have Asperger's syndrome, and I'm enjoying life now. Compared to high school and my teenage years, it seems better (and that was almost a decade ago). However, I want to get better at socialising; although I can do so in work (I have a voluntary job 3 days a wee... (548 words)

After we had sex he wrote me off, now I'm going to see him again. How do I act?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, my best guy friend introduced me to his cousin we txted for a couple of days, we then met had sex and in the morning he kissed me goodbye and disappeared. I texted him thinking he might txt me back but he never did.... We then saw eachother again I was trying to avoid him ... (163 words)

Boyfriend going away for six months and I'm pushing him away when he hasn't even left yet

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im in bits. my boyfriend goes away next month to south africa for a placement and i cant even imagine being without him. we got together 6 months ago and he is leaving at the worst ever time ever...the run up to christmas. I feel like i keep pushing him away atm so i dont feel ... (126 words)

B/f took my virginity and now I don't hear from him. Was sex all he wanted?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I,ve been dating my boyfriend for nearly four months now and last weekend we had sex for the first time! Wel it was my first time as i was a virgin. Since then he hasn't really texted me much except for wedensday night where he asked me away for the weekend and also said he ... (117 words)

How can I tell my boyfriend that I've lost our baby?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

- I was 8 weeks pregnant until 2 days ago I lost the baby. Inside I feel so sad and desperately lonely. This is because I dont know how to tell my boyfriend I have lost our baby. I am in a LDR with my bf whos in the military. We have been together since January. I am to... (388 words)

Boyfriend stressed out, has pushed me away and I feel so rejected

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, Just wondering if I can have some advice please? I really don't know what to do. This past weekend my boyfriend has totally pushed me away, he is stressed with work and is off on a big business trip to London this week, which I know he is nervous about. I asked him if I... (130 words)

I feel blank about everything including my relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - (sorry in advance if this is post is incoherent) One day, I woke up feeling neutral/blank about my SO. This scared me, because things had been going great between us and I had no reason to feel this way. Just the day before, we spent the entire afternoon cuddling. We... (767 words)

He is just too big, but I love him, how can I please him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4467 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I won’t be shy, I’ve been around the block more than a few times and never have I come across anything like this. I met this totally great guy last year. He was friendly and we got talking. We’ve been dating for the last 9 months or so now. But when things began to heat up last... (344 words)

How do I get some balance, peace, more social activities and some friends into my far too busy and exhausting life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4572 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is a bit long but this vent is a long time coming. Please... try not to look at this as "another loner bitching about pointless shit". I'm really desperate right now and I need some advice. Thanks in advance. A little background before I get started: I have a boyfriend... (756 words)

Just a dream? my ex-girlfriend appeared in my dreams. What does this mean? Is there still a chance for me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - My ex-girlfriend dumped last year saying I had no future by doing odd job . After long time, last night, I had her in my dream in which she was saying that she would talk to me every Saturday on cellphone. What does it mean ? Does it mean she's missing me now or what? I am ... (78 words)

Why? He Suddenly changed his attitude, from being positive that things will turn out well to being negative about our chances

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I been in 3 yrs long distant relationship with this guy. He wasn't doing well in my country and left to go back to his own country. I visited him two times. we live half the planet away. it took 18 hrs to fly to him. We even plan to apply for work visa for me to go there. Actu... (189 words)

One week? silence. why hasn't he called me, text me, or asked to hang out again since our make-out session ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so I went on a group date with another X It started off as just hanging out and catching up but it ended as a date. Anyways.. I thought we hit it off realllly good. He was complimenting me all night, we were talking all night, and he pointed out little things that I did th... (252 words)

Will no contact work? To see if we miss each other or are better off ending the relationship? She is resistent to the idea.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Been dating same girl for 4.5 years now. We dont live together and dont have children. Over last 2 years we have grown apart. Today we had a long talk and we both agreed we need time apart from each other. We decided a month of no contact would be enough to see if we missed... (185 words)

Is it time to stop talking to my ex?. I still love him. What does he want from me? I am sick of him making me feel so jealous

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear readers I still love my ex boyfriend. Its been 10 months since we broke up. Lately he has been chatting with my cousin sister on a social network site. She is 3 years our junior and is more attractive than I am. He finds her to be an interesting person. Every time he ch... (191 words)

Why doesn't my best friend like to spend time with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello all! I Have a quick question ... My best friend lives about 10 mins away, she has a car and I don't @ the moment. Not until January, ( almost done saving up) I'm so happy I can sing And dance all day. But when I say lets go hang out or have fun she says ok but we never ... (226 words)

How can I be more fun with my g/f? She thinks I'm boring

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello I been running into a problem lately with my girlfriend and she thinks I'm boring. I don't know why I try to have fun she likes to sing dance and tell jokes(raunchy kind) and just be hyper and what not. I myself like to do these too maybe not as much as my girlfriend but ... (192 words)

B/f wants to move in together but I don't like the closeness he has with his female friend and I can't commit like this

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have written here before and I have recieved great answers, now I have a new question. My boyfriend of two years and I have had a few problems when in our relationship. In the beginning of our realtionship I found out that my mother had cancer and she had a 20% chance o... (462 words)

Am I horrible and selfish for not sleeping his way?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - things have been rocky with my boyfriend lately. Our last fight was on our anniversary-month. He came over surprise me with a flower, letter and chocolate and in turn I gave him letter and a key chain bear. He told me he had to wake up 7am in the morning for an pharmacy event ... (554 words)

He found out I used to be an escort and I don't want to lose him

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4496 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - He found out that I was an escort for 2 months, before our faithful and meaningful relationship. We love each other more than anything, because we are both each other's first love. I feel extremely sorry and disgusting for what I did and I wished the world never knows about it, ... (422 words)

How do we spend the night as a little more than just friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a girl joining me in a couple of nights to hang out as friends. Now my question is simple, how can I make it so we spend the night as a little more as friends? Women especially, what types of things can I do to woo her? I don't want it to be weird in any way, I want eve... (76 words)

Will lack of trust ruin everything? He keeps in regular touch with his ex's (plural). Our sex life sucks.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been in a relationship with a guy for a year. We've both been in serious relationships that were not that great in the past. We've discussed marriage/kids and he's even asked me my ring size. Our relationship is perfect, except there's been a lack of trust for some time ... (362 words)

Does he have commitment issues? Or do I wait longer for him to use the 'love' word?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I met my boyfriend last year, via a mutual friend. We were introduced online (3 way convo on msn) and after 1 month, we decided to meet up. We got together two months later and have, so far been a couple for nearly a year. my problem is this; after waiting 10 months, he still ... (404 words)

Do I keep going with her? Or give up on her until she is over her ex? Am I just the nice rebound guy to her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - ok so feel a bit strange about doing this but really need some advice. I'm 31, pretty normal guy. Have had a very normal relationship history up to now - few happy long term relationships, few shorter term things. My issue is with my current girlfriend of 6 months. It was all ... (454 words)

How can I get less nervous about sexual things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently, me and my bf started gradually doing more than just a soft kiss here or there. He's a gentle person (to me, at least xD) and he respects my boundaries, but I'm still nervous about these things, and talking about them, or hearing him talk about them, or telling him ... (129 words)

How do I instigate an maintain a long term serious relationship with a girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello There's this girl that I have been talking to for about 2 months already. She is wonderful and also a sweetheart, so you're wondering what's the problem here. The thing is that I have never been in a serious relationship before. I have only been with my ex girlfriends f... (284 words)

Girls around 18 how do you feel about thick black eyebrows? Should I trim them?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hey guys this question is mainly towards the girls around my age. I just came back from holiday and I've got a really good confidence boost just from relaxing. I have dark hair and big thick black eyebrows because I am black irish I sometimes get a bit teased about my ... (105 words)

My ex told me he's been chaste since our breakup. Do I have a right to be fuming, now I've found out that he has been having a connection with a girl? He lied to me.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - This is another question to the previous one I asked, my ex says he wants to keep in touch but doesn't...! Further update and new problem! He has made much more of an effort to be in touch, we were getting along fine as friends, this last week we have texted as friends every... (267 words)

He seemed pretty disappointed. Even though he got real close. Does this happen often? How do I give him support over this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, so today me and my boyfriend got to third base. It was clear what his intentions were after a while, and I didn't really mind, I guess.... Only problem is, I couldn't...You know...and he seemed pretty dissapointed, even though he got me real close.... Does this happen ... (103 words)