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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

He says he really loves me but is he over his ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear cupid, I've met the most amazing man and we just totally click, we have the same thoughts and same tastes in music and film. We are very easy going people and have been very open with eachother for the whole month we've been together. I love him and we believe that we are ... (178 words)

My teeth get in the way during bj's!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - How can I get better at blowjobs? I don't mind giving them my boyfriend says I,m good but he says My teeth get in the way. I understand where he's coming from but if i retracked its doesn't feel the same but if i don't I scratch his area. What do I do?... (53 words)

Please advise me!! We were best friends, more than friends & enemies, where is this going?!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4559 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Please help .. im so sick and tired of this! My bestfriend's boyfriend was the boy version of me and we began to talk and got to know each other more and more. I started to like him, the feelings grew stronger and i was pretty sure he liked me too. He dumped my bestfrie... (352 words)

Afraid my boyfriend will reject my bedroom fantasy suggestion

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - How willing are men to play out strange sexual fantasies that are suggested by their girlfriends? I want to do a little dress-up in the bedroom but I'm afraid he'll either completely reject the idea or in the moment, I won't be able to take it seriously. Help?... (48 words)

I need advice! Someone I thought was a dear friend has scammed me for 2.5years!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - can anyone advise me plaease. its taken me 2.5 years to realise the guy i thought was a dear friend has been using me and scamming me for money. i saved him from getting sacked and believed all his sob stories about being in financial trouble when all along hes been lying to me ... (136 words)

Any ideas for birthday present for my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm not sure what to get my boyfriend for his birthday next week. I bought him a voucher for a massage and already gave it to him, but I feel like that's not enough. I plan on baking him his favorite cookies and a little birthday cake to send in the mail with a card. I won't be ... (192 words)

Flatmate has had chance after chance to pull her weight around the house, she is even affecting my partners health but still won't change! What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My partner and I need some help with an unclean flatmate problem that has just gone too far. We don’t know what to do and need advice. The back-story is this. My partner and I have been together for over a year now, and we live in a flat with our friend. We’re all girls ... (1206 words)

I found out my husband fathered another child! What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4555 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm so confused. I've been married to my husband for nine years next month, and we have two boys together, who are five and three. We were a happy family up until last night when my husband told me that he'd fathered a child, another boy, with another woman. I didn't react, b... (165 words)

I don't feel like I am big enough!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - hello everyone...i dont feel like im big enough down there for my wife. she never complained but i just wish i was bigger in order to feel like im really satisfying her. and when she gives me bjs . it doesnt feel like shes having a hard time taking it all and it makes me feel ... (102 words)

He's cheated and given me an STD! How do I confront him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I have just found out my boyfriend of a year has been cheating on me and now I have a std I really loved him but now he has been cheating on me I know I have to break up with him how do I bring this up to him I know he has been cheating on me because I have only ... (120 words)

I haven't done anything different but this guy has just stopped contacting! Any ideas why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I met this guy about 7 months ago at the gym and he was very nice. We seemed to see eachother there alot and said hi then eventually he added me on fackbook and after a two hour long good conversation, we exchanged numbers. For the past two months we have been saying that we ... (285 words)

I am buying new home and the mortgage lender advised that my name does NOT go on the mortgage!!! Why?!?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Mortgage lender told my hubby to NOT put my name on the title of the home, just put it in his will. That does not sound right, is this normal advice? So once again, we are having relationship problems when I thought we had worked it all out. What do you think? Shall I let it g... (99 words)

Boyfriends holiday visit without me, but the ex girlfriend will be around!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid, My BF of almost a year is going home for the holidays without me (due to my work schedule). His ex is still hot for him and before me while they were broken up (3 years) they would hook up occasionally usually at the holidays. Since we’ve started dating s... (228 words)

After what has happened do I have the right to be mad?!?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - one night, my bf and i went out with another couple which the girl is my bff. and after bar we all expiremented a lil bit, we all never done this before. the first night was way akward, it was spose to be just me and my bff while the guys watched, but some how it turned into ... (216 words)

My life ambition is slipping away as I feel too old now to pursue my dreams...advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4559 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok guys... in advance, thanks if you can help me. I just have so many feelings that I think I'm going to burst, and I don't know where to start. This isn't exactly about a relationship but about a dream that means everything to me. I feel like it's too late for my dream eve... (757 words)

Opinions on my strange dream??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I had an odd dream last night. I dreamed I was preoccupied with daily tasks when I received a text message from a my current love interest. I saw who the message was from on my phone, but I never read the text in my dream. I never opened the text to read it because I was so ... (107 words)

I don't know if the guy I am dating considers me his girlfriend? How do I go about asking?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't know what to make of this guy I've been dating. It's been about 4 months. And so far we have both be just as willing and putting in the same effort. We meet up about once a week, go on a fun date, now and again twice a week. We started to be very coupley, and hav... (285 words)

I regret the moment I cheated and am broken hearted, I need help from open minded people about what I can do now?!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello all please don't hate or judge me for this as i hate myself enough i need urgent advice here is the story: I had a ex for 8yrs and had two great kids the relationship broke down and i left but supported my kids i met a new girl who helped me through a bad patch of my li... (437 words)

Is he giving signs that he likes me...?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4558 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - At work there's this guy who I've definitely started developing feelings for and a lot of other people seem to think he likes me too. Unfortunately there's a lot of red tape, he has a girlfriend and I have a long distance boyfriend. I'm not planning on breaking up with... (660 words)

He says he loves me very much, then says he would choose his wife over-how would you react?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been having a relationship with a married man for 5 yrs. I know he loves his wife and he won't leave her but he tells me at the same time he loves me very much and wants me and doesn't want to lose me. 2 days back, we had an argument about our relationship mos... (359 words)

Our son who has Asperger's syndrome is depressed because he thinks he's gay. How can we help?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age - For the past 2 weeks, our 23-year-old son, Simon* who has Asperger's syndrome has been acting differently - showing signs of angst/depression, smoking and drinking [soft drinks] to excess and putting on weight. We weren't sure why and asked him one night and he tearfully adm... (354 words)

Even though I love my new boyfriend to bits is it possible I still love my ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, just a short question. Even tho i have another boyfriend after my ex i think i still love him. I love my new boyfriend, but we have had some arguments. My ex hasnt spoke to me much since the break up he siad he still wanted to be friends, and he texted me a few times ... (86 words)

I'm planning a big move to be with my boyfriend and my father is telling me it's the biggest mistake of my life!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm planning on movine abroad and start living a life with my boyfriend. I'll be leaving in early spring, take 6 months to see how things go both work-wise and love-wise then, if things don't work out, get back here and get my old job back (already asked my boss and said I ... (220 words)

A thank you message!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey, well this is basically a thankyou message for alot of aunts and uncles who over this past year have answered some of my qeustions. I have had the worst year imaginable and without this website and some of the answers which have been giving to me then i can honestly say i ... (252 words)

I know guys aren't mind readers, but...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Just how much and how often should I have to discuss issues with my boyfriend? I feel like all I do is point out things I'd like him to do or not do in this relationship. And he's been open and understanding in all our discussions. I've been blessed ( and cursed) wit... (205 words)

Should I go to a family party, or the fan party for my favourite band that wont happen again until the year after?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm not sure which party to go to next march,as they are both on the same weekend.one is a fan party for my favourite band in london,and the other is a party for my aunt and uncle's 50th wedding anniversary.i went to another fan party for the band in london this year and i've ... (154 words)

She seems to be using me to break up with other guys, does she really need me? Or is she messing me around?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - i met a beautiful girl at a family party at someones house one night.....then on, my life changed. We facebook each other to the extreme and like it alot. I love her company on fb and we flirt quite alot as well. The problem is.....she was in a relationship with a guy for 3 ... (247 words)

Is she being honest about my performance in the bedroom?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months, i have a really small and thin penis and don't think i pleasure her when we have sex. she has told me she has had some huge penises before and her last boyfriend was the biggest she has ever had but tells me I'm the best f**k she has ... (66 words)

He says he wants a baby with me but sits there in my house 5 nights a week without even contributing to the costs when he knows I am struggling!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everybody i'm basically very confused in my relationship and need some honest answer's, i don't know if im just expecting too much or am i being taken for granted. So im a single mum of two school children ive always been pretty Independent and am proud that i put myself t... (549 words)

Why would my girlfriend say that her ex was "just too huge"?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4556 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) age 41-50 - I've been going out with my GF for about a year, and we're discussing marriage. I've done quite well in my career, and some of the things my GF has said have given me the definite impression that this is quite important to her in a potential husband. So, I said to her a wh... (348 words)

I fear I only love my wife as a friend, and to make things worse I have cheated on her with my ex....who do I really want?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am in my mid 30's. I have been married for 18 months to a woman I have been with for several years. Our relationship is fine but I fear I only love her as a friend. We have no kids. We rarely have sex and when we do it feels very unatural. I feel content and safe with her ... (211 words)

How can I show her that she can be vulnerable around me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Ive been with my girlfriend over 7 months, however I told her how I felt about 10 months ago but uni commitments meant that we didn’t become a couple til 7 months ago She was a family friend as she used to ride horses with my sister who is a couple of years younger ... (759 words)

Girlfriend sleeping in new male flatmates bed, when I am stuck abroad!

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24 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I am seeking advice in regards to my girlfriend. I am Irish and 21 and she is Spainish and 26.We have been together for a year, and I moved to Spain with her three months ago. Seen that the economic situation is shyte at the moment she failed to get a job here again an... (712 words)

Do all girls use emotional blackmail to get things done for them?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) age 36-40 - My girlfriend emotionally blackmails me that If I don’t do this or that , she will dump me. It has been happening for the last 8 months and we have been together since April 2006. She also loves me and three days back, when I came back from office, I stopped on the door and ... (125 words)

Could this be love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Could this be Love? iv'e been seeing this guy for about 3yrs, he has always told me he likes me lots and lots and lots. we only see each other. we get on fine everything is great and we don't argue to much, he calls me everyday and texts me morning and nite and sometimes during ... (177 words)

Lots of questions about sex, please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hey i am suresh from india !! i have many questions first of all !! 1) my penis size only 5 inch long so is it normal size or not ? 2)can we increase our penis size ? 3)i am very fond of sex i masturbate twice a day !! is it normal ? 4)whenver i see a girl or lady... (93 words)

She comes and goes as she pleases! How can I understand her behaviour better?

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24 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay. So, I've known a (female) friend of mine for quite some time now. Perhaps as much as four years. We've been friends, sure not much of a problem there. But nowadays, things seem to be getting stuck in a haze. She affectionately calls me 'nii-sama' which is Japanese for ... (289 words)

Does he want me as his girlfriend, or does he want no strings attached?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i had known this guy for 4 months now. It all started during our 3 month volunteer duty. At first, i find him to be someone so quiet, serious and mysterious. People on the place where we both volunteered tried to pair and tease us. Soon we started exchanging our numbers and ... (282 words)

Where is my love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4554 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, i am looking for advice. I am 24 years old and I am a virgin . I am a very social person I have no problems talking to women I actually like it. I'm not bad looking and I have a good job. If I were a girl I would say I'm a good catch. But for some reason it just isn't ... (211 words)

Boyfriend went to the movies with another friend without me knowing!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, My boyfriend is 22 and am 20 we are doing long distance relationship,we are both going to different universities!I love him and he loves me.we have been together for a little over a year now! My boyfriend has a way of doing certain things that I can never unde... (435 words)

Does he want me or my body?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I’m having trouble figuring out if this guy likes me or just wants me for my body. So I’ve known this guy for about 3 years, but we have never really started hanging out till the beginning of this school semester. We go to the same college and he’s 19 (almost a month older ... (380 words)

I assume this is nothing more than him just flirting with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F) - I will try to keep this as short as possible. I have a male friend (acquaintance) I have known for 6 years. I see him about once a week maybe less and text and speak on the phone with him from time to time once a week. Over the last year the following has happened: P... (498 words)

He has told me he is bi and he knows I'm gay. Should I tell him how I feel?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm in love with my best friend. We have been friends since second grade and I've liked him since sixth. I think he likes me too but he already has two people he is interested in, both girls. I don't want to lose the friendship if my observation is wrong. I would be devastated ... (92 words)

Are these signs a stranger likes you?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - there is a guy in my school and he has been staring at me for few weeks? the first time, i caught him staring at me from across the room, so i stared right back for who knows how long (but pretty long), and he looked away first. i don't think much of it afterward, but i caught ... (648 words)

Is it okay to experiment and will a girl mind if her virgin boyfriend had a bj from someone else?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Im a virgin and for awhile ive been wanting to get a blowjob. Is this okay for me to do because ive always wanted to be in a real relationship before I started to experiment with sex. Will it be okay for me to experiment a little since im single and can any girls tell me if ... (78 words)

He's like a jack in the box..popping in and out of my life, constantly. How do I deal with this guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I met "busy bee" a year ago, we hit it off right away and the chemistry was just wow. at first he seemed excited i was excited he was my first of everything, my first real explosive kiss, we connected!! we would link up here and there, I thought he had lost interest but he ... (343 words)

I love him but hate his friends! What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I love my boyfriend and I know he is the one for me but I don't like his group of friends and it could potentially ruin us if I don't know how to communicate my feelings with him. I am in a blossoming loving LDR with a man I love and met through a mutual friend. I have visited ... (677 words)

I found out that my girlfriend was talking to another guy, on the phone? What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend was working and a guy that she use to hangout with called her and they were on the phone for 20 min or so. Should I get mad at her? Plus she was ignoring my phone calls. What do I do ... (45 words)

Meeting my online date in 2 weeks and I am nervous! Any advice?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4543 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Just to set things up: I'm 18, just graduated high school in the spring and am now in college. I'm a gay guy and a virgin. Okay, here's the thing, there are no remotely gay people at my school. None. I've been to all the LGBT club meetings and I am the only guy there. I rec... (245 words)

My biggest fear is being cheated on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I haven't had a boyfriend yet, but my greatest fear is being cheated on. I guess it's because growing up my dad cheated on my mom and even went as far as to introduce me to one of his mistresses. But my greatest fear is being cheated on and hurt. I believe cheating is a ch... (106 words)

I haven't had a first kiss yet?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 18 years old and have yet to have a first kiss let alone a first boyfriend. I do feel really bad about it especially since most of my friends have fwb's and hookup buddies. I wanted to wait until I have a boyfriend to have my first kiss, but I'm beginning to think I... (76 words)

Am I reading too much into this guy's behavior's?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4531 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I started getting weird vibes from a man at work. He is married with two kids. We work together and keep it professional. I noticed that when people are not looking, he will wink at me with a smile. He did this twice. If I need something that involves his department, he goes ... (88 words)

Does he consider me girlfriend material?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4559 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello Cupid! I've been good friends with this guy for several months, and we talk/hangout pretty often. We have a lot in common (not to mention that we are from the same state), but deep down I have a crush on him. Even though we have this connection, I'm unsure about how... (221 words)

How do I get over the guy I love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - The summer before last I dated a guy and fell in love with him even though I knew he was moving half way across the country (I live in Canada so that's really far). Needless to say, after he moved I couldn't bear the long distance thing so I broke up with him. It was unbearable ... (123 words)

Could this be a game she plays? Is this just her setting me up for heart break?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Thanks for everyone who has taken the time to answer this. Ok so I'm almost 19 year old male student in college. I started talking to this beautiful woman who I met in the computer lab (23 by the way) at my college. We started talking and I got to know a lot about her. S... (435 words)

He's my emplyee and the apple of my eye. Can we be more than that? Do you think that it's all wishful thinking on my part?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I recently hired a new male employee (I am a gay male) who is 16 years younger than me. We have a great relationship at work and have even hung around together after work on a few occasions. He knows that I am gay, and single, and he is well over 18, so this is not an ... (365 words)

How do I ensure we do NOT break up? Between school, homework, and work, he doesn't have any time for me anymore..

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello, I've been with D for seven months. He just started college and I'm still in high school and he barely has any time for me anymore and I'm getting fed up of being so lonely all the time. We both love each other very much and I do NOT want to break up with him. Please... (63 words)

When my ex said "I met a nice guy", was that her way of trying to make me jealous? Or does she really want me to leave her alone?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So I recently am going through a break that happened about 2 months ago or so. I was with this girl for about 8 months and I still miss her. The other night I got drunk (yes stupid) and texted her. I guess I just wanted to text her when I was sober but never really got the ... (223 words)

Since starting university, I go from missing my B/f terribly and wanting nothing more than to be with him to wanting to ring him up and end things, several times a day!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly two and a half years. We're very close (I consider him my best friend as well as boyfriend), love spending time together and still find each other just as attractive as we did when we first started going out. I have recently ... (240 words)

Should I end all ties? It will upset me. But my FWB guy wants no commitment.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

24 October 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I've been friends with benefits with this guy i've known since school for like 3 months now. We text each other constantly and are always talking to each other. We see each other about 3/4 times a week and when we're not with each other we are texting. We told each ot... (170 words)