There were many fights over the years. I'm wondering if we are supposed to be together?
Q. We have been together for 8.5 years. Engaged for 1.5. We were young when we got together. The first few years of our relationship were constant arguments through my own insecurities and, honestly, I think I enjoyed the drama of it. My mental health ...
A. 16 February 2021: Ok so you had some problems in your past with your partner and things were not as rosy as you would have liked them to be.
I think its important now to appreciate being happy in the here and now, and look forward to a happy future, and stop loo... (read in full...)
Is this normal for someone who stopped speaking and just block you on one thing and keep on other stuff ?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm not really asking for help just seeing If anyone else has had this happen I was with this guy for 5 months last year who I found out he has a trust issue and holds a barrier up if he gets too close to someone Anyway cut long s...
A. 15 February 2021: I think life to short for stupid games, and being in relationships with people that leave you dangling and wondering what the hell is going on.
Delete him and move on with your life. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks that flirting with and kissing other women isn't cheating
Q. My boyfriend believes that him flirting with and kissing other women is not cheating. I’ve tried talking to him but he gets reactive and angry. I feel it is cheating so I refrain from engaging with other men, but his perspective has me in knots. I’m ...
A. 15 February 2021: No this is certainly not ok, you know this, and he also now this.
I'm sorry to say OP, but he is making a fool out of you, he is having his cake and eating it. And lying to other people about his status. I wonder if its just kissing and flirting... (read in full...)
A troubled relationship and I don't know what to do anymore
Q. All I do is cry. I feel stuck in a relationship. I've tried to give it my all. I'm settled in my career and he isn't. So he doesnt want to get married yet despite knowing that's on top of my agenda. I told him recently that I'm emotionally ...
A. 15 February 2021: It seems like the two of you are a million miles apart in terms of what you both want out of a relationship.
I think that the end of the month will transpire in to the month after, then the month after that, and on and on it goes with you wait... (read in full...)
Is this appropriate conversation between a father and daughter?
Q. do you think its appropriate for dad to tell his adult daughter in her twentys that he use to change her diapers and when he gets older she can change his ...
A. 15 February 2021: I agree with the other aunts here, I think he said this in jest, and I don't think there was anything inappropriate here. ... (read in full...)
Should I get to know him again? I was not attracted to him in the past
Q. Someone who i used to speak to has recently got in contact with me again ,when we used to be friends , he said he was attracted to me i never felt the same way . Shall i get to know him again ? i try to meet people to take my mind of things but in ...
A. 11 February 2021: Firstly if you never felt the same way about him the first time around, then chances are you won't a second time around.
Also meeting him to try to take your mind off of someone you are attracted to is a really bad idea, and I would refrain ... (read in full...)
I want to date and yet just don't feel interested
Q. So, I have been single for 7 months now and I have thought it’s about time I put myself back there and I decided to go on Tinder... However, I feel as if I’m going through a weird stage “trying to date again”.. without sounding rude (I’m not a ...
A. 11 February 2021: I think these current times are trying for everyone, and dating especially is difficult, because even if you meet someone you can't meet up anyway. I suspect that there are more people trying internet dating, people who would probably not have tried ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband. Do I tell him or just let it pass?
Q. What do I do? Of late while my hubby has been neglecting me, I have been having increasing attention from other men in my social circles. The other day, I drank a bit too much when in a party. There was this younger man who seemed irresistible. We...
A. 11 February 2021: Firstly the UK is in totally lock down, all pubs, bars, gyms, and social events are currently banned, but you still managed to go to a party and pick up a young dude and sleep with him, well done you.
As for telling your husband, well that's r... (read in full...)
I'm having a difficult time getting over the breakup
Q. I'm going through a really tough breakup and I'm trying to figure out why. My ex of a year wasn't great to me. He frustrated me more often than not, he didn't go out of his way for me, couldn't communicate well and made me feel VERY insecure and ...
A. 9 February 2021: Just reading your post, the long list of things that you had to say about your ex, there was not one thing positive about him.
By his own admission he told you he was selfish, lazy, and was not a good partner, his Mum also told you the same thi... (read in full...)
My ex treats me like a friend with benefits
Q. When you and your guy break up after years of being in a relationship. Why would the ex boyfriend say he wants to be friends, yet when HE wants sex then he’s all over me trying to get some and that’s ok to happen. But other times when he’s over my ...
A. 9 February 2021: He is your ex for a reason, the relationship diden't work out, so when you split up you should have accepted it was over and moved on with your life.
He will keep using you as a friends with benefits thing, being all nice to you to get what he ... (read in full...)
MMF Threesome
Q. We are married 20 years. My wife was very sexual before we dated and after, she is a high sex person and very good at it. She shared with me that she wants to try a MMF Threesome. She knows I'm straight as an arrow. The other guy would most likely ...
A. 8 February 2021: Like the other aunts have highlighted, I agree that going ahead with this fantasy will lead to complications in your relationship.
It kind of an excuse to be unfaithful, but the only difference is that your there to see it.
I like the way you... (read in full...)
My LDR husband is asking for $4000
Q. Hi and thanks I wrote here before about my husband. I received alot of good advice. So we have been married for 4 years. We don't live together yet. He doesn't live where I do, so I was working on his visa. We have spent alot of time tog...
A. 5 February 2021: Yes I think that you received great advice the first time around.
Everyone has pretty much offered the same advice as last time.
So this time he is asking for 4K, you would be bonkers to pass on this sort of money to him. He is coming out wi... (read in full...)
My husband's small penis doesn't satisfy me
Q. I have been married for 7 years and 2mths. I love my husband, but as of lately, the size of his penis bothers me. In fact, for quite sometime I wished he had a larger penis. He has been the only man I have ever had sex with, he makes me orgasm ...
A. 5 February 2021: You say you feel nothing pleasurable, then say he make you orgasm several times during sex. I'm sorry, but is having an orgasm 4 times during sex not pleasurable?.
That's probably more time's that a woman climaxes during sex with someone with a l... (read in full...)
Is it possible to rekindle a relationship with an ex?
Q. Does anyone have any advice on winning back an ex boyfriend? I truly loved him and we both had minor bumps throughout the relationship but ultimately parted ways. At first he seemed hesitant about the possibility of it working in the future but then ...
A. 5 February 2021: Not sure how long the both of you have been apart, or why you both parted ways.
We don't know about his situation now, or if he is in another relationship, or even married.
I know you say it would be healthier and more successful down ... (read in full...)
Dating a good guy but I have trust issues
Q. I have really bad trust issues and don't know how to get over them. I met my partner just over two years ago he's in his 40s,supportive, caring, works hard, there is a 18 years age gap between us am younger so tbh great at helping sort problems...
A. 5 February 2021: I think if your having trust issue's with your new relationship due to something that occurred in a previous relationship then maybe your not quite ready to be embarking on this new romance.
I always say that trust is one of the most importan... (read in full...)
Can a physical attraction develop over time?
Q. I've been single for a long time and spent A LOT of this time dating (as in a different date every weekend). I think it's because I'm waiting for sparks and fireworks and butterflies right away, which my friends say is unrealistic. I have dated a ...
A. 5 February 2021: You both seem to get along, and by your own admission you say he has some amazing qualities that you would look for.
The sparks, and the lust that you describe are all good in the beginning, but this does not last forever and fades over time.
... (read in full...)
How to attend job interview without boss knowing
Q. Hi friends. I have posted here before and I find users here very kind and honest with answers. I want to ask advise about going for job interview. My company has very strict policy. I must apply for leave 4 weeks in advance. Office hours no...
A. 22 January 2021: Probably taking sick day for an interview is not the best of idea's.
I think a bit of forward planning is needed here. So book a week off or a fortnight in four weeks time to keep in with company policy.
During the run up to the holiday you ... (read in full...)
Ex got upset and called me insensitive. Do I owe him more?
Q. My ex had been dealing with a lot after our breakup and after a week of not talking he reached out asking to get dinner because he needed some company after a tough week (death of his family member). I said I couldn’t but that I’m sorry he’s dealing ...
A. 22 January 2021: No I don't think you are bad for not caring more and you certainly don't owe him anything.
If you were still an item and you did these things then he might have a point, but you are no longer in a relationship with him. He broke it off, he ended... (read in full...)
I'm crushing on my chiropractor and want to know more about him
Q. Dear Cupid. I see a chiropractor once or twice a month. Last year I was going but stopped because I fancied my chiropractor, eventually I started back up this year and I still fancy him. He seems like a really nice guy and my type, very chill...
A. 22 January 2021: I would air on the side of caution with regards to wanting to take things further with your chiropractor as we don't really know anything about him, or his situation.
For all we know he could be happily married with children, He might be gay, he ... (read in full...)
Do his comments suggest he’s not into me
Q. So the guy I like constantly makes comments to me about not liking breasts. He says that he doesn’t like big breasts and ‘more than a handful is a waste’. This is clearly targeted at me because I have really big breasts, is this simply his way of t...
A. 22 January 2021: I take it you have known this guy for a considerable amount of time, and often exchange banter of a sexual nature.
I say this because to let someone know your not all that interested by way of mentioning a personal body part is very weird indeed, ... (read in full...)
Why did a married man with a child on the way date me? I had no idea he wasn't single
Q. I just want to make sure I'm not crazy. I dated this guy for about a year and we really hit it off. We split and remained in touch. I will admit I still liked him. I moved away and came back in town he told me he had a girlfriend so I backed off. ...
A. 22 January 2021: When you brought it up to him about why diden't he tell you he was married, why diden't he tell you he was having a child, i assume you received to response from him about these questions?.
There really is only one possible answer to these qu... (read in full...)
How do I respond without putting him off? I'm not sure if he just wants a casual relationship
Q. I met a guy at work around a year ago for a few weeks - we saw each other around a few times. Nothing more too it. He added me on Facebook the other week and we have really hit it off , chatting non stop, very interested in my life etc ,obviou...
A. 18 January 2021: Maybe just take it with a pinch of salt and just be accepting of the fact that he has had a couple of bad relationships and want's to take it slow.
Maybe he is airing on the side of caution because he know's you work together and is thinking... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is lying to me about something so inconsequential but because she's lying I want to end things
Q. Hi, This feels so stupid but please read the whole thing. I dislike social media and it annoys me that its done this however it has caused an issue for my relationship. Through out the relationship my girlfriend of 7 months has mentioned the na...
A. 18 January 2021: This is the thing about social media, it has been the ruin of many relationships.
She is heavily into social media, and your not. Certain media sites are all about commenting on other people photo's sharing likes etc.
It might very well be thi... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about him but he has a baby on the way and I think our friendship is over
Q. There's this guy I used to see ages ago and it just didn't work out romantically but we decided to he friend. However, he's got with a new girl and I've found myself being pushed away and he says he can't talk to me anymore because there's mistrust ...
A. 18 January 2021: I'm sorry if i come across as being blunt, but i really think that you need to let him go.
From your post its clear that you still have romantic feelings for him.
When you were together you never worked out romantically, so chances are you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's comment have me wondering if I want to continue relationship
Q. I am in my early 50s and my boyfriend is 5 years younger. We both have grown up kids. He is financially much better off than me. He has successful couple businesses, owns few houses. I think his worth is couple millions dollars. His living habit...
A. 18 January 2021: If you are happy with him in other areas then stick it out and stay, its just about how you feel really. But never stay with someone just because you don't want to be alone.
You are happy with what you have achieved, you are happy with where yo... (read in full...)
We are being kicked out and need new place to live but I no longer want his mom to live with us
Q. Long story short I have been with my boyfriend since I was 16 years old. We had our daughter at 21 and I moved in with him and his mom. First 2 years I didn't work and took care of my daughter. For 5 years now I have been working and paying rent and ...
A. 18 January 2021: Its understandable that you want your freedom, for it to be just your boyfriend and your daughter as a family unit.
Maybe the landlord wanting his house back is the ideal opportunity to set up home with out his mother.
Have you both done your h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said he didn't like our fighting and needed to think about it. What does that mean?
Q. My bf and I have had an amazing relationship the past year. Everything is great besides our arguments here and there. We had our first big fight the other night leading to me leaving his place to go home and cool off. The next few days without me ...
A. 16 January 2021: I think maybe at the point where he said you should not be together right now, that he needs time to think, this was the point where i feel the relationship should of ended.
I think this is what he was getting at, but instead of saying its over... (read in full...)
My long distance husband keeps asking for money
Q. My husband and I have been together 4 years. For the most part it's pretty good except for money. He relies on me too much to take care of things financially. I should mention hes been back and forth we don't live together as a married couple ...
A. 14 January 2021: I agree with the other Aunts that have answered here. I was reading your post and the word scam just kept leaping out at me with every line I read.
I would not mind betting that the money that you are sending him is not going towards or paying f... (read in full...)
Should I keep their affair a secret?
Q. My ex-wife had an affair with one of our best friends. It was very physical, and they exchanged a lot of sex talk and intimate photographs of each other which i still have. When i discovered the affair i copied as much as i could as it went alo...
A. 14 January 2021: I can't see how it would benefit you in any way by divulging this secret.
If she was your wife then maybe so, but as she is your ex wife i really don't see the point in saying anything, you would unnecessarily destroy a happy family.
I think... (read in full...)
Does anyone else have experience with anyone with narcissistic rage?
Q. Thank you for any help offered. People are busy so it is appreciated. I have a friend who I have been or now had been friends with for several years. She has been through a bad time of late having lost custody of her daughter due to mental h...
A. 13 January 2021: I think that the worst mistake you made was engaging with her in these debates, giving her ammunition to use against you.
She sounds like a nasty bit of work, i'm surprised you were friends with her to begin with. Its hardly surprising she lost... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's strange actions have made me totally lose interest in him
Q. Okay.... I started dating this guy for a year. He lives at home with his Parents he’s 30 he has a son and he’s going through a divorce. This weekend I went to his house. I saw a lot that I didn’t see before. His mom babies him and he just h...
A. 13 January 2021: I don't think that you are over thinking things, you have witnessed stuff that to be honest are red flags.
Its wonder how he was ever married at all, from your post it is no suprise he is going through a divorce, sounds like his wife ran for the ... (read in full...)
Male compliments female co-worker. Does he feel he can trust her not to take it out of context?
Q. Okay, speaking hypothetically here. You have a male and female who are coworkers. They are friendly but not friends. They don’t hang out outside of work, but they are the ones who turn to each other with work problems and sometimes personal issues. ...
A. 13 January 2021: i'm not sure what kind of answer that you are trying to obtain here, Are you wanted people to say yes he fancy's you, and is attracted to you because he commented on an item of your clothing?. You clearly fancy this guy, and want to know if its ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has too much time on her hands and its driving me crazy
Q. Hi there I wrote before about my girlfriend always wanting to talk on the phone and text. I had a discussion with her and she said she would try not to be so clingy. Unfortunately that didn't go far. Today she said I don't message much a...
A. 11 January 2021: I think you did the right thing, from the limited information that we know about you and your girlfriend, it does not sound like much of a relationship.
She is providing you with statistics on how many times you have called during a certain ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend finally proposed after 15 years and now I'm not sure if I want to marry him
Q. Please could I get some advice on my love life? I'm so torn, basically i've waited years for my boyfriend to propose, in fact i'd more or less given up on the idea and emotionally exited the relationship but now he's suddenly decided he wants...
A. 11 January 2021: I think that the worst thing you, or anyone can do for that matter is stay with someone because your scared of leaving and starting again.
I think this relationship is done, and I think that in your hear of hearts you already know this. By your ... (read in full...)
He proposed I said yes but I don't want to marry him!
Q. My boyfriend of a year proposed. I said yes because his family was right there. I don’t want to marry him and I’m freaking out because I’m not married. He’s just not what I want....I don’t know what to do . He’s also still married to his first wif...
A. 11 January 2021: I feel that all you can be is is brutally honest and tell him you don't want to marry him. Also i don't think that this relationship is for you, your heart is somewhere else, so step up to the plate and finish it.
He is still married, he should n... (read in full...)
I feel like the man who left his wife for me is regretting it. Can anyone tell me what to do?
Q. My married boyfriend left his wife for me. We were having an affair for 8 years prior. He moved in with me in November. But instead of feeling happy about this new beginning like I am, he acts hot and cold. One day he is loving and attentive and the ...
A. 11 January 2021: Most married men never leave their wives, and like the thrills and excitement of having a mistress on the side slipping of to play when ever they can.
He had this excitement for 8 years, so now he has moved in with you the fun is now over and... (read in full...)
Trouble with a friend who borrows money and won't pay it back
Q. Hello So, my friend seems to have money issues. I don't mind helping out sometimes but recently I found out after I borrowed 200.00 a mutual friend also gave 200.00 so I sort of expected mine back. However, she said shes broke and needs it. A...
A. 10 January 2021: I think you are going to have to put this one down to experience and never do this again.
You have helped her, given her money. And she repays you bt acting insulted that you want it back.
You are not her cash machine, she needs to stop sp... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend of 8 years cheating on me again or am I paranoid?
Q. I've been with boyfriend since 2013. We are now both in our 30s. We moved in together pretty quickly. I found out a year into the relationship that he had been lying to and had been chatting to girls online. I told him I was leaving to start my life ...
A. 8 January 2021: He is a pathological liar, he is completely incapable of telling the truth, he is using lies to cover up lies, and is manipulating you leading you to believe that its all your fault.
I'm not going to beat around the bush OP, the bottom line her... (read in full...)
If I had the money I'd just grab my passport and leave my husband
Q. It's hard for me to admit this, because I have worked hard at my marriage, but I'm not happy. And that's an understatement. My husband has serious anger issues that he doesn't want to deal with. I understand why he is like that, I mean, what I w...
A. 7 January 2021: This pandemic is not easy for anyone. But to be in the pandemic, with a stressed verbally abusive partner is very difficult.
I think that you have come to the realisation that this relationship is over.
Now you have got to start thinking a... (read in full...)
My husband wants to share me with a friend
Q. my husband wants to share me (wife) with a male friend but when he ask me how far my friend can go I shyly tell him "touch my leg" then a little more advanced " rub my thighs" of which he says " you really don't want him to go that far do you?" ...
A. 7 January 2021: No good will come of bringing a third party in to your sexual relationship, it will be the cause of nothing but problems.
You start by saying that your husband wants to share you with his male friend. His reply to you when you say that this oth... (read in full...)
Should I Leave or am I to blame?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I had insecurities in the beginning but I worked on them and haven't has issues like that for at least 2 years. He first became extremely angry (name calling and violence) in the beginning and said that I had ...
A. 7 January 2021: He really is the perfect boyfriend most of the time?. So in between the bouts of anger, violence and making you feel like shit he is the perfect guy.
By your own admission he is angry, shouts, name calls, and is violent. These are major red flag... (read in full...)
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