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How do I get him comfortable so he can tell me how he feels?

Q.   Hi! i need some help. i am in highschool and i love my friend. we have been friends for about a year though we don't talk too much. we are both in the closest. he is gay, please just believe me when i say that hes gay. after about 4 months of knowi...

A.   21 December 2010:  If you guys are friends, it wouldn't hurt for you to ask him to hang out with you. Just to friends being friends. That way, you guys can be around each other more often and the awkward tension between you two may be uplifted. But sooner or late... (read in full...)

I feel like my life is over before it's even begun

Q.   This isnt really a relationship question as such but the relationship aspect is part of a larger problem. this is probably going to be quite a long question im afraid. The problem is that ever since i left high school i feel like my life has been...

A.   27 November 2010:  I'm sorry you feel like this. I wish I could help but the truth is, I'm going through exactly what you're going, maybe worse. The only difference is that I'm 16 and gay.... (read in full...)

What constitutes actually losing your virginity?

Q.   There are many questions posted about losing virginity on this board? But I want to know exactly what it means by losing virginity. (1)Penetration of the penis into the vagina, with the result that the woman's hymen is broken. For both the mal...

A.   16 October 2010:  Any type of penetration, weather anal or vaginal= Loss of virginity. ... (read in full...)

Am I weird or do I have problems dealing with people?

Q.   I am in my early 20's and a university student. I moved away from home 2yrs ago and left my friends back there so i do not really have friends. i have people i can hang out with, laugh and chat with but no proper friend i can say am going to see ...

A.   19 June 2010:  Haha Wow. I was reading this and I'm like that's exactly me..except for a couple details. But I don't know if you have relationship problems..I don't know if I have relationship problems but I sometimes think I do. But I know how you feel. You say ... (read in full...)

I'm so shy that I can't open up to my boyfriend

Q.   Hi,i made up with my ex recently and the problem is that i dont feel him as much as i used to but he's deeply in love with me.we send each other lovey dovey texts and he calls me daily.yesterday he told me that he loves me via phone conversation but ...

A.   19 June 2010:  Don't be shy! He's YOUR boyfriend..there's nothing to be shy about, he loves you and he's all yours. :) Express your love to him. Just be confident and tell him what he means to you. Be affectionate, I know it's hard for some people but you can do ... (read in full...)

She kissed another guy

Q.   my gf and i have been dating for 16 months and she met his guy a few days ago a her summer theatre thing an now he wont stop bgging her about a kiss and a couple days ago he stared tuching her like on the waist and butt and this pissed me off. i ...

A.   19 June 2010:  What is a relationship? A GOOD relationship is mainly defined by how it makes you feel. Do you feel loved; do you feel respected; are you happy? It doesn't sound like it. It seems like this girl thinks she has you on lock...and she keeps toying ... (read in full...)

I don't get turned on by girls but I want to get married some day in the future! What is going on with me?

Q.   Ok so im 13 and im soooo worried of being gay! I dont get attracted to girls only guys (i get crushes on girls but im sexually attracted to boys), and it doesnt help that i go to an all boys school, i really dont want to be gay (not that i have ...

A.   23 May 2010:  Haha You sound just like me when i was younger. Listen, yes you're only 13, it could just be hormones. Everyone goes through a phase like this. But let time pass, you'll soon know exactly what you're interested in as you grow older. If you do turn ... (read in full...)

We both want to keep our sexual relationship a secret but his sister saw us!

Q.   I am 25 years old male. My friend, Danny, and I are Bi-curious and we both want to keep our sexual relationship a secret. When we were at his house, we both undress each other and started making love. Next thing we notice, his door opens up an...

A.   23 May 2010:  Yes, have Danny talk to his little sister. I'm sure she's old enough to know about sex and sexuality. She'll understand. Just be calm and explain to her that she wasn't meant to see what she saw and that she should keep it to herself. Explain to ... (read in full...)

How do I ask my friend out when she's already dating a guy I know?

Q.   I met a girl at uni a few months ago (on whom I previously had a crush) and I really like her. I'm usually kind of superficial in that I'm generally only attracted to girls who are 'visually' attractive regardless of their personality (not to say ...

A.   23 May 2010:  Well you may think he seems out of her league...but she thinks differently. She's with him. I'm sorry but you can't really do anything, she's already in a relationship. You've already missed your chance....unless you're a home wrecker,which is a no ... (read in full...)

Lost love needs to be found

Q.   me an my dude got into a fight i put my hands on him cause i was drinking he left im in cleveland he went back to memphis he wont call me he left everything he owned up here even his i.d. i need to get ahold of him an let him know how much i love ...

A.   23 May 2010:  First, you need to find a way to get through and get a hold of him. Then tell him how you truely feel.You said you haven't seen him in 2 i don't really know if and how you're gonna get contact with him. You said he won't call you..have ... (read in full...)

Hes got a gf, is there no chance now? (I'm gay)

Q.   Im so confident, and comfortable with myself. BUT I fall in love to easily. Its starting to hurt. Theres one boy. Everyone says were cute together. I love him and I flirt with him all the time. But just yesterday he got a gf. Is there any chance for ...

A.   9 May 2010:  Agreed. Take these aunts' advice. Don't fall for straight guys. There's no chance. And anyway, you're 13-15. Go play some video games. You'll have plenty of time to deal with relationships and love. Good luck -A.E ... (read in full...)

I really like him but he seems to like my friend instead

Q.   Im quite young but really mature. I can sort out my friends lives easy. Im fully ‘out‘ so everyone knows so guy friends are rare, but theres this boy. I love him, he sorta likes me (in a friend way) and everyone says we look cute together. At first ...

A.   9 May 2010:  Well I'm sorry to tell you..but if he's straight...there's nothing you can do. If you're gay, DON'T FALL FOR STRAIGHT GUYS. I know it's hard sometimes, but you'll just end up with heartache.You're 13-15 so you'll find other gay guys down the road ... (read in full...)

Should I support my friend with her current b/f or tell her of my feelings for her?

Q.   This is about a girl whom I consider as my soul-mate. We have been friends for about 5 years now.Ironically when she was in same city as mine for first 3 years, I got in touch with her very little.For last 1 year or so, since when she went abroad,we ...

A.   9 May 2010:  Well.. you don't want to get in between her and her boyfriend. You say she is drifting away from her bf at the time, so my advise is don't do anything irrational. If she breaks up with her boyfriend, then go ahead and tell her how you feel. But if ... (read in full...)

FInding gay guys and picking them up!

Q.   The thing is I am gay! and I've been wanting a boyfriend for about three years and I can't wait anymore! I need a boyfriend or I'll go Nuts. The thing is I have friends that are straight a I don't fancy them I see them as friends but the thing is if ...

A.   27 April 2010:  jc2008 gave some god advice about the LGBT groups around your area. But I'm just gonna tell you.. what's the rush? You're a kid, live life, have fun. You'll have plenty of time to be in relationships and find your perfect guy. And you say that ... (read in full...)

Confuison about sexual orientation

Q.   Hi I have a serious problem on my hands,at least to me its a very serious problem. I'm extremely confused about my sexuality(orientation). I've been having serious contemplation in my head about sexuality, and questioning if I'm straight or not? ...

A.   25 April 2010:  Truthfully, your situation is completely normal and very common. In fact, most people go through this stage of questioning themselves at a certain part of their lives. And it's mostly common in the teen years so don't worry. So what you make like ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend threatened to assault me!

Q.   What should I do? my bf and i have been together for 8 months. Today, he threatened to assault me. He said "I am glad u are far away so I cant hit you" I am very scared of him. He has a temper and I feel like it is escalating to violence. ...

A.   25 April 2010:  Alright, I absolutely hate the thought of abusive relationships. A relationship is supposed to be about love laughter and happiness and occasional fights and arguments which is totally healthy and normal. But it should never lead to anything ... (read in full...)

She forced me to tell her that I was gay! Leave it or tell her I was lying?

Q.   Hi I've just cone back from school and last lesson I was a bit awkward because over the holidays I discovered I was gay and I'm not sure how I should act around my friends (that are straight guys) and my classes because my personality has sort of ...

A.   21 April 2010:  Okay yes, just be yourself. You told your friend, lets just hope shes close enough not to tell anyone your secret, cause frankly it isn't any of her business to tell. You're gay, and that's great, there's nothing wrong with that. And you don;t have ... (read in full...)

How do I tell my bf..I don't like his friend?

Q.   Not sure how to word this so bare with me. Ive known my boyfriend for awhile as friends then we moved into dating and ive fallen for him big time which has surprised me as i never thought i would as quick as this. But while i love spending ti...

A.   10 March 2010:  Just talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him that his friend's behavior is bothering you and that he needs to have a talk with him. If they're really friends, he will. And his friend should understand and lay off. Just have a talk with your ... (read in full...)

I want to try french kissing but I'm not sure how to ask her if we can....

Q.   ok so i am dating this girl...we have been dating for three months this Thursday...and we know basically everything about each other, we kiss often but it is always soft quick lips only kisses...i really want to try a french kiss but I know she had ...

A.   3 March 2010:  Yeah just be in a quiet place, or anywhere where both of you are connected with each other and have each other's full attention. When the moment comes, you'll know. And just lean over slowly and gently start kissing her. And if she does it ... (read in full...)

Her mouth says one thing but her actions say something else

Q.   Well I got this on my mind, there has been this girl that I haven't talk to in like forever and she is taken but she told me she was single then I asked her out via text and never got to hang out with her but she talked about making out with me but ...

A.   20 February 2010:  Clearly this girl isn't serious. She's a joke and is fooling with your mind. Forget about her and get a real girl. Good luck -a.e... (read in full...)

My boyfriend can't express his feelings

Q.   My boyfriend can't express his feelings for me, what should i do? Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months. We are so happy together, he makes me laugh and is so kind to me and dedicated to me. However He can't express how he feels for...

A.   20 February 2010:  Okay.."I keep setting dates saying i will talk to him about it if he doesnt love me by then." that is crazy. You can't make someone love and you can't give dead lines to see if he loves you then. "I love you " are 3 strong words to say and he's ... (read in full...)

We have run out of things to talk about

Q.   Hi. This boy who is my neighbour and i just started dating. I barely talked to him before. And now we don't really have anything to talk about. And our parents dnt kno we're together but if i go on a walk with him we half to keep a low profile. Help ...

A.   20 February 2010:  Well maybe you could say your going out with a bunch of friends and you two can be together then. And about the whole what to talk about issue.. just talk about random things, talk about your interests, talk about where you wanna be in life, ... (read in full...)

My best friends girlfriend get jealous and tried to talk me into having sex with him

Q.   My best friend and i are very close and ive noticed his gf getting jealous or upset about our friendship. but not to long ago he had broken up with her, and he told me he was sick and tired of her treating him wrong, but during the time they ha...

A.   20 February 2010:  Well maybe with your close friendship he started having FEELINGS towards you. You're the one that's always there for him, you care for him and he appreciates that. So he probably has feelings for you and maybe doesn't know how to say it. ... (read in full...)

Sex with my new boyfriend is not enjoyable

Q.   Really embarasing - thank god for this being on the web - but after a really bad break up and completely destroyed self confidence I didn't have sex for around a year I'm now over what happened before and the other week I had sex with my new bf he ...

A.   20 February 2010:  Well i wouldn't know, but maybe you're still "tense" as you said. Maybe you should just relax more and let it flow. And get more comfortable with the new bf, maybe you two aren't connecting enough yet for you to feel the joy in your intimate ... (read in full...)

We are both crushing on and stalking teachers

Q.   Hello, I am a 15 yo girl. Me and my BFF (17 yo girl) both have teacher crushes. Hers is on a Middle School Spanish teacher. He is about 46 yo. Then i have a crush on my High School History teacher. He is 25 years old.(and blonde!!!) Neither of us ...

A.   20 February 2010:  I suggest you forget about these men. I mean seriously think about it...engaged...25/46..nothing would ever happen unless they want to go to jail. I suggest you go out and have fun, be around friends and find guys your age. Plenty of guys in the ... (read in full...)

Trying to untangle friends and relationships

Q.   Let's call this guy Joe. So yesterday, Joe compliments my other friend right in front of me. He says she has a good serve and everything, but I'd see him kind of look at me. But i' brushed it off. Practice ended, everyone stayed. One of m...

A.   20 February 2010:  Well it's kinda hard to comprehend what you're saying, it's sorta confusing to me but it seems that this Joe feller is a flirtatious guy and may be interested. -a.e... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's friends love me and won't leave me alone! My friends hate me for it!

Q.   I'm worried I'm loosing all my friends because of my boyfriends friends. They all fancy me and wont stop following me, I need some time with my girlfriends but thats never going to happen because they wont leave me alone - My friends dont like his ...

A.   20 February 2010:  For one, talk to your boyfriend about it, so he can keep his friends in check. Cause if they're really friends..they shouldn't be after you. And two, talk to his friends, tell them that they need to realize that you have a boyfriend; their friend; ... (read in full...)

I want to make sure our first time is enjoyable for my girlfriend

Q.   How many times does a woman orgasm on average in the time it takes for the guy to climax? Me and my girlfriend are going to have sex, and i want to make sure she gets satisfied. I have a lot of stamina, i just want to make her happy....

A.   20 February 2010:  Well i wouldn't know anything about your first question, I'm still a virgin. But if It's your guy's first time..take it slow. And as you may know, a woman usually doesn't have an orgasm through penetration, but through foreplay and hands. So do a ... (read in full...)

I was locked out of my house, and my friends are not supportive

Q.   okkayy to begin i met this guy a while ago and the more time i was with him and talked to him i continued to fall for him. but throught that time we had our ups and downs with his ex's getting in the way. But I was willing to deal with that because ...

A.   20 February 2010:  I'm sorry this all happened to you. But it's really none of your friend's business who you're with or who you perform sexual acts with. Anyway are they really your friends? A real friend wouldn't say that kind of stuff to you. Drop them, be around ... (read in full...)

She took me bowling and then broke up with me! I want her back!

Q.   I started a relationship with a girl after four years of me being girless. She is an amazing girl who i cannot even describe in words how much she means to me. After a week and a half however, she took me on a great date to lunch and bowling, then ...

A.   20 February 2010:  My best advice is to talk to her about, express how you feel to her so she really knows. Then you can talk and really see where you're positioned and if you guys can be together once again. good luck - a.e... (read in full...)

I want to break it off with my 15 year old girlfriend but don't want to hurt her!

Q.   I am 21 years old and my friend, who is 18, hooked me up with this 15 year old girl. There was and is a connection. However I seem to have become a nervous wreck and rather paranoid. See while our relationship is STRICTLY non-sexual, i just can't ...

A.   19 February 2010:  Well go with your gut dude. You know it's not right and that she's a minor...and you don't want to get yourself in trouble. Yeah there may be a connection but I don't think it's really appropriate with the age difference that wide. And it's not ... (read in full...)

I thought telling would make it better, but it didn't!

Q.   ok i had cheated on my bf a while ago and today just told him and he take it the way that i though he would. He hates me and i know it and i derseve it and and im a loser and cheater and i hate myself. he had ask me once and i told him i didnt...

A.   25 September 2009:  Pinktopaz is exactly right...confessing wasnt the mistake..cheating was.Just learn from your mistakes and move on in life.Maybe if you wouldve told the truth the first things wouldve ended differently. But life's a big geometry class, read take ... (read in full...)

I thought telling would make it better, but it didn't!

Q.   ok i had cheated on my bf a while ago and today just told him and he take it the way that i though he would. He hates me and i know it and i derseve it and and im a loser and cheater and i hate myself. he had ask me once and i told him i didnt...

A.   25 September 2009:  Pinktopaz is exactly right...confessing wasnt the mistake..cheating was.Just learn from your mistakes and move on in life.Maybe if you wouldve told the truth the first things wouldve ended differently. But life's a big geometry class, read take ... (read in full...)

I feel my boyfriend's mother is overstepping a little with our plans for the baby!

Q.   I don't know if i'm thinking to deep into this matter or wether or not i have some valied resson for concern. Me and my partner are expecting are first child in a few months but frew out the whole pregnancy I have had some concern as to wether or ...

A.   25 September 2009:  I see your point and you are totally right.yes she's just helping out and that's okay. That's how mothers are. But she should confide with you or your boyfriend before she makes any decision for YOUR baby.but dont get to flustered about it, she's ... (read in full...)

Husband keeps pushing at me for threesome and I don't want it! Does that make me a bad wife?

Q.   my husband had been trying to get me to have a 3 some for some time. long story short... i said i would try but only if it was with a certain husband started e-mailing me as if he were said guy...he even went to the library to e-mail me ...

A.   18 July 2009:  You dont have a to do anything you dont want to do.your husband should respect your wishes and should persist on you joining in a 3some no further.he should be happy enough you've tried it before for him. and as you said it, you didnt like it very ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend told me he never loved her this way! Their emails say!

Q.   I have a huge problem. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 or so months now but he is so much older than me and has lived so much life before me. He never really wants to talk about his previous relationships, bad times he went through, or he never ...

A.   18 July 2009:  yes it was his past. but now you'r in the present. stay there. dont worry about the things he said and did in some other time but now. yes he said he really loved that girl more than anyone else but that was then, now is now. just dont stre... (read in full...)

Now that I have him, I'm not so sure I want him!

Q.   k so i've got a major teen issue. i really liked this guy and flirted with him for a year and had to watch from the sides as he wasn't very interested in me i guess and watch him flirt with my bf. she knew how i felt so it never turned into ...

A.   18 July 2009:  yes definitely end it as fast as possible if ur not into it. because you could really crush him if he was really starting to fall for you. and i agree with jodie, not techy brake-ups. in person. there's nothing worse than getting dumped by a text ... (read in full...)

Is my penis too small for my age?

Q.   hi, i have a 5.5 inch penis and im proud of it and have no problems with my size. however i would like to know, is it small for a 16 year old?...

A.   18 July 2009:  no man,you're just fine. you're normal. nothing to worry about. and it's good that ur proud of it.and its good for anygirl, if one rejects you for your size then she probly wasnt worth it in the first place good luck man -ardy... (read in full...)

Aahh!! Boys are confusing as hell!!!

Q.   love. the only word to describe the way i feel about my ex-boyfriend. he dumped me for another girl 2 months ago but i cant get over him. since we broke up weve talked EVERYDAY, and madeout twice. well spend the day together and lay on the same ...

A.   18 July 2009:  yeah you should definitely stay out of that situation.he's ur ex and he's already in another relationship with another girl. why are you stil around him and doing that kinda stuff? hes only using you and taking advantage of you. i suggest you ... (read in full...)

Cheated on me with her cousin and dumped me!

Q.   Im not kidding you, I was with a girl for 8 months and I truly loved her but, she ended up cheating on me with her cousin, I fell into sadness and depression and felt as if I would never find anyone. One of the reasons she dumped me was because I am ...

A.   17 July 2009:  agreed with honey pie.dude dont worry dont even think about her. apparently she doesnt love you and you can do way better if she dumps you for one of her family members wich is kinda lame, and wierd in a way. anyways stay strong be conf... (read in full...)

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