Does aomeone have any suggestions as to how to help my sister?
Q. Does aomeone have any suggestions as to how to help my sister? I would appreciate it. My sister is in the process of divorce from her husband because she found out he sheeted on her for about 10 years with many differentt women They been ...
A. 29 May 2021: Its a good thing that she is away from the marriage and living with you while things get sorted.
All you can do is be there for her and advise her and be her support when she is feeling down.
It's not ideal sleeping with random people off of a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very clingy
Q. My new bf is really clingy. I'm 33 and he's 29 and I adore him but he is always needing to be touching me somehow, or hugging or kissing and k find it really overwhelming. I tell him and he gets upset or offended as if I don't like him when I say ...
A. 26 May 2021: You have expressed how you feel by trying to communicate with him, you have said you would like a little bit of space but it seems to fall on deaf ears.
his insecurities are what are making him offended, upset, and being needy.
I feel you ha... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't come over unless sex is a part of the night
Q. i have been with my boyfriend whos 42 for a few years now but he wont come over to take me out unless sex is involved. i just want to go out for a walk together but he wont come over unless i stay somewhere with him the night. i feel like this is ...
A. 24 May 2021: Has he been only wanting you for sex for the whole time you have been together?.
If you feel like this is all he wants and other areas of your relationship are not progressing then i do wonder why you keep him around.
If he went for a walk ... (read in full...)
My sweet boyfriend has turned into a really unpleasant man
Q. Hello thanks for your comments and advice in advance! So me and my bf have been together 3 years. At the beginning he was so sweet, caring, loving and thoughtful. This last year has been like a nightmare. Thankfully I didn't accept his propo...
A. 24 May 2021: He has turned into a very unpleasant person, and by the sounds of things not someone that you want in your life.
The right time to have walked away would have been when he was unfaithful. Because he comes back with his tail between his legs and... (read in full...)
Is his behavior normal? Or suspicious?
Q. Pretty much looking for opinions please. Would you think someone would go to the pub (till 1am), go home on their own and stay awake for a further 4 hours? This is after consuming a lot of vodka and have work at 9am. For a bit of backgrou...
A. 24 May 2021: I have to wonder why you are still with him to be honest, there seem to be a lot of red flags surrounding this guy.
He must still be under the influence of alcohol when he gets up for work at 9. I do hope that he does not drive a car to work.
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He's the one who has cheated yet he doesn't trust me
Q. Hello, dear cupid, I want to know something about my boyfriend's behaviour. I've been dating him since the past five years it's a long distance relationship,we met in a youth conference, he asked my number and after that we started chatting and ...
A. 24 May 2021: OP, you should of ditched this guy after the 5th time he cheated on you, this was your time to step up to the plate and get rid.
He is cheating on you left right and center, and is covering this up and calling you a cheater, and all the other ho... (read in full...)
Wife cant stop teasing me
Q. Six months ago my wife started commenting about some 'well hung' guys at her gym she goes to 3 - 4x a week. I wasn't worried about it and since she seemed to be always horny when she came home which lead to great sex, I haven't said anything. ...
A. 24 May 2021: Why is it ok for her to come home and mention well hung guys at the gym?. then by doing so giving you a complex and then going out to get a penis pump.
Its no different to you going to the gym, or where ever and saying there were these woman tr... (read in full...)
Wife won't wear sexy lingerie for me yet I found a whole drawer full of it. She won't explain
Q. My Wife and I have been married for 32 years now. I have always wanted her to buy and ware super sexy sheer thong lingerie and G-string. But she always refused and said that she would never buy such things let alone ware them. Occasionally I would ...
A. 20 May 2021: Being unfaithful and cheating on your partner is not something to be accepted as normal human behaviour, far from it.
Just because people have cheated on you in the past does not mean that subsequent relationships are going to be the same.
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Boyfriend doesn't want me to get a dog. Is this petty? Or controlling?
Q. Hi guys and gals So for the past 5 years I have been in a relationship with a man who has massive anxiety issues, ocd , depression and has control issues to which be has admitted. Before I start I should mention, we are not engaged , we do ...
A. 19 May 2021: I'm sorry to say OP but this relationship does not sound very healthy at all.
I know he has had his problems, to which he has admitted to you. But in all honesty OP, five years into this relationship and you only see him for 4 hours on a Friday. ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend right? Am I a jerk?
Q. I have had an on and off relationship with my girlfriend for the past 3 years almost. We have been living together for 2 years and she does a lot around the house and is helpful. The problem is that she can be very moody and quick to anger over sma...
A. 19 May 2021: I think it was a thoughtful gesture of you, but if she was literally working outside in the garden why did you send a text. If i'm doing gardening work like weeding or mowing the lawn i would leave my phone inside as well, or on the garden table.
... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend cheated on me - Why does it turn me on?
Q. I found out my girlfriend cheated on me last week. I should be angry and upset with her. Heartbroken even. But I’m not. In fact the thought of it turns me on to the point where I wish I could’ve watched them do it. It happened about 6 weeks ag...
A. 19 May 2021: I think this is a coping mechanism, and this is not going to last forever. when you are tired of reliving this fantasy of her being unfaithful you will be left with then the reality of what she has really done, and is really capable of.
She o... (read in full...)
Is the issue myself or does the world just think I'm not worth it?
Q. Hey, 23 soon to be 24 in about 3 weeks, lady wondering why on this moss and water covered rock why no males my age seem interested in me. From looking online, to putting myself on dating sites and just existing sometimes offline, no one seems to ...
A. 18 May 2021: Apart from stating the obvious, as WiseOwlE pointed out we have been in a pandemic for the past year now, so from a dating/relationship point of view the last year can be written off.
I think that you really need to stop feeling sorry for your... (read in full...)
Why Is This Couple Rude To Me Every Time I See Them?
Q. I live in a small town where everyone bumps into each other often. Twice recently, a random miserable couple I do not know has been extremely rude about me loudly for no reason as I have been minding my own business! About a month ago, I was walki...
A. 17 May 2021: I would just stop worrying about what they think and get on with you life.
The more they are your point of focus, the more you keep dwelling on them and what they think of you the more power you give the situation, and they will be constant... (read in full...)
Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel ...
A. 16 May 2021: OP if you leave a post here on DC asking for advice you are going to have to be accepting of the fact that you are going to get varied answers some of which you agree with and some you don't.
All the Aunts on this site are answering question... (read in full...)
Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel ...
A. 16 May 2021: I think that everyone is different, no one is the same and it would be a strange world if we was.
While i'm sure we would all like to respond to correspondence quickly and right after we received it sometimes this is not always possible. Whether ... (read in full...)
He's broken up with me 5 times in 2 years. Should I continue to see him?
Q. Hi I need some advice about a relationship I am a widow, my husband died 8 years ago and two years ago I met a lovely man and fell in love. But he has finished our relationship 5 times so far and caused me a lot of heartache. The last time it ...
A. 14 May 2021: If you had of said he finished with you once then came back with his tail between his legs then i would have said give him the benefit of the doubt.
To finish with you five times leaving you in turmoil and heartache my advice would be to not let ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls
Q. Hello, I have a question about whether it's okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls (but not boyfriend and girlfriend). Here is the story: I had just recently broken up with my ex whom I had been dating for a few years. We broke up due to ...
A. 14 May 2021: I think that the beginnings of any relationship will not work if either one of you was still in contact with an ex and sending them i love you's.
For what ever reason the girl at work wants to refrain from becoming boyfriend and girlfrie... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my cheating husband and divorce?
Q. I've been married for 18 years now, and our anniversary is coming up on November 7th this year. I found out a big revelation from my husband last night; he'd been using prostitutes in the run-up to our wedding and actually slept with one particu...
A. 13 May 2021: I'm just trying to get my head around how your husband actually slept with her at your actual wedding while you were having your pictures taken with your bridesmaids?.
Was she a guest at your wedding or something?. Or was she lurking around i... (read in full...)
How do you cope with the feelings of not letting go?
Q. How do you cope with the feelings of not letting go? My ex and I broke up almost 3 1/2 years ago. However, we were together 6 years. I've had ups and downs over these 3.5 years. I never felt like I had closure from the relationship end. (He did the ...
A. 13 May 2021: I think that after a break up we should never move onto another relationship until the past is completely behind us, and we are at one with ourselves.
I think that starting a new relationship with someone else while your still hanging on to a pas... (read in full...)
Should I leave my Indian husband for my Black lover
Q. I am a twenty five year old married Indian woman with no children. About two years ago I met Bryan (not his real name) a married Blackman at his sister's birthday party. My husband was away for the weekend. I could see that Bryan was attracted to...
A. 12 May 2021: While affairs all may all seem fun and exciting in the beginning no good will ever come of them, people will get hurt, and the end result is bleak.
Have a scroll through previous posts on here at DC regarding cheating, affairs, mistress's etc, and... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's ex is trying to get back into her life and I'm not sure how to handle it
Q. I've been dating a woman, Megan, who's been divorced for a long time now, at the time she was already divorced for 4 years and was ready for a relationship. We met in March 2015. Our relationship has been pretty good, and is now in the serious s...
A. 12 May 2021: I don't think that you have to worry about her wanting to get back with him, she is happily divorced from him and i would guess the last thing she would want is to entertain him again.
The main reasons they divorced in the first place he is still... (read in full...)
Is relationship sex better than casual sex? What is the difference?
Q. I have never had casual sex in my life. Am I missing something? I have had relationship sex, which has been very satisfying for me, and just seems to get better. I am asking for everyone to weigh in. Is relationship sex better than cas...
A. 12 May 2021: Obviously the answers that you are going to receive are going to be very varied, and will boil down to personal opinion.
I think that that sex in a relationship, or with someone you love or care for carries with it the weight of a strong emotiona... (read in full...)
Should I try to pressure Jack into going to prom so he won't regret it later or just let him and his friends do their thing?
Q. My youngest son, Jack, is graduating from high school this year. He is refusing to go to prom. Instead, him and a group of friends are just meet up and do their own thing (they are talking about going bowling, than having a pool party at their ...
A. 10 May 2021: I don't think that you should pressure him to go the prom. He has made up his mind that he would like to do something with his friends by way of bowling and a pool party, and i think you should accept that this is what he wants to do.
I'm s... (read in full...)
I don’t want to leave my husband for this guy but it shows me what I’m missing in my life
Q. Hello, I am looking for a bit of advice really. To be honest I’m not even sure what I expect from this. I’m currently in my late twenties and have been married to my husband for basically all of my 20s. When we got together he was fun and outgoing ...
A. 10 May 2021: I think that before you give up you should at last try to salvage your marriage. You are only in your 20's, is your husband significantly older than you are?.
I that communication in the key here, sit down and have a chat together and try to get t... (read in full...)
I loved being the mistress but now that he's told his wife about me, I'm not sure I want him because I don't see him as a life partner
Q. Hi, I am really struggling. It is a heart vs mind battle. My heart loves my boyfriend. My mind is telling me he isn't right for me. We had an affair and now he is saying he loves me and sees a future with me. He has told his wife about our relati...
A. 9 May 2021: This is the downside to starting a new relationship based on mistrust and lies.
You are having trust issues even before you have even got together properly.
The excitement you had, the sneaking around, the thrill's will all be over once you ge... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy for me
Q. My LDR boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 months. He always forgets our anniversaries, but I'm used to it. For the past two months, we haven't been able to talk properly.. He says he's too busy with school even if i try to get in contact ...
A. 8 May 2021: You are still very young, so i would not invest to much emotional attachment to this relationship.
At you age now its all about schooling, having fun with your friends, and having casual light hearted relationships.
If your boyfriend is you... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex after 5 years no contact? Is 5 years enough for someone to change?
Q. I have an urge to talk to an ex from 12 years ago. We haven't spoke for 5 years and the last time we spoke I ignored her last msg because she was acting crazy. She was important to me and I want to reconcile but I don't want to msg her for fear...
A. 7 May 2021: Five years is a very long time, and a lot could of happened in this time. As Honeypie pointed out, she could of moved on with someone else by now, infact its a strong possibility that she actually has.
Maybe after 6 months, but people don't ge... (read in full...)
I worry about my b/f cheating but what if I am wrong and throw everything away?
Q. My long distance bf is really sweet. He tells me he loves me, talks almost all the time when not at work or sleeping. He's doting and talks about the future. When we will see each other again. But I feel very insecure after getting out of a long ...
A. 7 May 2021: I agree with Fatherly Advice.
I think its a mistake to enter into new relationships when we are not 100% healed from previous relationships.
Only when we truly healed, happy in our own skin, and have a love for ourselves are we ready to move on... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend mute me while talking to me on a whatsapp call?
Q. Hello everybody. My boyfriend is coming back to Canada after being overseas working. He called me from the airport as he is on his way home today. We had a nice, long chat. And all was great. Except when he put me on MUTE during the call. I was ...
A. 3 May 2021: I think that you are going to have to give him the benefit of the doubt here, as he could very well of done this by accident.
You seem convinced that he muted you on purpose. Has he ever done this before?. Has he given you a reason to distrust... (read in full...)
What would you do if your partner called you an idiot and other names?
Q. What would you do if your long time partner called you an idiot, stupid, or insane or told you to shut the fuck up or fuck off, or go fuck yourself during arguments? And continually hang up on you? Or hang up when you cry or want to speak? Or hit ...
A. 2 May 2021: Has he cheated on you in the past?.
Have you found evidence that he is cheating?.
You don't trust him, if a relationship does not have trust its going to head in a downward spiral anyway.
On top of everything else, i would say its time to wa... (read in full...)
What would you do if your partner called you an idiot and other names?
Q. What would you do if your long time partner called you an idiot, stupid, or insane or told you to shut the fuck up or fuck off, or go fuck yourself during arguments? And continually hang up on you? Or hang up when you cry or want to speak? Or hit ...
A. 1 May 2021: There are just to many red flags here OP, he has no respect for you what so ever, he has a temper and is abusive.
You say he is your long term partner, so you have been together for a considerable amount of time. Has he been like this for all the ... (read in full...)
I was his mistress. Now that he's left his wife for me, I live in fear. How can I stop the anxiety?
Q. My boyfriend left his wife for me. He says he loves me. If so, why do I always feel so anxious, scared and insecure around him? Even though he's divorced and proclaiming his undying love and devotion to me? Do you think I could ever be happy with ...
A. 29 April 2021: I agree with all the other aunts that have answered your post here.
He cheated on his wife to be with you, so the infancy of this relationship started from distrust. So there is a good chance that when he gets bored he could very well start ge... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend cheating on me, or am I crazy?
Q. Is my boyfriend cheating on me, or am I crazy? F (32) I’ve been with my boyfriend about a month now, so it is early days. I do come from a broken home, so I will mention that I have a lot of trust and abandonment issues. I also seem to go for t...
A. 29 April 2021: I think that there are to many red flags here in this relationship, which is rather worrying considering you have only been with him a month.
You call him perfect in every way, but his actions and the way he acts with his room mate say otherwis... (read in full...)
Troubled relationship with ex. I want him to reach out but don't think he will
Q. Been on and off with an ex for a couple years. Broke up simply due to having different needs but still care for each other very much. Thursday night after a movie with his friends, he got angry at me over something I said regarding driving and ...
A. 29 April 2021: OP you have been off and on, off and on and the relationship has never worked out.
I don't know the extent of what actually happened in the car that night, and what was said. I just think what he did was completely unacceptable asking a female t... (read in full...)
My LDR ex wants to get engaged but I am confused
Q. Dear Aunts and uncles, I am confused and don't know if I am making the right decision. I was in an LDR with my boyfriend in since early 2018. We have been best friends since I was 18 and he was 17- he asked me out since I was 23.We were in a ...
A. 27 April 2021: Personally i think i would be inclined to cut your ex loose, the feelings that you had for him dissipated, your attraction for him cooled off. If he moved down to where you live, or vice versa would you all of a sudden gain your attraction back for ... (read in full...)
My partner lacks compassion and understanding about my medical condition
Q. I have a medical condition that causes me quite a lot of pain but my partner lacks understanding of this and compassion. This is definitely something that would cause me to willingly end the relationship. He says I am moaning about pain and is offe...
A. 27 April 2021: Anyone who is truly in love with someone will be accepting of them no matter what.
I think that he is being really selfish and not understanding whatsoever about your medical condition.
I assume that he know that you had a medical conditio... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to get with his wife that is in love with me
Q. A friend of mine, Victoria (not her real name) has admitted over email she is in love with me, and via WhatsApp. It was out of the blue, the email, sent to my personal, well, work address (me at mydomain.com) since I work freelance; hadn'...
A. 26 April 2021: I think you should take a step back from this situation and wait to see if they actually do get divorced. If they do, then the next step would be wait for all the dust to settle and see if you still have feelings for each other after 6 months or ... (read in full...)
Female Nudity Movies
Q. There is too much female nudity on TV. There was a completely naked girl in a movie I watched with my BF last night AND the night before. Why can they show female genitals? Not ok. It was disgusting. Hate it. No male nudity? I was...
A. 26 April 2021: Before the movie comes on it does give you the appropriate boxes informing the watcher of flashing images, violence, strong language, or nudity.
You say you hated it, it was disgusting, no male nudity. Would you be if there was male nudity t... (read in full...)
My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year
Q. My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year. At least since CoVid started. Since then we’ve goI believe I've met the love of my life, but he recently told me that I give bad head and he doesn't enjoy our sex. Can this be saved? through the stress of ...
A. 26 April 2021: Sounds like the spark has gone out of your relationship.
Maybe try so do something romantic together, romantic meal perhaps, and maybe wear something a bit later on that might get him in the mood, maybe some role play as well.
If you find y... (read in full...)
I don't think submissive means you tolerate abuse
Q. Hello! My bf and I are from different cultures and English isn't his first language. He sometimes misunderstands me and then starts arguing. It's not normal arguments but very degrading ones. He calls me stupid, idiot, low mentality he wil...
A. 26 April 2021: I have to ask you, why are you with this person?.
Why have you got to be submissive?. Why would you have to conform to his authority, he is your partner, not your manager at work.
You don't divulge where he is actually from, but his actions ... (read in full...)
I Feel Like Everything Changed In 2012, I Have No Friends
Q. What are you supposed to do when everyone just watches anime, netflix, and talks about food? Every person i meet now days just does these things or talks about their family how am i supposed to find someone to hang out with or do things with? Can...
A. 25 April 2021: Whats the significance of the year 2012 then?.
The thing about life is everything is always changing, evolving, its called impermanence. People come in to our lives, some are there for ever, some come and go, and some come into our lives, m... (read in full...)
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