My husband has been receiving weird things in the mail. We don't know why or what to do about it
Q. I've had to change names in this for anonymity reasons. My husband is worried about opening the mail after receiving mail addressed to him that he didn't order; not one, but three. He received a package last Monday; he was expecting it...
A. 10 March 2021: It does not sound like a scam to me, scammer's normally want to extract personal information from you in order to take money from you.
Its rather strange to me that he has received some quite extravagant gifts, being sports gear, and a substant... (read in full...)
MMF With wife to explore Bi side
Q. Married for 8 years with 2 kids. Wife comes from a conservative background and did not have much sexual experience when we met. Neither did I but I had more than her. We have both grown sexually together and have what I would define as a good sex ...
A. 10 March 2021: We get a lot of people writing posts on DC regarding wanting to live out the fantasy of bringing a third party into the bedroom, and some have already indulged in it.
The results are always the same, which is the people in question have run into... (read in full...)
Leaving my husband is a problem since I have nowhere to go
Q. I've been with my husband 6 years we got married 4 years ago. I moved in with him 3 days after we met,mad I know. The first 6 Months we're great. Then the bomb shell dropped,he had a mental health problem,he had been diagnosed with borderline ...
A. 10 March 2021: It is a shame that you moved with his after only 3 days, if you had waited it out a bit then maybe you would have found out all this stuff about him before hand, rather than moving in then getting married, then finding out all this stuff.
Anywa... (read in full...)
I don't love my live in boyfriend anymore but I can't get him to leave
Q. Hey everyone. Hoping someone can give me some advice in regards to my relationship. I'm a 32 year old woman and my boyfriend is the same age. We've been together coming up 5 years. Our relationship was on and off at the beginning. He would b...
A. 9 March 2021: OP, of course he is being nice to you, he does not want to go back to his parents, as he is independent now. I'm sorry, to say he is independent now is a joke.
You have done well for yourself, you have your own place, pay the bills, and he has b... (read in full...)
Lifestyle/swinging destroying my marriage
Q. I need advice. I’m trying to decide whether my marriage is worth saving. I’ve been married for 12 years. Several years ago my husband approached me about experimenting with swinging. I said that I wasn’t comfortable with sex with others. He ...
A. 9 March 2021: I think that your marriage was over as soon as you indulged in the swinging scene, you helped and took part in making his fantasy come true.
So many posts come through DC related to swinging and bringing a third party in to a relation... (read in full...)
My husband wants to quit his job as a university professor to work at McDonalds
Q. We've been in Australia for 7 years now, and my husband works as a professor in a local university. He told me three days ago he wants to quit his job so he doesn't have to work from home, and would prefer to work at the local McDonald's as "a...
A. 8 March 2021: I can't quite get my head around why a university professor would want to give all that up to work in a fast food outlet, i think he has taken leave of his senses.
You say that you are already worried about finances if he did quit, and quite ri... (read in full...)
I left my ex girlfriend during the pandemic because I felt suffocated but now I realize I made a mistake. Should I contact her or leave her alone? Title
Q. Hi. I am a guy who made a real dumb ass mistake. I left my beautiful girlfriend about 6 weeks ago. We had an argument about my being inattentive towards her. And she was right. I was taking her for granted. I was not treating her right and got angry ...
A. 7 March 2021: It sounds to me like you made a huge mistake and threw away something beautiful. You have come to the realisation that the grass is never greener on the other side.
She obviously really like you a lot,which is why she was the one doing all the ... (read in full...)
My husband has changed and I don't feel like I'm getting what I deserve
Q. I have been married for 7 years and together off and on (prior to getting married) for approximately 4 years. When we just got together, my husband was a very sweet guy. He made me smile and made me feel special. We took a break for a couple of ...
A. 7 March 2021: I think that this relationship had sadly run its course before you both decided to tie the knot.
I think maybe you should of called its quits when things went sour, and that getting married to him was a big mistake.
You are not happy in thi... (read in full...)
How do I make my husband feel manly when he has to wear a sports bra for medical reasons?
Q. My husband does not want sex with me, but his reason is nothing to do with cheating or anything like that. He told me he's embarrassed because he's been prescribed a sports bra for a hiking injury and has to wear it for a few weeks, and he th...
A. 7 March 2021: I recall a post very similar to this one a few months back.
All you can do is tell him he has only got to wear it for a few weeks to get him on the road to recovery, then he can stop wearing it.
Tell him the doctors have got his best interes... (read in full...)
He's lied to me repeatedly. How do I trust him?
Q. I come from a strict but very loving Indian family. I ended up in a relationship with a white male during lockdown 2020. So since June 2020 (had spoke online for months prior) we had been communicating. August 2020, he opened he had lied to me ...
A. 6 March 2021: At the end of the day he has lied to you and you are now having a problem moving forward.
I would imagine that you want a serious relationship with the outcome being marriage. As you say that you can't see him as your husband anymore then maybe it... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is on a messaging app in the early morning hours while I am sleeping? What is going on?
Q. Hey, I am worried about my boyfriend's loyalty. I could be totally off and maybe you guys can help me see clearly what is going on here? Well we both use Whatsapp and I noticed that he was last seen on it early this morning at 3 a.m. I was aslee...
A. 6 March 2021: Personally i don't think that you are fully over being cheated on in your past relationship, and you have carried these insecurities in to this relationship.
I don't think its a red flag, you saw that he checked whatsapp, nearly everyone has got ... (read in full...)
How can I move forward in this relationship if she keeps talking about her past?
Q. Im 27years old and never been in a serious relationship and the women i have dated have always had mental health problems or low self esteem.Anyway during this pandemic I met this woman online, she is 25 years old...we connected 2 months ago....we ...
A. 6 March 2021: She still talks about her son as if she is still his mother, because she is still his biological mother and always will be.
she gave the child up because the father was not fit to look after the child?. she should have left him and brought ... (read in full...)
I'm a teacher. How do I cope with young boys coming on to me and wanting to have sex?
Q. I am a teacher. Have been in this profession for over 42 years. I am bisexual and do like young boys. For the last 8 years or so I am frequently being importuned by my students to have sex with them. Earlier it used to be older boys asking me, boys ...
A. 6 March 2021: I think that the start of your post does sound wrong on all levels.
Your in a professional job, a job that requires teacher student boundries.
Being a teacher you are there to teach, nothing more. You are a professional adult, and you need to ... (read in full...)
How do you guys deal with partners complaining about weight.
Q. How do you guys deal with partners complaining about weight. Like I’m getting so fed up. I personally have been getting anxiety as I have not been able to hit my goals due to lockdown. So I spent some money and purchased some equipment. It’s ...
A. 5 March 2021: All you can do is advise her, be positive towards her, and tell her how beautiful she always looks.
Apart from that the only person that can really help her is her, and no one else.
Tell her how exhilarated and good you feel after a run, and... (read in full...)
My husband is obsessive about the idea of us having a threesome with his friend
Q. I've been married for 4 years now. My husband is obsessive about the idea of us having a threesome with his friend. He keeps telling me how good the threesome would be, but there's two factors that put me off it: First of all, the guy's 6...
A. 5 March 2021: If you take part in this fantasy of his i can't see anything good coming from it, only resentment and heartache further down the line.
Like Honeypie told you, look around DC at previous threesome questions, you will see time after time people s... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved anymore and I'm always worried that he's cheating
Q. I don't think my partner actually wants me anymore. I am someone who enjoys cuddles, and kisses and wee bits of affection. My partner never does that unless he wants sex. Even sitting watching a movie together and I will want a cuddle ect and he...
A. 5 March 2021: I don't know how long the pair of you have been together, but has he ever been loving torwards you in the early stages of your relationship?. If so, when did things start to change.
I think that maybe communication is the key here. Talk to him a... (read in full...)
I really want my own place I avoid my room mates but wonder if its worth the money to get my own place
Q. Hi Cupid’s: I want a bit of advice about my living situation please! I moved for work for just over a year now and moved just before the pandemic! Typical! I moved in with some fab people, all creative and it’s a 6 bed I’m getting to the ...
A. 5 March 2021: As you say, its good you are grateful that you have a roof over your head.
I don't think its right that you go without eating just because your housemates are in the kitchen. Can't you just work your way around them, or wait till they have lef... (read in full...)
Why is he being so overly dramatic? Is this a manipulation of some sort?
Q. I have recently started seeing a guy. Both of us have been through a divorce approximately 10 years ago for each of us. I am taking things very slowly with him, but he has said several times, "Don't break my heart. Promise me you won't break my ...
A. 3 March 2021: I agree with the other aunts here, he has got some serious insecurities, and is manipulating you.
You have only just started seeing this guy, and even in these early stages there are already major red flags.
Not that your going to, but wh... (read in full...)
My fiance wants too much oral sex
Q. My fiance want too much oral sex. I was just getting use to giving head and then last night he actually tried f****** me in the mouth. Holding my head while he was on his knees. I was not use to this so he hollers at me for doing it wrong. I felt ...
A. 1 March 2021: I think he is totally wrong yelling at you,i mean, who does he think he is treating you like this- your his fiance, not an inflatable doll.
I think communication is key here. If this dreadful behaviour happens again i would consider leaving ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend share pictures of me on social media?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend since summer 19 And he is the greatest thing that ever happened to me he’s always there for me emotionally shows me love and affection, spoils me, and is my best friend. I lost my mom to cancer in October and he has never ...
A. 1 March 2021: Like you say he may not be an active user. I don't think he is being funny or is not wanting other people to see you. He could just very well be a private person, or is respecting you as he may think you might not want to be plastered all over his ... (read in full...)
Why would a colleague send me this?
Q. I am a married man. A married female colleague of mine, whom I adore, has sent me a fresh pantyliner, what does she mean by that?...
A. 1 March 2021: I would doubt if this was even from your colleague, but rather someone else playing a prank on you.
If you know and adore this colleague so much go to her and ask her what this is all about. If you get a blank expression, followed with I have not... (read in full...)
My dad plans to leave my mom but doesn't want me to tell her
Q. A week ago, my dad said he needed me to come and help him with going the supermarket and shopping. I thought nothing of it, was only trying to be a good daughter. But it later turned out he wanted me to meet his girlfriend, Rachael (not her rea...
A. 28 February 2021: I think its really selfish of your dad to even involve you in this.
He is the cheater here, and his young mistress knows this all to well. If he leaves your Mum and starts up with Rachael it will be a relationship built on lies, and these type of ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's threeseom wish common?
Q. Hey, my boyfriend told me that if I am the only girl he can sleep with in his lifetime he is the luckiest man on earth. But like a month ago I asked him if he - like my other male friends - would agree on having a threesome, he said: If you ...
A. 28 February 2021: Time and time again posts come onto DC asking if trying a threesome is a good idea.
The answers that they receive are always that same, and that it is a bad idea.
Some people have written in saying they have already tried it, and that they ar... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with never coming out as gay?
Q. I am a 36 years old man who is single. I have known since I was about 13 years old that I was gay. I have never been in a relationship with anyone (male or female) and I never came out of the closet. I always hear of people coming out of th...
A. 28 February 2021: I think as you are in your current situation not dating anyone then its totally fine to not divulge the fact that you are gay.
I think if you got into a serious relationship and you were with someone you potentially saw a future with then pro... (read in full...)
My married friend has hit on me. I want to stay friends but don't want to be involved
Q. I have a close relationship with a work colleague, who I have known for 15 years. Over the last few years we started running together. She would mention the negatives alit about her marriage and would flirt with me. She told me that her husband had ...
A. 25 February 2021: You don't say what your relationship status is, assuming your married i would cut contact with her and move on. There are to many complications here and she was after having her cake and eat it.
We know nothing about her situation, or indeed i... (read in full...)
I think my partner is controlling. Is he?
Q. Morning folks I would like your opinion on my relationship. I live with my partner who is ten years younger than me. we live on boat and I know space is limited, I am quite a religious person all I am allowed is one small crucifix he says he ...
A. 25 February 2021: I would say he sounds quite controlling, and wants things his way, if its not his way then the silent treatment comes in, or throws his toys out of the pram and storms off. Unless things change soon, is this the relationship you want in the years to ... (read in full...)
Partner left with no reason and I have no friends around me
Q. My partner has recently left me, no explanation or answers so I'm left just trying to accept and get on with things. I live in a town where I'm not from and I notice that women all have their circle if friends. On social media they post pictur...
A. 25 February 2021: I know its hard breaking up with someone, its never easy, not for anyone.
All i can say is that things will get easier, time really is the healer of all things.
Maybe try to work on yourself some more, do some things that make your heart sing,... (read in full...)
I feel so lost and I'm not quite sure why
Q. I feel very alone and lonely. I feel like no one cares. I have learnt to love myself and keep myself occupied. However i have been going through tough times with my gf. I’m sure we will be okay, but I feel disconnected with her, we did break up ...
A. 23 February 2021: Yes i think that your first port of call should be to book an appointment with your GP and obtain some professional advice.
Its good that you have learnt to love yourself and keep yourself occupied, this is a step in the right directio... (read in full...)
I feel like I was just a rebound till she decided if she still wanted her bf
Q. Hey there. So I met this girl at a New Years Eve party. We hit it off and started texting all day every day and some calls here and there. The thing is she had a boyfriend of a year whenever we met. A week after our initial meeting she broke it ...
A. 22 February 2021: I think that you need to cut her loose OP, and delete her, and block her for future contact.
She is all over the place, she still had attachments to her ex that she was not fully over, so she was effectively on the rebound.
She should ne... (read in full...)
I find the relationship between my boyfriend and his mother very strange
Q. Am I crazy or is this not normal. A while back I wrote about my partner and his moms relationship. They hit each other on the butts and laugh about then they make joke sexual ones my partner is the one that says them to his mom. His mom made th...
A. 22 February 2021: I remember your post the first time around, and it looks like nothing has changed from then to now.
a majority of the answers you recieved were all along the same lines, which was why are you dating him?.
So, again, why are you dating him. If n... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with being attracted to a married man?
Q. Hi, I’m attracted to a married man. I think he likes me too. I think one can’t help or change ones attraction that just happens and sometimes they happen to be married. Divorce happens too and maybe he’s already thinking of that so why is it so ...
A. 22 February 2021: You say the men continue to have affairs, and are disloyal and that their wives are better off without them. Probably an element of truth there.
But what makes you think that you would get with this guy, or someone like him and they won't get bore... (read in full...)
Swinging has turned into more for me I've been sneaking around behind my husband's back
Q. A little over a year ago my husband and I went on Tinder looking for another couple to have some fun with. We found a couple , texted back and forth in a group text and after a few weeks we finally met. We ended up switching partners and having sex ...
A. 22 February 2021: I have not been in a similar position, but this is classic text book stuff as to what happens when you introduce a third party, or another couple into your relationship/marriage.
There are so many posts that come through dear cupid asking i... (read in full...)
I don't want to end the marriage but the trust is gone
Q. I've been married to A for 8 years and we have 2 children together. A few years ago we went through a bit of a rough patch where A felt that I was being distant and too busy for him. I admit that this was the case, but having a newborn and a potty ...
A. 22 February 2021: I think that once trust has been broken its very difficult to come back from. Trust is one of the most important contributing factors that bind a relationship together, once this barrier has been crossed most relationships will invariable just break ... (read in full...)
Would you block someone for being strange even if you knew them?
Q. Years ago now I had communication with a guy who asked basically to have sex and/or hang out. We stopped talking and i forgot why until finding the old messages more recently but i messaged him a while ago and he ended up blocking me on facebook ...
A. 18 February 2021: So years have gone by and you have not thought about this guy in all this time. Then you pick up your phone, and find correspondence all these years later that you then find the reasons why you stopped talking, which you had forgotten about until ... (read in full...)
Co-workers conspiracy theories on zoom chats are driving me crazy
Q. I've had to work from home and do Zoom meetings. However, there's a problem with our Zoom meeting... one employee is constantly behaving pompously and disrupting meetings with conspiracy theories, but he hasn't been fired yet. He's caused ups...
A. 18 February 2021: I think it would be a bad idea to leave your job all because someone is annoying you.
Whether your remote working, or going to the office, where ever you go there will always be this annoying colleague where ever you go.
These zoom meetings ar... (read in full...)
Why does my ex girlfriend still have a profile picture of both of us on Facebook?
Q. Hi. I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago. I have looked at her Facebook account recently and noticed that she still has several profile pictures up of both of us as a couple and friends commenting what a nice couple we are and how happy sh...
A. 17 February 2021: I don't know the reason the two of you broke up in the first place, but I guess you both split up on good terms.
Its hard to say why the pictures are still there, maybe she does not use FB that much. Maybe she has started another FB account,... (read in full...)
How can I let her know she has my permission to see other men and that I find it a real turn on?...
Q. A stranger asked my wife for a date. When she told me about it I was aroused. How can I let her know she has my permission to see other men and that I find it a real turn on?...
A. 17 February 2021: What was your wife's reaction to being asked on a date?.
How far would you want it to go, just a date?, or actually sleeping together?.
Which ever it is, I think this is a fantasy that could potentially be an end to your marriage.
I ... (read in full...)
I have dreams that my friend gets my wife pregnant
Q. I dreamt my wife being impregnated by my friend and it Hurst me very bad on that dream. What does this mean? ...
A. 16 February 2021: I don't think it meant anything, it was just a dream.
I would not dwell to much on what it meant, it was a one off dream, which unfortunately once we fall into to deep sleep we have no control over.... (read in full...)
I want to break no contact and get in touch with my ex even though I know I shouldnt
Q. I feel like I’m going insane. My ex and I broke up a month ago and he has already, by the looks of it, moved on with someone else. I know you’re supposed to not look at your exes social media pages after a breakup but one day I cracked out of ...
A. 16 February 2021: I think that you need to leave the past in the past and accept the fact that the relationship did not work.
Breaking up is never easy, but in time things will get easier, time is the healer of all things.
I think you need to delete him on al... (read in full...)
I get angry and depressed sometimes because I didnt date when I was younger
Q. I didn't really start dating until near the end of my 20s, i'm in my early 30s now, i'm dating someone new, while of course i am happy and glad to have met her, i do have these thoughts. I wonder if it is a common mindset or thought for peop...
A. 16 February 2021: Like you rightly say, you can't change the past, so put your energies into the here and now, and the relationship that you are in.
Like Mystiquek says she found it quite refreshing regarding her husbands sexual experience, and I would guess th... (read in full...)
There were many fights over the years. I'm wondering if we are supposed to be together?
Q. We have been together for 8.5 years. Engaged for 1.5. We were young when we got together. The first few years of our relationship were constant arguments through my own insecurities and, honestly, I think I enjoyed the drama of it. My mental health ...
A. 16 February 2021: Ok so you had some problems in your past with your partner and things were not as rosy as you would have liked them to be.
I think its important now to appreciate being happy in the here and now, and look forward to a happy future, and stop loo... (read in full...)
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