My LDR ex wants to get engaged but I am confused
Q. Dear Aunts and uncles, I am confused and don't know if I am making the right decision. I was in an LDR with my boyfriend in since early 2018. We have been best friends since I was 18 and he was 17- he asked me out since I was 23.We were in a ...
A. 27 April 2021: Personally i think i would be inclined to cut your ex loose, the feelings that you had for him dissipated, your attraction for him cooled off. If he moved down to where you live, or vice versa would you all of a sudden gain your attraction back for ... (read in full...)
My partner lacks compassion and understanding about my medical condition
Q. I have a medical condition that causes me quite a lot of pain but my partner lacks understanding of this and compassion. This is definitely something that would cause me to willingly end the relationship. He says I am moaning about pain and is offe...
A. 27 April 2021: Anyone who is truly in love with someone will be accepting of them no matter what.
I think that he is being really selfish and not understanding whatsoever about your medical condition.
I assume that he know that you had a medical conditio... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to get with his wife that is in love with me
Q. A friend of mine, Victoria (not her real name) has admitted over email she is in love with me, and via WhatsApp. It was out of the blue, the email, sent to my personal, well, work address (me at mydomain.com) since I work freelance; hadn'...
A. 26 April 2021: I think you should take a step back from this situation and wait to see if they actually do get divorced. If they do, then the next step would be wait for all the dust to settle and see if you still have feelings for each other after 6 months or ... (read in full...)
Female Nudity Movies
Q. There is too much female nudity on TV. There was a completely naked girl in a movie I watched with my BF last night AND the night before. Why can they show female genitals? Not ok. It was disgusting. Hate it. No male nudity? I was...
A. 26 April 2021: Before the movie comes on it does give you the appropriate boxes informing the watcher of flashing images, violence, strong language, or nudity.
You say you hated it, it was disgusting, no male nudity. Would you be if there was male nudity t... (read in full...)
My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year
Q. My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year. At least since CoVid started. Since then we’ve goI believe I've met the love of my life, but he recently told me that I give bad head and he doesn't enjoy our sex. Can this be saved? through the stress of ...
A. 26 April 2021: Sounds like the spark has gone out of your relationship.
Maybe try so do something romantic together, romantic meal perhaps, and maybe wear something a bit later on that might get him in the mood, maybe some role play as well.
If you find y... (read in full...)
I don't think submissive means you tolerate abuse
Q. Hello! My bf and I are from different cultures and English isn't his first language. He sometimes misunderstands me and then starts arguing. It's not normal arguments but very degrading ones. He calls me stupid, idiot, low mentality he wil...
A. 26 April 2021: I have to ask you, why are you with this person?.
Why have you got to be submissive?. Why would you have to conform to his authority, he is your partner, not your manager at work.
You don't divulge where he is actually from, but his actions ... (read in full...)
I Feel Like Everything Changed In 2012, I Have No Friends
Q. What are you supposed to do when everyone just watches anime, netflix, and talks about food? Every person i meet now days just does these things or talks about their family how am i supposed to find someone to hang out with or do things with? Can...
A. 25 April 2021: Whats the significance of the year 2012 then?.
The thing about life is everything is always changing, evolving, its called impermanence. People come in to our lives, some are there for ever, some come and go, and some come into our lives, m... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got someone else pregnant but I still love him
Q. Dear Cupid My boyfriend and I started dating from last year May I've really fallen for Him and he has too He spent so much on me and made sure I was happy Just last month, he cried confessing to me that he's impregnated someone mistakenly a...
A. 25 April 2021: I'm just going to cut to the chase OP and say your best bet here would be to finish with him, cut contact, delete him on everything and move on.
Why do i say this?. For one he has lied and cheated on you and crossed the trust barrier.
Trust is ... (read in full...)
I think my LDR girl may be lying but what if I'm wrong?
Q. So, I am in a long distance relationship with someone whom I have never meet in real life! We are supposed to meet each for the first time for christmas in december. We video chat and messages everyday, but she has this habit of randomly ...
A. 25 April 2021: I think its slightly worrying that you are having trust issues even before you have met her in person yet.
Trust in one of the most important factors that keep a relationship going, with no trust relationships are more than likely headed for a do... (read in full...)
Is a man capable of abstaining from sex for four months?
Q. Can a man go without sex for FOUR months? Let's say he is away from his wife or girlfriend for FOUR months. Can he abstain or will he be weak and succumb to his little head? Any action is better than no action? Just wandering, are men are capa...
A. 24 April 2021: I think this all boils down to the type of person a everyone is different.
Its about is the relationship healthy, is his love for the person he is with 100%.
If the relationship is without problems and there are no trust issues then i do... (read in full...)
My insecurities about a woman my boyfriend works with are causing big problems
Q. So I want to start by confessing I am an anxious person and unfortunately due to previous experiences struggle to trust. My boyfriend and I are having big problems in our relationship because of my insecurities but I don't know how to stop. The on...
A. 24 April 2021: I think that this a matter of you having to come to terms with your insecurities and start trusting you boyfriend. I think either start trusting him, or walk away from this relationship.
Trust is one of the most important contributing factors ... (read in full...)
My husband who is away does not seem as sexually interested in me. Is it my imagination or are his needs being met without me?
Q. My husband and I are having a major problem right now and it is my hope that the aunts and uncles here could serve as mediators to our ongoing argument. My husband will be reading this if posted. He is in South America for 3 months. We have ...
A. 24 April 2021: I think this all boils down to trust, and trust is one of the most important contributing factors that bind a relationship together, without trust a relationship is more often than not headed for a downward spiral.
I assume he is out in South Af... (read in full...)
What will be the fallout/possible outcomes of my husband divorcing me for another woman?
Q. I've used some affair jargon in this post, and also, names have been changed. OW = other woman AP = affair partner BS = betrayed spouse HW = homewrecker STBXH = soon to be ex-husband WS = wayward spouse If you see these in this post, that ...
A. 24 April 2021: Most people think that the grass is always greener on the other side, and your husband will come to the harsh realisation that this is not the case, and no doubt further down the line he will come to realise this, by which time it will be too late. ... (read in full...)
Husband's ongoing affair with big name woman in our town. I don't know how to handle everything
Q. I've been married for 3 years, then later found out my husband had been for our whole engagement (a 3-year-long one) and marriage sleeping with another woman. But the identity of this other woman is a local news anchor, she's a big name in town...
A. 21 April 2021: Like the other aunts say, you need to take action now, get the ball rolling with the divorce attorney sooner rather than later, and don't mention to him what is going on.
She is a big name in town, a local news anchor, and had sex with him behi... (read in full...)
My husband and mother in law are making fun of me
Q. my husband is making fun of me all the time in front of others; when I said that huts also he is repeating, and my mother in law is also taking it as an advantage and making fun of my skin tone, really hurts as I am susceptible to those things ...
A. 21 April 2021: You don't really elaborate much of what is actually going on in this situation.
Seems a bit like play ground stuff to me, I think you should ever roll with it and let the comments just roll over you, or get out altogether.
I assume you knew ... (read in full...)
My husband admitted to seeking out male friends for me
Q. I've been married to my husband for 8 years; life's been good so far. We met when doing a Christmas promotional thing in the store I worked in at the time. Or so I thought. On Monday my husband admitted to me he'd been online posing a...
A. 19 April 2021: I think he has completely taken leave of his senses. If he is posing as you on dating apps, i fail to see how anything could ever come of it. The guys he is chatting to are think they are chatting to a lady, and would not be on there to meet your ... (read in full...)
How do I come clean about my age?
Q. Hi all. I need an advice. I'm a 41 years old woman. Recently I met a guy. When he approached me I thought he was my at least exact age or maybe 2 or 3 yrs young. When we met I told him that im 37 then he said his 37 too. Then 5 months down the l...
A. 19 April 2021: This is why its so important to start a new relationship based on truth and honesty.
when you start something on a lie then you have got to continue that lie forever more, and this is hard work, energy draining.
My advice would be to star... (read in full...)
Do you think my husband is cheating?
Q. My husband went and got another phone app on his phone. He told me it is to save money. But our current phone plan is only $25 a month. The new one is $20 a month and he went so far as to go through the trouble of switching to an app you can load on ...
A. 19 April 2021: I agree his phone activites are rather suspicious, but we have no real concrete evidence that he is doing anything wrong.
Trust is one of the biggest factors that bind a relationship togther, without trust a relationship will naturally break do... (read in full...)
I feel insecure about not acting like an 'Influencer'
Q. Lots of my peers (I'm in my twenties) wear lots of "Instagram makeup," the on trend style (which is very revealing - think low cut tops, hotpants etc), have social media accounts where they post pictures of themselves in bikinis, show off how big ...
A. 19 April 2021: I think its great that you are not like most of the people succumbing to the pressure of social media, and generally following the crowd making your self up to be something your not.
You are strong enough to be your own person, happy in your own... (read in full...)
I am having a relationship with a woman 1/2 my age. She has sex with other men. I don't mind but my family does
Q. Im a 75 year old man who would like some honest advice...my entire family is upset with me..for over a year now Ive been having a relationship with a 36 year old woman..we spend alot of time together, traveling the world, going to restaurants, ...
A. 18 April 2021: I can quite see where your children are coming from, anyone looking at this relationship from the outside is slightly worrying.
My parents are still happily married in their 70's. But if it was a scenario where my father was dating someone ... (read in full...)
We broke up but still talk and I'm confused
Q. I don’t know what to think anymore. My gf broke up few months ago but we talk daily and still love each other. However due to pandemic it has been hard to move forward. However I have just realised she does talk to me but barely answers. It’s so...
A. 18 April 2021: I think if you all of a sudden stopped sending messages you would never hear from her again.
It would probably be easier all round if she simply did not reply to you, or cut you off. I can't see the point of replying back to you with short on... (read in full...)
Girlfriend shares bed with single guy but swears nothing happened
Q. We were at a single friends home having drinks. I laid down about 2am as my girlfriend carried on a conversation with the single guy,that include admitting she was not that happy.. I was listening. they talked for quite some time. there was a ...
A. 15 April 2021: You say she was intoxicated, which is blind drunk, but she was still able to be having a conversation with this single guy, and able to stress the fact of how unhappy she is. Then made a conscious decision to go and get into bed with him. I think ... (read in full...)
My husband has changed. He's turned into a Christmas freak and watching gay porn
Q. OK, so I'll cut a long story short, but I'm worried over finances. For the past year, my husband's been obsessive over Christmas, spending large amounts on extravagant gifts, and buying large amounts of sweets and crisps and encouraging our kids to ...
A. 14 April 2021: * This is no way to LIVE * sorry for typo. ... (read in full...)
My husband has changed. He's turned into a Christmas freak and watching gay porn
Q. OK, so I'll cut a long story short, but I'm worried over finances. For the past year, my husband's been obsessive over Christmas, spending large amounts on extravagant gifts, and buying large amounts of sweets and crisps and encouraging our kids to ...
A. 14 April 2021: It reminds me of the Christmas song " I wish it could be Christmas every day " While i do love that song at Christmas time in reality it would be a nightmare because it would cost a fortune, and of course there would be nothing to look forward too. ... (read in full...)
We had a falling out I extended an olive branch to my close friend but he didn't respond. Now what?
Q. Ok, folks. I need your advice on this one. Here's the story. I had a friend and we were a part of a larger group of friends and we were all part of a local sports club. He and I were really good pals, in fact I would class him as one of my closes...
A. 14 April 2021: I think that you have done all you can, you have offered an olive branch, and he has chosen not to respond. Maybe he needs more time, maybe he will never respond at all.
revealing all the stuff you did to Mr Gossip was a big mistake, so let this... (read in full...)
I found out on my birthday my husband has been having casual, meaningless sex with another woman!!! How can I ever trust him again?/
Q. Can ANYONE here tell me HOW and WHY A MAN can go behind his wife or girlfriend's back to GET A BLOW JOB or HAVE MEANINGLESS CASUAL SEX here and there and CLAIM to LOVE his wife or girlfriend??? And PRETEND to be committed to his primary ...
A. 14 April 2021: I think that going out and sleeping with someone else just to get back at him is a really bad idea.
At the end of the day you married the wrong man, you married a liar and a cheat.
I agree with honeypie, as many woman as men cheat these days... (read in full...)
Girlfriend shares bed with single guy but swears nothing happened
Q. We were at a single friends home having drinks. I laid down about 2am as my girlfriend carried on a conversation with the single guy,that include admitting she was not that happy.. I was listening. they talked for quite some time. there was a ...
A. 14 April 2021: So you were at a friends having some drinks, and your girlfriend was having a late night conversation with some some single guy, and she admitted to him she was not happy.
Your other friend was asleep on the couch, so your girlfriend went to ... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with him even though he is cruel
Q. Once upon a time I liked this boy from my primary school when I was 13. I told him how I felt about him on Facebook and his response was that I have problems. But it made me fall in love with him even more. Then one day, he called me an ugly bitch ...
A. 13 April 2021: I think you have got to let this one go. To much time has passed and you really don't know anything about him or his life now.
Accept the fact that he has deleted you, Come on OP, you don't love him.
What should you do?. Accept that he has reje... (read in full...)
Can a relationship that started as an affair have a chance at succeeding in the long run?
Q. I am one of the rare mistresses who gets her married man in the end. He divorced his wife, sold the home, split assets. All the kids are grown and out of the house. And now we are together legitimately. I can walk on the street with him hold...
A. 13 April 2021: A classic case of the grass is always greener on the other side, but when you actually get there you find it's not so green after all.
You are feeling this way because you have entered into a new relationship that is built on lies and mistrust... (read in full...)
My charming boyfriend met a girl he's gotten a little too close too and I'm worried
Q. About a year ago, my bf of 2 years met a girl at a car event he went to. She’s in a relationship and he was in a relationship with me. I would usually come to the same event with him because he usually likes me to experience it too, even though it’s ...
A. 13 April 2021: So he met someone at a car event, which just happens to be a women, and they have hit it off and share a common interest for car's.
I do think that the level of interaction between the pair of them is slightly worrying as the conversa... (read in full...)
Is This Player Just Chasing Me Because I'm Hard To Get?
Q. The guy who likes me is a ladies man and party boy and has slept with loads of girls, so although I think he's hot I am not interested. He has constantly been flattering me for ages to the point his friends make fun of him but Im just not into him ...
A. 12 April 2021: I think that you should pass him by and forget about him.
He is keen on you because he has not yet slept with you yet. You are attractive, your going to med school. So he is enjoying the thrill of the chase with someone that quite frankly is out o... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to Cuckold him, I don't understand why
Q. Hi I am really hoping you ladies and gents can help me! 2 weeks ago my husband asked me to really consider letting him watch another guy have sex with me. This has thrown me hard, I don't understand it. He says he can't explain his reasons behi...
A. 10 April 2021: I think if you give him his freedom to do this, for him to bring all this into reality then its going to be the downfall of your marriage anyway.
He is not going to stop, he is going to keep pushing until he gets a result.
I think you should... (read in full...)
Husband's secret past is worrisome
Q. I've been married to my husband for 3 years now, and found some quite strange pictures of him online by accident; the photos were of him wearing a bikini and leather skirt, and him eating a doughnut. It was a rather old-fashioned website with loa...
A. 10 April 2021: I agree with Honeypie, there is not an awful lot you can do really apart from printing a few off and ask him what these are all about.
It was quite early on in your relationship, so was he partying hard in the beginning of your relation... (read in full...)
I think I am just a replace for my fiance's ex
Q. So me and my fiancé have been together for just under two years, but I’m not convinced he loves me as much as an ex girlfriend he was with for 7 years. Or even at all, I play around scenarios in my head where I wonder if he wishes he could just be ...
A. 10 April 2021: I think its wrong to be in a relationship with someone and be constantly talking about an ex, i think this is a red flag.
If he had a child with her then maybe i could understand keeping up associations with her and her family. But he has not got ... (read in full...)
Lack of care, or being over sensitive?
Q. Trying to cut a long story short. I have had various problems with my Heath since giving birth to my second child 7 months ago. Over the past few weeks I have been suffering with pain down below and this evening it was so bad I couldn’t move from ...
A. 10 April 2021: I don't think that you were being dramatic whatsoever.
He knew it was likely that would have to go to hospital, he know's also there are young children to be looked after. But instead he chose to have a drink, and as a consequence you ended up... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to Cuckold him, I don't understand why
Q. Hi I am really hoping you ladies and gents can help me! 2 weeks ago my husband asked me to really consider letting him watch another guy have sex with me. This has thrown me hard, I don't understand it. He says he can't explain his reasons behi...
A. 8 April 2021: Like Honeypie & youcannotbeserious pointed out, you really do only have to look back over previous posts of bringing a third party into the marriage/relationship and look at the outcome.
I can tell you that the outcome is never good, infact t... (read in full...)
Do I let my teenaged son know I seen him making out with his friend? Do I tell his dad?
Q. I have a son who is 14 year old son, Chris. He broke his leg and is on crutches. He is getting around okay on the crutches but I was worried about leaving him home alone, afraid that he would fall down, especially in the bathroom. Chris asked if...
A. 8 April 2021: Like the other aunts have said, i would not even broach this subject with your son, or mention it to his Dad.
I feel if you mention it it will just be awkward and embarrassing, so some things are just best left alone.
He is 14, curious, and... (read in full...)
I've made my husband feel guilty but he doesn't need to.
Q. This is going to sound like a strange one. About 2 weeks ago I walked in on my husband and his best friend watching one of our home made videos and performing sexual acts on each other. My first reaction was to act angrily, but really I wasn't...
A. 8 April 2021: Your first reaction was to act angrily, well of course it was as this would be the reaction of 99% of the population as well.
I thank that most people would have packed his bags for him and told him to leave.
He has shared something very i... (read in full...)
He left me once and asked for my forgiveness. Can I trust him not to leave me again?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for five years. We became engaged in September of 2020 and then moved in together in December 2020. I was over the moon and life couldn't be better UNTIL he decided, seemingly out of the blue, to move out after ...
A. 7 April 2021: Can you trust this man?.
I would say absolutely not. He bolted on you not even giving you a second thought, not a thought for your feelings, all he was interested in was him, and what he wanted. This is not what someone does when you love someone.... (read in full...)
how we can a couple work if neither likes the other's family?
Q. I have a few issues but they all sort of tie in together. First of all, how we can a couple work if neither likes the other's family? I don't really know exactly what he thinks of my family but I know he has problems with at least a few members. I ...
A. 7 April 2021: I don't think this is about the dislike for each other family's but more about your relationship with him.
You have described every reason why this relationship is not working. So you need to be strong, step up to the plate and tell him it's ove... (read in full...)
The Guy Who Likes Me Abused His Ex Girlfriend, how didn't I spot it?
Q. I'm in complete shock rn, I went through a breakup recently and there's another guy who likes me a lot (he's told me). He's good looking, a few years older, has a reputation for being a player and a few of my other friends know him. He comes off as ...
A. 7 April 2021: Yes these are huge red flags OP, and your totally right to steer well clear.
Its good that you have friends that have told you this information, other wise you might have unsuspectingly entered into a relationship with him and gone through ... (read in full...)
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