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writes:Hi everyone. I'm not really asking for help just seeing If anyone else has had this happen I was with this guy for 5 months last year who I found out he has a trust issue and holds a barrier up if he gets too close to someone Anyway cut long story short he suddenly stopped speaking week before Xmas, Xmas eve I messenged about the Xmas presents with no reply so left it as that, new years day he blocked me on fb, and changed his fb to single, Anyway his loss lol.Here's my question He still hasn't blocked me on WhatsApp, instergram and snap chat, is this normal for someone who stopped speaking and just block you on one thing and keep on other stuff ?? I spoke to another best guy friend who said he's done it so he can contact me or see what I'm doing etc if he needs to I'm wanting to block him on these as there is no going back but want to keep on as long as I can to see how long it takes him to take me off them all Is this a normal thing for a guy to do I find it all very odd Reply to this Question
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (15 February 2021):
 I think life to short for stupid games, and being in relationships with people that leave you dangling and wondering what the hell is going on.
Delete him and move on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2021): Yes, it is very normal for someone who has stopped speaking to you, and has blocked you from one social media platform; while leaving others open. One reason is they want you to still count among their followers...you're still considered a valued-fan. That's a matter of vanity and his ego. Another reason is, he just forgot. Still another is that sometimes people are using you for your contacts and followers. Contact-stealing is pretty common, and should have been your first suspicion.
You're searching for an excuse to continue clinging to remote-possibilities. You're desperately seeking some molecule of hope he still likes you. Since you're gambling with probability, lets just say the odds are against you. He isn't talking to you; because you've been relegated to being a viewer...don't call me, I'll call you! Look but don't contact!
Block and delete him! You'll regain your freedom and peace of mind once you've accepted the reality the guy's not that into you. That has no bearing on your value as a woman, your looks, desirability, or ability to attract other men. Your ego and feminine pride will not let this go easily; that's just part of being human. We all want and need approval and acceptance. We all hate rejection, it makes us feel unappreciated and devalued. That just isn't so! You just have to avoid allowing yourself to sink below your dignity groveling for any man's validation! Let common sense and self-confidence rule. Just block the guy, and forgetabout-him! Move on, sweetheart! Life is just too short!
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (14 February 2021):
 I think you're reading too much into this. He likely forgot to block you on those sites.
I wouldn't wait to see how long it takes him to block you. Why play these games with yourself? Block him and move on.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (13 February 2021):
 What I find strange is that you are allowing him to have that degree of control over your life. Take the initiative, block HIM and move on. You say there is no going back, so tidy up the mess and move on with a clean slate. You deserve better.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (13 February 2021):
 OP,
It's over, OK?
You write :"I'm wanting to block him on these as there is no going back but want to keep on as long as I can to see how long it takes him to take me off them all"
No, just block him, how long it takes him to block you or take you off is a WASTE of your time. Let it go. He wasn't a good fit for you.
Also, WHO cares if he takes you off or not? It doesn't matter!! He is an ex whom you BARELY dated. I mean 5 months is nothing, be glad you didn't waste more time on this one.
As for whether it is normal? There are no "normal rules" for blocking and unblocking and keeping tracks of an ex. OK? I'd guess it's "normal" for him but in the grand scheme of life - it SERIOUSLY doesn't matter one iota whether he keeps you blocked, don't blocked on some stuff or not. IT IS OVER.
I will say this, I think your friend is partly right, he hasn't blocked you on the chat apps because that way he can see if you are chatting with someone.
Keep DRAMA out of your life and just block this guy. Like you said, HIS LOSS.
BLOCK him on EVERYTHING. Show him that you are done with this shit by simply blocking him. And then BE DONE.
Come on. He doesn't NEED to keep up with whether you use your chat apps or not. It's none of his business the day he blocked you and couldn't even have the decency to dump you. Don't keep dudes or duds like that in your life in ANY way form or shape.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2021): I think his friend is right and you are being a bit of s doormat by leaving the door open for him.
He is done with you but wants to make sure you are not done with him.
So long as you keep him unblocked, he knows the door is open for him to click his fingers.
Pull yourself together and realise your worth, which is more than him and his shoddy treatment of you.
Block him, and look to your future. Show him the door is shut and your life has moved on.
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