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writes:Okay.... I started dating this guy for a year. He lives at home with his Parents he’s 30 he has a son and he’s going through a divorce. This weekend I went to his house. I saw a lot that I didn’t see before. His mom babies him and he just has not grown in life because of her. His mom did not want him going to the store due to covid. He’s an adult. Covid is around but staying inside doesn’t help. He walks around naked with his son he’s 7. What bothered me was he put a robe on and went upstairs with nothing under it for hours!!!!!! The robe was knee length he had two teenage sister and his mom in the house his dad was away for business I don’t think his dad would of allowed it. He even said he was so sick that his robe just slipped open. His mom was in the kitchen I told him you need to put clothes on that’s not appropriate!!!! He said she can’t see me. He then took a shower his mom and sister were standing by the door getting medicine out of the medicine cabinet!!!!I get your son seeing you naked but your mom and teen sisters!!!!!! In the summer when her got injured his mom had to scrub his back and wipe his bottom. He hurt his right shoulder. He could of used his left hand. He got sick we went to the store my self and his son. He was being dramatic he acted like was going to fall into things at the store for attention. He then went on to say I’m dying.Later that night he was fine all of sudden and he started running around his house dancing to music.I lost interest in this guy completely..... or I am being crazy and overthinking things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2021):
Just dump him ASAP. For whatever reason - immaturity, narcissism, neurodiversity, autism, insanity (and don't even bother trying to find out which - the guy is a baby, not able to function and expecting his mommy to change his diapers. A baby like this will ONLY expect you to mother him, but you will also NEVER be good enough because you will never be as good as his 'real' Mummy. I've 'been there', though with a guy with different (though similar) behaviours. Life honestly is too short. Just get rid and never look back. These are red flags, waving at you right in front of your eyes. Don't ignore them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2021): You're dating a nutcase. They're a very weird close-nit bunch; and you're the reasonably-sane visiting outsider. Some eccentricities are not easy to tolerate. Their cultural-habits and familial-behaviors may not coincide with your own morals or values. This is a test! Can you assimilate?
If your creep-alarm is sounding-off full-blast, I think you should listen to it.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (13 January 2021):
 He's a tosser.
I'm a private person myself and we didn't go about undressed or barely dressed, and I understand some families are a bit more...laid back where that is concerned.
My issue is that he lives with his parents, his mother babies him, and he's fine with that, and the fact that he's currently going through a divorce. Pick a guy who is an adult and who has his affairs in order. You don't need to step in the middle of something.
I'd be totally uninterested in him as well. A piece of advice, if you break up with him, do it via email and don't get into too many details. The point is to end it, not to convince him of anything.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (13 January 2021):
 I don't think that you are over thinking things, you have witnessed stuff that to be honest are red flags.
Its wonder how he was ever married at all, from your post it is no suprise he is going through a divorce, sounds like his wife ran for the hills.
I'm guessing this relationship is still in its infancy, so do what your heart is telling you and leave him and move on.
By your own admission you say you have lost interest in him completely. So not really any point in sticking around is there.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 January 2021):
 Yeah, someone (him) is not really a grown man - sounds like a man-child with a child.
Makes you wonder why (not really) his wife left him.
Here is the thing, you saw more of him than you had before, and what you saw, was.. well not very attractive behavior to say the least. So what do you do next?
Well, consider the WHOLE person (as far as you know him) was this the REAL him you finally saw and not the curated version you have been dating? He is probably a bit of both. IS that someone you can see yourself being with?
He sounds rather gross around his little sisters. Definitely off-putting. And having his mom baby him? Yikes! As for the drama at the store, maybe he thought he was being funny?
Regardless, the man you saw at his PARENT'S house is who he is (too) is he a yay or nay? If he is a nay, maybe it's time to end it and move on. So you don't waste more time on a guy whom you find kind of gross.
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