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Well, Im 24,Have had many Ups&Downs regarding relationships not only with intimate partners but with friends and people.

In the course of this turbulent period, have seen many people, many things, many relationships, heard many stories, nice and disgusting, but that I concluded is part of life and humanity.

Have been hurt and probably hurt also dear people.That is simply like a vivacious circle.

I would just say, that Far to many people are Trying to Find the Right Person, instead Of Being That One. Thats problem with our commuinication, relation and silly alienation.

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Torn between two guys who want to marry me.

Q.   Two guys in my life: one educated, has money, basically of good status been dating for close to one year, but not caring, loving ever busy, no time for us. The other one, not educated, not well off. 10 years older, has kids but separated with mot...

A.   6 December 2007: Thats decision that should be based only on Your thoughts and feelings. You didnt mentioned Your feelings and thoughts? Do you special inclination toward 1 or 2 ? Maybe you still cannot decide so better to wait,Thats only suggestion. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend acts really immature when we're together. Can anybody help here? (Preferably girls)

Q.   My girlfriend has been really angry towards me. She calls me dumb and pathetic and a 9 year old girl when i dont see how i could be. If i sit next to her she will kick me and punch me and elbow me until i fall off the couch. She will then tell me to ...

A.   6 December 2007: Generally Girls do not like guys that are "tightly"attached to their parents...That gives them insecurity,as if they are having work with some "Mama boy"..So, Genreally They like confident, self assertive and down to earth guys. Maybe there lies... (read in full...)

How can I find time to work, study AND meet new men?

Q.   I am working all day and try to study for government exams at night like 3 or 4 hours a day and to study a bit more at weekends, I go out with some friends my age but I have no crush on any of the guys nor them on me, my best 3 girl mates are ...

A.   24 November 2007: probably to find somebody who is at or near ur position. Im student and im totaly consummated by my studies at the moment so when going out i either call one of my friends for benefits(party girls who are students like me) or those who are very ... (read in full...)

He gave me a pen for a gift, does it mean he likes me??

Q.   this guy that i like gave me a pen for a gift does it mean anything ?...

A.   19 November 2007: Maybe he want you to become a writer in future!;) Joking Lol, I dont know it might mean and not mean anything... maybe he gave you his favorite pen but forgeting to tell you about that... Yup, wait and see... (read in full...)

I think I'm losing my mind! Is it possible to love two people?

Q.   Hi, i have been in a relationship with my fiance for 4 years and have a beautiful child by him. I care about him, would do anything for him and dont know wot i would do if i lost him. We have a very close group of friends whom we spend alot of time ...

A.   19 November 2007: I would say is possible to be attracted to two, when in broad sense, I believe we can Find,depending of the person of course, 50 000 people to whom we can be attracted and consider to have a good life with. But we make decisons in Ur life, and after ... (read in full...)

I got angry at my mother, so I stormed out of the room offensively. Is this normal?

Q.   Last night I got very mad at my mom and yelled at her and called her a bitch. She was listening to me talk about all the losers I've been dating (one was my ex-fiance I dumped a month ago). She just kept saying things like "I told you you shouldn't ...

A.   18 November 2007: Yes many people Get mad, and ususaly storm out to those who are the nearest to them. For ur on benefit and ur mother better protect ureself from hurting in future. She obviosly cares about you and wishes you the best,so why offending her For some... (read in full...)

Is my friend's strategy valid? - to make women like him.

Q.   I recently spoke to one of my guy friends about how he gets girls/woman to like him ( because he always seems to have woman on the go) He said that he gives them attention and then cuts it off and this makes them want more? What do you think? Doe...

A.   18 November 2007: Can work for some time, But any Clever woman will dump him as soon as she concludes he is playing games. So for a long term definately No. ... (read in full...)

My bf bumping into shops requiring me to pay for his shirts. Is this normal behaviour?

Q.   people is it normal for bf to persuade me to buy Me a coat(even i didnt wanted and could not afforded) and than simply to bump into shop requiring me to pay for his shirts,running like a cat after the mouse to the bank to take my money from? ...

A.   18 November 2007: The point is,Without offense, that he is playing games with you Dear.since yOu didnt shared how long is ur relationship,other things about, To make a overal picture on one single occassion i dont how true might be. But this kind of behavior is ... (read in full...)

Should I change myself to suit him? I can sit down and enjoy the peace with him at home but he can't go out and enjoy a night out with me in the pub, which I'm used to.

Q.   I am 42 just divorced. I met this man 18 years older than me and we get on well. He helps me to get through my divorce when I was totally lost. I know I need someone there to ease my pain. I cant think of anything else at that time but stick to ...

A.   18 November 2007: Why to change? You re as You are ...i dont think thats solution..More useful will be to find some "middle ground" b-ween sitting home and going to pubs, if possible. so try to speak and find it some compromise b-ween his desires and ur desi... (read in full...)

She says she doesn't want to loose our friendship.

Q.   Here is my story and my question is where do I go now?: There is this girl and she knows I have liked her for 8 years. My friend and her mates went for a sleepover at another person house. When we got there she said she would be late because she...

A.   18 November 2007: I wasnt able to understand the question in full, But as i Get it she slept with this guy in the same room with you and probably having sex also!? Well, that is uncomfortable situation,but not that sufficient to break a long friendship.. Maybe you ... (read in full...)

Has my boyfriend cheated and given me a sexually transmitted infection?

Q.   My boyfriend of 1 year (we don't live together) left his email open on my computer recently. I couldn't help but look, and as it turns out he has a profile on AdultMatchMaker looking for someone special to share 'oral sex and one on one sex'. when ...

A.   18 November 2007: Hey girl Be careful who You have in bed! For Now and Future...... (read in full...)

I'm torn between This 2 guys and I'm totally going Insaaaanee!!

Q.   I'm torn between This 2 guys and I'm totally going Insaaaanee!! The 1st one is Loving and caring, But the 2nd is just making me feel so "special"... I dont know how he manages that,most of the Time he is inavilable when i Call him,and is pusing m...

A.   16 November 2007: Guess You dont love the nicer guy as much as he Loves you, otherwise Would not be in this position. You might not Love the Bad too,only as iVe read he is more funny and gives you more pleasure in bed. Before You end crying and put the blame on... (read in full...)

Average amount of sex partners in a lifetime.

Q.   I was wondering whether anybody knew the average amount sexual partners men and women have in their lifetimes. Im 17 years old and only have had One, I know this is quite normal and am relatively happy about it. I suppose im asking, what can i ...

A.   15 November 2007: It surely depends of The kind of person is somebody and the circumstances he Is put into. Im 24 and know friends that have had only 1-2 partners in their life and others that had 10-15. It really depends on many things. I would not be that conc... (read in full...)

How do I get true love?

Q.   thank you. dear Andrew. i am betty from ethiopia. i am 19 years single pretty girl.now i need true love.i need help....

A.   10 November 2007: I would agree with martini, Why you need True love and what it represent for you? You dont now, You dont go and Get it, I dont think soemthing like that exsist in the market yet,It simply Happens!... (read in full...)

How do I get true love?

Q.   thank you. dear Andrew. i am betty from ethiopia. i am 19 years single pretty girl.now i need true love.i need help....

A.   10 November 2007: Well as my introductory notice says"far to many people are looking for the right person instead of being it" This is ancient question and since many more clever people than me didnt manage to answer i Give up. Its Just happens!... (read in full...)

How do I end this relationship?

Q.   Im 47 years old just divorced my husband of 20 years. My husband is very mean with money. He has got good income but very mean with money. When my dad was very ill in hospital in the states, he wouldnt buy me a ticket to fly to see him before he ...

A.   10 November 2007: i agree with whiteshadow That relationship shouldnt be about money.BUT I cannot understand if Someone has Good income not willing to pay for his 20years commited wife to see her father.I guess you dont earn that much,otherwise would have been ... (read in full...)

Why are men like this?

Q.   hi,i have one question. when you tell a man that you love him why does he feel like a king and that he is the master of everything and ignores you , and drives so far away from you? ...

A.   9 November 2007: Not all men are like that.You just have had that luck probably. I would stop dating him if he shows such a behaviour.... (read in full...)

Does someone who loves you, treat you this way?

Q.   Life doesn't seem fair right now. I can't get over my ex who I broke up with a month ago. He wasn't right for me because he was very emotionally abusive, controlling,manipulative, etc. For example, he would get mad if I didn't smoke or drink (when I ...

A.   9 November 2007: He needs a counselor not a GF!... (read in full...)

My ex says I always want what I cant have...what does she mean??

Q.   My ex-girlfriend said I always seemed to want what I couldn't have. Any ideas what that's supposed to mean? What can't we have and how do we recognise it? For example, my ex invited me to bed and I fondled her breasts and she said I always seemed ...

A.   9 November 2007: Maybe she meant that YOu cannot Have her, as You are,implying she is not satisfied with you,and ur treatment of her,Or might be that she feel You dont love her Much,It depends. Have you aver cast an eye to other women?Have you ever made any comments ... (read in full...)

People take advantage of my genorosity, how can I stop this!

Q.   dear friends, Can anyone tell me How can i stop being foolish and giving a 100% of me regarding people?I m just fed up with that but cannot stop it. I feel perfectly fine when alone,the prob.is when I fell in love with or allow certain so called ...

A.   9 November 2007: As you pointed out, I also You dont need to change,Just to be more cautious about people you re befriending and guys ure Having. You did right with ur Bf, money counts nothing when compared to him not tormenting you again.Do it the same to ur ... (read in full...)

My doc confirmed it's a sexual dysfunction. It seems that no man wants to be in a relationship with a woman who does not find sex pleasureable. Can anyone advise, please?

Q.   I'm 23 yrs old. Well, right now I feel hurting myself. I don't feel well at all. It seems that no man wants to be in a relationship with a woman who does not find sex pleasureable for her at all. I guess I have a sexual dysfunction sinc...

A.   8 November 2007: Oh Honey,Never beleive completely to Doctors. My father is one, and if i was to believe everything he said would have been stuck on sickness probably. Firstly,dont take that fact as granted,You might have Or not sexual disfunction.It might be ... (read in full...)

How to get pictures back without being harsh

Q.   im fed up with my parents mingling in my life.My mom, especially has that habit of controlling and mingling constantly,I just feel her like some Dictator hanging over my head.Ive discovered that she has taken all the photos of my album from my ...

A.   8 November 2007: Well, ASK her Why She did that.. That could be a good starting point for ur mutual communication. Tell her that You do Love her , but that Ur grown up and you dont like She mingling in ur life affairs. Try to avoid a quarell, when Will almost c... (read in full...)

I want my family to give me some R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

Q.   I don't feel as if my family really respects me. I'm the second youngest of four girls so you might say I've got a bit of the middle-child problem. I don't get any recognition as an older sibling from my youngest sister even. It's as if she sees me ...

A.   8 November 2007: Would say take a estimation on Urself than raise it at least 10%! I had and still have hard parents(since my sister passed away 6 yrs ago they ve become completely focused on me),completely dominerring and verbally abusive.I feell at most of time ... (read in full...)

I want my family to give me some R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

Q.   I don't feel as if my family really respects me. I'm the second youngest of four girls so you might say I've got a bit of the middle-child problem. I don't get any recognition as an older sibling from my youngest sister even. It's as if she sees me ...

A.   8 November 2007: Would say take a estimation on Urself than raise it at least 10%! I had and still have hard parents(since my sister passed away 6 yrs ago they ve become completely focused on me),completely dominerring and verbally abusive.I feell at most of time ... (read in full...)

Here is my list of the "perfect" boyfriend! What do you think?

Q.   Here is my list of the perfect boyfriend. Are there any men like this? 1. Shares all email and IM passwords 2. Has none, or only one, female friend 3. Tell's me when his only female friend calls 4. Tell's me when he goes basically anywher...

A.   7 November 2007: Ouhhh Dear, You have such a possesive list. Maybe you ll find some masohistic man who likes you.. Dont know Good lusk... (read in full...)

I only like much older men, guys my age just don't do it for me. Has anyone else felt this way?

Q.   Recently, I have realised that I only like much older men than me, I have dated guys my age but it just doesn't do it for me. I'm not talking a couple of years older either, I mean men in their 30s and 40s. Now I have never had a relationship with ...

A.   7 November 2007: I have always been attracted to Older guys. Dont find it wierd.. Simply i cannot find myself neither in communication nor in understanding nor with thing im interested with guys my age. There is nothing wrong with it... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants to become a stripper. I am not sure if I am ok with it.

Q.   My girlfriend wants to be a stripper. She has started working in a peep show. i.e women behind glass dancing together. I think she wants to do this as part of her sexual growth and exploration. She mentioned that she is thinking of working in a ...

A.   7 November 2007: There is nothing wrong with stripping.It a job like every other,even I would say good-dance-strip performance is equally to art. I dont see why she would not do that,if she wants? Maybe you should be more supportive then jelaous of other mans lust ... (read in full...)

I'm married, never cheated on my husband, and the tests reveal I'm HIV positive. How do I tell him this...?

Q.   How can I handle my life? I'm 30 yrs old I have i'm married for 6 yrs now. i didn't have sex with other guys but when i tested my blood i'm positive with HIV, do you recommend to tell to my husband? He will kill himself and I belive him he didn'...

A.   6 November 2007: It could be false.I would suggest doing the test again,and if its positive again, would reccommend strongly telling and speaking to ur husband.Hiv is serious infection, it could although not necessarily go into the stage of AIDS, no matter what ... (read in full...)

My sister keeps stealing my underwear!!

Q.   Hi everyone My problem is my younger sister. She is 16 at the minute and turns 17 on the 1st of january. The problem is is that she won't stop stealing from me. She steals money, clothes, makeup, shaving razors, beauty products..basica...

A.   6 November 2007: Why dont you try to speak to her and if she wants a pair of nice underwear maybe Buy it so she would stop... Seems she is bit jelaous of you... (read in full...)

I'm feeling lonely and friendless and it's hurting my marriage, what can I do?

Q.   In explaining myself prior to asking my question, I will probably seem pathetic one moment and arrogant the next, but I'm neither. I'm just being completely honest about my personality and tendancies to give you an idea of how different things are ...

A.   6 November 2007:  Im not from ur country, so maybe im not so quilified to answer this but will try to give my opinion. You sound to me as Strong yet delicately vulnarable woman. Seem that although have had many friends,now you cant remmember of anybody honest a... (read in full...)

Who would you choose - money or no money?

Q.   Ok,Simple question. If you re torn betweet two men for marrige, One of whom Is pretty rich(can have laisure and relaxed life with), and the Other not so much(indeed may have money problem later), You like them both in certain way, Who would you ...

A.   4 November 2007: why dont you leave the decision aside, till you meet Mr.Right with or without money? Isnt that cleverer? Best of luck... (read in full...)

Who would you choose - money or no money?

Q.   Ok,Simple question. If you re torn betweet two men for marrige, One of whom Is pretty rich(can have laisure and relaxed life with), and the Other not so much(indeed may have money problem later), You like them both in certain way, Who would you ...

A.   4 November 2007: I would agree with.Mr.Phil that money does not necessarily bring happines, but Make the Life easier, thats for sure. Vice versa, not having them, will certainly bring troubles in a relatioship(maybe not immidiately but later when planning fami... (read in full...)

I'm a girl in love with a girl who helps me with music.

Q.   Hi everyone, I really need help on a question I dont understand. Im 16, and the thing is, I play the violin and I'm in intermediate (between beggining and advanced) orchestra at my highschool. After playing horrible at a concert, I felt ups...

A.   4 November 2007: Maybe you love her in a friend way, I would say homoerotic feelings instead of homosexual.The main difference is that the first one connotes feelings tof desire of longing between members of the same sex, but not necessarily the desire of sex.You ... (read in full...)

My mum thinks my girlfriend is screwed up, what should I do for the best?

Q.   I'm not sure what to make about my girlfreind, she lives about 30 miles away from me and I have to always pay for hotels when I stay up there, she occasionally comes down to me, but lately I have gone up to where she lives, she says she loves me and ...

A.   4 November 2007: she s got problem obviously with her self esteemitation. I think she feels unuseful and probably unloved. Calling oneself sut and that behaviour she shows point out to that. The best way,if you really love her, is to help her, To make her feel spec... (read in full...)

Why didn't they hit on me when I was single?

Q.   Hello, things seem to be every confusing and betrayed... Lately I have Cute guys after me and i thought about it, how come they didnt hit on me when i was single? ...

A.   4 November 2007: Probably becouse your guy seem happy with you, so they Have realized that You could be a good match for them too. Thats how the mans and even women do. Before they didnt probably thought that way.Its not love but just the notion of being heppy with ... (read in full...)

Not sure if he loves me or I'm a good deal as I don't make him spend on me and am much younger than him. Please advise.

Q.   I'm going through divorce at the moment. I've been married to my husband for 22 years. Im 45 years old. I've fallen in love with self employed builder whom came to fix my roof. He is 63 single. He soothes my painful divorce. We've been together ...

A.   3 November 2007: Talk to him.tell him honestly what you Think and feel.What disturbs you,his unattendivness, stinginess and not making you feel special.Than see if he will change at least a bit hiow ways.Not being there in your bad moments and not willing to spend ... (read in full...)

I've given him £6000 in total which he spent on debts and drugs and now he has disappeared...

Q.   i dont know what to do and am deepl upst. i will try shorten the story. i was with this wonderful guy, for a year was all perfect, then one day i heard nothing from him at all just stopped calling visiting nothing, i went through torment and ...

A.   3 November 2007: He does not Love you.And almost surely,I can say that he is using other people for the same purpose(money)at the same time.Thats probably how he lives. So,grit ur teeth, and Go on with your life.Thats the best You can do. If he Really loves you,... (read in full...)

I'm short of money - how do I move to Sweden?

Q.   I want to go abroad to live ,just as Sweden,but I donot have enough money,the most importance is I am afraid to go to a place without friends! If any body can tell me how to do?...

A.   2 November 2007: Did you try to find any job over there?... (read in full...)

Am I suited to a Village Boy?

Q.   Ok, lets be honest and fair.No matter of everything IM deeply in love with my Bf.He is kind and lovely man, and Im sure he is in Love with me. He seems as being unexperienced with womens. He is 32, but as far as women and seducing is concerned he ...

A.   1 November 2007: When honest Love is in question the boundaries and diffrences,should not be problem at all.If you are both in Love,than I would suggest to communicate about these matters.I dont know what ties you to the Urban areas,if its party only, i can say with ... (read in full...)

Should I draw his attention to this matter or not?

Q.   Hi to everyone. I have my conscience troubling me and find I'm unable to cope and even sleep! My friend(female) who I didn't liked much, but have been in a certain relations this past year, and I don't know why, simply find it hardly to dump her, I ...

A.   30 October 2007:  Just want to Thank all of you for your answers. Think I will follow the advices you have given me not to get involved at all. Probably is temporary feeling, like You ree seeing somebody who Can get hurt and not doing anything, But i agree th... (read in full...)

Should I draw his attention to this matter or not?

Q.   Hi to everyone. I have my conscience troubling me and find I'm unable to cope and even sleep! My friend(female) who I didn't liked much, but have been in a certain relations this past year, and I don't know why, simply find it hardly to dump her, I ...

A.   30 October 2007:  I dont understand why Her taking advantage of Him, so much concerns you?She is after his money, if i read properly, not after urs. I can understand that you might feel badly by not paying attention to him, But if she is that kind of person why you ... (read in full...)

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