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Hey All!

My names H!(not telling the rest) and i come from Bradford I am 15 years old :) at last lol XD

I am here cos i have enough problems of my own and i think that my expierences can truely help people out as i undersatnd what people are going through :)

I have a book all about decoding your dreams, so if your not sure what it means, just ask me! :)

I have posted three questions on here and would like to thank the people who replied and helped me out as you made me realise a few things; dont be fooled by poison sugar coated (one of my new sayings lol :)) and its up to me to make my own choices in life :) .... so thank :) I would like to repay the favour by helping you out sometime so if you wanna talk i'm here and i will try and talk through your problems so just e-mail me!

I am not qaulified professionally but my ambiton in life is/ was to be a Primary School History Teacher ( i know its a big leap lol) I am also fasanated by how the mind works, how people act concouisly and subconcouisly. I dream to be a criminal phycologist/ profiler

I get annoyed by the following things; 1. When people say or do something that is not correct. Then I correct them ie correcting them when someone pronounces a word wrong

2. Soaps with heart breaking story lines; ie amy giving her baby for her mum to raise, little tom going into care, Custody battles that last a long time, never ending storylines that really get on my nerves and such cliches'.

Soaps i cant stand; Eastenders, Corrination St, Home and Away, Hollyoaks!!!

3. Rap music is my version of torture! i cannot stand; Smack that! that song is annoying, I wanna luv/f.u.c u, pacs life!

or people rapping terribly and singing terribely

I am in a long distance relationship @ the moment with the worlds most amazing, caring and wonderful boy, ever (i know its an biased opinion but we all have to be biased @ some point point in pur lives)

i'm also; English, Iresh, Scotish, Welsh, Russian and Indian. (as u can tell my family is pretty global)

Thats all for now. Here a few things to keep you thinking;

- Never trust anything too perfect

- Its ok to be selfish occasionally

- If you have a gut instinct, follow it

- Your family dont control you, you make your own descions

- Follow your heart not your head

- Be strong

- Ignore certain cynics,there just jelouse

- Its ok to be a sheep sometimes

- Things happen for a certain reason

- Calma exsists, just because u cant see it doesnt mean its there

- once a cheat always a cheat

- curly hair rules

- size 12/14 is not fat!its curvy!

- Eat food, it makes u happy

- Self starving is agonising, dont do it

- Dont let ur hormoans get control of you

- curves are in! dont feel threatend

- love is like the sea, go with the flow

- Mess is pkay occasionaly

- Its ok to cry

- Love is the best feeling ever!!!

- Let your feelings known

Good Luk

Hannah :)XxX

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Will this long distance relationship work?

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A.   21 November 2007: i've been in the same sitaution as u, i thought it was love, but it's not, u could be talking to a pedo, a 60 yr old in a wheel cahir, u never know... (read in full...)

He's moved on and now I can't get over him! Help!

Q.   i honestly dont know how to get over him. Hello everyone! i have a big problem, i went out with this boy bla bla bla and he told me hed never hurt me ans this other shit. Like a fool i believed him, well he found someone else just after being broken ...

A.   4 October 2007: hey, i'm in the same boat as u at this moment in time. it hurts doesnt it? like this big pang in your heart and everything around youi reminds you of the time you and him were together? well dont cry and dwell about it because if he moved on the... (read in full...)

I am not jealous, but I am upset that he is talking to a new girl

Q.   this guy i use to talk to for like 2 years suddlenly forgot about me and just moved on with his life without me doing anything to him at all. he is talking to this new girl now and it hurts when i see them together. im not jealous but i am upset and ...

A.   4 October 2007: i am in the same situation as you, i know how it feels and hurts at the fact that he moved on quiker, even instantly after your relationship is over. first of all, talk your feelings through with someone you trust. second of all delte all evidence... (read in full...)

How can I avoid losing my indentity in my next relationship??

Q.   My last relationship ended recently. When I reflect back on it I just can't believe that when I met him I had so much going on in my life and somewhere along the way I kind of lost my identity. Somehow I got so involved in his life that I forgot I ...

A.   2 September 2007: Kennys right, look back at previous reltionships as practive in a sense. Keep a physical reminder of your identity with you when/if your in a relationship. It could be a photograph, a teddy, something amung those lines so when you look at it, you ... (read in full...)

I always feel that other people are better than me. Why?!

Q.   hey. What i have always felt throughout my life is other people are so much better than me. Why? I have been told i am pretty lots of times yet i still feel like everyone else has something that i don't. Why am i so insecure about what i look like...

A.   23 August 2007: Its lack of confidence basically. Do you often find yourself comparing yourself to other girls your age? Picking out your faults? It's a habit I know, especially in swimming baths, thats the worse. Go see a confidence coach or go out to clubs li... (read in full...)

I am pregnant to him again an he's said he wants me to get rid of it, if I don't then he does not want anything to do with me.

Q.   I've been with my Asian boyfriend for 3 years, in that 3 years he was made to get married by his dad. I've got 1 child to him and another to another man but he has brought her up as his own, now I am pregnant to him again an he's said he wants me to ...

A.   20 August 2007: tell him to go away, it is good he has raied the other child as he own but his own flesh and blood is insane. just let it be, you, your daughter and your baby... (read in full...)

He's cheated on me and now they are official. So why is he still living with me?

Q.   At the start of this year i found out my partner of 6 years had been cheating on me! It's now August and now he's "officially" in a relationship with this other woman. The thing is he's still with me too! She thinks he moved out months ago but he's ...

A.   11 August 2007: your his safety net... (read in full...)

How can I start to think for myself and stop being so influenced by my mother?

Q.   Hi - I wonder if anyone could help. My mother recently told me that she got very hurt in her teens (she is now 62) because she found out her mother (my grandmother who is no longer alive) had an affair. Her father never found out and she never ...

A.   11 August 2007: Your a grown women who still follows what mum says, stand up to her! be strong... (read in full...)

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I'm scared to tell my mom i'm pregnant!

Q.   Me and my mom dont get along that well because she is so strict, but im pregnant and im scared to tell her,HELP!...

A.   8 August 2007: hey, find someone else to talk to, dont let your mother take control, this is your baby that you are carrying... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a year to live, but he wants to marry me and have a baby!

Q.   This is kinda a HUGE question and i really need help, my fiancée (we have been together since we were 12 im 19 now) has just been diagnosed with lung cancer and has been told he's got about a year to live basically but they're gunna treat him as ...

A.   8 August 2007: I am so sorry to hear about your bf, it must be very difficult to cope with. well ignore what other people say and concentrate on what both of you want, which is a baby gd look... (read in full...)

What symptoms of pregnancy are there besides weight gain and missing periods?

Q.   Hey there, just a quick question what are the symptoms of pregnancy? Not like missed period or gaining weight i mean other symptoms before you know....

A.   28 July 2007: well the most common things are; you feel eroused quite alot, you crave foods that you never thought u'd crave, u crave weird foods... (read in full...)

I'm 14, 8 months pregnant, the father of this baby has left me! So many problems..I need advice badly!

Q.   Hey, so im 14 8 months pregnant and for the first time im doubting if i want this baby, my ex who i was with for a year and 6months well he left me, spread lies about me denied he was the dad then refuses to speak to me, hes making it so hard, ha...

A.   28 July 2007: first of all dont doubt yourself about being a good mother, the fact that he left u and the baby shows that he is fearing the arrival of your child (congrats by the way) and doesnt believe that he will be a good dad. well you are thinking maturely... (read in full...)

Should i teach my friend?

Q.   I have a friend that i like. He is 12 and i am 16. is it ok to teach him how to have sex and give blowjobs and have sex and how to make out and how to drink pee and other stuff? Also, I have not gone through puberty yet. Should i be worried?...

A.   26 July 2007: no to both... (read in full...)

My boyfriend said 'hey baby' affectionately on the phone to a female co-worker and when I called him on it, said I was just jealous

Q.   Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and we have a 7 month old son. Just yesterday he called a female that he worked with to sort out a scheduling conflict. I was thumbing through a magazine when he says, "Hey Baby!" I looked up ...

A.   25 July 2007: i agree with everyone here, it sounds like he's cheating.the fact that he got your names mixed up is a big sign, hire out a private detective and if hes not cheating then he sounds like the wodls biggest flirt,... (read in full...)

After telling my boyfriend about my workday he said it was long and boring, which hurts; doesn't he like talking with me?

Q.   Okay, So I had a really wierd day at work today and I wanted to tell my boyfriend all about it, well after I was done telling him he seemed really irritated and told me that the story was too detailed, long and boring, Well of course that hurt my ...

A.   25 July 2007: i agree with SleepingChrissie, communication is a big factor in an reationship, in fact the biggest. If it hurts your feelings then talk to him about it, but my best advice is next time he asks, just say it was good and nothing else then walk off ... (read in full...)

Sweet 16 and never been kissed!

Q.   I am 16 years old and have never kissed a boy or anything... 16!!! All my friends always have a bf and have so much fun and luv with them... I am ready to have a relationship and am ready to have sex when i find the right bf. i am so lonely how do i ...

A.   25 July 2007: i'm 15 and have never being kissed, just wait, you want your first kiss to be something special ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend still texts her ex, what should i do?

Q.   My girlfriend is still texting her ex. It really irritates me. What should I do? Should I give her an ultimatum?...

A.   25 July 2007: now thats too harsh, would u like it if she gave you an ultimatum over still texting your ex? if their still friends then leave it @ that, do u trust your gf enough to be in contact with her ex?... (read in full...)

My ex always starts calling me when i start seeing someone else.

Q.   My boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago we have a child, he cheats but always calls me when he knows i'm dating someone but nothing serious so he says he wants to work it out if i dont date this person anymore or he'll keep going out and having ...

A.   25 July 2007: he's playing mind games with you, just space yourself from your ex best of luck hannah... (read in full...)

My parents signed forms claiming custody of my kids so they could go to school in their district; now they won't let me have my kids back because they don't like my new partner's nationality

Q.   I have had very controlling parents all of my life. I now have two children ages 10 and 15. In 2005 my children were attending a school that was in my parents school district. The principal found out and would not let my children go back to school ...

A.   25 July 2007: get a court order and demand your kids back. if ur kids arent in any emotional or physical danger of being with you and ur new husband then your are safe, i wish u the best of luk hannaah... (read in full...)

I fear my ex will take our child out of the country and never bring him back! Any advice?

Q.   I don't trust my ex at all. And I really mean that. I don't believe a word he says as he has proven to be a liar and a cheat. We have a little boy and we used Family Mediation to work out regular access that suited us both. I do believe in my...

A.   23 July 2007: My best advice, get a court order so that he cant your son out of the country. make it clear to your ex that you dont trust him and only let your son see him because you want him to have a father the best of luck hannah... (read in full...)

My heart beats faster for my nephew, but not my boyfriend

Q.   Hey. I have a bf that i love so much. Cant imagen a life without him. But my nephew. I like him. When my bf and i are chatting and my nephew comes onto mxit my heart starts beating faster. Doesnt happen with my bf anymore. My bf hates my nephew ,coz ...

A.   18 July 2007: first of all is he your biological nephew? cos if he is then thats incest, but if he is ur nephew by relations then it is ok to have feelings. maybe you and ur bf should spend time alone, away from ur nephew, like i dunno a holiday abroad, reki... (read in full...)

I don't know whether to keep the baby and if I should tell him

Q.   I am pregnant by my new ex. We had only been dating 6 months, but the unhealthy relationship he has with the mother of his child has finally broke us. I already had an abortion a few months ago (also his) and I really don't know what to do. I really ...

A.   16 July 2007: keep the baby! just because your ex isnt around doesnt mean that you cant still enjoy motherhood. tell your ex about the baby and ask him how he feels then tell him your keeping the child and that he has a choice in the matter, he can be that fat... (read in full...)

What's wrong with us fat girls?

Q.   Whats wrong with fat gals? Im a fat gal. I take good care of myself. Better than a lot of skinny gals. Why dont i get noticed? My best friend is skinny and she smells ,always have dog hair all over her cloths ,her handr are dirty ,whx do guys like ...

A.   13 July 2007: Nothings wrong! being curvy is so kwl! guys like curves! maybe because of all the media attention on skinny celebs and wat great "sex appeal" they have! i personally think curves are kwl but i'm just saying that because i am curvy. but be proud ... (read in full...)

My breasts are differant sizes!

Q.   Hey, I'm 16, and I have one breast that is a fair bit larger than the other. I suppose that I am still quite young and I am most likely still growing, but will they even out in time? ...

A.   12 July 2007: its perfectly natrual dont worry, they will become even in time... (read in full...)

I want to be able to help my wife more, she's been very stressed at work and has had a lot of work to bring home and do.

Q.   Hi, I want to be able to help my wife more, she's been very stressed at work and has had a lot of work to bring home and do. She's really tired and it's just getting too much for her up to the point where she's nearly crying because she's really ...

A.   11 July 2007: You sound like a really caring guy, my best advice is, this weekend book a romantic get away to some really nice hotel, chocolates, strawberries, champagne, the basic full works good luck h:)... (read in full...)

My wife shuts me out, so I crossed the line with a female friend. Her personality makes me come alive and now we're growing apart. I feel like screaming! Help!

Q.   I have a problem some,i never really discuss things out,but i need help on this. Problem being,i been married for a long time,17 years in fact,i have one son teenager. Things at home over the years have slowly gotten bad,i love my son,i am very cl...

A.   11 July 2007: first of all talk to your wife about these feelings and make a joint decision that will be suitable for all of you. your spn may of noticed you and your wifes behavouir and would of guessed that something was/is wrong. well spend some platonic... (read in full...)

I saw my best friend's husband cheating on her!

Q.   Ok, so here's my problem. My bestfriend started dating this guy about three years ago. Pretty much that whole time there were rumors he was cheating on her. I told her many times that this was going on (not that it was necessarly true just that I ...

A.   11 July 2007: I agree with everyone here, tell her before she finds out the hard way. are you fearing this because you are scared that she will not beleive you? you have being freinds for years so shes bound to believe you good luck hannah :)... (read in full...)

I discreetly got DNA and the result shows I am not her biological father. I am stunned and do not know what to do.

Q.   Just found out my 12 year old daughter is not mine, I was divorced recently and an old friend of my ex wife told me when she had a few drinks . I confronted my ex she said it was rubbish but it has been playing on my mind for months. I discreetly ...

A.   10 July 2007: You have raised her for 12 whole years, that counts for something. stay in touch, dont leave her, she needs you good luk hannah :)... (read in full...)

My ex and my friend are in a wonderful relationship together... I know because she brags about it! It's so painful, so what do I do?

Q.   A close freind of mine is going out with my ex and we are in the same friendship group. Recently me and some girls friends went out, including her and she talked about him the whole time! Their relationship is going so well atm and because she was ...

A.   10 July 2007: she is not true freind if she brags, seperate yourself from her and ur ex, maybe take a vacation, meet new people gd luk hannah :)... (read in full...)

He wants me to kick my son out of the house!

Q.   I have been going to marriage counseling with my husband for the past few months and things have been going pretty smoothly. now he has told me that he does not want my 14year old son in the house because of behavior issues. he has giving me a ...

A.   10 July 2007: I agree with everyone here your son comes first, would he feel the same if it was ur daughter(hypertheticly)? the fact that he is making you chose is just plain cruel dont kick your son out... (read in full...)

I have meltdowns about once a month and I'm pregnant! My husband gets mad at me and I'm also scared for the health of my baby! What can I do?

Q.   And no I am not talking about meltdowns from a 2-year-old, I'm unfortunatley talking about meltdowns from myself. I'm 24-years-old and recovering from depression. I hold down a full-time job and got a bachelor's degree so I have not let it ...

A.   10 July 2007: first and foremost, tell this to your fiance! he has no room talk because he's the one carrying your child, u are. ur hormoans are messed up, its perfectly normal. the fact that he insults his pregnant fiance is outragous, wen u feel urself s... (read in full...)

My wife has been getting really emotional recently and cries all the time. Is this normal? How can I help her?

Q.   Hi i hope you understand me here because i'm finding it hard to understand myself. Well recently my wife has been getting a bit emotional and the first time i noticed she was feeling sad i asked her what was wrong and she said she doesn't know she...

A.   10 July 2007: Its the crying thing, perfectly normal, the best thing u can do for her is be there with a box of tissues and a big hug, that wrks all the time :)... (read in full...)

Told my friends I'm a virgin and it seems all they want to talk about now is sex!

Q.   Hey there, I feeling a bit let down by friends right now. A few days ago i told my friends i was a virgin (I'm 19). It's something i dont have a problem with and im quite proud of myself for not sleeping around and having one night stands. I feel ...

A.   9 July 2007: It sounds childish to me; make new friends get out there, find new friends. ignore them, they'll get tired of it gd luk Hannah :)... (read in full...)

I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay?

Q.   I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay? I wanted to wait until i was in a serious relationship before i had sex but now i dont know if i should just go out and sleep with someone because of the whole age-pressure thing?...

A.   9 July 2007: Your first time is something you remember for life. dont let it be remebered by a a bathroom quckie! (sos for being crude) dont feel preasured, when ur ready ur ready good luk hannah :)... (read in full...)

It's our anniversary next Saturday, what can I do to get her in the mood and have the best night of her life?

Q.   Hi me and my wife are both happily married and been together since we were 16 and always had a good sex life. It's just we really want to try new things like new places to do it that are more exciting and more passionate and romantic. I want this to ...

A.   9 July 2007: Take her to a hotle, buy toys,champaigne, romantic music. women like being seduced, remember that gd lk H:... (read in full...)

He wrote a love letter to his ex, told a friend he wished he could see her "hot friend," and more! I'm jealous and insecure - am I overreacting?

Q.   Please help . . . I have been in my relationship for a year and my boyfriend continued to write to his ex girlfriend in Germany. I found one letter (it was not hidden) and it was basically confessing his undying love for her (he has not done tha...

A.   9 July 2007: No your not over reacting, I'd do the same if i were u. the evidence is piling up, confront him, tell him all this gd luk hannah:)... (read in full...)

He's drinking heavily due to his sons leaving. Should I leave him?

Q.   Ok, got together with a guy,but he's got problems! His young sons been taken to live in europe this week and he's a drinker..... i know he likes me alot and me him. I dont know if i can cope with him drinking and showing up at my place hammered. ...

A.   9 July 2007: Dont give up on him, thats the last thing he needs. be there for him physically, take him to recovery meeetings, talk to him and maybe if the subject isnt too rore talk about getting joint custody of the child, the child is the reason he is drin... (read in full...)

Why is it so hard for me ( a girl) to keep female friends?

Q.   Why is it so hard for me (a girl) to keep female friends? I seem to be able to have close bonds with men, but not with women. I do have girl friends but they never seem to last for very long. Is this common? I just don't know what I'm doing ...

A.   9 July 2007: maybe these female friends of yours arent the type of friends that you want to keep. go out find other females who share the same interests. good luk, Hannah :)... (read in full...)

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