I know he's lying but I need concrete proof
Q. Hello, I have a question I hope someone will know the answer to. So I have been dating someone overseas. He definitely has money issues asks me easily for money. I dont give any. Yes we've seen eachother several times because I go there. Any...
A. 12 August 2020: I hate to say it, and no its probably not what you want to hear, but this sounds like a scam to me.
You are absolutely right to not hand over any money. I think if you handed over the money, you would, A. never seem him again for dust. Or B. its w... (read in full...)
My husband thanked me for sex and I feel sad and hurt about it
Q. Had sex with my husband whom I've been with for 28 years, married 24 years. He as had a operation down below so needs a device to get it hard. I gave him oral sex recently and sat on him and he came without needing the device. He thanked me for the ...
A. 12 August 2020: I think that has was just extremely happy that he had sex with you without the need for the device. He felt like a man, and you turned him on enough so he could go all the way, so he thanked you.
I think you are reading way to much into the than... (read in full...)
How do I go about meeting a potential partner when I have social anxiety?
Q. Hi All, Hope you are doing well in these strange times. Please could I ask your advice on seeking a partner/new relationship? I've been feeling fed up for some time now and just wish I could find a new partner to settle down with. I am ...
A. 11 August 2020: I think its important before you start dating again, or want to get out there with the potential to meet someone is that you are ok with yourself.
I appreciate that you had a difficult relationship, a lot of people have. You have to make sure thi... (read in full...)
He's the perfect guy but doesn't please me in bed. What do I do?
Q. Around two months ago I met this really great guy, he’s been super sweet and I could definitely see myself pursuing a life with him because he’s different from any guy I’ve ever met he treats me like a princess, he’s a gentlemen and has a great ...
A. 11 August 2020: There are many contributing factors that bind a relationship together, and sex does not fall at the top of the list.
Some people have sex for the first time and its amazing, and sparks fly. And some people have to work on it, but by working ... (read in full...)
Would he want a relationship with me if he were to leave his wife?
Q. I was seeing an attached guy for almost 4 years and I recently broke it off because I realized that I wanted more and I started getting jealous of his home life. First of I just want to say I never wanted to be the other woman in the first place, I ...
A. 11 August 2020: I think that this guy never had any intention of leaving his wife for you, so yes you were his booty call as you put it.
You are very young, why would you want to waste your time on someone who is never going to become available, this is absurd. ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend recently stopped contacting me on Fridays
Q. Hi. I'm in a long distance relationship. I've noticed that for the past 3 Fridays my boyfriend doesn't contact me at all. He contacts me every other day of the week but nothing on Fridays. Even if it's late at night after a long day or if he was ...
A. 10 August 2020: OP I think this is very strange behaviour indeed. In this day and age the majority of people have got there phone with them, or its certainly close by.
How long have you been long distance dating him?.
Have you actually met him in person be... (read in full...)
Does he want me to ask to come over to his place?
Q. Guy I’ve been seeing asked me a few days ago “when are you coming over my house” and i said “whenever you invite me” and he laughed he always comes here but never asks me to actually come over there...
A. 9 August 2020: This was the invitation he was offering you. You could of followed it up with yes how does next Friday sound.
Now that that opportunity has passed, next time you see him broach the subject again.... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend recently stopped contacting me on Fridays
Q. Hi. I'm in a long distance relationship. I've noticed that for the past 3 Fridays my boyfriend doesn't contact me at all. He contacts me every other day of the week but nothing on Fridays. Even if it's late at night after a long day or if he was ...
A. 9 August 2020: You say that he contacts you every day of the week, just not Friday's. So maybe when Friday comes around you should establish contact with him.
We could assume after a long week he might want to chill out and relax. But even doing this, how hard... (read in full...)
My married lover broke it off and is now trying to have sex with his asexual wife!?
Q. My married lover broke off our 5 year relationship after his wife saw some messages exchanged between us. We are still in touch. But he has now told me he attempted to have sexual relations with her last night and failed. He's always maintained the ...
A. 9 August 2020: You have got to come to the harsh realisation that this guy is married to another woman, and waiting for him is absolutely pointless.
He is a married man, and has been sleeping with you on the side. This in itself is lying and cheating. If he is... (read in full...)
Am I high maintenance or what?
Q. Hi everyone I had a date tonight that i just feel confused about. Would love to unpack with you all and get information. A guy I've had 2 dates with already invited me to his friends' "party". I was told it was saturday and assumed it would be ...
A. 9 August 2020: I agree with the other aunts, i don't think that you are high maintenance, far from it in fact.
I think its kind of odd behaviour to invite someone to a kids party after only being on two dates with them. Then ignoring them all night so they can... (read in full...)
How do I handle these fears without sounding like I’m trying to force his hand?
Q. I have just turned 35 and I’m starting to worry that my time is running out to get married and have children. I’ve been in a relationship for 18 months now with the best guy and we are talking about moving in together within the next few months, but ...
A. 6 August 2020: Things seem to be going well, you have met a nice, good guy and you are planning on moving in together within the next few months. This in itself is a positive step in the right direction.
You really have got to abolish this thought of you are ... (read in full...)
I’ve never had to deal with a break up so intense like this before, much help would be appreciated
Q. Me and my boyfriend have just broke up after a year, things were great when we first met it was like I found someone not who I only find attracted but is smart, hilarious and very good looking, And I was extremely comfortable around him and I ...
A. 4 August 2020: It sounds like this relationship had run its course, and i think that you calling it a day and moving out and back to your mums was the best decision you could have made.
Break up are never easy, especially in the beginning, all i can say is that ... (read in full...)
Do I say good luck to my ex who is having some tests done?
Q. My Ex and I have endured a rocky relationship to then splitting up the last few months, we have seen one another, stayed over, gone away then next we aren’t talking for days when I ask for more. We aren’t in contact at the moment as I said enough ...
A. 4 August 2020: I agree with Honeypie, if you text him he is going to see this as a green light, and your contacting him will branch out into further contact, which i think you don't want.
don't feel like a bad person for not saying good luck. Just forget h... (read in full...)
My lover and I have wild sex but now I see he's talking to his girlfriend again and wants her back!
Q. So I've been hooking up with a guy for the past 6 months. We get together to have sex. I'm pretty crazy so the sex is wild. He's been enjoying it just as much as I have. He was with his girlfriend at the time and had a 7 year relationship, which I ...
A. 4 August 2020: Because as harsh as it may sound, yes the sex with you is wild, but he still has indepth feelings for the woman he spent over seven years with.
He is talking to her because he still has feelings for her, feelings that stem to more than just wil... (read in full...)
My FWB lied about being single. Do I confront him before ditching him?
Q. Hello. I've had a Friend With Benefits (FWB) since last November and i've just found out that he's lied to me the entire time about not having a girlfriend. I don't know how to deal with the situation. I've asked my friends and they have differ...
A. 4 August 2020: Its hard to say that the girl he is with in these pictures is his girlfriend, his lover, a FWB's that he has been seeing for ages, or even his wife, who knows.
I would say the pictures do depict something of a more serious nature, so odds on ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend hiding his phone snatches it away I'm concerned about his girl friend
Q. Hey everyone. I made a post on here in Jan addressing my bf platonic friendship with this girl (you can go to my other question for backstory). Essentially between then and now my feelings towards her hasn't really changed. I have anxiety and can ...
A. 4 August 2020: It does not sound like there is to much trust going on in this relationship. trust is one of the most important contributing factors that bind a relationship together- without trust a relationship will have trouble getting of the ground.
Basic... (read in full...)
Scared to be myself to my boyfriend, friends and family
Q. Hi, I feel a bit stupid asking about this because it probably seems so trivial. I think everyone has the feeling that other people don’t properly understand them, yet at the same time are so confident that they know us. There is a gap bet...
A. 4 August 2020: I think this is how fashion trends start, someone does something different or out there, then it catches on, and before you know it half the population are doing that very thing.
If every was worried about what people might say or think then not... (read in full...)
I wasn't snooping but seen on boyfriend phone where he messaged a girl. How do I talk about this with him?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for two years and i love him so much but lately my mental health has been really shit and ive been feeling really low about myself. the other day while my boyfriend was in the shower his phone vibrated but nothing came up ...
A. 30 July 2020: I think if you confront him, yes your right he is going to think you went through his phone, that's because you did, and you did not like what you saw.
I also think if you confront him you could very well open a can of worms. He will not want to ... (read in full...)
He got a text from someone on a gay site do I bring it up? Or just ghost him?
Q. So I went on a date today having chatted to this guy for over a year. He had told me he’d meet up several times but he was very busy so it kept being put off. I was really surprised when at the weekend he asked “ so ok when we doing drinks?” Anyway ...
A. 29 July 2020: I would not ghost him, I can see why your confused. It sounds like the date went well, and he seemed to be making all the right noises.
Maybe go on another date, see how that goes, then just casualy throw in there, " so what is it your looking ... (read in full...)
Friends With Benefits Ghosting Me After We Had Sex The For The First Time
Q. Met a guy who mutually agreed to be friends with benefits with me. Long story short, we hung out at his place the past weekend (our second meeting) and had a great time, it feels. Good sex, good conversation. We really get along. Only problem ...
A. 28 July 2020: I think that maybe he felt the awkwardness after your casual encounter.
Maybe he really liked it and wanted more, but felt like he was being brushed off when you never wanted to cuddle or hold hands.
Maybe he has had his fun and has moved on... (read in full...)
Is it just a fling? Or is it more?
Q. I have been in a long term relationship for 9 years now - with all its ups and downs. We've bought a house together (not married, no children). I was a pretty straight edge person, until i met this other guy. Also in a 10-yr long relationship, the ...
A. 27 July 2020: I take it that his situation is the same as yours, 10 year long relationship, not married no kids?.
I think that if you continue this with him then things just are not going to end well.
You are both being unfaithful to partners that yo... (read in full...)
Do I expose a cheater?
Q. As i write this down i realise how stupid it all sounds and how much of a massive idiot i’ve been. Just over a year ago i went to a 20 year school reunion, i don’t live in the town anymore but i have a lot of friends there and my parents sti...
A. 27 July 2020: I think that your friends are right, you should block his number, delete everything to do with him, and think to yourself how lucky you are that you found out this about him now, and not once you were married to him like his wife did.
If his wife... (read in full...)
Wife and I fight about chores! She says I don't do enough, but I do the same or more!
Q. My wife and I constantly fight about household chores. She says she is "Tired of doing everything!" My response to her is to point about all the things that I do. In our division of chores, she cooks, I do the dishes, I change the cat litter, w...
A. 26 July 2020: What i'm confused about with this post is, if your out at work all day assuming that you are out of the house for 8 hours a day, Monday to Friday, then what is she doing all day during this time of having the house all day to herself?.
While... (read in full...)
I just feel like I'm not as important to him as his drinking buddies and alcohol nights out
Q. My boyfriend is rude to me when he is drunk. Last night he came home at 3am and lay down on the bed fully clothed, lying across my arm and woke me up. I asked him to please move over and he got angry and had a go at me. I had to be up early to go to ...
A. 26 July 2020: It sounds to me like this relationship has unfortunately run its course.
You are right, i don't think he will change either, this is going to go on until you make a stand and move out.
I feel you have already resigned yourself to the fact that... (read in full...)
Why is he mad that I moved on?? When he did not want me.
Q. My ex fiancé left me for someone else two years ago. He always said he wanted to be friends. Recently, him and I connected over Facebook and began a friendship for the past three months. He was nice at first but when I told him out I had a boy...
A. 26 July 2020: Maybe he has just come out of a relationship and thought he would try to reconnect with an old flame.
It did not work the first time around, so the chances are it is not going to work second time around. He left you for someone else, this alone sh... (read in full...)
I've never had a girlfriend should I just give up?
Q. I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend or date before should i just give up?...
A. 25 July 2020: What are you doing in order to try to find a girlfriend/partner?.
Do you socialise, get out and about, or do any internet dating?.
I think at 27 its rather defeatist to say should you give up, or any age for that matter.
If you are real... (read in full...)
My husband admitted his affair, said it's over but why is he still contacting his mistress?
Q. My husband just admitted to a long term affair. His mistress put a post on Facebook telling everyone about the affair because they had a spat. So my husband decided hearing it from him would be best. I am devastated by this. And I'm struggling to ...
A. 20 July 2020: The trust barrier has been broken, once this barrier has been broken its very hard to carry on in a happy relationship/marriage.
He assured you it was over, claiming he has blocked her everywhere. Then behind your back he is creating secret e... (read in full...)
I know I need to end things and kick my boyfriend out but I don't do it
Q. Hi all, I'm just looking for some relationship advice. I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years. We're both 32. Here is just some background info - 2 and a half years ago, my wonderful grandparents moved into a bungalow as ...
A. 20 July 2020: I'm really sorry to hear what you have been going through, its not a very nice situation to be in at all.
I would not really call this a relationship you are in, your both in separate rooms, not had sex in ages, and he is just there for a free r... (read in full...)
My wife lost weight is dressing sexy and I'm worried she might stray
Q. During the covid epidemic, my wife started working out hard and has lost the last bit of weight she wanted to. She looks fantastic now, my issue is she has ordered some very short dresses and skirts and now that most of the stores have reopened, she ...
A. 20 July 2020: Yes, be happy for her and congratulate her on all the hard work she has endured to get where she is. She actually feels good about her self, so surely this is a good thing.
Stop thinking she is going to stray, you will drive yourself around t... (read in full...)
I feel I ruined a friendship due to my behaviour
Q. I met a guy online dating over a year ago he said he wasnt ready for a relationship. He had been single for a couple of month and realised he was just trying to fill a gap left by his ex.He was only on the site for a month but deleted his account ...
A. 20 July 2020: So you met this guy over a year ago, agreed to stay friends and would check in with each other now and then. If nothing has ever happened during all that time, the chances are nothing ever will.
I think that what happened when you drunk messaged... (read in full...)
What is this man up to?
Q. I'd be interested on others views and opinions on this, please. A man living in a neighbourhood for two decades starts to look at a single, female neighbour who has lived there for the same time. They do not know each other but are of a similar ...
A. 20 July 2020: Sounds to me that not an awful lot is going at all, apart from a few glances and smiles here and there.
Where are you observing all this, do you just happen to be out when he is suddenly going by?. Or are you watching all this from behind t... (read in full...)
Would it be a good idea to give this relationship another chance, or am I just the rebound girl?
Q. I dated a guy for 1 year. During that time, we never had sex because I was unsure about his intentions, even though he told me that he loved me, so I do realize that some of this is my problem! Towards the end of our year, he began showing interest ...
A. 19 July 2020: A year seems a long time to give intimacy a wide berth because you were unsure of his intentions.
No matter who's fault it was you were together for a year and nothing materialised during this time, so the chances are nothing is going to be an... (read in full...)
How do I stop talking so much?
Q. I talk to much. It is a habit I always had. Any advice on how to break this habit?...
A. 17 July 2020: Calm yourself down a little bit and concentrate on your breathing, when you find you are going to burst in to talk take a deep breath in and be mindful.
Its good to talk, but equally as important to not talk sometimes and listen to what other's ... (read in full...)
I think we might break up. How do I cancel on boyfriend's birthday
Q. Hi all, I need advice! How should I cancel on my boyfriend. His birthday is on Friday. He is divorced and moved back in with his parents he has a son with his ex. She text him last week saying she wanted to get back with him! Since then he’s...
A. 16 July 2020: Not sure how long the pair of you have been dating, but it sounds to me like this relationship is done.
If your having to think of lame excuses like you have flat tyre or someone in your family is hurt (which he has already used) then whats th... (read in full...)
He's shy should I wait for him to ask me out? Or ask him?
Q. Hi guys. This may come across quite silly and people will probably laugh at a 32 year old asking these sort of questions. I have been single for almost 2 years now after a really bad situation with my ex. I gave myself time to heal and haven't...
A. 16 July 2020: There was a time when it was unheard of a woman approaching a man to ask him for a date.
Today things have changed somewhat, and i think it does not look to out of place for a woman to ask a guy she likes if he fancies doing something sometime... (read in full...)
He's 8 years younger than me and his grandmother told me to tell him to go away
Q. hello my name is Ashley and I really need your help. I am 29 years old with 2 kids and single mom. I met a guy two weeks ago and he is 21. I met him when I went to drop off my kids so his grama can watch them for me and she is the manager to the ...
A. 15 July 2020: Normally I would go along with 8 years is not really a huge age gap when it come's to dating. But in this case judging by what you have said he seems a million miles away from you as far as maturity is concerned.
Honeypie is right, he does not... (read in full...)
Dating a straight guy who regrets it
Q. So I’ve been sort of seeing this guy and his straight well bi but in denial And everytime we get in the deep at the end he says it’s wrong and it shouldn’t happen. His single but had loads of girlfriends. We have great chemistry and both just wa...
A. 15 July 2020: I don't think that this guy knows where he is at the moment. You start off by calling his straight, then bi but in denial.
He is obviously confused and is dipping his toe in the water seeing how he feels by being with a guy. He has had lots of ... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from my boyfriend in over a month I'm worried
Q. Hi my boyfriend when out of the country last March due to his dad being in COVID-19 we agree to email each other while he is away the recent email I received from him is May 26 which he told he will let me know first when he is coming back and then ...
A. 14 July 2020: Has he got a mobile phone that you could text or call?.
Do you know any of his friends or family that you could also call or text to see if they have heard from him?.
Did he give you an address of where he was staying when he went out of the ... (read in full...)
I’ve split up with my ex of 5 years but think I still love him
Q. I’m in a really tough situation. I’ve split up with my ex of 5 years but think I still love him. When we were together he suffered a really traumatic death in his family which has affected him badly. His whole personality and behaviour has changed, ...
A. 14 July 2020: I think that if you still harbour feelings for your ex, in a way that you think that you still love him, then I don't think that you should be dating this new guy at this stage.
You say that you would not get back with him unless he went to get t... (read in full...)
I love him but can't let him hold me back
Q. Well I’m not too sure how to start but here goes nothing.... I’ve been with my partner for coming on a year now, we’re both the same ages (24). We are exactly the same person in some ways, it’s great we’re like best friends but some days we do ...
A. 14 July 2020: You have chosen a career path, and this is a good thing. I think this is something that you should pursue and see through, as I feel if you diden't its something that you will regret later on in life.
It makes sense to be staying at your parents ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to spend every minute of every day together?
Q. Hello. I hope all is well. I’ve been dating this guy I met at school for five months and this is my first real relationship. I just have a question since I don’t have much relationship / dating / experience. Is it normal to spend every minute of ...
A. 13 July 2020: The answer to your question is I think its important to maybe have some space in a relationship and not be in each others pockets 24/7.
Having said that there are some couples that this works for being with each other all the time and are very muc... (read in full...)
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