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writes:Hi, My problem I think is a bit deeper then the rest and I hope you can help me. My father got cancer in his face and the local hospital has sent him now 500 km away now for help. The problem is geting worse by the cancer spreading further. I get the feeling he is on the end of his journey and the doctors don't wanna say so.... my mom is still full of hope, but he can't eat nor talk properly anymore and she doesn't know how to handle it. She's been sleeping by me the last couple of weekends cause she doesnt wanna be alone. It's hard to see the end for someone that you love and you can't do anything. I don't know how to handle the situation myself and don't know how to stand my mom by in a spirit level. I'm trying to be strong but death is the one thing you can't explain, nor understand. I wish I could make her feel better... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): The only way you can face death feeling good about it's getting to really know God. You can do that going to a good Bible based Church. Accept God as your personal saviour and take your Mom to church also so she can also accept God. Yes it's just saying so in front of people but it is a spiritual experience and I promise you'll feel something special inside of you when you do it. I totally promise. I also suggest listening to positive, christian, uplifting music all day long (www.thejoyfm.com) It'll help you two lots and could also help your father. I've heard of incredible testimonies of people being healed of terminal cancer just by accepting God or by their family praying to God with faith. Please get into a church as soon as possible and let your father accept God as his personal saviour too.
My ex-boyfriends father was dying from liver cirrhosis and his dad accepted Jesus as his personal saviour and my boyfriend prayed for healing in the name of Jesus Christ and he was healed. That was years ago and his dad is still alive and well.
God Bless you all.
Then your light shall break forth like the dawn,
and healing shall spring up quickly. Isaiah 58:8
Who his own self bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we, being dead to sin, should live unto righteousness, by whose stripes we were healed.
I Peter 2:24
He sent his word, and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions. Psalm 107:20
Daughter your faith has made you well, go in peace,
And be Healed of your disease.Mark 5:34
Whatever you ask for in Prayer with faith you will receive. Matthew 21:22
And said, If thou wilt diligently hearken to the voice of the Lord thy God, and wilt do that which is right in his sight, and wilt give ear to his commandments, and keep all his statutes,I will put none of these diseases upon thee, which I have brought upon the Eqyptians: for I am the Lord that healeth thee.Exdous 15:26
Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases. Psalm 103:3
My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings. Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart. For they are life unto those that find them and health to all their flesh.
Proverbs 4:20-22
But he was wounded for our transgressions he was bruised
for our iniquities; the chastisement of our peace was upon him;and with his stripes we are healed.Isaiah 53:5
Heal me, O Lord and I shall be healed; save me,
and I shall be saved; for thou art my praise.
Jeremiah 17:14
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (12 August 2007):
 I am so sorry to hear about your father, it must be awful for you both to watch someone you love waste away. Be strong for your mom but prepare her for the worst. Let her know that you're there for her and don't be frightened to talk about your dad. She'll enjoy going over all the memories.
Concentrate on the time you and your mom have left with him, time is precious. Offer to take your mom to the hospital to be with him. Both of you be with him whenever you can, laugh and cry together and tell him how much you love him. Sit and talk with him, remind him of memories when you were a young kid, he might not be able to speak but he'll enjoy listening, reminiscing. Let him know he's very special to you, that you'll always love him no matter what.
Our time on this earth is short but remember he's proud of you because you get to carry on his name and his legacy. Make him and your mom proud of you. Let your mom feel free to talk about him and keep his memory alive always. With time, things will get better... life does go on with and without our family. Make your father (and mom) proud of you and make YOUR life matter...
Warmly,
Eve
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