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writes:Will my ex bf ever feel the same about me?We were together for nearly 2 years and i honestly beleive he's the person i want to be with forever. I know he loves me but he says that as i went with someone else during a brief split that i thought was permenant, he can never go out with me again as he doesnt trust me...and although he still loves me he doesnt feel the same way he used to...Ive tryed apologising, begging etc but it doesnt work, he always rings when he's drunk saying he wants to be with me but the next day he acts like he cant remember saying anything, and it really hurts...I know people say move on but i really dont want to as he means everything to me...He as said some pretty mean things to me and always changes his mind about what he wants although he says he doesnt wanna be with me, his actions say different and as we always get back together i dont know whether this time he is serious. I realy want some advice on what i can do as ive realised that begging doesnt work. Its always me that does the running and even though i try my hardest not to contact him i always do. Its like hes a drug or something.So if anyone has any adv or stories on what worked for them id be really grateful...Sorry for the long post x
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 August 2007):
 Do your OWN thing and stop feeling so needy and dependant on him. Begging him to get back with you certainly won't win him over. Stand up for yourself and let him see exactly what he's lost here. Be confident and assertive and be proud of who you are!
HE dumped you remember? You said he always acts as if he can't remember calling you when he's drunk... Next time he calls you when drunk, hang up on him without saying a word, I bet he remembers THAT! If he really does want you back then he'll chase and come to you.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (14 August 2007):
 So- your guy wont get back with you because you slept with someone when you thought you and him were over for good?! He needs to get over himself hun.
If you had been on a break knowing that you were just having time out or something then fine, I would understand his reaction. You have in no way cheated on him so why doesn't he trust you?
I would tell him to leave you alone, especially when drunk as this guy seems to like to play with your emotions and it's not going to do you any good. You have done nothing wrong so stop apologising and begging him to come back.
Cut contact. If he really really wants you he can come find you. I know the whole the guy is a drug thing but you need to give him up hunni cause he's playing you around! You'll still be in the same position in like 5 years otherwise!
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