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How can I convince my sister in law to have sex with me?

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Question - (30 August 2007) 30 Answers - (Newest, 21 October 2010)
A male Pakistan age 41-50, *uz writes:

Q. I am married for the last thirteen years but I am in love with my younger sister-in-law for the last eleven years. I always fantisize about her during sex with my wife. I have an obssessive compulsive disorder about her. I told her that I wanted to make love with her but she refused though she still feels happy when I visit her. How could I convice her to make love with me only once in life.

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A male reader, knaixer Canada +, writes (21 October 2010):

Try watching those anime porn. You sound a lot like what I have seen :P Sad to say, most of it end up pretty gruesome... But ^^ I do Fantazise about it too. Although I have never been in love, I would like to get it on with many woman at a time :P... Needless to say I probably never marry :D...

To answer your question specificly, you have to act soooooo cool and um... well... not what you are doing now. In a lot of Hentai movies(lots of them), the younger sister always wants her sister's bf (Girls, you don't have to admit it :P) My suggestion is have a threesome with your wife and her sister. Get that urges over with. Also be a MAN and stop being a pussy. (Also, be open to 2man-1woman threesome with your wife too :D) You are going to open a whole new erotic chapter in your relationship! As long as you have some GOD DAMN BALLS!!! LOL!!!

PS. I don't know how much of this is true, but a man always lose his interest in a woman once they have done it. Speaking Biologically of course ^^

I have no clue about True Love yet though. Must be nice too ^^

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010):

please don't sex with her she is your like sister your brother wife if you try to sex with her!

GOD will punish you in judgment day!

So my brother please if you are my bro then not touch her as like your wife because she is just like your sister!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010):

I am newbie to this forum, but I have been seeking for a right solution for my problem which looks like his.

To be fair, I can understand his emotion and feeling,To my circumstance, I have married for 4 years,I am happy with my wife and daughter. My sister in law come to live with us after she ended up her university, Everything seem to be ok, at first, I treated her as my sister. I and her share a motorbike because her office is very near mine , we often have lurch together and I pick her up at the end of the day. gradually,after more than one year,there was something has been changing between us , we got closer, somehow we didn't know . Naturally, we have liking each other , I realized when she asked me to give her a towel while she is naked in the bathroom one day. i got obsession of her , I dont want to ruin my marriage , but I am still suffering my relationship with my sister in law every single day, how can I do not to make it go further ?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010):

its pathetic and disguised and ruining so many life around..you are breaking the trust between sisters...go help your wife to do exercise eat well dress up nice...after all she is with u in bad and good times and i am sure she gave u children too enjoy your family and leave both sisters alone. its not your part of life. no wonder man have no feeling how we feel i if we sisters found out what happen...you will be never a happy person....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009):

Thats awesome im goin to my inlaws this october and all i can think about is my sister in law. The things i want to do with her. the best part is that shes givin me the signals even on my wedding day but im afraid if we do something my wife will find out someway so all i do is just look at her and think of all the things i want to do to her

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A male reader, Devil India +, writes (8 August 2009):

Hey! buddy you are felling this because it's natural BUT not correct you see actually are not in love with your sister-in-law you are ust haing lust for her it might be because she migth be having a better figure than your wife the thing you are calling love is not love actaully the only thing need from her is sex and once you have sex with her she would be no longer of yor use so better stop thinking about her or about anyone else than your wife and try to show some respect to these relations and still if you are thinking to convice your sister-in-law for sex than allow your wife to have sex with you own brother.

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A male reader, dumkop United States +, writes (5 January 2009):

Instead of asking on the web maybe ask your wife how she feels about it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008):

It ALL lust man!

Let me guess you are not happy with your wife. There is something in your marriage that is making you unhappy. You need to try to fix that first and if you don't want to save this woman and divorce her. But, I bet that once you divorce this woman and finally have that wonderful sex with you sister-in-law, it won't be nearly what you thought. Then you will realize that is was lust...then what? Situations like that NEVER come out good for anyone..please respect your wife and divorce her. She deserves better than you!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008):

Just the way you want your sister in law, it is also possible that her husband will be in need of your wife too. He would also like to fuck your wife. if it happens then? Think of boss else it would happen one day. I say it might have happened also and you probably dont even know that dude. So dude be cool and live a happy married life.

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A female reader, Skeez United Kingdom +, writes (2 September 2007):

Skeez agony auntdivorce your wife. You say youve loved your sister in law for 11 years but youve never divorced your wife. this just sounds to me as though you dont love either of these women.

its all lust. if you really did love your sister in law you would have divorced your wife and spared her a second more.

she deserves someone better, someone who WILL treat her right and WILL commit to her properly. I think you should tell her she deserves to be treated better.

Now for your 'sister in law' she clearly likes the attention you are giving her but she is being sensible to reject your offer for sex or watever. if she has a family then you are jeopordising yourself, your wife, your family, your sister in law, her sisters family AND there relatives. You really want to ruin all these peoples lives just for your feelings that you can CONTROL. I feel its all just lust.

Divorce your wife and get some councelling to sought yourself out.

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A female reader, HonningKanin Norway +, writes (2 September 2007):

HonningKanin agony auntIt will be as barren as you make it. You either learn to appreciate the things you have or feel pitty for yourself. Its your choice how you live it.

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A male reader, Muz Pakistan +, writes (1 September 2007):

Muz is verified as being by the original poster of the question

I have already tried the advice given by Penta. I have been staying away from her for the last two years . She is in Pakistan and I am working in Saudi Arabia. But still I think about her. Even if I stop thinking about her I have dreams about her everynight. It has never happened about any other person in my life. I liked many girls some of them accepted my liking and some rejected but I never ever felt such strong emotions about any of them. This is a reality that my sister-in-law has become fatter in the last ten years. She has got wrinkles on her face. I mean to say she is not as beautiful as she was. Speaking the truth from the day first my wife is/was more beautiful than her.OK I will try to get her out of my mind but I am afraid that then life woud become barren wo'nt it?

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A male reader, duce00 United States +, writes (1 September 2007):

duce00 agony auntHonestly its hard to put all the taboo stuff aside but I also understand you come from a completely different culture than most of us who are trying to advise you. I also understand you have some personal issues that are skewing your decision making process. All of this aside what you are doing is causing harm to other human beings. There is no cultural or mental condition which justifies that. Is the love you have worth the damage it can cause? Is the harm you will bring to those around you worth that much? These are logical questions that you can ask yourself. If you have figured out a rationalization to all that, then try meeting with a professional counselor and see if it makes any sense to them. Think of other people than your self my friend.

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom +, writes (1 September 2007):

AskEve agony auntYou say if you could help it you would. Of course you can help it, you just CHOOSE not to.

Remember always: You have a mind, your feelings come from your mind therefore you can control your feelings. In other words, YOU are in charge and nobody else.

Eve

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A male reader, Frank B Kermit Canada +, writes (31 August 2007):

Frank B Kermit agony auntIt is not about how you FEEL about her. That you can not control. You can not control WHO you love, or lust....

That being said...

You CAN, and are totally Responsible for controling your ACTIONS.

Just because you may lust/love her, does not mean that you should be reckless in your actions.

Feel the emotions if you must.

Control the behavior is your obligation.

I did not factor in the cultural angle in this. Sincerely, divorce your wife if you intend to pursue her sister. You are emotionally damaging another human being by staying with her when you have no intention of staying long term with her. That is what makes this wrong.

-Frank B Kermit

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A female reader, penta United States +, writes (31 August 2007):

penta agony auntThe way to let your heart let go of her is to stay away from her. Don't talk to her, don't visit her. Eventually your heart will heal. While you're doing this, try to work on your marriage. Talk to your wife about the little things, things you talked about when you were in love.

The way to get over your sister-in-law is NOT to try to figure out how to get her to sleep with you.

You didn't ask us how to get over her. You asked us how to get her to sleep with you. That's why we're not inclined to feel sorry for you.

If you're sincere in your wish to stop loving her, then I wish you the best of luck.

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A female reader, bubbloo24 Isle of Man +, writes (31 August 2007):

bubbloo24 agony auntWell, in all honesty, I think that you've already made your mind up about this one haven't you?

We can't make you stop loving someone. No one can stop how you feel.

It's up to you really what you do with your life, I hope that in some way it will be a good turn out for all of you whether you receive what you wish or what you don't.

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A male reader, Muz Pakistan +, writes (31 August 2007):

Muz is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Most of the writers are rebucking me. They are right but it is not going to solve the problem. If I could help my self I would not tolerate such insults.If a person is in a ditch, mere nagging can not bring him out, is it? Even if her husband beats me I can't stop myself loving my sister-in-law.

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A female reader, HonningKanin Norway +, writes (31 August 2007):

HonningKanin agony auntMuz the Anon who stated that you two deserve eachother is an expression in our part of the world which is a form of insult. Meaning you two are so low in character you should be together.

Your wife is an unblievable woman who, for some reason, has faith you will return the favor she gives you. She is a proud woman as most in the muslim tradition do not believe in divorce and the sanctity of marraige. If your wife is not going to give you a divorce take that as a hint that you need to sort out your marraige. Your sister-in-law has her own family she needs to take care of and she has enough dignity to dry the land in the sand. She may like you she may care for you but she has respect for the vows she took.

If your sister-in-laws husband ever were to hear of this he would surely take this matter as an insult to him and attack on his family. You are not going to convince her and if she did in pakistan she would be considered a whore.

Learn from that and concentrate on your wife and show her the respect she and your marriage deserves.

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A female reader, penta United States +, writes (31 August 2007):

penta agony auntWhat about the sister-in-law's spouse? What will he do to his wife if you are successful in having her? Do you care about the consequences to her, to her children?

You really don't give a crap about anyone but yourself, do you? Morally reprehensible.

I hope that her husband finds out and beats you. You deserve it.

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A male reader, Muz Pakistan +, writes (31 August 2007):

Muz is verified as being by the original poster of the question

I am really thankful to those who responded to my question.Even thak s for their bulshits but mere abuses can not solve my problem. To explain I am a muslim and living in country called pakistan.Here legally divorce is very simple for a man . I offered my wife to divorce her but she doesnot wants it at this later stage. She knowa my intentions about her sister but still she believes she can continue with me and one I will come to the right track. I am specially thank ful to the anonymous who said I deserve my sweet sister-in-law aqnd she deserves me. What a sweet sentence. Still I need more effective solutions as my sister in law is married and has two children. I f I divorce my wife she will not marry me. I do not love my wife but still living with her because this is the only way i can my real love sister in law.

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A female reader, beautifultrustnlover United States +, writes (31 August 2007):

beautifultrustnlover agony aunti dont believe this poster as i feel he is asking these questions for thrills and also i think as he maybe intressed in hes sister inlaw but wanting to hear views its wrong and really really aweful for your wife to go thru this you deserve nothing no love or anything you are really terrible and if you do move on to the younger sister just everyone hope to god there isnt a even younger one your a pervert even if shes age you need to grow up and divorce you wife give her a chance at a happy life and leave them alone

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A male reader, Frank B Kermit Canada +, writes (31 August 2007):

Frank B Kermit agony auntDo you really think what you are comtemplating is OK because you have OCD????? You are a man. It is your responsibility to get the treatment you need.

I think you should do your wife a favor, and divorce her. SHe deserves better than this.

As for your sister in law, sounds like she is as damaged as you are. She knows your intentions, but just loves the attention when you visit.

I hope your wife finds out about this. If you ever went through it, it would devastate her.

Are their children involved in your marriage? If so, then if you can not be a man, at LEAST be a goof father and do not try to fuck their aunt. There are more people to think about than you and your lust with the attention loving sister.

-Frank B Kermit

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A female reader, HonningKanin Norway +, writes (31 August 2007):

HonningKanin agony auntI refrained from commenting on this particular question to firstly think more clearly. When i first read it i was morally outraged and in that state no help to you at all because my answer would be full of emotion.

What I have to say is pretty much what all the rest have said and I think you get a kick out of that. I think you want to be told that you are a horrible person and that its absolutly impossible for you to have what you want.

I think you feel guilty over the lust you feel for your younger sister inlaw and the only way to exert punishment over yourself is through this medium.

1) you confess your desire

2) You get told off

3) You are told not to go with your sister inlaw.. as if you had no real will power of your own.

I think you are smart enough to know that by actually having an affair with you sister inlaw you will destroy everything around you and honestly you know your sister inlaw is flattered, but knows better. Your not doing yourself any favours by confessing here. You probably were looking for help in keeping from doing it but what your getting is your extra does of the oh so forbidden. Its will make you want to do it more.

My advice is to get counsling with your wife to salvage your marraige and appologise to your sister in law.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007):

Im sorry but you shouldnt even be thinking this way, You have lived a lie for eleven years. Have you no idea what heartache this could cause, my feeling is you really dont care plus your sister inlaw should not be inviting you to visit under these circumstanses it is disrespectfull to her sister your wife, Who I feel should have known about this along time ago so as she could maybe have a loving partner who did not treat her this way... Temptation is a strong desire only leading to unhappiness.... Get help for this problem. Your wife deserves better than this you know its out of control so do something positive about it and think about others feelings, If you dont love your wife why have you led her to belive all these years that you do, Its no way to live... You need to see a counsellor before its to late and you do or say something you really regret..

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A female reader, Sweet-thing United Kingdom +, writes (30 August 2007):

Sweet-thing agony auntBecause it'll never be only once in life. Once you cross that line, you will want it again and again. You've had feelings for this woman for years. It'll be a full-blown affair and if she is still happily married then you'd be making a much bigger mistake by ruining her marriage, as well as your own. I suspect you no longer love your wife, so you'd probably be wise to file for divorce and get out there and find someone you are attracted to as much as your younger sister-in-law. If you think you do love your wife, then you must be attracted to the "forbidden" and believe it will add zest to your life, or re-capture your youth. Seek counseling to help you overcome these irrational, and destructive feelings before you ruin both your lives. Lust is one of the devil's most powerful tools. I wish you the best.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007):

I think your wife deserves better than you. Her sister does deserve you. You deserve each other. When the tidalwave of realisation hits you and everyone knows, you will be judged. I wonder how happy you will be then, will you still feel sexy when you are exposed to your whole family as the complete b-st--d that you are - and whether it will have been worth it. Why trouble your wife with your presence further if you feel that you are more important to yourself than anyone else.

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A female reader, penta United States +, writes (30 August 2007):

penta agony auntWell, you start by getting treatment for your OCD. Then, if you still want this, you divorce your wife. You CAN NOT go after your sister-in-law while you're still married, not even once. It's dishonest, it's cheating, it's morally wrong. And you know this.

What makes you think your sister-in-law wants to do this to her sister in the first place? If you hurt her sister, she's probably going to hate you too.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007):

Don't you feel sad that you have to 'convince' someone to make love to you? Why don't you try and meet someone who wants to - and who is preferably not a relative.

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A female reader, bubbloo24 Isle of Man +, writes (30 August 2007):

bubbloo24 agony auntYou are married. And if your sister in law is a good enough sister and friend, she will tell your wife what you are up to. This simply cannot happen and you KNOW it.

You can't do anything about it. Simple as. If you even attempt to, you are cheating on your wife. Breaking the laws of marriage. And breaking up a perfectly suposedly happy family. You are at the beginning of tearing apart two sisters as well as your marriage.

You have to move past this now. Get some help. You know that there is no option.

If you don't love your wife, why are you with her?

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