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writes:Dear CupidI am married for 3 year and been together with my husband for total 5 years and we have 3 year old daughter. It is a good marriage with some ups and downs. We decided to get house few months back and found a house which we both liked and price was within our range. We are about to close on it in 2 weeks and my father in law got real sick, not sure if he will survive. My husband is taking is so bad, and he now want to back out on closing the house and is talking about leaving the country and going somewhere alone. I know this is his sadness talking but I am super worriedHe even called some used car sellers to sell his car. Have not played with our daughter and even if she tries to talk to him he says he is sick and ask her to stay away from daddy. Don't know what to do, he is refusing to talk to me. All I want is to be there for him, but he is pushing me totally away. I am not sure whether I should wait for few more days to decide whether I need to cancel the closing or even try talk to him. I am giving him space now, and he is staying in guest room for the past 2 days. Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2020): You and your daughter need a safe-place to stay. I don't like that threat made towards the child, to stay away from her own father! That's ominous and uncalled for. I give people space, but then there's time to react for your own safety. If he's unreasonable, backoff completely.
I don't understand how covid-19 is making people so insane, to each his own I guess; but grief over his dying-father is very understandable. He's gone over the edge; and he seems to be becoming unraveled. The safety of your child and yourself is tantamount. If he's acting weird, and isolating himself; then leave the premises. You can't force the house-closing; but if the car is jointly-owned, and the title share's your name...just don't co-sign it over.
Worse comes to worse, call your own family for help; and inform his family how he has been behaving. Let them intervene, you need to find a place where you and your daughter will be safe. Don't wait for something awful to happen; it's best to be preemptive and protective when people exhibit mental-disturbance. They're too unpredictable. Alert your family and his immediately!
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