We broke up 4 years ago so why do I still think of him?
Q. Hello So my ex and I were together on and off since 2012 until 2017. I say on and off because we had HUGE issues alot of the time. He didn't trust me whatsoever so that was the main reason we were off and on. Not to mention he was emotional...
A. 23 September 2021: We all have a past, and we all have had relationships that we look back on, some with good memories, some with not so good memories.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet there, and your lucky to be out of this relationship, keep telling yourself... (read in full...)
How do I get him to show more initiative and text me/ask me out again?
Q. I went out with a guy I met online today, and I think we both had fun. He seems like a shy/awkward/nerdy guy, so I ended up planning our date. We were together for about 3.5 hours. We split everything. He's definately an improvement to a...
A. 23 September 2021: I think the answer to your question How do i get him to show more initiative, and to text you and ask you out is you can't.
He is what he is, we can't change people. You could broach the subject with him and tell him how you would like him to b... (read in full...)
Did I get Ghosted?
Q. Backstory: Woman (42) approached me at a club and I got her # that night. Since, we've exchanged text messages and I've noticed she tends to take a while to respond unless I catch her undivided attention. She has already agreed on a date, but we ...
A. 23 September 2021: I think that she seems to flaky and is showing a complete lack of interest in you.
Could go into many reasons as to the reason why, but i don't really see the point in that.
Maybe a club is not the best place to meet a potential suiter... (read in full...)
I want to confront him and I don't know how. Please help?
Q. I have this guy friend with whom I used to talk every day - be it text or call. We even met a couple of times and the last time we met, he opened up about a lot of things. It was a good meeting and I definitely felt a lot closer to him. But off ...
A. 22 September 2021: I agree with YCNBS and Honeypie, you need to block and delete.
He is being rude and disrespectful, why do you want closure from someone who has decided to ghost you, and for want of better words, is being a dick.
You can see he ok as he has ... (read in full...)
My husband of 3 years is not talking to me for past 4 days now.
Q. Dear cupid My husband of 3 years is not talking to me for past 4 days now. He talks only when he need something essential from me, do not respond when I talk. Eats if I cook, refuse to sit with me, sleeps on the same bed but pushes me away i...
A. 22 September 2021: A marriage /relationship survives on trust, compassion, and communication, he is not giving you any of these, and is being stupid and immature in my opinion.
This relationship is bringing you nothing but upset and heartache and i think your bet... (read in full...)
I'm exhausted and ready to break up with my boyfriend
Q. I am 27 years old and had 3 long time boyfriends. This guy is 4th. I am not a dater..actualy hate this process.I tried but then i discovered that most of my dated are in for sex ..i guess i dont have enough interest in just that. I came from ver...
A. 15 September 2021: They say that you don't really know someone until you have spent a large amount of time with them, such as a vacation.
I believe that going on vacation with him has opened up a can of worms, you are now seeing what your life will be like if you d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend follows attractive women on social media
Q. Hi everyone, something has been bothering me recently - i discovered that my boyfriend had followed a bunch of influencers and celebrities (chinese, japanese and korean models) and when I scrolled through their profiles, I saw that every single ...
A. 15 September 2021: All you can do is talk to him and tell him that you are not happy with him following and liking these people.
I know you not happy with it, but these people are celebrities, and you and i both know that he is never going to see these people i... (read in full...)
My colleague has been distant since my invitation
Q. Hi All, Any advice would be most helpful. I work with a man that's been with the team I work with for a month - we get on incredibly well and there's been a lot of flirting, eye contact and teasing . He's always interested in what I've been doi...
A. 15 September 2021: I don't think that you sent anything wrong in your text, you never just went all out and ask him out on a date, so i'm not sure why he has gone distant.
You simply just asked for a catch up if he is ever in the area, you could of send this to ... (read in full...)
Am I dealing with a narcissist?
Q. Has anyone of you aunts and uncles come across a narcissist? I’ve being dating an older man for over three month. He came across amazing, he’s got a good job, three children and seemed like he had his life sorted. He talked about our future, told...
A. 13 September 2021: I also agree, run for the hills, and don't look back.
The niceness that he showed you in the beginning was not the true him, and it only took him a short while to show his true colours.
His true colours tell you he is not a nice person. Ove... (read in full...)
People are threatening me
Q. People are threatening me. I don't know if I should disclose their details to the police. J have called them and they said it's harrassment. But these are the type of people who hate police and anyone involved with them. They recorded a sensitive ...
A. 13 September 2021: I think that you should call the police and also divulge this information to family and friends as well. ... (read in full...)
I don't find my husband attractive when he shaves his beard!
Q. When my husband shaves his beard I do not find him attractive at all. I have mentioned this to him and when he tries to kiss me and become affectionate I pull back because I do not like how he looks. He looks like another person when he has his ...
A. 9 September 2021: I think its a bit shallow as well, he is still the same person beard or no beard.
Its facial hair, surely it does not take long to grow back.
How would you feel if you changed something about yourself and he never liked it. ... (read in full...)
It bothers me that my bf likes other women's pics on social media
Q. Hello aunts and uncles So my bf and myself have been together about 2 years. He is very active on social media. Always liking womens pics. For some reason it does bother me I think because he has cheated in the past and I've asked him nicely...
A. 9 September 2021: I think that the problem is he has cheated in the past so there is always going to be an element of mistrust. I think had he not cheated in the past you would not be here on DC concerned about him liking pics.
Trust is one of the most importan... (read in full...)
There are far too many red flags. Is this guy worth it?
Q. I’ve been seeing my partner 6 months. I’ve previously been in a business relationships which affected me and my daughter who is 16 so I am cautious. Until I met my partner I was happy with my kids on my own but on times would like company. Generally ...
A. 7 September 2021: They say that love is blind, when in a relationship sometimes we can't see this things that are actually going on.
I think that your daughter has got his card marked. There are just too many red flags here with this guy. Of course he was kind ear... (read in full...)
He drinks too much!So?
Q. My bf drinks too much anytime i talk to him bout it he just whines.he usally come back late,and am worried.should i be? ...
A. 7 September 2021: Assuming that you are older that the age bracket that you chose to put down i would suggest that he obtains some help regarding his excessive drinking.
If he unwilling to do this them maybe its time to end this relationship and call it a day. ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if what he says is true or is he just using excuses not to see me
Q. I wrote on here asking for advice on dating a man with children and where do I fit in at. I’m really starting to think I need to walk away from this situation. I met him for a few hours and he told me his first ex has being diagnosed with c...
A. 7 September 2021: I don't think anything is ever going to change, and this time next year you will still have all the issues that you are having now.
The only way things are ever going to change is if you accept the fact that this relationship is not for you and ... (read in full...)
What can I do about a ranting, shouty husband?
Q. I've been married to my husband for 14 years now, we married when I was 28 and he was 29, and over the past few weeks he's started ranting about every single thing and obsessing over porn. I am mum to an 8-year-old daughter, Katie. I'm an...
A. 7 September 2021: Obviously there is something not quite right with your husband, maybe something he knows about and is not telling you, or an underlying condition.
I think that you should book and appointment with your local doctor and get him checked out, and... (read in full...)
I'm not interested in being his rebound
Q. Hi I used to date a guy briefly years ago and he had alot of baggage I wasn't ready to deal with so I ended things quickly. Recently, he contacted me we have been texting again. He told me he had big feelings for me before and was hurt I en...
A. 7 September 2021: I think that you did the right thing ending things with him when you did.
He say's he needs a distraction to get over a toxic relationship, i would not let this distraction be you if i was you.
When a relationship ends we needs to give ou... (read in full...)
I'm suspicious of my husband's actions and feel stuck and desperate
Q. Dear cupid I am married to my current husband for past 3 years and we have known each other for about 6 years He often hangs out with his friends and crash in their place for about a day or two, this happened thrice in past 2 months. His car ...
A. 7 September 2021: I can't believe that he has the audacity to call you childish, it is blatantly obvious that he is the childish one.
He is showing you a complete lack of respect, and is treating you very badly, i think that you deserve better.
Friends are f... (read in full...)
3 some gone bad
Q. my partner and i decided to have a threesome and i left it up to him to find someone. i find out the day before it is someone he was with previously. i thought i would be ok but when we got to the room we thought a few shots would help calm everyone ...
A. 2 September 2021: I think that it all sounds a bit iffy to me, to wake not remembering anything after only a few shots and some cold medicine, something is not right.
You recall the shower, then your next memory is waking up on the sofa with them in the other ro... (read in full...)
I like this girl but I'm not ready for a serious commitment of any sort.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been seeing this girl for a 2ish years. When we first met we were both pretty adamant that marriage was off the table. I told her I didn't see myself marrying and we continued to see each other. She's slowly made passes about mov...
A. 1 September 2021: I think that after two years of dating she is doing what most woman would be doing at this stage, which is taking the relationship to the next level. I don't find her behaviour odd, i actually find this normal.
I am guessing that she is around t... (read in full...)
How do I move on from this? I feel my boyfriend was really out of line!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, he is generally quite a loving and doting boyfriend but very headstrong and stubborn in his beliefs that results in my concerns always not being heard in the relationship. Recently, as w...
A. 1 September 2021: In the two years that you have been together has he ever given you any reason for you to distrust him?. Do you get jealous if he is even remotely near someone of the opposite sex?.
You may get varied answers on this, but my view is he really n... (read in full...)
My bf says he was drinking alone but then what was the deal with all those cups and glasses?
Q. I dropped in on my boyfriend of 2 years unexpectedly after a night he was drinking. When I walked into the lounge he had two cups out and two small glasses but says he was drinking alone. Wee have a good relationship and there isn't any other ...
A. 1 September 2021: He has not given you any other reason for you to suspect he is up to no good so i agree you should not accuse him if he has done nothing wrong.
The extra cups could simply be from the previous day that he just has not taken out the the kitchen ... (read in full...)
I fear my long time boyfriend has a hidden iPhone that he uses to communicate with another woman but he keeps denying it. What do I do?
Q. Hi. I am hoping everyone here could provide me with some advice. I am very upset with my long time boyfriend and I am deciding on whether I need to continue this relationship. He and I have been living together for 3 months and together for 8 y...
A. 1 September 2021: I think that the trust barrier has been broken, you are convinced he is chatting to others on another phone, you are already contemplating him leaving you for the person he is supposedly chatting too.
The emotions and feelings you are having a... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I worked for same company. He got fired and is now pressuring me to quit
Q. Hello, I have been with my partner for almost two years, were engaged. I work for a pretty good company I actually got him hired were I worked. I have been with the company for 3 years. The company I work put me in a manager training class w...
A. 1 September 2021: I have to question why you are actually with this guy?. His is pompous, ego driven, and total disrespect to you and all around him, and is not a team player.
This is not the way to get on in business and be successful.
Should you quit because... (read in full...)
He claims he loves me but I really don't know if his love for me is based on what I provide for him
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. He claims he loves me but I really don't know if his love for me is based on what I provide for him. He bought some land and now needs financial assistance with it. O...
A. 1 September 2021: You are his go to only when he wants financial assistance, when he does not get this his true colour's come out, and as you have seen his true colour's are not very nice.
I'm sorry to say that this is no different to the posts we get where so... (read in full...)
I know his kids will come first and I wouldn’t want it any other way but where do I fit in?
Q. Can you aunts and uncles give me some advice on dating a man with kids? I’ve been dating a man for about two month, we both have a lot of work commitments due to the job we do so this gives little time to meet up. He also has two children to diff...
A. 1 September 2021: This relationship is still very much in its infancy and you are asking where you fit in with him and his children.
He is doing his father duties as he should be doing, so you will of course fit in around holidays and work.
I don't know how o... (read in full...)
My wife was crying on our wedding day because she was thinking about her ex!!
Q. I got married almost a month ago. My wife and I have been together for three years and known each other for five. She had just gotten out of a seven year relationship when we met. He was her first love and they broke up because he was on drugs and ...
A. 1 September 2021: She has had a considerable amount of time to get over this breakup and to heal. After all this time she decides to tell you on what is supposed to be the most special day of your lives that she is crying over an ex, which also implies that she is ... (read in full...)
I don’t know if I should stick with my boyfriend or leave
Q. Hey Cupid’s, I’ve been feeling a certain way with my boyfriend a while now that things aren’t quite right. We live together and although we love and respect each other in certain ways. I don’t know if I can see myself growing old with him and fee...
A. 1 September 2021: Even though you love and respect him i feel that in terms of a future relationship you are a million miles apart.
I think the initial attraction of when you first met has worn away and you can now see things in a more clearer perspect... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to make rules for my cheating boyfriend?
Q. I’ve recently taken back my boyfriend after he cheated on me. Am I right in telling him he can’t go out with his mates because I think they are a bad influence on him? The last thing I’d ever want to be is a controlling partner as I cannot STAN...
A. 1 September 2021: At the end of the day, no matter how you dress this up he cheated on you.
He knew what he was doing, he made a choice knowing he had a girlfriend, but he still chose to have a kiss and a fumble, and in my book that's cheating.
He has broken... (read in full...)
My wife complains often and does little
Q. How do I get my wife to stop complaining about things that don't seem to exist? I have been married for 15 years. The last 7 years it's been a battle. Honey I can't get off the couch my stomach hurts too much, honey my head is hurting. I offe...
A. 31 August 2021: Something is not right with her for sure. I suggest you book an appointment with your doctor and he may suggest some things that may help, or steer you on the right path regarding getting help.
Has she worked in the past?. Maybe finding employme... (read in full...)
My younger boyfriend hangs out with his friends every day
Q. Hi my boyfriend is 30 and I'm 40. Hes still hangs out ALOT with friends, on a daily basis. I usually keep quiet about it but we have no alone time really. Just when we sleep basically. We have been together for over a year, I thought maybe it...
A. 31 August 2021: I think if he really wanted to spend time with you and be with you then he would. Probably not what you want to hear but i just think he is not as in to you as you are him.
I don't think this is going to change anytime soon, and yes i think th... (read in full...)
Do you think my husband's sexual preference makes him bisexual?
Q. Dear cupid My husband of 3 years told me yesterday he likes having dildo/vibrator in his ass, and this started when he was a teenager.the thing is its freaking me out that he might be bisexual, I asked and he said no. I did play it cool when he ...
A. 22 August 2021: It has taken him quite a long time to divulge that he likes this, and i assume were were together for quite a while before you got married.
I don't think that this makes him gay or Bi, he just enjoys the feeling of it, and has also been doing th... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a clingy girlfriend?
Q. Hi everyone How do I deal with a clingy gf? Little background. We have been together for about 2 years. In the beginning she didn't appear clingy. This last year she certainly has been. If I don't see her, theres an argument, if I d...
A. 22 August 2021: I know you say that you love her, but there really is only so much of this sort of behaviour one person can take, we all have our breaking points.
I think the way she is making you feel is unhealthy for both of you. I'm not sure she is ready to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend demanded a new phone from me, got it, and then told me that I'm stingy and petty
Q. Hi and thanks! My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. I recently purchased a new cell, it was well needed as my other one was old and not functioning properly. My bf decided he should also have a new one, at my expense. I was ...
A. 22 August 2021: You have been together for two years, has he shown signs of this kind of behaviour during this time?.
You went out of you way to get him a phone, when really he should be getting it himself, he is a grown man after all.
He was expecting a bran... (read in full...)
He used me for money and is still trying to contact me
Q. Good day! So here is my story and please I'm not coming here to be bashed. Cause I'm very aware I made bad choices. I met a man online 1 year ago. He was incredibly sweet, charismatic, caring. We talked for many months before I actuall...
A. 19 August 2021: Its good that you are aware that you made bad choices. This guy was a scammer who latches on to people being very nice and charming, but is only after money.
If he peruses the internet if out of 50 people only one is willing to entertain him he h... (read in full...)
Does his Porn Past matter?
Q. Hi Cupids here’s one for you. I’ve been chatting to a guy for a few weeks on Snapchat and I really fancy him loads, but he’s just confessed that he used to be a porn star. We met in a club a few weeks ago, swapped details and have been chatting al...
A. 19 August 2021: Like you say everyone has a past there is no getting away from that. I think this will only be a problem if you let it.
If you said he was still doing it now and wanted to date you at the same time then i could see how you would be upset by this.... (read in full...)
Why has she ruined what was, or seemed a happy relationship?
Q. I`ve been living with my partner in her house for 6 months. During this time we`ve had a couple of ups and downs as I`ve stumbled upon internet activity with dating sites and found her to have dating apps on her phone. Each time denying doing ...
A. 19 August 2021: She has betrayed your trust the first time around, to which she convinced you she was innocent.
Then you find this secret phone where she has been exchanging explicit messages with other men, so she has betrayed your trust again.
You say... (read in full...)
Do you think there is any possible explanation to justify the pictures?
Q. Hi! So my girlfriend said she went to the museum with 2 friends and posted some photos to social media. However the reflections in the glass in the photos are weird. Firstly there was one of her holding a guys arm when he posed for a photo, so...
A. 17 August 2021: I also received a message in my inbox not happy with the answer given.
Not sure why OP has resulted to messaging people privately on an open forum, but i think the post was never really very clear from the beginning. What OP wrote in my pers... (read in full...)
A deleted contact (a woman) has reappeared on my husband’s phone contacts list after she was deleted in June!
Q. Hi everyone. I’m at a loss right now. And I need your help. I have been with my husband for 8 years. I was a single mom when we met. He has embraced my son and generally he has been good to me. The relationship is not perfect and it is rocky at t...
A. 17 August 2021: In the beginning of your post you seemed sure she was a 13 year old girl, but then at the end of your post you don't seem certain.
There is something not right about all of this, and you are right to feel the way you do.
I think that his r... (read in full...)
Did I handle things in the wrong way dealing with my relatives?
Q. My cousin, Brooke, came out of the closet a few years ago, and her parents stop all communications with her. Brooke had to go to therapy due to the depression she had, which her parents were mostly to blame. Her own mother told Brooke "As far as I ...
A. 17 August 2021: I do not think that you did anything wrong whatsoever, infact it shows that you are a person who stands up for what you believe in.
You felt right saying what you did, you said it in a polite way and got your point across, and i disagree with the... (read in full...)
Boyfriend spending all his time w a couple. Weird?
Q. My boyfriend of fifteen years off and on has been spending an unusual amount of time with a couple that he calls friends.the cute younger girl and him are very flirty and are very close. The girls boyfriend now husband seams oblivious to this. I ...
A. 16 August 2021: Listen to your intuition, your gut feelings because these are normally right.
It does seem odd that he is spending a lot of time there, especially if they are flirting and sending messages as well.
You have asked to take you there to prove h... (read in full...)
Do you think there is any possible explanation to justify the pictures?
Q. Hi! So my girlfriend said she went to the museum with 2 friends and posted some photos to social media. However the reflections in the glass in the photos are weird. Firstly there was one of her holding a guys arm when he posed for a photo, so...
A. 16 August 2021: I think that this is your insecurity to deal with. She can't justify it because there is nothing to justify, its a distorted reflection, but by your own admission you say that you can't quite see. It could very well be a distorted pic of another ... (read in full...)
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