My boyfriend loves drugs and alcohol
Q. My bf is madly inlove with alcohol and also,takes drugs but at minimal Ive tried talking sense into him He doesn`t care!...
A. 29 November 2021: He he had any feeling for you what so ever he would at least try to abstain for doing drugs and alcohol, or at the very least cut back.
You have tried talking sense into him and this is really all you can do. At the end of the day w can't ch... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have sex with a married man to get a baby?
Q. Dear Cupid, Am I wrong to have sex with a married man just to have a child? I am 41 years old and disabled, religious and quite successful in my career. I have met wonderful people during the course of my career, however, my love has never been r...
A. 29 November 2021: This is a bad idea, and i think if you go through with this it will lead to a lot of heartache and future complications.
He is married, so this already makes him a lying cheat. He will never leave his wife for you, and for all we know he could al... (read in full...)
How long do you wait for a man to propose?
Q. How long should you wait for a man to propose before accepting that it is not going to happen and move on? I'm in my early 30s and my partner is 40s wee have been together for almost 3 years now. I would say he is a good partner, good to my kid t...
A. 29 November 2021: I think that communication is key here, he has no idea of what your ideas and aspirations are regarding the future of your relationship, for all we know he might be thinking the same, but is holding out because he thinks you are happy as things are. ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to suggest moving in with him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and am spending more nights at his than I am at home. Is it too soon to suggest moving in together? On the one hand I genuinely think he'd jump at the idea as we hate being apart but on the other I'm worrie...
A. 26 November 2021: I do think that 9 months is a little early, but like you say everything feels right about it, so on that basis go for it.
Its a big move to make, you could get something together, or you could get your own place just you and do something together... (read in full...)
Am I right to dump her now that she is in prison?
Q. My girlfriend has been sent to prison for the next couple of years at least and I don’t know whether or not to just throw in the towel on our relationship. I really don't think I can wait for her. Plus I’ve really started developing feelings for one ...
A. 26 November 2021: Personally i feel that you should end things with her properly before you embark on anymore relationships. I know she has done wrong, and has let you down many times, i feel by ending it you can move on with a clear conscience and not feel guilty ... (read in full...)
My wife accuses me of cheating when I don't the says she will cheat to get even
Q. Hello, I work as a sales manager for a company where we sell a certain type of industrial product and sometimes I have to assist customers with on site repairs and solving issues. Today, I had such a problem. I told my wife when I left at arou...
A. 26 November 2021: In my opinion your wife is the one with the problem and not you.
You are out working performing a role of sales manager for a company. You give her a breakdown of all the times, and inform her that you might be late, so apart from this there is... (read in full...)
I can't keep up wife my girlfriends entitlement
Q. Hello My gf and I have been together 2 years. All is well unless money comes up and then arguments begin. She has the tendency of over spending and expects me to cover her bills. Were not married and probably will never be as I see a very gr...
A. 26 November 2021: Yes, in a nut shell finish with her and find someone who is willing to work with you and not against you.
She sounds very spoilt to me, and has not yet learned the values of money. You offered her out of generosity and kindness your perfectl... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend using her friends to control and manipulate me?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for just under 2 years but she’s letting her friends stick their noses into our relationship and it’s really starting to annoy me. I’m also beginning to think I’m being controlled and manipulated. Am I just ...
A. 26 November 2021: I think that you have got to start as you mean to go on. I think that you have got to broach this with her, otherwise you are going to be continuing this relationship with all and sundry knowing your personal business.
I agree its good to have ... (read in full...)
Did he e d things?
Q. Hello, Aunts. I’m in a relationship since last 2 months and things moved pretty fast with this guy. We are of same age and both financially well off. Since last 2 weeks he is behaving pretty aggressively and responded with cold behaviour post the ...
A. 26 November 2021: All sounds rather strange to me, he sounds like a very up and down sort of guy that can change personalities on a sixpence.
In the past he has shown an aggressive side, by the sounds of it on more occasions than one, and you were the one that end... (read in full...)
My husband is having an affair
Q. I recently found out from one of my friends that my husband was cheating on me after they sent me an email with a link to an influencer's post which showed my husband cuddling up to this young woman wearing a crop top and the text: #couplegoals. ...
A. 26 November 2021: A classic case of the grass is greener on the other side, which as we know when you get there it never is.
There is a rather large age gap between, and she is also a pretty celebrity who more than likely attracts a lot of male attention. I think ... (read in full...)
My husband is having an affair
Q. I recently found out from one of my friends that my husband was cheating on me after they sent me an email with a link to an influencer's post which showed my husband cuddling up to this young woman wearing a crop top and the text: #couplegoals. ...
A. 26 November 2021: A classic case of the grass is greener on the other side, which as we know when you get there it never is.
There is a rather large age gap between, and she is also a pretty celebrity who more than likely attracts a lot of male attention. I think ... (read in full...)
I would like our one night stand to be more. We work together
Q. So. A few months ago me and a younger co worker went out for some friendly drinks. We ended up having a one night stand. We never spoke about it. Then a month or so ago we ended up kissing again. But nothing else. But We havnt spoken about it ...
A. 25 November 2021: I am not sure of the actual ages here, but i am guessing is is quite a bit younger than you are, so he is probably in his early to mid 20's maybe.
there could be a number of reasons why he has not pursued you, it could be he only saw it as a one... (read in full...)
I am beginning to wonder if my marriage or myself can be saved
Q. I moved from America to India to marry my husband 7 years ago. Things had been going well, but after almost 2 years in lockdown (very strict in Mumbai) I'm losing my mind. I don't speak any local languages and even if I did, I'd never have anyone ...
A. 25 November 2021: The lockdown has not been easy for anyone, it has spelled to end for many relationships.
You have been there for 7 years now, in this time i'm sure that you know your way around fairly well now. Maybe take up some classes to learn the language... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to do sexual things I am not comfortable with
Q. Hi I have been with my BF for over 4 years and most of the time I am so happy, but he can be when we are making love be a little rough and demand stuff.He kina wants to do stuff and one thing I do for him often is let him come over my face. I ...
A. 25 November 2021: I think that you have to speak up and say something if you are uncomfortable doing something. This is all part and parcel of being a couple, if yo don't want to do something say so, if he does not like it then that's his problem, its ok to set ... (read in full...)
My husband left me to live wit his male friend
Q. This is a strange situation but I'll ask anyway. My husband just upped and left me after 4 years of marriage (we've been together 9 years as a couple), went to live with his best friend, a 28-year-old, and now says he wants our 5-year-old daugh...
A. 25 November 2021: I think he has left on a whim, a spur of the moment thing where he thinks the grass will be greener on the other side. We both know that the grass is never greener on the other side and when he finds this out i bet he will want to come back.
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I can't stand the fighting with him anymore
Q. Ohhh pleeeaaaassseeee help meeeee.... I am really on the point that i wanna leave him... inside of me is already shouting and crying.... my partner for 6 years is soooo much talkactive and he looove discussion sooo much and this turn us almost e...
A. 25 November 2021: I know its hard, but you know what you have to do while you were writing this post and that is to leave him.
You have been putting up with this for 6 years now, so the chances of him changing anytime soon are slim. All the time you stay with him... (read in full...)
He only sees me when it is convenient for him
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I’m hoping you can give me some advise. I met an older man a few month ago. He has two children and he sees one of them quite often which I fully understand and I never say anything to him about when he sees them. We both h...
A. 24 November 2021: By your own admission you say that deep down he just does not want to see you. Why are you clinging onto this relationship which is bringing you nothing but heartache.
If your really into someone then you make every effort to see them, go out of y... (read in full...)
Do I delete her on facebook?
Q. Hi aunts need your help with this one as it’s a strange situation to find myself in. so recently I bumped into a female from school who I’d known and she used to have this crush on me or so she says. we never got together at school, as I did...
A. 24 November 2021: Is facebook the only means of communication that you have with her?. You have not got a phone number, whats app, email, etc.
I think that you are over thinking it a little as to why she has not responded to a face book message. Maybe the other au... (read in full...)
Why does it make me horny thinking about my girlfriend having sex with another man?
Q. Why do I get so horny thinking about my girlfriend being pleased by another guy...
A. 19 November 2021: I agree with Honeypie, keep this fantasy inside your head, within the confines of your own mind.
Its just a fantasy, just keep it to yourself and don't ever act on it because if you did it could very well spell the end of your relation... (read in full...)
Why did she act this way? A boyfriend back home?
Q. Hi everyone I just wonder what people think about a situation I've found myself in as my instincts are telling me one thing and I'd just like to know if anyone comes to the same conclusion. I met a girl a few months ago, we got along really ...
A. 19 November 2021: I can't help but feel that the reason she was acting like this was your feelings for her and stronger than what hers were for you.
She sounds very complicated, serious, and rather secretive. To not want to have a drink with you in fear that she... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship and I can't keep the closeness feeling
Q. This is so obvious a problem, that I should know how to deal, but Covid and all the isolation, etc. has so blunted my feelings that I'd like to ask for help. Basically, my boyfriend has been working 1,000 miles away for several years no...
A. 19 November 2021: We have got to be realistic here, he has brought a house 1,000 miles away, you are unable to move there, and you have recently met someone else.
In your hearts of hearts you already know what you should do, Like WiseOwlE says, you don't need any... (read in full...)
Soap star won't acknowledge Facebook message
Q. I’m friends with a soap star on facebook, I sent her a friend request as a joke and it backfired on me as she accepted the request. I’ve tried to talk to her a few times. she doesn’t seem to respond and only sees messages I send and doesn’t reply. ...
A. 19 November 2021: Just be thankful she accepted your request, you should be really happy with that.
She probably is bombarded with messages all day every day, she can't respond to them all, its nothing to do with you, she is a soap star and very busy i should i... (read in full...)
Is My girlfriend taking me for a fool?
Q. Hi guys, you’ll have to bear with me on this one. It’s complicated to say the least. Just before Christmas last year my girlfriend cheated on me with another man. She aborted his baby as well just to add to the mess. I found out back in September ...
A. 19 November 2021: I know that you still love her, so your finding it really hard to let go even despite everything that she has done to you. But in all honesty i think your best bet would be to run for the hills and try to get over her.
I agree i think there is... (read in full...)
My wife won't go topless at a nude brach
Q. my wife and I have been to nude beaches and she likes looking at nude men and I would like her to take herr top off but she refuses...I don't understand why...
A. 15 November 2021: Who know's why, maybe she is not as comfortable with her body as she was in her younger years.
Does she give you an explanation when you ask her?.
At the end of the day you just have to respect her wishes. ... (read in full...)
I am insecure about mty partner still being close to 2 exs
Q. How can you tell if you're seeing red flags, or you're just blowing things out of proportion because you're scared... and you've doubted yourself from the very start of your relationship? I've been insecure in my relationship (of approx 2 years a...
A. 15 November 2021: Personally i think that there are just two many red flags surrounding this relationship.
There are more reasons to end this relationship for good and walk away than there are reasons to stay.
He has lied to you a few times now, and as a co... (read in full...)
How can we help our daughter with dating?
Q. My daughter is 16, and she came out as lesbian during the pandemic to us, in May 2020 when she was 15. We've no issue with her sexuality. What the issue we feel we're struggling to help her with is finding a partner, as she's asked us for hel...
A. 15 November 2021: To be honest with regards to your initial question, helping your daughter find a partner i would say don't treat it any differently to if she was dating a male or female, dating is dating, a relationship is a relationship whether its two women, two ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a married man has feelings foe me?
Q. dear cupid, How can I tell if a married man has feelings for me or is just being kind and caring to a lonely, single, bereaved woman? We started chatting a year ago and are the same age. He "tested the waters" with me and I said no because ...
A. 15 November 2021: I think that you should steer well clear of him, nothing good will come of keeping him in your life. HE is a married man and will never leave his wife to be with you. I you keep up contact with him you could very well end up being the woman on the ... (read in full...)
I am just not interested in my husband any more
Q. I am married and for whatever reason I am no longer sexual involved with my husband. Lately I’ve been turned off by him and I’ve been stressed out by him. Previously I loved having sex with him on a daily basis. He he usually turned me down and ...
A. 12 November 2021: It sounds like you used to have a healthy sexual relationship. How long have you been feeling this way?.
You say that you are turned off by him, and also stressed by him. With limited information provided here we can only guess as to the reasons ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship but interested in someone else for quite a while. What do I do?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years now, however 3 years ago I signed up to some dating sites and on one I met this woman who lives near by, we talked a bit - obviously me hiding my relationship, and actually met a few times. There was a real ...
A. 12 November 2021: I think you should have walked 3 years ago. I think signing up to a dating site, and then meeting another woman is devious and disrespectful to your current girlfriend of 7 years.
You clearly don't want to be in this relationship, you are stil... (read in full...)
Do I get back together with my ex?
Q. Me and my ex broke up at the beginning of this year. We weren't sleeping together, we were arguing and we just couldn't agree on anything. After lockdown it was a slow build up that tore us apart. Some really bad arguements happened and we really ...
A. 11 November 2021: I think that you are already giving enough reasons in your post as to why it would not be a good idea to get back with him. To name but a few, buy your own admission you say the thought of arguing over the same things and the bad sex are two good ... (read in full...)
He only asked if I wanted a drink but I was horrible to him
Q. I feel really guilty because I was pretty horrible to a guy who gets the same bus as me every day after work. I’d gotten the feeling that he liked me as he’d give me all these glances as we stood at opposite ends of the bus stop each time and then ...
A. 11 November 2021: I do think that what you said to him was rather harsh, and he probably went home rather upset by this.
Whats done is done, you have said it to him now, we can't unsramble scrambled eggs. I think that as you are probably still going to be still se... (read in full...)
I want to meet the guy who saved my life
Q. I really want to meet up with the guy who saved my life last year but he’s really reluctant and I don’t know why. Is he just shy? Most of all I just want to say thank you to him in person but I have to confess I do have more intentions as well, ...
A. 11 November 2021: I'm sorry to hear that you had such a nasty accident, i am really glad you are over the worst of it and on the road to recovery.
This guy saved your life, he is like a hero, a night in shining armour, this is the perception that you have of him n... (read in full...)
Partner spends all his money then gets nasty if I don't give him money
Q. my partner spends half or more of his money every payday on weed and takeaways then he runs out of money and has nothing to eat. when he runs out of money he is horrible to me he expects money from me to eat when im struggling on my own paying for ...
A. 8 November 2021: You need to leave him and get out sooner rather than later. Nothing is going to change anytime soon, and he is certainly never going to change.
You have given it your all, you have tried your very best to support him, but he is beyond help and... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is immature and its annoying
Q. Hi My girlfriend seems immature. We have been chatting for about 6 months and have decided to meet. She hangs on to every word I say and I dislike that very much. Seems everything needs to go her way. For example, we talk on the phone I suggest ...
A. 8 November 2021: You have only been chatting for 6 months, and already you encountering red flags.
She is what she is, we can't change people, and its pointless to even try, she is never going to be the person that you are looking for.
She wants to take th... (read in full...)
My crush was staring at me
Q. I caught my crush staring at me yesterday but he looked away.i still find this amusing.helpplease! What does this mean?...
A. 8 November 2021: Its hard to say from what you have mentioned here. He might like you but is to shy to talk to you, which is why he looked away.
Or he might just be a people watcher, he might have been in a world of his own and never realised he was staring.... (read in full...)
I ended the affair, we are both still married to our spouses and now years later, he wants to be friends. Why?
Q. I had an affair that was emotional for years and then physical for months. I ended it pretty quickly knowing how wrong it was - even leaving my job to get away from him all together. For the past couple of years he has continued to reach out, which ...
A. 8 November 2021: You were lucky to have kept your marriage when you got found out the first time around. Affairs are based on lies, and deviousness, and sneaking around.
He wants more than just friendship which i think you already know. Your mistake was replying... (read in full...)
Why does he want to be friends after the affair?
Q. I had an affair that was emotional for years and then physical for months. I ended it pretty quickly knowing how wrong it was - even leaving my job to get away from him all together. For the past couple of years he has continued to reach out, which ...
A. 8 November 2021: I'm guessing that him establishing contact with you he wants a lot more than the friendship path and that he wants to rekindle what you had before.
As you know having an affair is wrong revolving around lying and cheating. I think that you are ... (read in full...)
Is it over before it even really got started?
Q. I was seeing a male friend. (a) It was slowly progressing friendship. I began talking to another male friend, (B) (b) began to spread rumors about himself and me that we were engaging in sex. That wasn’t true at all. However my first male fr...
A. 5 November 2021: B is not someone you want in your life, he is untrustworthy and likes spreading gossip, now he has possible ruined your chances of getting with A.
Of course he will not rectify his lie and put it right, why would he, and what could he possibly... (read in full...)
I suspect my girlfriend is seeing other guys again but don't know how to approach her
Q. Hi Something is bothering me about my girlfriend recently. we have been together since December 2020 but live in different cities as we are students. We haven't been able to see each other as often as we would like due to covid-19, as des...
A. 3 November 2021: Trust is one of the most important contributing factors in a relationship, without trust a relationship is doomed to fail.
She has already broken your trust and lied to you early on in your relationship, so its only natural that your guard is... (read in full...)
My friend told me we couldn't meet because she was afraid of covid then I see on social media that she was out with friends. Why did she lie to me?
Q. I’m a little confused and hurt by something that happened last week and need advice please. A friend that I’ve know for over 10 years made a lunch date for us. We used to meet up often prior to covid but with restrictions etc… we have seen mes...
A. 3 November 2021: You caught her out hook line and sinker, thanks to social media.
She blew you out with a lame excuse, then goes out and has lunch with her friends, not the sort of friend you want in your life. She knows she was caught out, so this is why she ... (read in full...)
Hi cupids! Should I take him or what u suggest????because of my job
Q. I like my co-worker hes my type(shy)! Ha I think about him¿like dream of him Should i keep it professional OR??? ...
A. 3 November 2021: I always say that with dating people that we work close with on a daily basis can be quite risky.
when things are going well all is rosy and good, but when/if things never worked out things can become quite awkward, not just for the two of you, ... (read in full...)
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