My friend told me we couldn't meet because she was afraid of covid then I see on social media that she was out with friends. Why did she lie to me?
Q. I’m a little confused and hurt by something that happened last week and need advice please. A friend that I’ve know for over 10 years made a lunch date for us. We used to meet up often prior to covid but with restrictions etc… we have seen mes...
A. 3 November 2021: You caught her out hook line and sinker, thanks to social media.
She blew you out with a lame excuse, then goes out and has lunch with her friends, not the sort of friend you want in your life. She knows she was caught out, so this is why she ... (read in full...)
Hi cupids! Should I take him or what u suggest????because of my job
Q. I like my co-worker hes my type(shy)! Ha I think about him¿like dream of him Should i keep it professional OR??? ...
A. 3 November 2021: I always say that with dating people that we work close with on a daily basis can be quite risky.
when things are going well all is rosy and good, but when/if things never worked out things can become quite awkward, not just for the two of you, ... (read in full...)
Is it weird for a doctor to hug you?
Q. Is it weird, inappropriate, or flirting for your doctor to share a warm, longish (3-4 second) hug with you and rub the middle of your back up and down at the same time? When I say doctor, I mean general practioner....
A. 3 November 2021: Without knowing the circumstances of which this took place, and how well you know the GP, and assuming this happened on a visit to the actual practice where he/she works then i would say its not normal for a doctor to get out of his/her chair and ... (read in full...)
Feelings that I don't know how to address
Q. Hi all thanks for taken a moment to read this. I just need some help with a situation I have found myself in. I have a boyfriend we have been together 3 years, we are okay together sometimes. I feel somewhat unloved and not cared for as I should b...
A. 1 November 2021: I don't think that you should tell him anything at this moment in time. You are in a relationship that you have been in for 3 years so at the moment it is wrong that you are even texting someone else.
The right thing here would be to end things w... (read in full...)
I'm married but have to celebrate my birthday alone?
Q. Dear cupid My husband is not keen on celebrating bday. He never celebrates even his bday, but I like bdays esp mine. I always do something special for me ony bday, take a trip or buy expensive stuff for me... We planned to do a trip this year a...
A. 1 November 2021: I don't know why he agreed to going away for your birthday and let you go to all the trouble of booking it all, then let you down at the last minute.
I think to cancel on you then not talk to you is very immature indeed. I don't know how long the... (read in full...)
Feel Like A Toy Should I Leave Him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a little over a year now, we made our relationship "official" a few months ago. We are in a long distance relationship, living in separate countries. He's never really planned anything for us to do together, like w...
A. 25 October 2021: I think that are to many negatives than positives surrounding this relationship.
I think the best option here would be to end this virtual relationship and move on. It does not seem like he is making too much of an effort to try to make this wor... (read in full...)
I love my husband but I don't know if I should be with him
Q. Hello, I am having some really hard thoughts about my marriage and no one seems to understand. I have been in a relationship with my partner for almost 8 years but we got married this summer (August 19th 2021). We live in his parents house. I wa...
A. 22 October 2021: So i am assuming that the 8 years you were together prior to getting married he was the same person he is now, still doing the same things, no hobbies, and minimal friends, and just work in his life. So i have to ask you why did you go ahead with ... (read in full...)
How do I have sex with my aunt in the bedroom
Q. my aunt has romantic feelings for me and i feel the same way with her, and she keeps staring at me sexually and it kind of turns me on the way she does that. and i wish that we could make love in the bedroom (with protection of course) and as a teen ...
A. 22 October 2021: I would advise leaving this fantasy within the confines of your own mind, and leave it there.
I think that quite possibly you are mistaking the emotions of Aunty/Nephew love and twisting it in your own mind into something sexual, which you and ... (read in full...)
How do I tell the my brothers/sisters I don't have the money to have them for Christmas?
Q. Dear Cupid , I'm a single woman and share a Condo with My Mother in her 60's .. Every Holiday for the past 16 years both My Siblings a Older Brother and a Married Sister with 4 Children have never volentered to have a Holiday at their Home. I ...
A. 22 October 2021: I don't think that it should be down to you every year, and footing all the expense of it as well, this is unfair. Your sister has a huge home with four kids, she also makes more money than any of you.
I think everyone has got into a pattern ... (read in full...)
I miss my crush so much but I probably won’t ever see him again.
Q. My crush got laid off due to covid last week and I miss him so much, I feel like I have a big black hole inside me. I wish I could say I was exaggerating but I really am not. I have rarely had crushes throughout my life, so when I have one it is...
A. 22 October 2021: The thing about crushes is that they don't last forever, infact often short lived.
Soon the feelings that you are feeling right now will dissipate, and things will get easier, you might even start to notice someone else that you are attracte... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to get pregnant by his gay friend
Q. I have been with my husband for 3.5 years, but we've been together for 9 years in total. The big issue here is kids, we both want them, yet my husband has other ideas about how and it's caused arguments. He wants me to sleep with his frien...
A. 21 October 2021: This post is just screaming out, Complications, Complications, and more complications.
Why on earth why would you ever even contemplate doing this, its never going to end well, is no one looking at the bigger picture here?.
Why is your h... (read in full...)
My difficult mother hasn't spoken to me since our disagreement
Q. I have a rough relationship with my mother. Growing up, she's been emotionally and verbally abusive, so as soon as i graduated college and found a job, I moved out, despite her objections. (See my previous questions if you want to understand our ...
A. 20 October 2021: No I don't think that you went to far, and i don't think that you was rude in any way either. You Mum simply expected you to drop your plans and go over and see her regardless, but you stood your ground, so well done you.
Don't feel guilty, ... (read in full...)
Our conversations have quickly escalated into sexting
Q. I approached a guy (call him ALEX) on social media. Alex is the cousin of one of my sister's friend. We didn't know each other then. I wrote to him to say hi. But the convo escalated quickly into about sex. And we sexted. I immediately regretted it ...
A. 20 October 2021: There are too many red flags with this guy and i think you are better off with him out of your life.
Just because he is a research scholar by day does not mean that he can't be a sexual sleaze by night.
It is clear the only thing that he wa... (read in full...)
I’m engaged but still thinking about a holiday romance. Do I stay or leave?
Q. I’m 32 years old, and im engaged to a wonderful man, however just recently I can’t stop thinking about a past love of mine and I hate myself for it. We are due to be married next year, have been together 7 years and we are honestly so good...
A. 18 October 2021: I think you are looking at the relationship with Nick through the memories of a holiday romance. A romance that was short lived but carried with it the great feelings of being on holiday as well.
If you got with him and started a relation... (read in full...)
I just found out my boyfriend use to be a sissy in high-school
Q. I recently discovered that my bf of 1.6 years was a huge sissy back in high school like super feminine. I found from some of his old female friends when I attended his high school reunion with him a few nights ago. They even said he never had a ...
A. 13 October 2021: It was a long time ago, people grow up and change over the years. Most people are completely different from when they were at school, especially when your talking a decade later, or even 15 years.
I think its wrong to judge him by what some peo... (read in full...)
Why not tell me to go and move on
Q. Me and my gf broke up over an argument. First time in 5 years. It was due to her always complaining about money issues. She was not working enough and kept using credit cards which one day I snapped and told her to fix her problems. We both stopped ...
A. 12 October 2021: Its hard to say if she still likes you or not. I'm sure she does as you did have quite a long relationship together.
Most arguments if its not playing away normally boil down to something of a financial nature.
Maybe she is still trying to ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong or overreacting or should I leave
Q. I’m 29 yr old female from Ga and me and my gf have been together for almost 3years now, She has kids but that’s not the issue… She also has this ex who keeps hitting her up and randomly sending how much she still loves her and misses the kids, she ...
A. 12 October 2021: I think that you are right to worry, and no i don't think that you are being insecure. I'm sure if the situation was reversed and you had an ex in your life calling you every day she would not be happy at all, and tell you to get them out of your ... (read in full...)
How can I seduce or flirt with my cousins wife
Q. How can I seduce or flirt with my cousins wife. I have caught her looking at my dick while talking to her.. should I make a move or wait until she makes the first move....
A. 12 October 2021: Probably not the answer you come on here to achieve, but to put it bluntly steer clear of your cousins wife and stop looking at her in a sexual way.
She is married, and he is your cousin, where do your family loyalties lay?. Leave it alone. ... (read in full...)
I haven't dated in awhile and am not sure if I'm picking up the right signals
Q. I've been happily single for a long while by choice but I recently met someone and well...as I've been out of the dating game for a while, I need to know if this guy actually likes me? I first met him a few months ago. He's my landlord's contr...
A. 12 October 2021: Its hard to say if he likes you or not from what you say in your post. He could just have been being friendly and polite as he probably is to everyone.
When he came in he had three of his team there also, so he could of been flirting to try to i... (read in full...)
He shared my intimate photo with somebody else. What do I do?
Q. I sent an intimate photo to the guy I’m dating. You can’t see my face and there’s no full nudity, but it’s implied. Anyway, he was at a bar the other night and he told me this woman kept hitting on him. She wouldn’t leave him alone even thoug...
A. 11 October 2021: I agree with YCBS, i don't think that any malice was meant in what he did. He obviously was not happy about being hit on by a persistent woman who would not leave him alone, so he showed the photo to get rid of her as he knew he was with you.
... (read in full...)
I don’t know if I should stay with him or not, as the more I’m getting to know him, it sounds like everything is all his way or the highway.
Q. I’ve been dating a man who’s older than me. He was all full on with me at the start, I think I was being love bombed looking back on it and he was seeing a future with me. The first couple of months was difficult for us to see each other as h...
A. 11 October 2021: I think that now the rose tinted glasses have come off you are seeing the real him.
I think all the love bombing in the beginning was to reel you in, get you hooked, now he finally has you your seeing the real him, and the real him is not very app... (read in full...)
My wife wants to quit her responsible job and I'm worried about our future
Q. My wife is 47 and told me she wants to quit her job (which she enjoys) to become a nurse or paramedic. She has a very responsible job currently, it's got a 9-5 workday like mine, but my worry is that it'll be new levels of stress for her that she...
A. 11 October 2021: I think that the two of you need to have a sit down and have a look at your finances and see if it is possible for her to do this.
I think it would be best for her to keep her current job and study to do what she wants, whether it be a nurse or... (read in full...)
My girlfriend in the hospital were the nurses talking to her in a sexual manner?
Q. Do u think my gf saying that in front of me was meaning it w a sexual undertone. She been in hospital for a week from the covid vaccine bs that gave her blood infection and she about died. But she almost done recovering. Or am I being paranoid...
A. 7 October 2021: I don't think there was anything funny going on here, nurses have to adopt and maintain a professional service, if they were seen or heard to be making comments of a sexual nature to patients they could very be having to look for another job.
... (read in full...)
He's more than just a crush but I might put my job in jeopardy – Do I just go for it?
Q. I can’t stop thinking about a guy who goes to the gym I work at. He’s literally dominating my thoughts. The problem is I’m a Personal Trainer so as well as helping run the gym I’m not really supposed to date or be in a relationship with any ...
A. 6 October 2021: It seems like you are crushing on him, crushes don't tend to last forever and can be often short lived and fizzle out over the natural course of time.
By you own admission you take your job very seriously, and also they seem to have a very str... (read in full...)
Is my daughter wasting her time with a man 17 years older 3 kids never married
Q. My daughter is nearly 30 and is seeing a man who is 17 years older. He’s never been married but has 3 kids to two different women. He’s told her he doesn’t want anymore kids or get married. There has been a lot of ups and downs between them (more ...
A. 6 October 2021: Without knowing your daughter, its hard to say whether she is wasting her time or not.
If your daughter has aspirations to get married and have kids then i would say she would be wasting her time as this is not what he wants.
If she is hap... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a neighbor who fixes things asks for gifts instead of money but then when the works is done wants the money too
Q. 16 months ago when I move in to my home I met my neighbor who is a nice friendly guy. We have a shared drive and some tiles were coming loose. He told me he would fix them. I thanked him and asked him to let me know how much he wanted for it. ...
A. 6 October 2021: I think he is out of order springing things on you like this. He has clearly stated on both occasions that he would not want any money for the jobs, just a token gesture like some beer or wine, then he wants money after that, what on earth is with ... (read in full...)
relationships take two and he is doing absolutely nothing to help me
Q. Hi Cupid’s, Wanting some relationship advice about me and my partner. We have a loving relationship and respectful of each other. We have been together 3 years now and it’s going good. My friends always ask me if he is ‘the one’ but I’m unsure. ...
A. 5 October 2021: You are absolutely right, its takes two to make a relationship work, and he is doing absolutely nothing to contribute to this relationship.
I'm not going to say it is wrong to go clubbing, although personally my clubbing days were within the age ... (read in full...)
I'm just ticked off that he ghosted me then texted me like nothings changed.
Q. I met a guy on a dating app and we've been out on 2 dates. I was beginning to like him, then he disappeared after the 2nd date. I texted him last Sunday telling him I had fun and we should go out again. He then suggested we should go see a movie, to ...
A. 5 October 2021: I think he seems like a bit of a game player, blowing hot and cold, and vanishing for long periods of time.
He will pick you up and put you down, he will dangle the carrot and build your hopes up, then let you down the last minute.
You say... (read in full...)
My girlfriend left me for another guy. But am still in love with her
Q. My girlfriend left me for another guy. But am still in love with her. What do i have to do....
A. 5 October 2021: The only advice i can pass on to you in this situation is that things will get easier as time goes on, time is the healer of all things.
We have all been there, and its difficult, but you are young with your whole life ahead of you and soon you... (read in full...)
IF he didnt want me why is he acting like that?
Q. I really like a neighbour he did show a bit of interest but has now backed off and nothing ever developed. however i have recently been seeing someone just for mutual benefit only- i came out of this persons place and someone said hello i turned ...
A. 4 October 2021: He sounds very immature to me, and if it was him that followed you, then called out then hid is rather creepy in my opinion.
If he does like you he certainly has a funny way of showing it. I think that you should let this one go and find someone ... (read in full...)
Unsure whether I want to continue our LDR?
Q. I met a guy online a more than a year ago and we have been together for a year now in a LDR due to COVID restrictions. We have been texting for most of the relationship and have sent voice messages to each other occasionally, but not voice call. At ...
A. 4 October 2021: I would say go with your gut, or womans intuition. You say sometihng just does not feel right, and your probably right.
You have been chatting for over a year now, and you have never spoken.
I think he is dangling a carrot giving you false... (read in full...)
Male virgin's first sexual intercourse
Q. If a male virgin has fullsex for the first time with a woman whereby obviously the woman puts her vagina on his penis,if he does not feel anything because his penis is not erect enough, and the woman pulls off after a couple of seconds,would you ...
A. 4 October 2021: I had to look at the age bracket here, if the age bracket is correct on sure you would know the answer to this question.
If you penis was not actually inserted, and was only on the outside for a couple of seconds of course this is not classed ... (read in full...)
Amazing guy but underwhelming sex
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 2 months and he's amazing. We laugh together the whole time, we have loads in common, he's fun, thoughtful and I find him really attractive. We just click, it's easy and effortless when we're together.I haven't ...
A. 4 October 2021: Not every relationship is all hard core passion and tearing each others clothes off.
From what you have said he sounds like a really nice guy, and you both seem to fit in many ways, you laugh together and you have a lot in common, on top of many ... (read in full...)
My sister's inlaws trashed our apt by the sea and she doesn't want me to talk to them about it
Q. Several years ago my husband and I purchased a 2 bedroom apartment by the sea to use as a holiday home. We let our family and friends use it too when we don’t and we don’t charge them anything - they are responsible for buying their own...
A. 29 September 2021: Absolutely not, i don't think that you are being unfair in the slightest. If it was me i would not want them back either.
I can't believe that they left in such a state, what on earth was they thinking, this is out of order, and rude.
When yo... (read in full...)
Am I been over sensitive?
Q. Am I been over sensitive? My boyfriend of 5 month is constantly hanging up on me in mid flow of a conversation. We can be talking on the phone and he just says bye I’ve got to go and hangs up. It’s really annoying and I have ended up telling...
A. 29 September 2021: I guess there could be many reason's why he does this. He could be at work and his lunch break has just come to an end. He could have someone else trying to call him at the same time he is on the phone to you. He could be married, be in another ... (read in full...)
Should I walk away from the marriage and make some saving and build my own home for my children
Q. I have been married for 6 years and i am 36 years, and we have two children together with my husband. My husband has a child from a previous marriage that i take care of. My husband is 45 and has fairly paying job. We live in a house that is shared ...
A. 28 September 2021: I don't think that you should feel that you are being pushed out of your own home.
I know that you have sat down and spoke to your husband, but maybe you have got to be a little sterner with him and make him realise the implications that this sit... (read in full...)
I met a man online years ago but everything seems to be at my cost
Q. Hello, I met a man online years ago but everything seems to be at my cost. He wants marriage at my financial cost. He wants to move here, at my financial cost. Yes, I went to see him several times in his country at my cost I understand th...
A. 28 September 2021: There have been a few posts similar to this one, and i will go along with the same answer that i replied to the other posts with.
I know its not what you want to hear, but i feel that you have been scammed.
You met a man online years ago... (read in full...)
One of my really good friends just decided to cut me off because she doesn't agree with one of my decisions.
Q. One of my really good friends just decided to cut me off because she doesn't agree with one of my decisions. I think it's a little extreme and hypocritical. The decision is that I'm meeting someone for dinner tomorrow and may be pursuing a physi...
A. 27 September 2021: She is one of your really good friends, which you have probably known for a long time, don't throw away your relationship with her for someone i assume you hardly know from out of town.
This guy could turn out to be a jerk, and you may never se... (read in full...)
What could make a man just walk out on his wife like that and move in with a young couple?
Q. I'm from South Dakota, but have lived in the Bronx for 13 years now, enjoy it here. It's not me who's got the problem in this question, but Mom. Mom told me the other day that Dad's just gone and left her, and left a handwritten note which sa...
A. 27 September 2021: I'm sorry to hear that your Father has just left and gone to live somewhere else, this can't be easy for anyone.
You say he has just left without a trace, only leaving a note?. While he has been living with you all this time has no-one got his ... (read in full...)
How do you put up with a man who you can't ask questions to?
Q. How do you put up with a man who you can't ask questions to? How can there be any proper communication? I'm married for 4 years and at first he didn't mind questions. I'm talking basic questions not silly or uncalled for questions. Exa...
A. 27 September 2021: Sounds like the communication between the pair of you needs to be worked on.
What are your conversations like in person when your not texting each other?.
The example that you chose to use, why don't you simply just ask how his day is going... (read in full...)
We broke up 4 years ago so why do I still think of him?
Q. Hello So my ex and I were together on and off since 2012 until 2017. I say on and off because we had HUGE issues alot of the time. He didn't trust me whatsoever so that was the main reason we were off and on. Not to mention he was emotional...
A. 23 September 2021: We all have a past, and we all have had relationships that we look back on, some with good memories, some with not so good memories.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet there, and your lucky to be out of this relationship, keep telling yourself... (read in full...)
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