My boyfriend contacted his ex during a trip
Q. Hi DC Aunts and Uncles. I have come here for some advice. Maybe I myself already know the answer but I want to get some input from you. So my boyfriend of 2 mths went on a trip with his friends and just returned home. During his trip away he was...
A. 8 April 2022: He has with her for a decade, he has been with you for two months, so you relationship with him is pretty much still in its infancy, and its very clear he is rebounding.
He clearly still has feelings for her, so the he should never have got into... (read in full...)
What's the deal with my husband and his sexual preferences?
Q. I'm 40, married for 7 years, one child who's 5 years old. I have a wonderful relationship with my husband; we're very happy with our daughter and our life. We have a good sex life. My husband in his day-to-day life is the very serious professo...
A. 29 March 2022: I guess this has always been a fantasy of his, and it seems to come to the forefront of his mind during sex. Although having sexual fantasy's is often a good thing and can be beneficial in a relationship. However in this case when the word violence ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he tried swinging two years into our relationship. Is this a dealbreaker?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I love him. I thought I knew all there was to know about his history when he revealed to me he had taken part in a swinger's party when he was younger. Whoa, hold on a minute Fred!!! I was tongue tied and...
A. 29 March 2022: I think that swinging or bringing a third party into a relationship never ends well, just look back on previous posts here at DC and you will see it always ends in a bad way.
I am not saying that this is going to happen in your case. This is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he’s not bothered that I cheated, is he just playing mind games?
Q. I told my boyfriend last week that I cheated on him and he didn’t get upset or angry, or even seem the slightest bit bothered at all. Ever since he’s just carried on as normal and says we should just forget about it and move on. Now I can’t tell if ...
A. 25 March 2022: His actions have baffled me as well. Finding out a partner has cheated is not normally something you just brush off and say lets just forget about it.
I don't think many men would be ok with their partners going with someone else, and even wor... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my friend's older brother
Q. Hi so I have a best friend and I absolutely love her brother but he a. Has never acknowledged me once and b. Is like 4 years older c. He might by dating someone but I don’t know. What should I do should I try to get closer to him or should I just m...
A. 24 March 2022: Like the other's told you, i agree i don't think that you should act on this at all. Its just a crush, and crushes tend to be short lived and fizzle away.
Just enjoy crushing on him, but don't act on it. If you still have this crush in 3 or 4 yea... (read in full...)
My husband's former mistress now lives across the street
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for almost 5 years. 2 years ago we bought our first house together. Now, 4 years before we met he was married and cheated on his wife. He never kept this from me and was always honest about it. He was unha...
A. 24 March 2022: Is the only reason that you want to sell is because you don't want to keep seeing her every time you open your front door. Or partly because you are worried that he will get with her again when you are not around.
If its more the latter then is ... (read in full...)
I found emails between my boyfriend and his ex
Q. Hi all. I have a question. I am not sure if it's something I should be worried about. My boyfriend moved to my area a month ago and we have been exclusively dating. We enjoy each other's company and get on well. When we have sex, he doesn't reall...
A. 24 March 2022: At the end of the day ex's are ex's for a reason. I think that unless there is something of a financial nature, or they had children together there is no reason to be in a new relationship and still keep up communications with an ex.
I think at... (read in full...)
My friend always seems to land on her feet
Q. Okay so I expect there will be judgement my way on this but the subject I'm writing in about it really bothering me. I know a woman for over thirty years since we was seventeen years old, I guess in those years I would say a friend. I'm not ...
A. 17 March 2022: You are only getting a snippet of what her life is really like. You could say she puts on a face, in person and on social media, and she may come across as the most confident person in the world, and always lands on her feet, but the reality is ... (read in full...)
Is my straight friend flirting with me or is she just joking?
Q. Curious for some opinions here. I'm an out gay female. A new girl started working at my job recently. She's roughly my age and straight. Seemingly the boy-crazy type of straight. Never been with a woman before. Which is what is so confusing to me ...
A. 17 March 2022: I think she sounds a bit full on in my opinion, especially as you both work together.
She asked for your number straight away, she has not left you alone texting you constantly texting you, then say's she is jealous of other woman in your lif... (read in full...)
My ex is sending me mixed messages
Q. I come out of 4 year relationship. It’s been a few months break in meeting although we spoken daily by phone. Recently she made contact, and we have been speaking about our issues after things have calmed down. However I feel she does not giv...
A. 17 March 2022: I think if you try to give it everything it will be wasted energy as this relationship is over. I feel by keeping up this contact is not healthy for anyone as its just dragging things out. I think that someone has got to step up to the plate and ... (read in full...)
Is this a normal relationship
Q. We have great chemistry and have a really good vibe but sometimes things are just weird with us. Like today we had what felt like an argument about something that happen a while along. The thing is he literally wasn't going to say anything about it ...
A. 17 March 2022: Well all relationships have their ups and downs, its about accepting that no one is perfect, and we all have our own funny ways and quirks, its about accepting these things, then trying to focus on the positives of them instead of dwelling on the ... (read in full...)
Dating for six weeks, and now he thinks he was too eager
Q. I’ve been dating a guy for about 6 weeks. We’ve had some good dates and get on really well. On our last date he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend and make it official. I said yes but I wasn’t 100% sure in my head. I stayed over at his home ...
A. 15 March 2022: He was the one who instigated it all, he was the one who asked you to be his girlfriend which you accepted. He was blowing hot, now he is blowing cold, i get the feeling if you keep him around he is going to be constantly blowing hot and cold and ... (read in full...)
He touches me, but does he like me?
Q. I have a best friend who is a guy. We were together for a long time since the time we met. Since sometime we were sitting together for classes and when he or i feel asleep we stroke each other with our hands. just rubbing the hands together was ...
A. 13 March 2022: Personally this is a very weird and creep way of letting someone know you like them, but that in my opinion is exactly what he is, weird and creepy.
If you if you really like someone a respectable person will date for a while and wait to do all t... (read in full...)
Baby mom won’t leave him alone!
Q. His baby mom won’t leave him alone. His baby mother told him she will never allow him to happily be with someone else and has been tormenting us ever since. She’s in another country. What I’m upset is about the fact that I have given 200 p...
A. 11 March 2022: It's an awkward situation to be in, i don't know how old the child is, but if he/she is still very young then you could be dealing with this for a number of years.
My son is older now, but when he was younger she was similar to your boyfrien... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to experiment with my friend
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together since we met in high school. It’s been 6 great years, but the value of our relationship I’d say is that we’re best friends. Our chemistry, our humour, our bond has never failed us. But sexually, we have ...
A. 10 March 2022: Bringing a third party into a relationship is never a good idea and they more often than not never work out, just have a look over some of the other older posts here on DC and you will see.
It could spell the end of your relationship if she star... (read in full...)
Should I be suspicious of his reason for standing me up?
Q. Should I be suspicious? I had a date set for Friday. Then I never hear from him until Sunday night. He claims his coworker has a stroke and was busy with that. I said sorry to hear it but declined to reschedule. Now I’m the bad guy. I don’t see how ...
A. 10 March 2022: This happened on the Friday, i don't believe that he was in ER from Friday all the way to Sunday so if he could not have told you on the Friday he surely could have on Saturday.
I think if it was me and i was at ER with a co-worker and i knew i h... (read in full...)
Should we end it?
Q. Hi all, I've been with my partner almost 2 years (2years in may) we are both 38. I have a 4 year old boy from a previous relationship. He has no kids. I've made it known to him that I would take our relationship to the next level. I.e living t...
A. 9 March 2022: It seems to me that you have got more negative things to say about this relationship than positive, and neither of you are on the same page with regards to what you want and future plans.
By you own admission you say your on your own paths, a... (read in full...)
It's been so many years and this guy still continues to pursue me.
Q. I met this guy in 2014 at an academic international conference. We were both representing our country in our respective disciplines. I was in a deadbeat relationship at that time and this guy was married. We hit it off really well and at time at ...
A. 8 March 2022: I'm going to cut to the chase here, you say should you meet him if he comes back?. Well i'm suprised that you even have to ask that question to be honest, it should be a big fat NO without even having to think about it.
He is married, or at least... (read in full...)
My long term boyfriend left me a year ago and came back, saying he'd never leave me again. And he just left me again!!!! I am devastated!!!
Q. My boyfriend left me and went down to the US to see his mother alone. We had planned to go together in two weeks but he went ahead and left without even telling me. We were having issues and were on the phone the day before and the next morning when ...
A. 8 March 2022: I know its hard, break ups are never easy, especially as you have been messed around and let down twice by him.
He let you down once, you forgave him the second time because you believed his lies about how he has changed and how he is going to... (read in full...)
My teacher kiss me
Q. Hi, i am 15 and i was kissed by my teacher. He wrote a poem to me which i got confused about as a cooperation to write poem but it was a love letter. I don't know his age but he is the range of late 20's to early 30's he is a flirt he hugs some ...
A. 8 March 2022: If this post is genuine then you have to report this immediately. You need to tell your Mum, and hopefully your Mum will know the correct channels to go down.
He is in a position of trust, a position of power, and you are a child. He must be repor... (read in full...)
Will he still like me?
Q. hi! i have had a crush on this guy for a while. he likes me too and he told me a couple weeks ago. my parents made me cut off contact with him because he has different views then them. i am an older teen, so personally i think that i should be able ...
A. 7 March 2022: It is hard to say if will still like you or not, maybe he will, maybe he won't.
If he does than all well and good. But don't be to disheartened if he does not, its all just part and parcel of teen dating. You will get over it and meet someone ... (read in full...)
He said he liked my friend. Does he like me?
Q. hi! i'm a bit confused because my friend told me that he likes my best friend. i promised him that i wouldn't tell her because he knows she already has a boyfriend. recently though, he has been talking to me more then her and he's starting to act l...
A. 7 March 2022: Its hard to say if he likes you or not, or is just being friendly because he likes your mate. I do think that he should respect the fact that she already has a boyfriend.
All you can do is keep chatting to him and see what unfolds. Why don't yo... (read in full...)
Situations and boundaries
Q. What are peoples opinions on situationships and boundaries within them? I've been seeing a guy for 4 months. I'm 33 and he's 39. We spend every other day together. We cook together, go on long walks together, we are sexually intimate, we cud...
A. 7 March 2022: No you are not over reacting, far from it. This is not someone that you want in your life, he is a liar and a cheat. He could have been upfront and honest with you about him going with other people but he chose to lie to you. This really is a huge ... (read in full...)
I think of my affair partner every day even though affair is long over
Q. I had an affair that I ended nearly three years ago. I don’t need to be lectured on my poor choices - nor do I justify them, but there are many layers to the complete story. On a positive note, my husband and I have made tremendous progress in our ...
A. 7 March 2022: This was a chapter of your life that happened, your husband forgave you and now you are both moving on.
You are doing all the right things, you have been having therapy, and you are avoiding his outreach attempts. How is he reaching out to you?.... (read in full...)
She stares. Does she like me?
Q. There's this really pretty girl who goes to the same Gym as me and I'm sure she keeps giving me the eye. We've never spoken but I've noticed when I've been working out and she's in the vicinity she'll stare at me before turning away every time when ...
A. 7 March 2022: Its difficult to say if she likes you or not, she may well do. Or she may just be a people watcher and does not realise she is doing it.
Does she smile at you when she looks at you?. Next time you see her looking, smile at her and see if its reci... (read in full...)
Do you think I was unfair?
Q. I recently had a break down in a relationship and am struggling with feelings of guilt and regret, I am 64 and my "boy"friend was same age. He was in rented lovely cottage in great location but very expensive, he had lost his property previous...
A. 4 March 2022: I think that you 100% did the right thing here, no wonder his marriage fell apart, he sounds like very high maintenance.
Just think to yourself that you really did dodge a bullet here, and now onwards and upwards. ... (read in full...)
I found a dildo in the closet. I know wife has used it
Q. Been married for 35 years. My wife is still very hot. She mentioned to me that she and a friend went to a sex toy store and they laughed a lot. She did not say she bought anything. I did not ask. In the past 10 years sex was really for me. Usually 4 ...
A. 4 March 2022: I don't think this is that big a deal really, you found it in the bathroom cabinet, a place where where people are bound to frequent so she obviously was not trying to conceal it.
She has also only just recently been to a sex store with her mate... (read in full...)
Female friend / colleague blanks me outside of work
Q. A girl started working for me a couple of years ago and we hit it off instantly. We had a similar sense of humour and although she is a bit socially awkward (by her own admission), we just seemed to get each other and enjoyed each other's ...
A. 26 February 2022: At the end of the day, you have a partner, she has a partner, and you both work together and i don't think she see's it as anything more than this.
She nipped it in the bud, and quite rightly so because lets face it, its texting someone constant... (read in full...)
Female porn star has taken a shine to me
Q. since I have broken up with my girlfriend, I’ve been feeling lonely and a bit lost of late. was on facebook the other day and came across this lady who is from los angles. she’s really beautiful and we immediately became friends on facebook. she ...
A. 26 February 2022: I agree with YCBS, this sounds like some sort of scam to me and i would be very very careful if you were contemplating pursuing this as it could ultimately turn out to be a very costly venture for you.
If something sounds to good to be true, th... (read in full...)
How do I know if a crush is getting out of hand?
Q. I'm attracted to my coworker. My boss (the director of the school I work in) to be more precise. What scares me is that the feeling might be mutual. I don't want this in my life, so I'm doing everything I can not to feed this crush and not to...
A. 26 February 2022: This is a crush, and crushes don't last forever, often quite short lived.
I would keep these feelings to yourself, just keep doing what you are doing and let these feelings dissipate of their own accord.
You both work is a professional... (read in full...)
My husband sees nothing wrong with prostitution
Q. Hubby and I were chatting. We watched a program and it featured a prostitute. I asked if he would condemn a woman for her past if she was a prostitute before he met her. He said no he would not. He said if it was in her past and she no longer does ...
A. 24 February 2022: I think its a matter of opinion really, everyone will have varying views on this. You husband has given you his opinion on what he thinks which he is quite entitled to, and i don't think it gives him a lack of standards.
He is just saying that he ... (read in full...)
Happily married but attracted to the Zumba instructor
Q. Hi, so I'm in an uncomfortable situation because I'm married and I do love my husband very much, but I have developed a crush on someone else. My husband and I have been married for 7 years now and we still love each other so much. We have both ...
A. 24 February 2022: This is a crush, and crushed don't last forever, infact can sometimes be very short lived.
He is a zumba instructor, it is his job to be kind caring and friendly with everyone.
My advice would be to just keep this crush within the confines of ... (read in full...)
How do I extricate myself from this relationship without hurting feelings?
Q. So I have been with this guy for 5 months now, he is 32 and I am 25. We first met over tinder (yikes I know), we had a couple first dates it was lovely, he is funny and kind. It wasn't until the third date we slept together and since then we just ...
A. 23 February 2022: This relationship is still very much in the early stages so i would not feel bad about the thoughts and feelings that you are having.
Reading your post i feel that there are more negatives than positives in this relationship and these negative... (read in full...)
Am I too old to get a date
Q. Am I too old at 86 to get a date on site...
A. 23 February 2022: I agree with RB, the age group you are seeking won't be into the internet dating scene, swiping right and swiping left.
I think that your best bet is to join some social groups where you can mingle and meet people naturally. ... (read in full...)
Should I set my dad up with one of my friends?
Q. One of my girl friends has fancied my Dad forever even when he was married hence making my Mom jealous. Now my Moms passed should I set them up? If so then how? ;-) ...
A. 19 February 2022: Personally my advice would be to not set them up, i just feel that things could get rather awkward if things never worked out.
Also your Dad my also find it awkward being approached about dating one of his sons friends.
I'm just giving you ... (read in full...)
I can't tell if he seriously likes me or not
Q. almost a month ago I met a guy at this bar and he ended up coming home with me, however, we just hooked up no sex. The next morning I woke up to his alarm and him cuddling me, even pulling me closer each time it went off and I took nothing from ...
A. 18 February 2022: I agree with Honeypie, i think that you both suck at communication.
I think that if no one steps up and does something then you are going to keep going through the motions, just hooking up and nothing actually progressing.
It is strange not t... (read in full...)
The barmaid has accused me of harassment
Q. I normally like to go down to a working mens club and play snooker with some of the members, sometimes they want to play other times they do not or can’t be bothered. anyway I’ll try not to make this long and try to make it sound as though it makes...
A. 18 February 2022: Sounds like this place is from One Flew over the Cukko's nest, not a social club.
I'm a member of a social club, these are normally places you go where beer is cheaper, football is always on, and you go to socialise and have a beer and a chat.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend feels trapped and blames me
Q. Hi Aunts! My long-time live-in girlfriend of 10 years keeps saying that she feels trapped in our relationship and doesn't see a way out except for suicide. She says I am controlling and despite my many good qualities we are not compatible and s...
A. 18 February 2022: I really don't think that there is anything more you can you do help her, you are going to have to resign yourself to the fact that this relationship is over.
You have offered her sound advice, you have told her to seek help, you have told her... (read in full...)
My wife is pregnant by another man
Q. I have a problem with my wife I do not know how to deal with. We have a happy open relationship with one child, we have been married six years and my wife has an African American boyfriend. She recently told me she is pregnant I know the baby i...
A. 18 February 2022: I never really wanted to go into the outcomes of what happens when you bring a third party into the equation, you just have to look over previous posts to find out that.
Having an open marriage is one thing, but if a spouse becomes pregnant... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of the Covid vaccine
Q. I'm so scared, as my partner and parents have taken the vaccine. I wondered if anyone has had any luck convincing loved ones not to get boosters? If so, I would love to know how you were able to do that? I'm so scared of losing everyone I l...
A. 18 February 2022: Personally i would never advise loved ones not to get boosters, which as far as i know they already have had a while back, as have I.
My parents are older now, and i feel better knowing the fact that that are boosted, as well as flu jabs. So in my... (read in full...)
I have a good guy but I think I want out of the relationship
Q. I don't know what's wrong with me, my partner is good in a lot of ways. However I'm starting to feel like I want out of the relationship. I was a single mother before I met him and had reached a good level of independence. I feel in the relation...
A. 17 February 2022: I think he may be a nice guy, but at the end of the day you are just not that into him, pure and simple.
If yo are with someone, in a relationship and you look forward to the days when you are not with him, then i think this say's it all really. ... (read in full...)
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