What are some fun and romantic things we can do?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about 6 months. He has been there for me and always kind and good to me. He is always been comforting, and supports me. He never puts pressure on me. I have reached that moment that i want to surprise him wit...
A. 24 January 2022: It sounds like he is a nice guy, a keeper. That is a really nice gesture to cook a nice romantic dinner for him, i'm sure he will absolutely love this.
Just wear something that you feel comfortable in, but also a little more sexy than your aro... (read in full...)
Should I ask my wife to cheat?
Q. Is it completely absurd to fantasize about your wife doing something with another man (ex hand job, BJ, just kissing, intercourse)? My wife is extremely attractive, younger than me, and I have no desire to be with anyone else. However, I do ...
A. 24 January 2022: Personally i would leave it alone, bringing a third party into the bedroom is likely to end not happily.
I would leave this as a fantasy and not bring this to fruition. What if you experimented with this and let her do it, then she started ... (read in full...)
Does yoga make sex better?
Q. wellness blogs recommend yoga for a better sex life, as well as personal accounts of the practice improving sexual experience. How can yoga make for a better sex life and better sex? What yoga moves can help with sex? ...
A. 21 January 2022: I think that performing yoga on a daily basis is both good for body and mind.
Having a healthy mind, and supple flexible body will benefit your bedroom activities no doubt.
Have a look a hatha yoga, its a light peaceful form of yoga involvin... (read in full...)
Do other men like to see their wives flash their breasts?
Q. When weareout on vacation my wife likes to leave her blouse half open without a bra or halter on. It gets me aroused and I see many men sneak a peak any other men like their wife to flash?...
A. 21 January 2022: If you don't mind her being a tease and getting other men to sneak a peak at her then that fine, its what you both like. ... (read in full...)
My husband has quit four good paying jobs this year and I am tired of it
Q. I am pissed my husband has had 4 good paying jobs with in the last year. He always ends up quitting because he is upset about something. He always finds drama at his jobs and he always finds something to complain about. He never takes my advice ...
A. 21 January 2022: He needs to get a grip, a reality check, and he needs to man up and realise that he is not a single guy coming and going as he pleases.
He is married, has a baby on the way so he really does need to sort himself out, otherwise he could risk los... (read in full...)
Can I ask out my tutor?
Q. I have been single for almost 2 years now and in college. Well there's a Russian woman that is my tutor at that I really like and want to ask out. I'm wondering if its ok to ask out my tutor. She is smart, super cute, and I like her Russi...
A. 21 January 2022: I don't think that you should ask her out while you are sill her student. I would say that there are very strict policies on teacher student dating, if it was found out that she was seeing or dating student's she could get into a lot of trouble, or ... (read in full...)
My parents don't like my LDR boyfriend
Q. I uhm hi...these days I have been very stressed with school and stuff. I have a strict Asian parents and they doesn't like my long distance relationship boyfriend, what should I do? I love him so much and we've known each other for a long time now. ...
A. 21 January 2022: With all due respect, taking into consideration the age bracket that you specify, i would say that you don't love him, you think that you do.
You may have strict parents, but being a parent myself they just want the best for you and see you do w... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend need to set up boundaries with his ex?
Q. Advice please Aunts and Uncles, I have being dating my older boyfriend for over 8 month. He has a 10 year old son who he sees every two weeks and all school holidays. His ex has now found out about me and now she’s demanding he has his son near...
A. 20 January 2022: Sounds like she is causing a fuss now she knows there is someone new on the scene and she seems like one of those who wants to make as many waves as she possibly can.
My son is older now, so things have got a little easier, although she is still... (read in full...)
Friend screwed me over now I don't want to see him
Q. I was just screwed over by my former coworker/friend He is a former coworker from my 2nd job that I helped get into my 1st job. When he got hired, he got a sign on bonus. And I get a referral bonus. He asked me to split my referral bonus with ...
A. 20 January 2022: All you can do if you see him is put what happened to the back of your mind, be a professional as you can be and concentrate on the job at hand.
Yes it was a strange request asking you to split your referral bonus, that's your earned money fo... (read in full...)
Who is to blame for initiating the wife swap?
Q. when a husband asks his wife if she would agree to a wife swap she then says no,then he asks again and she says she will think about it, and then decides she would do so knowing her yes would mean an almost certain swap would then happen. where ...
A. 18 January 2022: The husband is to blame, she said NO, it should have been left at that. You asked again, she probably gave the answer that she did to get you off her back. She does not want to go through with anything like this by the sounds of it.
Regar... (read in full...)
My SO upset that I look at my ex on social mediaa
Q. Would you consider it a big issue if you’re significant other looked at their ex’s social media profile? My significant other is upset with me as he went through my phone and saw I searched an ex’s name on social media. I’m not in contact with them. ...
A. 16 January 2022: I always say that trust is the most important contributing factor that binds a relationship together, without trust a relationship does not stand a chance.
To pick up a partners phone and go routing through it trying to find evidence of somethin... (read in full...)
Are we stupid for giving it another try?
Q. I dated my ex for 18 months, I described him as the perfect guy. He was sweet , fun, caring and funny. See could sit and talk for hours and we had insane chemistry. I did break up with him 10 months ago because we were just in different places in ...
A. 16 January 2022: Your ex has actually finished with his partner the night you slept together. You just told your's you needed a break. Is that because if it does not work out with your ex you can go back to him. I do think this is very wrong, as ultimately you ... (read in full...)
I am confused about how my friend is acting towards his estranged wife
Q. A male friend of mine is going through a divorce. His wife refuses to leave the home so they are living in separate rooms in the same home. What blows my mind is he said sometimes she makes him dinner or breakfast and even though he talks terrible ...
A. 16 January 2022: I would imagine she has sought legal advice and has been told to remain in the property until such time as the sale goes through and they can then go their separate ways.
I guess they both know the marriage is over, so rather that being at each ... (read in full...)
What do do about my cheating wife?
Q. 30 years married my wife went with her girl friends.TO dinner and while she was gone. I got a call from her saying she was lost so. I went to were she told me she was and she was not there . about an hour later. I got a phone call from her girl ...
A. 16 January 2022: Sounds like you can't get this situation out of your head, and by the sounds of as long as you are with her these feelings are not all of a sudden going to vanish and go away.
She betrayed you, she broke the trust barrier, trust is the most imp... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to be friends with her ex
Q. So I have been dating this girl for a little over two months. A few months prior to us starting to date she ended a 5 year relationship with another guy. She said it ended amicably and that they had taken breaks before but this was different. She ...
A. 14 January 2022: I believe that you should not start another relationship with someone else until you are 100% over the last one.
In my opinion she was not ready to start a relationship with you as i think it was too soon, maybe the ex was right when he said she... (read in full...)
Should I continue talking to the football manager, or leave it?
Q. Hi there Hope everyone is okay and your keeping yourself all safe from covid, the story begins and it’s not often about football. I love football, I’m a fan of the game and used to play when I was younger, and wasn’t that good but I still enjo...
A. 13 January 2022: I think that you are thinking way to much into this, why would you think that you would come across as needy?. You like football, he is a football manager who obviously likes football and you have a common interest.
Just be yourself, keep bei... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend using me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years. First 2 years were very good. We got along most times a few disagreements, mostly over money. The last 2 years have been not good. He gets agitated, and annoyed easily with me. He asks for ...
A. 13 January 2022: Yo have put up with this for the last two years, i think enough is enough now and you need to end this relationship with him and move on.
He is rude, he is taking you for granted, he is using your for your money, and in return instead of showing ... (read in full...)
Should my sister in law contribute to my dental repair bill?
Q. In a tragic accident, my sister in law kicked a soccerball in my face and broke several teeth, total $4,000 in dental and medical to date, with additional damage unassessed (insane amount of pain, general oral health down, gum line receding because ...
A. 11 January 2022: I think that if it happened in your back yard and she just kicked it straight into your face then i would say she should certainly pay half.
But if, as i suspect it was in an supervised proper soccer game, then i agree with CMMP and HP, you were... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to her or just let it go?
Q. a couple of years ago, I was on a social media site. I messaged a female who caught my eye and we instantly clicked. both daft as each other and we had things on common. we both like football, reading and going to the pictures. when we met each oth...
A. 11 January 2022: I think if maybe it was a month or two later then i would say yes contact her, but two years is a long time, and a lot could have happened in this time.
The guy she ended up with, he could now be her husband, she could have kids now and be settl... (read in full...)
People asking for money on social media
Q. Hello ?? Social media has been a good way to make new friends. I have made a couple of long lasting friendships, however, it's also frustrating when you talk to people and they seem to feel it's okay to ask for money. Most times it's men ...
A. 6 January 2022: I think that there are always going to be scammers and fraudsters out there who will put on the charm, tell you that they love you only to get your hard earned cash.
There have been a lot of posts here on DC from people that have unfortun... (read in full...)
Ever since our threesome, I'm quite attracted to this man
Q. im 26 years old.female, married 3 years ,no kids and need some advice...about a year ago my husband and i had a threesome with a single friend of ours, after having a few drinks together at a bar...it wasnt my idea for this to happen , but it ...
A. 4 January 2022: A good majority of the posts that come to DC regarding threesomes, and bringing in a third party into the bedroom, the outcome is that it never ends well, just take a look back at some past threesome posts.
More often than not one person starts t... (read in full...)
She hasn't responded to a recent Facebook message. Have I done something wrong?
Q. here’s how it goes. I work for a company that deals in computers, I enjoy what I do and have made friends from it. the job is okay, nothing special about it, a jobs a job as they say. I found out a work colleague is leaving the company after ma...
A. 4 January 2022: I think that you are reading to much into this, there are many reasons why she may not have responded.
Maybe she just appeared really friendly at work, but in her eyes you were just to colleagues that walked around on the same bit of carpet f... (read in full...)
How do I approach him about the question he wants to ask me?
Q. Hey everyone, I need some help, this might be a long one sorry! So I’ve met this boy online (Tinder) probably about 6/7 weeks ago now / Start of November last year. We have been talking every single day since then. He’s stayed at mine multiple times ...
A. 4 January 2022: He may be genuine, but in my opinion i would air on the side of caution. You met him on Tinder, and to be honest you really don't know that much about him at all.
I would not try to go against the grain, infact it would be best if you just sat... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to see my boyfriend as a free loader
Q. Free rider? My boyfriend of 8 months now seems like a free rider..tell me.if am mistaken I didn't notice anything until it was time to go on vacation. We went to Cancun and all but 500$ was paid with my points all inclusive. 500$ went on my credi...
A. 21 December 2021: To be honest this relationship has only been eight months, not really enough time to truly get to know someone. In this time he has financially taken advantage of you, which in my opinion is a huge red flag.
He say's he is going to pay you back... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has allowed his ex girlfriend to move in with him
Q. Hey there! I got in a relationship 3 months ago with this amazing guy and I really like him. We have been spending all of our weekends together and have been on two trips. The relationship with him was going great until last month when he told me ...
A. 21 December 2021: Like the other aunts have said, you handled this perfectly, you were calm and never caused a scene so well done you.
Ex's are ex's for a reason, i think that having an ex around is the infancy stages of a relationship, or any time in a relation... (read in full...)
Is this the end of Dear Cupid?
Q. Is this site reaching the end of its life? Not to say that I want it to be but are we actually providing a genuine service to anybody any more? Back in the "good old days" we'd have a couple of hundred questions posted every month. Now we do...
A. 20 December 2021: I agree with everyone as well, i have been answering on here for many years now, probably near to when it all started. It has changed considerably over the years, and i miss the aunts and uncles that have been mentioned here that sadly have now left ... (read in full...)
A married friend I had not seen in a long time hit on me. I don't know what to do
Q. I was doing grocery shopping the other day, when on the way out to the car park, I saw my friend Steve, said it was good to see him as I hadn't seen him for ages (he'd actually left the town I've lived in since 2012, way back in 2016, and returned ...
A. 19 December 2021: He sounds like a strange guy to me, and someone you want to keep at arms lenth to be honest.
I would have said if yo had social media to block him on it, but your not an active social media user anyway.
I would agree that the best option here... (read in full...)
My fiance eats so much and takes so long before we can have sex. Why is she like this?
Q. I've been with my fiancee for 2 years, the wedding's off due to COVID but we've been together for 5 years as a couple. She's a great girl, lovely, kind, helpful, always has some project on the go here. Sex is the big issue. It's not that she...
A. 19 December 2021: The amount of food that you describe that she eats is a huge amount of food, you say she say's this is to get her moving before sex. I'm not sure eating all that food would get anyone moving to be honest, infact quite the opposite, this would make ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't enough for me anymore
Q. My boyfriend is not enough for me anymore. I have always thought it wouldn’t matter that he’s short, cause he was in shape. Then, he got fat. Refuses to work out which I do. We don’t even look like a couple. Then he got grumpy. Is in weird angry ...
A. 16 December 2021: At the end of the day he is not making you happy, and by your own admission you say you are wasting your 20's because of it.
Relationship should be 50/50, not one person making all the effort. I think that life is two short to be with someone ... (read in full...)
I want to attend the winter dance with my crush
Q. I really like this guy at my school and want to go to the winter dance with this guy. He means a lot to me and so I really want to go this dance together and take our relationship to the next level. he is a really nice guy that i've been flirting...
A. 15 December 2021: I think if you had never spoken to him, or never had any interaction with him i can see that there would be some apprehension in asking him.
I think that as you have been flirting together the past year i think there is a strong possibil... (read in full...)
I found out my wife cheated. Sad and don't know what to do
Q. My wife of 20 years or so.I found a letter that my wife wrote to a man. Who she was having an affair with the letter was so detailed about the sex she had with him.I pick up the phone called her work and told her about the letter .She said it was ...
A. 13 December 2021: She has lied to you and betrayed your trust, no one would blame you for walking away from this marriage.
She has been caught red handed, and then tries to pass it off claiming it was not that bad, classic sign of someone who knows they were in ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my sister
Q. Hi, please can I get advise, first no I’m not a troll, I’m genuinely after advise so if your not going to take me serious then don’t comment! I’m 33yo and I’m in love with my 38yo sister and have been for about 18 years, I’ve had serious relation...
A. 13 December 2021: Its good that you know its wrong, and you also know that nothing could ever happen between you and your sister.
Is she blood related to you?.
do you live with her where you see her day in and day out?.
I would normally say infatuation... (read in full...)
I got called a homophobe when I did nothing wrong
Q. I go regularly to a nearby gym (I'm a young woman). Due to something horrible going on in my life right now I am often pretty stressed and was walking around the gym earlier today with a serious expression on my face. As I did so I passed two guys ...
A. 12 December 2021: I think that this is absurd, he sounds like the one with the problem and not you. How on earth would you even have known he was gay.
I agree with Honeypie, you should have nipped it in the bud there and then that you don't care what his sexual p... (read in full...)
Is it normal to cry over not being able to do your routine?
Q. Is it normal to cry over not being able to do my routine? Very unusual for me, I live with parents but I have a very busy schedule with work etc. I specially took a day off so I could sort my room and myself which means extra time spent on me...
A. 12 December 2021: I do understand where your coming from, I enjoy a shower, especially if going to a party, or function its nice to feel clean.
I'm sure gyms are still currently open, i know my local one is still operating, although most gyms are members only, i'... (read in full...)
I have fallen out of love with a good man
Q. This is hard to write about but I’m feeling incredibly conflicted on what to do and need advice. I’ve been married for 8 years (together for 12) and I’m no longer happy, I have fallen out of love with him. I feel we have grown apart and I...
A. 12 December 2021: I agree with YCBS, before you do anything final at least try so save your marriage, or seek some marital help.
Her does sound like a nice guy, and as you say he has sacrificed a lot to be with you. I know that once you don't have the feeling'... (read in full...)
I'm worries my younger boyfriend will lose interest
Q. I'm a 33 year old female and my partner is a 24 year old male. We've been together for over 6 months. I've never been in a relationship with a younger man before but he's very mature for his age and treats me like a queen. I realise we are in th...
A. 12 December 2021: I think that you should stop torturing yourself over things that might not even happen, and enjoy the wonderful beginning parts of a relationship.
He does seem to really like you a lot, and as you say he is very mature for his age.
I think... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had sex with my friend bought a plan B from pharmacy. How do I talk to her? She doesn't know that I know
Q. My partner and I have been together for 2 years now, and it's been pretty great. But in the last year our sex life started to be less frequent. We've been playing some kinky games in the last number of months, where she would talk about her flirting...
A. 1 December 2021: She left you on the sofa, went into your friends room and by the looks of it had sex. She did this right under your nose thinking you were asleep, how would she know you never got up in the night wondering where she is, then finding her as you did. ... (read in full...)
My soulmate lied then ended things but I miss her
Q. I'm not sure if this counts as a question. I'm sorry, I'm just really frustrated. So. I accused my girlfriend of cheating. I had proof.. solid, even. In my head. I knew it, I had the phone number, account and everything. Of course, long distance co...
A. 1 December 2021: Sorry, meant to say in the beginning of post, " everything" she said was a lie. ... (read in full...)
My soulmate lied then ended things but I miss her
Q. I'm not sure if this counts as a question. I'm sorry, I'm just really frustrated. So. I accused my girlfriend of cheating. I had proof.. solid, even. In my head. I knew it, I had the phone number, account and everything. Of course, long distance co...
A. 1 December 2021: I know this is not what you want to hear, but she lied to you left right and center, nothing she said was a lie, so i would not mind betting that when she said i love you this was a lie as well.
This was a long distance online relation... (read in full...)
My friend is all about her boyfriend
Q. My friend is all around her new boyf. Her joy is overly as she calls him more than normal. i sound jealous but its true....
A. 29 November 2021: She is enjoying the honeymoon period of the start of a new relationship where everything is beautiful, magical, and fun. This does not last forever, i'm sure when the newness wears off a bit she will not be calling him as much as she does now.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves drugs and alcohol
Q. My bf is madly inlove with alcohol and also,takes drugs but at minimal Ive tried talking sense into him He doesn`t care!...
A. 29 November 2021: He he had any feeling for you what so ever he would at least try to abstain for doing drugs and alcohol, or at the very least cut back.
You have tried talking sense into him and this is really all you can do. At the end of the day w can't ch... (read in full...)
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