I have a good guy but I think I want out of the relationship
Q. I don't know what's wrong with me, my partner is good in a lot of ways. However I'm starting to feel like I want out of the relationship. I was a single mother before I met him and had reached a good level of independence. I feel in the relation...
A. 17 February 2022: I think he may be a nice guy, but at the end of the day you are just not that into him, pure and simple.
If yo are with someone, in a relationship and you look forward to the days when you are not with him, then i think this say's it all really. ... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my girlfriend?
Q. Hey dearcupid, I caught my partner of 18 years spending time with another man at her work place, her place of work closes at 11pm some days or 12am, we have spoke about it and she says nothing is going on it was just games of pool but she was out ...
A. 17 February 2022: I do seem to recall this post a while back, it was the last part of your post about her working at a bar, and her taking people home from the pub.
This all boils down to trust, pure and simple. Trust is one of the most important contribu... (read in full...)
Keen to hear your take on my weirdo neighbors!
Q. For anyone with an interest in psychology/human behavior, I'd LOVE to hear your opinions. I'm a sensitive person and usually have a pretty good gut instinct bout people. My new neighbors, a married 50's couple, put my stomach in knots! Firstl...
A. 17 February 2022: It does sound very odd behavior, using avoidance tactics after only being there such a short time is strange. I agree with Honeypie, its not you, its them.
Maybe they are just not sociable people, but even so being friendly takes no effort a... (read in full...)
Cheating at work, narcissist, manipulator gas lighter.
Q. Met a guy at work, left my ex for him 5 years ago. guy at work had a reputation for being a womaniser. The whole time we were together never met his family, friends always hd separate christmases. End of 2018 he started another affair at work with ...
A. 17 February 2022: In all fairness you know he had a reputation for being a womaniser, so yo knew full well what you were getting into.
What has unfolded is really what what we would expect from a womaniser. There have been many red flags presented to you on a pla... (read in full...)
Could this work for me and the new man?
Q. When I was 20 I met my husband, he was 26, extremely popular, in the army and I was amazed that he was even interested in me. We started dating and things moved very quickly. We got engaged after three months of dating and eloped a few days lat...
A. 17 February 2022: You are so lucky to be out of the relationship with your husband, well done for stepping up and leaving, so many people don't.
Before you embark on any subsequent relationships get the ball rolling with regards to obtaining a divorce from your hus... (read in full...)
Why is my ex saying we did not have sex when I know we did
Q. I split up with my partner last year for a few months and despite messaging him he never responded. Fast forward I had a few drinks and actually don't remember leaving the pub I was in but I walked to his pub and all I can remember was standing in ...
A. 17 February 2022: All sounds a bit iffy to me, i agree with the other aunts here, why keep asking him if you know you did?.
He was sober, you were so drunk you can't remember what you did, or diden't do. Maybe he wants to brush it under the carpet because he feels... (read in full...)
Thank you to everyone
Q. We've all been through a lot these past two years, some more than others. We've had the pandemic, lockdowns, toxic news, job losses and business closures, personal tragedies and the like. During this, many people have given their time and energy ...
A. 17 February 2022: Thank you Ciar. Its a real pleasure to contribute to Dear Cupid. Love and hugs to all. ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriends ex cross the line or am I overreacting?
Q. So my boyfriend’s ex keeps asking too many personal questions about our sex life, and it’s starting to bother me but I don’t know if I’m overreacting. Like one example is that she wants to know if he’s still a virgin, to which I responded, “I’m not ...
A. 10 February 2022: I don't think that you are over reacting at all, quite the opposite. She is very rude asking this to you, it is absolutely none of her business, and she knows it.
You did the right thing in shutting her down, telling her your not going into any... (read in full...)
My ex suddenly unblocked me. Why?
Q. Been one month n half no contact from ex he had me blocked from whatsapp now suddenly unblocked me and im still a contact in his phone cause I can see. I was infertile so he left me cause i respected something he wanted of course hurt was involved ...
A. 10 February 2022: Maybe after you broke up he was still quite bitter so blocked you. Now after some time has gone by and he has had time to reflect and has decided to unblock you. I don't think that this means he wants to establish contact.
I still have people o... (read in full...)
After 2 years, my boyfriend ghosted me
Q. I don’t know what to do anymore. My boyfriend of over 2 years ghosted me! There were no major issues, as far as I was made aware. I work with families and I’m so gutted that some have asked me what’s wrong because I look so miserable and I have no ...
A. 8 February 2022: I know its hard, break ups are never easy for anyone but all i can say is that things will get easier, time is the healer of all things.
You will get over this, and you will come back stronger and more determined, and see what a jerk he really i... (read in full...)
Should I forget about him or wait for that first date?
Q. Hi all. I'm 42 years old female, whose unmarried with no kids, Have my own house and stay alone. Recently I've just learned that there's this guy who is 37 years old who has some interest in me. I've met him when I had a problem with their product,...
A. 8 February 2022: I think that you are talking yourself out of going on a date with him already which is not a good sign.
It has been a while now, nothing has happened and he has not stepped up and arranged anything until only a week ago. By your own admissio... (read in full...)
Should I pursue Trevor or let it go?
Q. So I've known this guy for 13 years, and I've been single for 12 years. Yes I've dated people but no actual boyfriend. Trevor is everything you want in a partner/husband - I can imagine having a family with him, I trust him completely, we argue so...
A. 8 February 2022: I think that as you have know him for 13 years and in all of this time, apart from a few hot and steamy kisses, and some sexting nothing much else has transpired from this relationship. After 13 years maybe he has resigned himself to the fact that ... (read in full...)
One of the teachers has a noticeable crush on me
Q. Im 20. As part of my university degree I'm studying abroad at a Spanish language school. One of the teachers there has a crush on me, strong enough for all the students to notice. I'm genuinely attracted to her and last Saturday we were da...
A. 8 February 2022: I suprised that a teacher that is working in a professional environment where a strict teacher/student dating policy would surely be enforced is persuing a student.
I also find it hard to believe that she is doing this so that other students... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend have a crush on my friend?
Q. Me n my gf was at family party at the weekend we was having fun drinking and dancing etc when i went to the bathroom and came back my gf and my friend had their arms around each other side cuddling in an intimate way his arm was over her shoulder ...
A. 8 February 2022: This relationship is still very much in its infancy, its only 4 months in, not really enough time to get to know someone i think you will agree.
I think that they are both lying to you, and now as a consequence there are now trust issues. ... (read in full...)
My fwb doesn't want to have sex?
Q. So there’s a guy I met through my cousin and we have been talking for a month but under the understanding that we would be FWB. I’m a 30 year old female and he is a 28 year old male. He has only had one partner and I’m a Virgin and tbh I just feel ...
A. 8 February 2022: I think that maybe you need to take a step back from this situation, stop chasing him, or arranging subsequent meet ups. This is by your own admission a casual set up, so you can't really get upset when he refuses to see you.
I think if he wante... (read in full...)
I am afraid of any physical contact
Q. I am terribly afraid of any physical contact, thinking of marriages or even attending them gives me a headache and stress. I do not wish to go to a doctor because i don't want anyone to know this. How do i overcome this?...
A. 2 February 2022: I think that if you are not willing to seek professional help because you don't want anyone to know does not really leave you a lot of options.
You say thinking of marriages, or even attending them gives you a headache and stress. These are just... (read in full...)
I need help with an overbearing mother in law
Q. Hi everyone, need some help with an overbearing mother in law. I had a baby around 6 months ago and from the very moment she has been round our place every other day. Since hitting the 4 months mark I started taking my LO to baby classes and being ...
A. 2 February 2022: I think that the fact that your father and mother in law went to your husband telling him that you are stopping them spending time with their grandchild is absurd, almost like stirring the pot to a certain extent because its simply not true.
... (read in full...)
I don't want him as my boyfriend
Q. I have known a particular guy for years now. I do not want to be in a relationship with him because of reasons i can't understand. I have never felt such an attraction for anyone. I mostly have male friends and i've never wanted such an attention ...
A. 2 February 2022: You say that you have never felt such an attraction for anyone, that statement in itself in my opinion stems a bit deeper than someone you are just friends with.
You go on to say you have never wanted such an attention from anyone, again not some... (read in full...)
How do I get her to talk about sex?
Q. I have known this very beautiful and fun woman in my neighborhood for about ten years. We have been friends and have enjoyed doing many things together. I am 20 and she is 35. About a year ago she was divorced and her ex is not in the picture. She ...
A. 2 February 2022: I think its something that should not force, rather just let things transpire effortlessly and naturally.
You made out in her living room, and you both really enjoyed it, i bet this all just happened by chance and was not arranged. I'm sure it ... (read in full...)
Should I find out who made these accusations?
Q. after working for a number of years at a car business. I decided to resign and move onto other things. people were sad to see me go, where others were pleased I was going. someone from work has said, who I don’t know that I’m slagging off their ...
A. 1 February 2022: You have worked at this company, you have done a good job, now you have decided to move on to another job.
I would not even bother getting involved with this, its just one of those who you probably never got on with that well is trying to stir ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are having difficulty with intercourse
Q. So this might be a little graphic, so I apologise in advance. This is kind of awkward for me, so please be patient… So, my boyfriend and I tried to have intercourse the other day, but it was very unsuccessful. We can’t seem to fit him into me, and ...
A. 1 February 2022: I thought that you received some good advice the first time that you posting this question a few days ago. Did you not find the answer that you were looking for originally?.
He is a a virgin, and you are not very experienced. All you can do is ke... (read in full...)
Dont stay in troubled relationships
Q. Hello, I was engaged, we were together until maybe 3 weeks ago. We were together about 5 years in total. It started out beautifully. He was charismatic, very sweet and loving. The last two years were terrible. Alot of emotional abu...
A. 1 February 2022: Its good that you stepped up and got out of this relationship when you did, i know this can't have been easy, so well done. So many people stay in these relationships in the hope they will change, the situation will change, but things never do.
... (read in full...)
What are the perks of moving in together?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 11 months and has invited me to move in with her. I am thinking of it. We are both 26. Perhaps those who have moved in together can give some advice. What are the Perks of Moving in Together? Do most of you ...
A. 31 January 2022: I guess there are many perks, i suppose if your still at your parents this is flying the nest and gaining some independence.
I guess you will he contributing to the household bills, and helping pay the rent/mortgage/.
If there are two of you, ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom what I seen?
Q. I am 24. My mom is 44 she and divorced. has been happier and dressing more attractively lately. one day when I was looking after her garden I came in to get a drink and I saw her lying nude with some guy. It looked like she was having sex. I reture...
A. 31 January 2022: She knew you were only out in the garden, and knew that you could come in at anytime. I'm suprised that she got naked with some guy knowing you you were in close proximity.
No i would not broach the subject with her, or ask her what was going on... (read in full...)
Do I tell my mom that I am dating her friend?
Q. I’m a 31-year-old guy, single, normal dating history. A few months ago, a friend of my mom’s called me and asked if I’d like to get together for coffee. I had met her at my mom’s house a couple of weeks prior and we had a nice talk. I thought ...
A. 31 January 2022: I think that you should tell your mum the situation, i think that the longer that you leave it the harder it will be for your Mum to deal with.
You are both adults, your in your 30's, and she is in her 50's, your both free and mature enough t... (read in full...)
I like. Him but don't want to date him
Q. I have liked a guy for 7 years but i still don't want to date him. When we don't talk i miss him and i feel happy and good when we do. I don't want him to get too close to me but sometimes i want his attention and time too.What is wrong?...
A. 31 January 2022: There is nothing wrong, you simply enjoy the friendship. It's ok that you value the friendship, and its ok that you want his attention.
You are still only young, plenty of time for love and dating. ... (read in full...)
My husband says I am at fault for not trusting him but is he the one who is really at fault?
Q. Sort of beside myself. My husband of 9 years says I have anxiety and it is my fault that I do not trust him, because I have anxiety. But I think the fault is his. I recently found a number on his phone under Fed Ex and it was a young woman...NO...
A. 31 January 2022: I recall a post very similar to this one some time ago.
I think it is obvious from your post that he is lying to you and trying to cover things up.
He know you are anxious, he is really not doing anything to help this, infact by lying to you,... (read in full...)
No sex in 27 years. Will I be able to have it?
Q. I havent had sex for 27 years due to my husband being unable. Now that I ama widow what if I want sex with another man? will it be possible?...
A. 31 January 2022: I don't see why not. Just take your time and go with the flow, relax and just enjoy it. ... (read in full...)
Wife no longer interested and I need relief
Q. I am 87+ and can no longer get an erection... I try masturbating but dont always ejaculate.. what can I do? still married but wife ot interested anymore......
A. 31 January 2022: Taking into consideration your age, i would think your best bet would be to go along and see your physician, or GP, and see if they can offer you any advice, or prescribe anything to help you. ... (read in full...)
What can I do with my hands when kissing?
Q. The girl I'm dating is great. She has nice hair, smile, and hips. What are some things I can do with my hands that will make her feel when kissing? There may be better things than leaving them at my sides. ...
A. 31 January 2022: I think depending on how long you have been dating her, just what is natural and comfortable at the time.
Maybe one hand on her waist, and one hand on the side of her face brushing her hair back. ... (read in full...)
What do they feel?
Q. what do cheating wives think when they are about to feel strangers cock fo the first time...
A. 31 January 2022: Who knows what a women would think. Maybe this is so wrong, and i hope that my husband does not find out about this. ... (read in full...)
What do these girls want?
Q. Do girls actually want you to touch or flirt with them in the stores? Are there any signs girls give to show they have interest? I seem to run into girls who seem to get very close to me, even bend down in front of me or bump into me at stores but...
A. 31 January 2022: I would say absolutely no, they would not want you to touch them.
I think that you can take friendly gestures like a look, and a smile a something more.
If someone does this to you, go there again at another time, chances are they are local a... (read in full...)
Would a tall woman go out with a shorter guy?
Q. Im 5’4’ and like a woman who is about 6'4" she has an athletic frame from sports and works out regularly. I can honestly say I like her figure and personality.im thinking about asking her out. Any advice for asking out a taller woman? Would a ...
A. 29 January 2022: Its hard to answer that question, i don't think you will know anything until you ask her.
She might decide to go out with you, or she may decline your offer, but her declining your offer may not necessarily by anything to do with your height. ... (read in full...)
Why is she lying to me?
Q. Hey, so I'd like to ask what to do as I was told awhile ago my partner was taking people home after work, not work colleagues shes taking men back to there home after her shift and she works in a pub. The pubs closing time is 12am midnight but shes ...
A. 28 January 2022: To start with where do you see this relationship going. Its been 18 years now, and nothing seems to have progressed, and she still has her own place.
I think if she was just taking drunks home, or a colleague she works with she would have bee... (read in full...)
Married 8 years and don't like having sex
Q. I have been married for 8 years now, but i don't like having sex.... I have pretended through out the marriage, used some lubricants and got on with it so to say. My husband has speculated that maybe i am gay because i never seem to be interest...
A. 28 January 2022: No one is going to judge you here, we are here to help and offer sound advice.
Yes he may be a nice man, but you are clearly not happy in this marriage, which i suspect has been going on a long while, and maybe is a lot more than just sex. Yes... (read in full...)
I think my husband has a crush on a younger female friend
Q. Hi I need some advice about my husband, I think he is crushing on a younger female friend of ours. He always compliments her when he'd had a bit to drink then says he's trying to insult her as a joke! and I've seen him staring quite a bit. I have...
A. 27 January 2022: I that maybe you are reading a little to much into this. Don't manifest problems are scenarios that are not even there.
Relationships are based on trust, trust is the most important contributing factor that bind a relationship together, without ... (read in full...)
The more I know about his life, the more I want to walk away
Q. I’m in a relationship with a man with kids. I don’t have any and not thinking of wanting anytime soon. I haven’t met his kids and I don’t want to push him on meeting them. The more I get to know the situation with his life, the more I feel like ...
A. 27 January 2022: Personally i don't think that any changes are going to happen anytime soon. I am guessing this daughter is still quite young so this could be going on for a long while yet.
Of course his daughter takes priority, but his ex seems to want to make ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband to have sex with other women?
Q. Would it be stupid to let my husband have sex with other women because I never want it anymore? I’ve been through the menopause and it’s pretty much killed off my sex drive. For over 2 years I’ve had no sexual desires at all and to be honest the ...
A. 27 January 2022: I think that the fact that you say the thought of your husband having sex with other people does not bother you, i find quite worrying, it kind of say's that you don't love him anymore. I think that the thought of him with another woman, pleasing ... (read in full...)
Tips for penetration? Please?
Q. So this might be a little graphic, so I apologise in advance. This is kind of awkward for me, so please be patient… So, my boyfriend and I tried to have intercourse the other day, but it was very unsuccessful. We can’t seem to fit him into me, and ...
A. 25 January 2022: Invariably first time sex is not all its cracked up to be. I think that we build up a picture in our heads of how its going to be, how awesome and perfect its going to be but most of the time it never is, largely due to nervousness and performance ... (read in full...)
Is my partner a sex addict
Q. I think my partner is a sex addict. I cant be sure but having read online articles I am finding alot of matching information that match his habits. I'll give you a run down. My partner likes to masturbate at least ten times a week. His sex dr...
A. 25 January 2022: It sounds to me like he is living the life of a single guy, doing exactly as he pleases.
Maybe if he was not getting off on dirty porn, and masturbating 10 times a day then he would be able to stay hard with you, and give you the loving atte... (read in full...)
What are some fun and romantic things we can do?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about 6 months. He has been there for me and always kind and good to me. He is always been comforting, and supports me. He never puts pressure on me. I have reached that moment that i want to surprise him wit...
A. 24 January 2022: It sounds like he is a nice guy, a keeper. That is a really nice gesture to cook a nice romantic dinner for him, i'm sure he will absolutely love this.
Just wear something that you feel comfortable in, but also a little more sexy than your aro... (read in full...)
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