I seen my ex's new partner cheating. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've never done anything like this before. I find myself in an unbelievable situation, and I'm really looking for an unbiased point of view from people who don't know me. So, basically I was with my ex partner for as long as I can remember. I ...
A. 26 May 2022: I agree with Honeypie, Unless you have concrete proof i would stay out of it and not say anything.
If you verbally inform her of what you saw she won't believe you, and when she confronts him he will of course deny everything.
This will not... (read in full...)
Am I making too much of this
Q. Hi. Just seeking thoughts as to whether Im overreacting to my current working situation. A week into my new job I have just found out that my boss,35,33 at the time, was charged and went to court because he was caught hiding in the cubicle of the ...
A. 26 May 2022: Just following on from my earlier answer I know in your post you said you read about the incident. I was wondering what made you look that up to find this information about your boss. After only being in the job for only a week, I was just assuming ... (read in full...)
Am I making too much of this
Q. Hi. Just seeking thoughts as to whether Im overreacting to my current working situation. A week into my new job I have just found out that my boss,35,33 at the time, was charged and went to court because he was caught hiding in the cubicle of the ...
A. 26 May 2022: How did you come by this kind of information about an incident that happened two years ago, only a week into your new job?.
If someone told you, like another co-worker it could just be malicious gossip from someone who has issues with him.
I... (read in full...)
Is 10 years too big of an age gap?
Q. Is ten years a big age gap in a relationship. I am 34 and my bf is 24. Sometimes he worries what we'll look like together in the future. As it stands I don't look my age but I am extremely aware of my actual age. We get asked for id all the time and ...
A. 26 May 2022: I don't think that this is a bad age gap at all. Age gaps usually only become a problem if either one of you has an issue with it.
Age gaps always seem more when we are younger, but as we get older, and lets say for example your 54, and he is 44... (read in full...)
More turned on by male than my wife
Q. I WONDER if I’m gay because I get more excited about nude pics from my online lover than I do about sex with my wife. Sometimes I imagine being in bed with him when I’m getting intimate with my wife. He lives in Canada, and I'm here in the U...
A. 25 May 2022: I'm no expert on this but I am pretty sure that after 45 years you don't just all of a sudden wake up and be attracted to the opposite sex, there must have been some sort of niggling attraction in your early years.
Either way I think that you... (read in full...)
I don't want to be an old dad
Q. MY wife is 33 and desperate for a baby but I’m 52 and don’t want to be an old dad. Is there any way around this? We’ve been married for three years and while she’s at a great age to have a baby, I’d be better as a grandad than a dad. When we ...
A. 25 May 2022: I agree that you have to sit down and have a chat with her about this.
You entered in to the marriage believing that she was fine never having children of her own, now she has sprung it on you now saying she does want kids, now putting you in a... (read in full...)
Husband leading double life
Q. I’VE discovered my husband has been leading a double life for 20 years – and paying out huge sums of money to support his secret family. He always told me he was supporting an education project near Johannesburg — now I realise he was funding his ...
A. 24 May 2022: I am really sorry to hear this, I can't begin to imagine how hard this must be for you.
He has been lying and cheating for 20 years and lying to you repeatedly only divulging what has been going on after being confronted.
He has lied, he has... (read in full...)
My husband wants to recreate our first date
Q. Hello. Don't know how to explain this one. Been with my American husband since 1998, we met at a burger bar near me. I'm Canadian, he's American, he was here in 1998 for work, had been in Canada for 2 years at the time. He's a US cit...
A. 23 May 2022: It is rather odd he wants you to dress up in clothes that you wore 20 years ago, and in public.
If you don't feel comfortable doing this then don't do it. You should not have to anything that makes you uncomfortable.
Maybe wear something l... (read in full...)
Fell in love with a F boy now I want to move on but don't know how?
Q. Hello guys! I feel so guilty and stuck in something so messed up I had to talk to somebody but I didn’t know how to so I came here. I fell in love with a f boy so hard I don’t know what to do. We were in the same school but I had to move but now ...
A. 23 May 2022: You know that you are are better off without him, you know that there never was or ever will be a future with him.
You was not in love with him, you thought you was. You were crushing on him.
Time is the healer of all things, the feelings you... (read in full...)
Best friend distancing herself from me for no apparent reason?
Q. I've been best friends with this girl for 5-6 years. We've been extremely close like sisters up until recently. Just the last two years, she started making these shady comments occasionally which she never used to do (comments about my body and ...
A. 21 May 2022: You have both been friends since you were both very young. I know its hard but the reality is things change, life evolves, people change, as do friendships and relationships.
I have close friends whom I was very close with since I was at school, ... (read in full...)
Am I forcing a relationship?
Q. Everytime when i touch my boyfriend he will always take my hand off him and push me away. When we sleep he does not even hug me . When he talks, he always yells at me. He doesnt come to see me, if i go to see him, he will always be on his phone o...
A. 20 May 2022: This is no relationship, you are treated like dirt, he makes no effort with you, and is abusive, so why are you still with him calling this a relationship?.
Leave him and get out now, like YCBS says, this man is not for you. ... (read in full...)
Not sure what happened
Q. I’ve been in a relationship for the past 3 month. I met him through work. We spent two days together and when we returned from work, he was constantly messaging and wanting to meet up. I was a bit dubious at first, thinking it was just a work thing. ...
A. 20 May 2022: You are not in the wrong here, far from it. In all honesty you hardly know him really and there was some red flags right in the beginning with him wanting to hastily rush things along and bombarding you with texts.
I think that you should o... (read in full...)
I don't want to go back to how things were
Q. Hi there.... so i've been married for over 7 years and I must say I love my husband very much. We've had our ups and downs but we've got through it all. I've noticed however, that since recently he seems to be getting more annoyed with me all the ...
A. 6 May 2022: Sounds like unfortunately it is that dreaded seven year itch. It seems like he is making no effort at all to try to make this marriage work and as a consequence you have fallen out of love with him.
For a start i think its important to accept p... (read in full...)
Is it gay if you turn yourself on?
Q. When I masturbate I like to do it in the bathroom standing in front of this big mirror we have so I can watch myself while I stroke and orgasm. I do it after a shower almost every time. That is one way to have privacy too from my parents and ...
A. 6 May 2022: I'm not sure what is that you were reading, but i would take it with a pinch of salt to be honest because watching yourself masturbate does not make you gay.
By your own admission you say that you don't want to have sex with guys. I'm sure if ... (read in full...)
Husband makes fun of me
Q. My husband makes fun of me when my dress get up my knees while doing chores etc. This upsets me because it only happens within our home not anywhere outside or when in front of others. I am usually very careful but sometimes it happens....
A. 4 May 2022: Sounds like he is only having a playful joke within the confines of your own home, i'm guessing he would not do this if you were out. But as you say this never happens when you are out, or when you are in front of others, maybe because your not ... (read in full...)
could be the reality of things, if my sister continues down the path of dating a married man?"
Q. Last night, my sister, 26, came round to my house to tell me she had something important to say. She admitted to me she'd been dating this married man, who's 38, since last August, when lockdown measures ended here in the UK in July with "Freed...
A. 4 May 2022: There was a post almost identical to this one back in April, the scenarios are very similar indeed, and Kensington is mentioned again.
So assuming this is the same post i think that you recieved 8 very good answers.
You end this post with "... (read in full...)
Is he curious because I am weird?
Q. Hi! So there is this guy that I like so much... he's charming, full of personality, and everyone likes him a lot. He's a dancing teacher and his students are all crazy for him. Unfortunately, I have a huge crush on him. I have always wanted to...
A. 4 May 2022: I know its hard because you feel you are crushing on this guy, but my advice would be to never act on this crush, just keep it to yourself and concentrate on your dancing.
He is a teacher and you are a dance student, it is his job to be friendly... (read in full...)
Is he rushing things or am I over reacting?
Q. Hello, I've met a man online about 1 year ago however things have been a bit more serious the last couple of months. He's very nice and respectful and we constantly video chat to create more intimacy. He seems interested in taking things to the n...
A. 4 May 2022: I agree with the other aunts here you are not over reacting at all.
Although you have been chatting to him online for a year and you may think that you know him, you really don't. You have never met him in person so in all honesty i would still ap... (read in full...)
Writing a love letter?
Q. My gf and I have been dating for two years. I want to write her a love letter but need help. What to say? I would like our relationship to be more intimate. Can I mention that in a love letter? ...
A. 4 May 2022: I would just write from the heart, express your true feelings of how you feel, and more importantly how she make you feel.
I would refrain from saying anything sexual as it could come across the wrong way, just stick to your heart felt feelings... (read in full...)
Am I being hypocritical about seeing married men?
Q. This is a question about the past... I'm just trying to understand if we're "born smart" or do we live and learn... I know I have learnt from my mistake. And if it is ok to forgive oneself at some point… When I was 19 years old I fell in love wit...
A. 28 April 2022: I think the first part of your question is impossible to answer as each and everyone is different and we all have a choice over the decisions that we make.
It's important to remember that no one is perfect, and we all make mistakes, we are all ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I broke up due to long distance. Did I dodge a bullet?
Q. My boyfriend (now ex) and I have been a couple for a couple of months, and have been dating for like a year and a half. (In person, I didn’t meet him online, I met him at uni) He went to an exchange program in February, and he isn’t returning ...
A. 27 April 2022: I think that he wanted the relationship over and done with but he is to weak to of stepped up to the plate and actually finished it.
Instead he was handing out glimmers of hope, keeping you hanging on, full of empty promises when he knows fu... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I are back together but why has he still not told his mother?
Q. Hi everyone. Just some brief background. My boyfriend and I were together for 7 years before we took a relationship break to work on ourselves. We have not seen each other for 2 months but he will be back next month. We have been having FaceTime ...
A. 27 April 2022: I know you were both together seven years, then you took a break to work on yourselves which is a good thing. You have not seen him for two months in person only on face time so its almost like you are both starting again from scratch, as by your ... (read in full...)
Am I been taken for granted
Q. Hi there, I am hoping you guys can help me with something. I have been with my partner now for a few years now and we get on great. Last year, he got himself a dog and I genuinely love this dog a great deal myself. However, I can't help...
A. 26 April 2022: He is most certainly taking you for granted, it is his responsibility to look after the dog not yours, if he can't look after it he should never have got the dog in the first place.
As you say its an hours drive to go over and see him and you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does nothing but watch loud women on tv
Q. Hi there, I would like to know what others think about my problem. Firstly I would like to make it clear that in no way am I a jealous person but I do have my own morals and standards. I have been with my partner for about 10 months. In th...
A. 26 April 2022: To be honest there is really no nice way to end a relationship, breakups are always hard.
As far as compatibility is concerned you are both a million miles apart and i feel now you are just going through the motions which as a result is now caus... (read in full...)
Wasting my time with this guy?
Q. I met a guy and we texted back and forth for a few weeks, after we decided to go on a date. We kissed and everything went well, and we continued chatting and video calling. A week passed and he didnt text me following that I reached out to him and ...
A. 26 April 2022: I think there are a couple of red flags here OP, He is taking a while to respond, and he is going off radar for long periods of time.
He is either keeping his options open, or is just being a player and keeping you dangling telling you all the ... (read in full...)
Addicted to soda
Q. My mom reprimanded me again over my addiction to soda which she sells. i steal and drink alot of soda about five in a day or minimum of two and my parents have caution and corrected me alot. i have tried to stop i had gone weeks and months but i...
A. 26 April 2022: A lot of young people such as yourself become addicted to these sorts of drinks because of the high sugar content. Some of these energy drinks are the equivalent to around 8 cups of coffee which are dangerous as its speeds the heart rate up to an ... (read in full...)
What are signs of interest?
Q. I have been talking to a girl for the last 3 weeks. We met online and we have not talked about whether this is only friendship Or if we potentially want more. Some important information: - yes, we have met and hung out -we text each other e...
A. 26 April 2022: I think the fact that she is the one who is usually instigating the conversation is a good sign that she is into you.
Other than that its still really early days so its just a case of getting to know each other and see what unfolds between ... (read in full...)
Sister involved with married man. I am worried about her
Q. My sister who's 28 told me that she's been dating this guy since November (when lockdown had well ended by then, but Plan B was in the news) and that he's married but had been in the process of divorcing his wife since September yet she refuses to ...
A. 17 April 2022: I know it's hard because you feel that your sister is heading down the wrong path with this married guy. At the end of the day she is 28, so all you can really do is offer her advice and be her support network.
This guy is still married, he tell'... (read in full...)
Son found nude photos of me
Q. My 14-year-old son recently came across some pictures of me that his father took of me back when we were teens.we have been together for a long time and got married when I was pregnant with my son. The pictures were in an old shoebox filled with ...
A. 17 April 2022: I think than rather than letting your son think his father is a pervert you should step up to the plate and just be honest with him and tell him the pictures are of you and were taken by his father many years ago.
Ok he should not have looked i... (read in full...)
Needle play?
Q. My new boyfriend has introduced needle play and I'm wondering if anyone else has tried this. I am into new kinky things and actually enjoy needle play. He has done patterns on my belly, back, and my buttocks. It really is not that painful. He uses ...
A. 17 April 2022: I can't say i have ever heard of this to be honest
If you both enjoy it, and as you say its not that painful then carry on and enjoy it. ... (read in full...)
Why is husband so secretive about this restaurant?
Q. I've recently become fed up with my husband after he's been going to a new local restaurant for 5 nights a week last week and also 3 nights this week, he spends a lot of money there. We've only been to it once, and that was to check it out; it was g...
A. 15 April 2022: I have to be honest i find his evasive behaviour very concerning indeed. Not to mention the cost of eating out everynight, he is not divulging who he is with, and is even meeting new unknown people of the internet, which for all we know could be ... (read in full...)
Did the pandemic kill it?
Q. I am a British woman. In June 2019 I met a man during a very short trip to Hungary, a place I really love and was, at the time, thinking about moving to. I was interested in talking to the locals and the man (let's call him Janos, although ...
A. 14 April 2022: I think that you have received good advice from the Aunts and uncles here, so all i can do is mirror the already given advice.
This was never going to go any further than a holiday romance, you gave him what he was looking for and that's when thi... (read in full...)
Married and attracted to female coworker
Q. Help! I'm so confused about what I'm doing! I'm a 32 year old female who has been married to a man for the past 3 years. I've always identified as 100% straight. And now I just don't know what the heck I'm feeling anymore. I started working ...
A. 14 April 2022: I think this is to early to be called love, this is someone that you work with and are crushing on. Unlike love crushes don't last forever, infact can often be short lived.
I know these feeling's make you feel good, and its all you think about, b... (read in full...)
She and I have a crush on each other. How do I go from here?
Q. Hi A member of staff in my child's school has a crush on me ( I am married) and I also have a crush on her. She is in a senior position. I have known she has a crush on me because she kept checking me dropping time, trying to get my attention...
A. 14 April 2022: I think it would be rather extreme putting your child in another school over this, nothing bad has really happened has it.
Just be normal and go about your business, say hello, or just a smile, just like you would do with anyone else. If she choo... (read in full...)
Should I re-friend this old crush?
Q. I met a girl and we both were in relationships through school. The chemistry was so strong between us that I felt like I had to distance us, so I unfriended her. Couple years later I have broken up with my partner (which in hindsight should...
A. 13 April 2022: You unfriended her while you were at school, which according to your age bracket would have been some time ago.
Assuming that you have not seen her, or had contact with her since you were at school, a lot of water has gone under the bridge s... (read in full...)
She and I have a crush on each other. How do I go from here?
Q. Hi A member of staff in my child's school has a crush on me ( I am married) and I also have a crush on her. She is in a senior position. I have known she has a crush on me because she kept checking me dropping time, trying to get my attention...
A. 12 April 2022: I think that maybe she was just being friendly like she probably is with everyone. Maybe she found out that you had a crush on her and is her way of nipping it in the bud before things escalated and got out of hand.
You say you have a crush on... (read in full...)
He asked for my panties
Q. Hi so I'm seeing this guy, we started hanging out 2 weeks back. And then things escalated to a kiss and then cuddles, I am not sure if we're dating or not, I'm scared to ask him but he is now asking me for sexual favors like a handjob, even though I ...
A. 12 April 2022: I think that you are going to have to come to terms with the fact that he just wants you for sexual favours and nothing more.
You have said that you are not interested in anything sexual, but still he persists, another clue that he is just aft... (read in full...)
Should I go to the wedding of an ex best friend that I can't stand?
Q. I have a friend, Pamela, from highschool that I haven't seen in years. She wasn't a real friend, when I was being bullied, she prefered to stay friends with them and even acted as if she wasn't that close to me, which hurt me and I'm glad I went to ...
A. 12 April 2022: I agree with the other aunts here, just simply walk away. You can do exactly what you want to do, you are your own person, you are not in school anymore under the infuence of her and the bullies she was friends with.
By your own admissio... (read in full...)
My dad drove my car drunk
Q. My dad came to my area for a short vacation and is staying at my place. I have to work from home during the day so I let him borrow my car. Today he met up with a friend who works at a bar. The friend served him cocktails and then my dad drove home ...
A. 8 April 2022: I think he has disrespected you twice, i think that you really do have to set some boundries, its your place, and he is essentially a guest in your home.
Driving your car back drunk is a really stupid and careless thing to do, if he had an accid... (read in full...)
Might she still have feelings for me?
Q. Me and my ex still talk. We still have feelings. She still has a reaction if she thinks I’m dating so I guess there’s a possibility we could get together. Only thing I found odd was, we were talking about babies and how she doesn’t want them yet and ...
A. 8 April 2022: Its impossible to say if she still has feelings for you or not.
I don't know the reasons why you broke up in the first place, but the long and short of it is you have broken up, and she is now in a relationship with someone else.
If i wa... (read in full...)
My boyfriend contacted his ex during a trip
Q. Hi DC Aunts and Uncles. I have come here for some advice. Maybe I myself already know the answer but I want to get some input from you. So my boyfriend of 2 mths went on a trip with his friends and just returned home. During his trip away he was...
A. 8 April 2022: He has with her for a decade, he has been with you for two months, so you relationship with him is pretty much still in its infancy, and its very clear he is rebounding.
He clearly still has feelings for her, so the he should never have got into... (read in full...)
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