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writes:my aunt has romantic feelings for me and i feel the same way with her, and she keeps staring at me sexually and it kind of turns me on the way she does that. and i wish that we could make love in the bedroom (with protection of course) and as a teen i would sometimes kiss her on the mouth when we are alone and she of course would kiss me in return. so my question is:how do i fulfill my fantasy to make love with her in the bedroom without feeling awkward about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2021): You should keep this to yourself and not pursue it. Think of what will happen if the rest of your family finds out??
And also, there is the possibility that she will blackmail you to keep it secret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2021): Surely you know that is forbidden in all civilized societies. You are in America it shouldn't be that difficult for you to meet a girl/woman that is not related to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2021): BTW...you're SUPPOSED to feel AWKWARD about it!!!
She's either the sister of one of your parents, or she's an aunt by marriage. If your uncle finds-out, he'll likely(and should) pommel the snot out of you! Then the poop will hit the fan when word gets-out; and it becomes a family scandal. This is how lifelong family-feuds are started.
Go find yourself a lady who's unrelated, and keep the peace in your family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2021): There are boundaries we should respect; even when there's sexual-tension. Maybe you shouldn't spend so much time around your aunt; if you realize maintaining your appropriate distance is becoming more difficult.
There's a point when we should use restraint and self-control. Like around our sisters, cousins, and other female members of our families. Lower animals don't know any better, but somehow nature makes them adhere to natural boundaries. Humans have a higher intellect and self-awareness; we adhere to moral codes of decency.
Porn tends to fuzz the lines and barriers normally kept between relatives; and promotes the notion that any and all sexual encounters are worthy of exploring. "If it feels good, do it!" Nobody is off-limits.
Maybe you've indulged too much in porn. Dwelling too much in our sexual-fantasies tends to keep your mind preoccupied with sex more than usual; so you're projecting a lot of your sexual-fantasy onto your aunt, being the representation of the "older-woman" or MILF. Let's call it what it is. It's "incestuous." Draw the line somewhere.
Your aunt may not even be looking at you the way you are interpreting it. Just like some guys swear women gave them a look that invited them over to harass them. The fact she's your aunt should set off an alarm in your head. Obviously, your alarm isn't properly operating.
Keep it in your head and in your pants where it can't do any harm. Control yourself! She's family!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2021): Find your yourself a Cougar. A lot of young guys have that sex with an older woman fantasy. Aunts are off limits.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (22 October 2021):
 I would advise leaving this fantasy within the confines of your own mind, and leave it there.
I think that quite possibly you are mistaking the emotions of Aunty/Nephew love and twisting it in your own mind into something sexual, which you and i both know is very wrong.
If something happened, which i don't think for one minute it ever will, it would lead to a family breakdown, and would risk both of you being alienated from the family.
This is one of those things that i can never fully quite get my head around, being that my Mother has two sisters, and my Dad also has two sisters, which are my Aunties. The thought of ever looking at any of them in this way over the years repulses me.
My advice to you would be to abolish this weird fantasy of making love to her from your mind, and maybe try to find your self a girlfriend, preferably one that is not related to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2021): Oh my.Dude your aunt has been grooming you since you were a teen...can you not see that?? You may think yea...I am gonna get some.This is not really so.Yes you might get some but at what cost?? You are being manipulated big time yes...since you were a teen...maybe since you were a child.Kinda sick hey?Kind of like she is a pedofile.Have better standards for yourself.This could really damage you a lot mentally in life.Look I am old and have seen a lot of messed up things in my life and how they affect people in the long run.This will mess you up in the head when you are old and you will spend all your retirement money on therapy and not having fun.So not worth it.Stay away from sicko aunt for your future mental health.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2021): You sound about ten years of age - no, that was being generous, younger than that... mentally and emotionally at least. I find it hard to believe that any woman wants you when you speak of them in only sexual terms as if they are an object with no needs or feelings.
You talk as if you are boasting. Wow, you kissed her on the mouth. So what. Normal people do that with normal girlfriends, boyfriends, husbands and wives every day without feeling the need to tell other people about it. And they have the sense to get into normal proper real relationships that can include more than a kiss, which are not going to be kept secret and which give a lot more pleasure to both in other ways.
You need more than a few bits and pieces between your legs to please a woman. Women are not like men, they are not that easily pleased and I am sure that your auntie or any other woman you are fantasising about can easily get a man without having to make do with an immature wanker who has nothing to offer her. Your question reads very much like the chat on a sex chat line where the guy pays so much a minute for the woman to listen and pretend she is interested while she carries on doing her ironing.
You are probably a virgin - and with good reason - if you do not change the way you think about sex and women you always will be.
Even very old ugly women who are hairy, fat and gross can get a man who takes care of their other needs to, not just wanting them for sex. And those who are not fussy about who it is with or what it is tend to earn their living by chatting to creeps about sex on hot lines or meeting them.
You should try going into a chat room. They are full of women who will gladly take money off of you to chat to you about your fantasy and pretend it is real... while all the time they are laughing at you.
As for making love - the word love means it is about love not just sex. This has nothing to do with making love.
You are making love when it is two people who love and care about each other, which it is not.
And a grown up would know that there are plenty of other places to get cosy together, not just a bedroom.
But you let slip with the last detail of your question.
You asked how you can get sexy with er in the bedroom without feeling awkward. If you were sure she wanted you there would be no awkwardness. You are talking as if you are not sure she wants you or it! That you are worried that if you tried to kiss her she would reject you or complain.
Hardly surprising. Most women would and when it is your auntie it is far more likely they do. Especially if they have a normal relationship with a normal man already and have to think about that too.
If you carry on with your silly fantasies you will soon get in trouble with the police or at the very least your family who will maybe disown you, definitely castigate you and look down on you and stop liking you.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (22 October 2021):
 Really, you have no other options for sex than your aunt?
You can do anything you like in life but you should first consider whether you are willing to pay the price. The price of fulfilling your fantasy with your aunt could be a big family breakdown (because these things inevitably have a way of exploding in your face).
I would advise you leave this as a fantasy and find yourself a girlfriend who is not your mother's/father's sister. As the saying goes: don't defecate on your own doorstep.
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