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writes:Do u think my gf saying that in front of me was meaning it w a sexual undertone. She been in hospital for a week from the covid vaccine bs that gave her blood infection and she about died. But she almost done recovering. Or am I being paranoid.He was a black guy not anything special I d say. Then 2 days back she had blood drawn a male and female drew it she sd she was good cause fhey missed vein that she deserves a sucker. ? To me they seem overtly on purposed sexaul or made Im just pist cause few yrs ago I caught her saying to a co worker... u can take me out back and fuck me .. i had her heard it clear as day on her phone cuase I did make it record audio for a period cause i wanted to know if she was a cheater. Of course i never got proof or i overly denied it but i dont think i ever got concrete proof and forgot about whole thing. That was 2 yrs ago. I doubt she has cheated though since or before .. i think but maybe one time maybe way before. We been together 9 yrs.Sooo what do u think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2021): "He was a black guy not anything special I d say."
Had you not mentioned it, who would have known?
Had the nurse been a white-guy, would that make any difference?
Oh my gosh! If you were good, when we were kids, the doctor or dentist gives you a sucker/lollipop/candy when you got a needle, or an exam. She was only kidding with the nurses!
If you have a problem with "context;" I hope it wasn't due to the race of the nurse she said it to.
Dear, sir...how this all ties back to something as direct as the comment you said she made two years ago??? I can't make the correlation.
She allegedly used the f-word that time. She didn't insinuate anything, she was point-blank! If that was what she meant; it doesn't seem she'd use a word as bland and simple as "sucker." Don't you think she would have used a more colorful word?
The comment was totally harmless. Maybe she should have just said "lollipop."
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 October 2021):
 I'm with Ciar,
It was a joke. Kids get a "sucker" or Lollipop when for being good.
Nothing sexual in that.
My guess is because your GF ONCE made a sexually inappropriate comment you now read into EVERYTHING she says and look for a deeper meaning. There isn't one here. She was making a joke.
Seems like you don't trust her, so why are you with her?
How can you have a healthy relationship without trust? (hint hint, you can't).
You two need to find a way to rebuild that trust or this will continue. Do you want to be her prison warden and monitor everything she says to other people? Doesn't that drive you up the wall?
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (7 October 2021):
 I don't think there was anything funny going on here, nurses have to adopt and maintain a professional service, if they were seen or heard to be making comments of a sexual nature to patients they could very be having to look for another job.
I think that you are massively over thinking this, and i also suspect, that you may have been under the influence of alcohol while you were writing this post.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (7 October 2021):
 I think brain fog is real. You need to get some sleep, possibly get out, reconnect with friends, or take up a hobby or something, or all of the above.
In my opinion their comment was a harmless joke and nothing sexual at all. Offering an adult a lollipop for being good. A joke.
It baffles my mind how you saw it as sexual, and worse, that you think your girlfriend might have cheated at some point based on this.
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