I don't know how to read my friend and its confusing me
Q. I am a gay female who is completely confused about what's going on with a straight female friend. We met a few months ago and she immediately took to me. Asked for my number and we texted and talked a lot. She initiated the flirting and it ...
A. 12 May 2022: Why were you pursuing a straight woman in the first place?
It makes no sense!
You would like her to be a romantic option for you but IF SHE is straight you are NOT. You might be a way to test out curiosity or fantasy, nothing more.
She fe... (read in full...)
Friend ended engagement and his ex wont move out
Q. My best friend told me last night he ended his engagement due to a concern he had. He's 27, and engaged to a 54-year-old woman. She's got no kids, no grandkids. They've been together for 3 years now, I think they met in summer 2019. He said ...
A. 12 May 2022: "Is he becoming more wise to see this as him being possibly manipulated?"
Probably not.
However, that is on him.
Nightmares or not, unless he actually DO something (legally) to get her to move out, she isn't going to.
The Landlord (aka... (read in full...)
My husband of 3 years think we should live separate houses.
Q. Dear cupid My husband of 3 years think we should live separate houses. Long story short, he is not into marriage. We got married 3 years ago because I was about to leave for my country(came here for studies) and since he wanted to be with me, we m...
A. 11 May 2022: Just end it and move on.
Why would you try and be with someone if he obviously doesn't want to be with you?
Doesn't sound like he adds much positivity to your life.
Decide if you want to live here as a SINGLE divorcee or move back ho... (read in full...)
Husband admitted he a fwb relationship the whole time we were dating
Q. Note: I have changed a name in this in the interests of privacy. I am a newlywed who's only been married for 5 weeks, next week is the 6th week of our marriage. We had a nice wedding, small, intimate, and the proposal beforehand was romantic...
A. 11 May 2022: "You know you said we can talk about anything together, well, I've got something important to tell you.""
He should have told you this BEFORE getting engaged or married.
What a bag of dicks!
You can probably get an annulment instead of a d... (read in full...)
Friend behaving oddly & avoiding me.
Q. I’m at a complete loss as my situation and wondering if this has happened to anyone else? 6 years ago I moved from my home town to a town 4 hours away for my job. I still kept in touch with all my friends and family members. I ha...
A. 11 May 2022: I think she feels the friendship has run its course but she hasn't had the nerve to tell you.
I would just leave her be. You can't MAKE people want to stay friends no matter how much history you have.
Maybe just give her some space, and see i... (read in full...)
I can't live with his dogs. Should we break up?
Q. Hi all, I have been with my partner for 2 years..we are both 39 and love each other a lot. We do not live together because he has 2 large dogs. I have a four year old son from a previous relationship. His dogs are not aggressive but im terrified to ...
A. 11 May 2022: Sorry, OP he has had these dogs for 9 years and dated you for two, if I was in his shoes, YOU would be the one to go.
Who is going to shut up two dogs in a room?! Would you shut your kid up in a room? My guess is no.
While I get that you don... (read in full...)
Friend ended engagement and his ex wont move out
Q. My best friend told me last night he ended his engagement due to a concern he had. He's 27, and engaged to a 54-year-old woman. She's got no kids, no grandkids. They've been together for 3 years now, I think they met in summer 2019. He said ...
A. 11 May 2022:
Since you are in the UK, I'd suggest he contact Citizen's Advice for the correct legal procedure. Or find a solicitor.
I'm not totally sure about how they handle it in the UK.
If they rent and BOTH names are on the rental agreement, he might ... (read in full...)
My son just admitted to me that he likes having sex with male prostitutes/male escorts and is cheating on his fiancee and young son with them.
Q. I had an unexpected phone call from my son, 28 at 3am yesterday morning. He told me how, since lockdown restrictions ended in February, he'd been going and having sex with male prostitutes/male escorts and cheating on his fiancee and young son wi...
A. 9 May 2022: "Me and my husband don't know what the right thing to do in this situation is; drive to confront our son or have him come to us?"
Well no, HE is a fully adult human being. You "confronting" him isn't going to change what he is feeling or doing. H... (read in full...)
Is he lying about the Instagram account?
Q. Hello, I've been dating this man (25) for a couple of months now, however, he tells me that he doesn't use social media a lot and doesn't use Instagram at all. He sent me a few days ago a screenshot of an Instagram account (a travel account he ...
A. 9 May 2022: No, not everyone has social media. Some people like their privacy and don't feel a need to yell into the void about the Latte they had for breakfast or the new shoes they bought. Because no one really cares.
So no, he might NOT have an Instagra... (read in full...)
The house goes to his ex if he dies
Q. Hello Just looking for some advise if possible So my partner and have been together around a year We moved in together around 2 months ago, it’s his house which he holds a mortgage on When he asked me to move in with him he offered to p...
A. 9 May 2022: The ex-wife might also have helped with a downpayment, cosigned the loan etc. so SHE is the reason he was able to BUY the house in the first place. Which means she might be part-owner. Maybe he didn't buy her out when they split, with the proviso ... (read in full...)
She suffers from past trauma, and I get attacked.
Q. I have a girlfriend who has suffered a life time of trauma. 1st from her mother then the next two relashionships. This trauma ranges from hospitalizing abuse to flat out abandoment far from home. She dosent really stand up for herself as w...
A. 8 May 2022: OP, she sounds like she needs a lot of help that YOU CAN NOT give her.
You are not a psychiatrist or therapist and that is what she needs.
However, I can't fault someone for bringing backup JUST IN CASE, to feel safe. If all she has known ar... (read in full...)
My husband complains about our 'hum drum' life
Q. Hi guys. I'm a newlywed, been married for eight weeks now, my wedding was a small but intimate one with 20 guests. The issue here is my new husband. I really love him, but he's possibly changing or changed in a way that he's questioning the ma...
A. 8 May 2022: Tell him to move out. And when he does, you and he are over.
The whole POINT of a long-term relationship is not "fun", it's to support each other, invest in each other, spend time together, building a future.
Sounds like he wants to be sort... (read in full...)
Husband inviting friend over while I am gone
Q. I'm a businesswoman who normally has to travel, but during the pandemic I wasn't able to. It's good to be back on it again. And that's where my problem comes in. I'm currently in Connecticut but my husband and kids are in LA. I said to my husb...
A. 7 May 2022: Another troll post.
Same for this
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/former-co-worker-could-be-a-problem.html
Troll, do better.... (read in full...)
Husband cheating and I am questioning my whole life
Q. Hello. Not sure how to deal with this, it's a toughie for me and life's threw me a curveball. I really thought me and my husband had a good marriage until I discovered something on the Facebook and Instagram pages of the dance school that our daug...
A. 7 May 2022: Don't tell hubby you are getting a lawyer. Talk to a few EXPENSIVE ones too. That way HE can't hire them. If you had a consult with them. ;)
... (read in full...)
I don't want to go back to how things were
Q. Hi there.... so i've been married for over 7 years and I must say I love my husband very much. We've had our ups and downs but we've got through it all. I've noticed however, that since recently he seems to be getting more annoyed with me all the ...
A. 7 May 2022: What I don't get about your post is this..
You start out saying:
" I must say I love my husband very much. "
But you end your post with:
"What can i do... am i bad for not having any feelings any more for him?" and " However, I feel like... (read in full...)
Am I losing that guy?
Q. I need to know if I am losing that guy. We have both made moves - indirect non verbal to express what we feel towards each other- an attraction. I am pretty sure he had something for me since we saw each other but I did not want to take any of this ...
A. 6 May 2022: OP, be more professional.
THAT is my advice.
You can not CONDUCT anything (romantically or otherwise) "indirect nonverbal " to express ANYTHING. Sure, someone can eye another person "lustfully" or with "keen interest" in a romance novel bu... (read in full...)
Husband cheating and I am questioning my whole life
Q. Hello. Not sure how to deal with this, it's a toughie for me and life's threw me a curveball. I really thought me and my husband had a good marriage until I discovered something on the Facebook and Instagram pages of the dance school that our daug...
A. 6 May 2022: "Illinois is a "no-fault" divorce state. The days of having to prove adultery, abuse, or habitual drunkenness are gone. You can get divorced in a day; there is no waiting period. If your spouse objects, you must wait six months and prove the other ... (read in full...)
Is he rushing things or am I over reacting?
Q. Hello, I've met a man online about 1 year ago however things have been a bit more serious the last couple of months. He's very nice and respectful and we constantly video chat to create more intimacy. He seems interested in taking things to the n...
A. 1 May 2022: I have to agree, You are not overreacting at all.
While you have talked and video-called for a year, you haven't met in person. You might not FEEL the same way about him IN person as you do when talking over tech. He might not smell good, have goo... (read in full...)
Should we wait?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months. Since a few days, we've been talking about having sex. We really want to do it, but I don't know how to have sex and I'm also scared of getting pregnant. My friends say different things – some say ...
A. 30 April 2022: Getting pregnant should be a concern as it is HIGHLY possible if you are having sex.
So what to do?
Well, there is birth control. Be it a non-hormonal IUD, low hormone pill, implant for you, and ALWAYS condoms for him. PREFERABLY both.... (read in full...)
DUI dealbreaker?
Q. Dear Aunts, Anyone ever deal with a S.O. getting a DUI? Is it a deal breaker? Its not rubbing me the right way. Actually I wasn't even dating her but she just got it. Now a week later she confessed she had feelings for me. I know shes going throu...
A. 30 April 2022: For me, it would be but then again I have quite a few dealbreakers.
She is "too old" to not know better. And "too old" to not DO better. Apparently, though, she isn't smart enough to make better choices...
I think it's absolutely OK to... (read in full...)
Why is the spa tech flirting with me?
Q. I am 26M and my 30F girlfriend strongly prefers me to have a completely smooth upper body. I find that I kind of like it and it makes me feel like a fitness model wannabe. I definitely like my girlfriend’s reaction. It is a win - win. To keep me ...
A. 30 April 2022: LMAO Peter!
She is 100% trying to upsell you! But if you are a good looking guy who takes REAL good care of your body, I can't fault her for trying. I mean if she could PICK which client to see why wouldn't she pick a young hunk instead of leeri... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I broke up due to long distance. Did I dodge a bullet?
Q. My boyfriend (now ex) and I have been a couple for a couple of months, and have been dating for like a year and a half. (In person, I didn’t meet him online, I met him at uni) He went to an exchange program in February, and he isn’t returning ...
A. 30 April 2022: First off, I'm so sorry for the loss of your grandfather.
*hugs*
"Do you think I was the reason he pulled away or it was because of the exchange program?"
I think, he wasn't looking for anything serious at all. You were in the relationship 100... (read in full...)
Am I being hypocritical about seeing married men?
Q. This is a question about the past... I'm just trying to understand if we're "born smart" or do we live and learn... I know I have learnt from my mistake. And if it is ok to forgive oneself at some point… When I was 19 years old I fell in love wit...
A. 28 April 2022: "I also ponder over the question if I'm being a hypocrite if I say that I think that having an affair with a married person is wrong. "
Good question, OP!
Are you being a hypocrite? Yes, but at least you are a hypocrite speaking from ex... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my parents for the trauma they've caused me?
Q. For the last couple of months, my relationship with my parents has been awful. Let me start with the fact that I was raised in a very chaotic and abusive house, however, things have been more calm for the last couple of years but still, my mom does ...
A. 28 April 2022: Put it out of your mind for now, as FA said, your primary concern should be getting away from them and having your full independence - after that? LIVE your life. AS you want.
You don't OWE your parents anything, other than living the best lif... (read in full...)
What’s the nicest way to tell our good friends that their daughter is turning into a little tart?
Q. Yesterday when my 13 year old son asked me to sort out an issue on his iPhone I decided to have a little snoop through his messages. It felt really sly at first but I’m glad I did because I found WhatsApp messages between him and the daughter of ...
A. 27 April 2022: "But is there any nice way of telling them their daughter is becoming a little tart?"
It's kind of not your business to parent this girl. BUT I do understand that you feel her parents SHOULD.
What I would do, if I were in your shoes, is to tel... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I are back together but why has he still not told his mother?
Q. Hi everyone. Just some brief background. My boyfriend and I were together for 7 years before we took a relationship break to work on ourselves. We have not seen each other for 2 months but he will be back next month. We have been having FaceTime ...
A. 27 April 2022: He told you why.
"He said that he doesn't like to be wrong and that he has to wrap his head around it."
So for him, it's NOT a sure thing that the two of you will work out.
Which is fair.
Also, how much progress and working on yourself... (read in full...)
Family & Friends not supporting my baking business!
Q. When the pandemic hit - I like many others ended up having my hours at work cut drastically. I tried for months and months to get a full time job or another part time job to go alongside my existing job but with no luck. I have a mortgage and ...
A. 27 April 2022: Talk to your mom, she is ruining your business.
"My mum then told all friends I would give them my baked goods for 50% off"
Seriously? How are you to make it a successful business if you can't make a profit?
"The friends and family that ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I broke up due to long distance. Did I dodge a bullet?
Q. My boyfriend (now ex) and I have been a couple for a couple of months, and have been dating for like a year and a half. (In person, I didn’t meet him online, I met him at uni) He went to an exchange program in February, and he isn’t returning ...
A. 27 April 2022: I think you two didn't communicate very well at all. It wasn't a problem when you got to see each other often, but after he left?
I DO think he meant to break up with you, but thought it would hurt you "Less" if he called it a break, plus tha... (read in full...)
Is he beginning to change his mind?
Q. Hi everyone So, my boyfriend has always said that he wouldn’t ever want to get married to anyone. He says that he’s not really religious, and the idea of committing to someone in the eyes the government kind of scares him as it means you are fina...
A. 27 April 2022: Gotcha,
Marriage and kids... wait with the discussion until later, at least the serious ones. Who knows you might find out a year into dating that he just isn't your cup of tea.
Or you might decide that HE is your cup of tea, unless kids and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does nothing but watch loud women on tv
Q. Hi there, I would like to know what others think about my problem. Firstly I would like to make it clear that in no way am I a jealous person but I do have my own morals and standards. I have been with my partner for about 10 months. In th...
A. 25 April 2022: As WiseOwlE put it,
"I’m feeling that YOU not the right person for me and we don’t have any compatibility in other things."
You have dated for 10 months, so you have an idea if you can see yourself with him long-term or not. HE isn't going to c... (read in full...)
Am I been taken for granted
Q. Hi there, I am hoping you guys can help me with something. I have been with my partner now for a few years now and we get on great. Last year, he got himself a dog and I genuinely love this dog a great deal myself. However, I can't help...
A. 25 April 2022: OP,
He IS taking you for granted.
Just say no! You are watching the dog because you are trying to "prove" to him that you are a great GF, but seriously, it's OK to tell him no if you really don't want to watch the dog.
GO out with YOUR fr... (read in full...)
Is he beginning to change his mind?
Q. Hi everyone So, my boyfriend has always said that he wouldn’t ever want to get married to anyone. He says that he’s not really religious, and the idea of committing to someone in the eyes the government kind of scares him as it means you are fina...
A. 25 April 2022: Thanks for the update!
Well, I'm glad that you are still positive about marriage after your first one!
As for your BF, you don't mention how long you two dated so maybe it's also still VERY early days to know much of anything.
He ... (read in full...)
Is he beginning to change his mind?
Q. Hi everyone So, my boyfriend has always said that he wouldn’t ever want to get married to anyone. He says that he’s not really religious, and the idea of committing to someone in the eyes the government kind of scares him as it means you are fina...
A. 24 April 2022: Marriage isn't cute, and neither is having kids.
Seriously. I have been married for 25 years and have 3 "kids".
Both are HARD work. Rewarding but HARD work.
I get that you are young and impressionable so perhaps that is where the "romantic n... (read in full...)
Wasting my time with this guy?
Q. I met a guy and we texted back and forth for a few weeks, after we decided to go on a date. We kissed and everything went well, and we continued chatting and video calling. A week passed and he didnt text me following that I reached out to him and ...
A. 24 April 2022: Are you sure he is single?
And secondly, I think if he was really interested he would make more of an effort. He didn't have to try hard to get you in bet either. So, you know he is a low-effort kinda guy.
Every time he went quiet YOU reache... (read in full...)
Can we save this relationship for the sake of our unborn baby? I feel like I’m walking on eggshells
Q. Hi there, first of all my thank you so much for looking at my question. I’m 29 and my partner is 25, I met him at the start of last year, 14 months ago. I’m not sure whether he is emotionally abusive or if we are just a bad match. I don’t want to ...
A. 24 April 2022: Oh OP,
It breaks my heart to read your story. You thought HE was a great guy, that you had hit " the jackpot in a partner" he hid it very well for as long as it took to get you "hooked" and emotionally invested. Why hide it? Because he KNEW fro... (read in full...)
Sex and kicking girlfriend to the curb
Q. I am 23 NY new girlfriend of about 6 months says the first time She seen my penis it was not erect at the time she was very disappointed I asked her if there was a problem she j7st said it's so small Real ego booster she said he ex h...
A. 21 April 2022: No one is going to be great at ANYTHINg the first time they try it, or the second or third. Especially if they have no idea what they are doing wrong/right. She is 18 and you expect her to be some expert on BJs like a porn star?
She probably... (read in full...)
Would it be terrible of me to find and contact these guys and inquire about the possibility of trading stories?
Q. Hello all! So, I've been married to my wife for about 4 years now. Before we started dating, she was on a bit of a "wild streak" after her previous marriage ended. I'm completely ok with this and understand why. The thing is, I find myself turned on ...
A. 21 April 2022: Eww no, your wife is not your personal porn actor and you do not go contact her previous lovers to hear the juicy details.
If she is OK with sharing them, THAT is all you get, HER version.
Have a little respect for your wife.... (read in full...)
Do we back off?
Q. So this is quite a complicated blended family problem I have and just not sure how to handle this. My husband has 3 children from a previous relationship. His eldest isn’t biologically his, but his dad didn’t want any part in his upbringing, so m...
A. 21 April 2022: The oldest is desperate for some kind of connection to his mom. People who were abused by their parents STILL love them, sometimes they don't even recognize the abuse because they lived it. It was "normal" to them.
He is 23 now so a young ad... (read in full...)
My husband's ex travelled 90 miles to see him
Q. Hello guys. Not sure how to deal with this problem involving my husband and his ex. On Friday afternoon, his ex had come to our house, I didn't recognize the woman asking for him, she said she hadn't seen him since 1995, and wanted to talk to hi...
A. 20 April 2022: Yep to everything Miss Rita said :)
Seek legal advice. See if you can get a restraining order of some kind. (which might be hard but worth a try).
Sounds like she is fixated on "The One that got away" (your husband). And that turned into onli... (read in full...)
Married but attracted to a workmate
Q. Hi there! So, I know I'm probably gonna get a loooooot of answers telling me not to be a slut and to stop acting like a baby and so on and so forth. I've read them on numerous other posts. But I would really appreciate some kind advice please. ...
A. 20 April 2022: There are ZERO reasons for you to be friends with this horny creep at work. He isn't looking for friendship, he is looking to hook up with desperate and lonely coworkers. Married or really young women are usually "easier" targets. The married women, ... (read in full...)
How do my trainer and I deal with weirdness of his crush on me?
Q. Hi. Call me Marcus if a name is needed. I am a 20-year-old college student in my third year as undergrad. I am on a 100 percent scholarship for swimming with stipend so I don’t have to work and just focus on school and swimming. My scholarship ...
A. 20 April 2022: " Results are results, right? Who cares if he digs me? "
Just no, OP
What he did is NOT OK on any level. He was grooming you into thinking this is "normal" because to YOU it made sense to get your body fat measured on a regular basis. He made i... (read in full...)
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