Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 13 January 2023: I'm sorry for your loss, OP... (read in full...)
Is he beginning to change his mind?
Q. Hi everyone So, my boyfriend has always said that he wouldn’t ever want to get married to anyone. He says that he’s not really religious, and the idea of committing to someone in the eyes the government kind of scares him as it means you are fina...
A. 27 April 2022: Gotcha,
Marriage and kids... wait with the discussion until later, at least the serious ones. Who knows you might find out a year into dating that he just isn't your cup of tea.
Or you might decide that HE is your cup of tea, unless kids and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does nothing but watch loud women on tv
Q. Hi there, I would like to know what others think about my problem. Firstly I would like to make it clear that in no way am I a jealous person but I do have my own morals and standards. I have been with my partner for about 10 months. In th...
A. 25 April 2022: As WiseOwlE put it,
"I’m feeling that YOU not the right person for me and we don’t have any compatibility in other things."
You have dated for 10 months, so you have an idea if you can see yourself with him long-term or not. HE isn't going to c... (read in full...)
Am I been taken for granted
Q. Hi there, I am hoping you guys can help me with something. I have been with my partner now for a few years now and we get on great. Last year, he got himself a dog and I genuinely love this dog a great deal myself. However, I can't help...
A. 25 April 2022: OP,
He IS taking you for granted.
Just say no! You are watching the dog because you are trying to "prove" to him that you are a great GF, but seriously, it's OK to tell him no if you really don't want to watch the dog.
GO out with YOUR fr... (read in full...)
Is he beginning to change his mind?
Q. Hi everyone So, my boyfriend has always said that he wouldn’t ever want to get married to anyone. He says that he’s not really religious, and the idea of committing to someone in the eyes the government kind of scares him as it means you are fina...
A. 25 April 2022: Thanks for the update!
Well, I'm glad that you are still positive about marriage after your first one!
As for your BF, you don't mention how long you two dated so maybe it's also still VERY early days to know much of anything.
He ... (read in full...)
Is he beginning to change his mind?
Q. Hi everyone So, my boyfriend has always said that he wouldn’t ever want to get married to anyone. He says that he’s not really religious, and the idea of committing to someone in the eyes the government kind of scares him as it means you are fina...
A. 24 April 2022: Marriage isn't cute, and neither is having kids.
Seriously. I have been married for 25 years and have 3 "kids".
Both are HARD work. Rewarding but HARD work.
I get that you are young and impressionable so perhaps that is where the "romantic n... (read in full...)
Wasting my time with this guy?
Q. I met a guy and we texted back and forth for a few weeks, after we decided to go on a date. We kissed and everything went well, and we continued chatting and video calling. A week passed and he didnt text me following that I reached out to him and ...
A. 24 April 2022: Are you sure he is single?
And secondly, I think if he was really interested he would make more of an effort. He didn't have to try hard to get you in bet either. So, you know he is a low-effort kinda guy.
Every time he went quiet YOU reache... (read in full...)
Can we save this relationship for the sake of our unborn baby? I feel like I’m walking on eggshells
Q. Hi there, first of all my thank you so much for looking at my question. I’m 29 and my partner is 25, I met him at the start of last year, 14 months ago. I’m not sure whether he is emotionally abusive or if we are just a bad match. I don’t want to ...
A. 24 April 2022: Oh OP,
It breaks my heart to read your story. You thought HE was a great guy, that you had hit " the jackpot in a partner" he hid it very well for as long as it took to get you "hooked" and emotionally invested. Why hide it? Because he KNEW fro... (read in full...)
Sex and kicking girlfriend to the curb
Q. I am 23 NY new girlfriend of about 6 months says the first time She seen my penis it was not erect at the time she was very disappointed I asked her if there was a problem she j7st said it's so small Real ego booster she said he ex h...
A. 21 April 2022: No one is going to be great at ANYTHINg the first time they try it, or the second or third. Especially if they have no idea what they are doing wrong/right. She is 18 and you expect her to be some expert on BJs like a porn star?
She probably... (read in full...)
Would it be terrible of me to find and contact these guys and inquire about the possibility of trading stories?
Q. Hello all! So, I've been married to my wife for about 4 years now. Before we started dating, she was on a bit of a "wild streak" after her previous marriage ended. I'm completely ok with this and understand why. The thing is, I find myself turned on ...
A. 21 April 2022: Eww no, your wife is not your personal porn actor and you do not go contact her previous lovers to hear the juicy details.
If she is OK with sharing them, THAT is all you get, HER version.
Have a little respect for your wife.... (read in full...)
Do we back off?
Q. So this is quite a complicated blended family problem I have and just not sure how to handle this. My husband has 3 children from a previous relationship. His eldest isn’t biologically his, but his dad didn’t want any part in his upbringing, so m...
A. 21 April 2022: The oldest is desperate for some kind of connection to his mom. People who were abused by their parents STILL love them, sometimes they don't even recognize the abuse because they lived it. It was "normal" to them.
He is 23 now so a young ad... (read in full...)
My husband's ex travelled 90 miles to see him
Q. Hello guys. Not sure how to deal with this problem involving my husband and his ex. On Friday afternoon, his ex had come to our house, I didn't recognize the woman asking for him, she said she hadn't seen him since 1995, and wanted to talk to hi...
A. 20 April 2022: Yep to everything Miss Rita said :)
Seek legal advice. See if you can get a restraining order of some kind. (which might be hard but worth a try).
Sounds like she is fixated on "The One that got away" (your husband). And that turned into onli... (read in full...)
Married but attracted to a workmate
Q. Hi there! So, I know I'm probably gonna get a loooooot of answers telling me not to be a slut and to stop acting like a baby and so on and so forth. I've read them on numerous other posts. But I would really appreciate some kind advice please. ...
A. 20 April 2022: There are ZERO reasons for you to be friends with this horny creep at work. He isn't looking for friendship, he is looking to hook up with desperate and lonely coworkers. Married or really young women are usually "easier" targets. The married women, ... (read in full...)
How do my trainer and I deal with weirdness of his crush on me?
Q. Hi. Call me Marcus if a name is needed. I am a 20-year-old college student in my third year as undergrad. I am on a 100 percent scholarship for swimming with stipend so I don’t have to work and just focus on school and swimming. My scholarship ...
A. 20 April 2022: " Results are results, right? Who cares if he digs me? "
Just no, OP
What he did is NOT OK on any level. He was grooming you into thinking this is "normal" because to YOU it made sense to get your body fat measured on a regular basis. He made i... (read in full...)
My son's friend's mum left the kids alone at night
Q. My 12 yrs old son went to stay over with his mate, I assumed the mum of said child would stay in but my son told me she went to her mates for drinks and left them till 2am alone in the house to do what they liked , my son has never been left alo...
A. 20 April 2022: That is just not OK.
And what kind of mother (or father) does this? Oh yeah, I said OK for another child to be in my house overnight so I'll go drinking?! Did she think because it was 2! children it was Ok?
My aunt was a widow with 4 kids. She... (read in full...)
Am getting social blowback admitting my virginity
Q. For this anonymous letter I am Calvin and my girlfriend is Susie. Like the real Calvin and Susie from the Calvin and Hobbes cartoons, Susie and I have always lived in the same neighborhood. Unlike the cartoon Calvin, I have always liked girls and ...
A. 20 April 2022: FA put it so great, I have little to add.
Some think being a Virgin or NOT a Virgin is some sort of badge of honor. YOU decide what it means to you.
There is NOTHINg wrong in CHOOSING to not have sex before you are ready or before you are C... (read in full...)
My First Love returned.. now it's messy
Q. I'm 36 years old. About 8 months ago, i met my first love where we dated back in highschool. We used to date in McDonalds, the local malls and he was my first love and first kiss. We broke up eventually. He got married to someone else. Recently,...
A. 19 April 2022: "Should i call him to speak to him?"
No, you should do as he suggested and Fuck off.
I agree he Cc'd his wife, to make SURE she knows that HE is trying to focus on the marriage and NOT have anything to do with you.
"He has also blocked ... (read in full...)
Can I encourage these people to just move away?
Q. My new neighbors, a married couple, scare me! My husband and I are quiet friendly people. We tried to say hello when they moved in but they actually seemed annoyed we even spoke to them. Since then, they have done everything humanly possible...
A. 19 April 2022: Maybe it's time to consider getting a good fence?
“Good fences make good neighbors” As Robert Frost so cleverly said.
If they can't even be arsed to say hello, I don' think they are going to deal with their pets' poop or even give a shit (pun... (read in full...)
I only want to see my parents in a public setting
Q. Growing up, I did not have a good relationship with my parents and my brother. My dad had a temper and was a control freak. He also blamed others for his mistakes. My mom was a drama queen who freak out about everything. She also had to go t...
A. 19 April 2022: If your husband grew up with "decent" or even "good/great" parents it can be hard for him to really understand how you feel about your parents. However, I'm sure if you explain that you LIKE and WANT your privacy from your parents due to the ... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 17 April 2022: Why hasn't he had a vacetomy?
If he is 100% sure he doesn't want kids?
I mean sex should be pleasurable for BOTH people involved, shouldn't it?
It doesn't sound like you two are very compatible in the bedroom.... (read in full...)
Sister involved with married man. I am worried about her
Q. My sister who's 28 told me that she's been dating this guy since November (when lockdown had well ended by then, but Plan B was in the news) and that he's married but had been in the process of divorcing his wife since September yet she refuses to ...
A. 17 April 2022: It's hard to tell someone who is 28 what to do. Asperger or not. People who are in affairs get caught up in a fantasy where they are the "main character" and they "think" they are not "really" doing anything wrong because well THEY feel great!
... (read in full...)
Needle play?
Q. My new boyfriend has introduced needle play and I'm wondering if anyone else has tried this. I am into new kinky things and actually enjoy needle play. He has done patterns on my belly, back, and my buttocks. It really is not that painful. He uses ...
A. 16 April 2022: " It really is not that painful."
Yeah, nah, never done that, and since I have a fear of needles that would not be something I'd feel a need to try.
Are you the one to always "receive"?
If so, I'd question that. Makes me think that his ... (read in full...)
Son found nude photos of me
Q. My 14-year-old son recently came across some pictures of me that his father took of me back when we were teens.we have been together for a long time and got married when I was pregnant with my son. The pictures were in an old shoebox filled with ...
A. 16 April 2022: "Which is worse, thinking your father has kiddie porn or knowing that you just saw a teen version of your mother naked?"
The first. Hands down.
What I would have a chat with your son about is WHY he went through stuff that isn't his to go ... (read in full...)
I am seeing a side of my husband that I don't like
Q. Hi all. I am married to a man who has started showing me sides of himself I never knew. Prior to getting married, he was always apologetic if he offended me. After 6 years of being married, he has shown an arrogant side that disgusts me to say the ...
A. 16 April 2022: Are you wrong for being offended?
Nah, not really, but I feel you are a little over the top on this. you read WAY more into this than was meant.
He probably just said that because he recognized her and remembered his little "scam" that got ... (read in full...)
Tired of being wary of husband
Q. My husband and I have been married for 12 years this may. I once caught him taking herbal pills along with viagra. He told me he was too ashamed to tell me. We talked about my feelings of omission and lying and he quit. Now, I just found a whole ...
A. 16 April 2022: Does he have a prescription for them?
If not is he really aware of the risk that comes with Viagra? Is it worse for him to TELL you that he needs a little help in staying hard/getting hard rather than having issues due to the side effects?
"Yo... (read in full...)
Should I have a breast reduction?
Q. Should I have a breast reduction? I feel really awkward about this, I am 38G (uk size) in bra size and it's depressing, they are so heavy and yes they retain the shape and they aren't the worst and I understand that some women would love to ha...
A. 15 April 2022: "My boyfriend won't support me getting a reduction "
That is one idiotic BF!
"He tells me women would kill for them and that he has seen ugly breasts." So what? He is NOT the one living with them.
It's not up to him to make this choice. If ... (read in full...)
Best friend wants me to take responsibility for her adult daughter if she dies
Q. I’ve known my friend for 23 years, she is one of the nicest people I know and I absolutely treasure our friendship. She is 5 years older than me so I’ve always seen her as a big sister. I’m even godmother to her eldest daughter and this unf...
A. 15 April 2022: You have to be honest. Seems like everyone walks on eggshells around this kid.
BE honest with your friend. Tell her I'm not ready or willing to take on that repsonsibility. Her daughter is 19, so legally an adult. " Technically, the end of your ... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 15 April 2022:
When you swallow you are being as submissive as heck, you are basically as intimate as it gets. 1. he doesn't have to stop his climax 2. if you swallow you are "accepting "all" of it, in a way. And 3. for some men it's a little bit about dominanc... (read in full...)
Married and attracted to female coworker
Q. Help! I'm so confused about what I'm doing! I'm a 32 year old female who has been married to a man for the past 3 years. I've always identified as 100% straight. And now I just don't know what the heck I'm feeling anymore. I started working ...
A. 14 April 2022: I think you need to wake up and smell the coffee.
" I know what I'm doing is wrong because I'm married and she's with someone." So why do you continue?
It sounds like you are participating in an emotional affair or the beginning of one... (read in full...)
Do I check into mothers past? Report her?
Q. Hi everyone, I was recently at a meeting with a nurse regarding my children as they are being assessed for autism. Present in the room were myself, the nurse and my husband. The nurse asked about our family backgrounds so without going to a great...
A. 14 April 2022:
" What would you do in my situation"
I would feel a sense of obligation to check and see if she is still working. I would have given the nurse your mom's name.
However, your allegations ARE just that, allegations (even if they are true).... (read in full...)
Did the pandemic kill it?
Q. I am a British woman. In June 2019 I met a man during a very short trip to Hungary, a place I really love and was, at the time, thinking about moving to. I was interested in talking to the locals and the man (let's call him Janos, although ...
A. 13 April 2022: Wish Janosh a happy life and then cut contact and focus on the guy you are with now, It's not fair to EITHER guy for you to string them along while you "decide" what you want to do.
As far as Janosh, well, I think you were a |holiday romance"... (read in full...)
Is my reaction to an awkward moment considered 'harrassment'?
Q. Hi there. I cannot believe I am writing this but here goes. It is sort of a weird role reversal sexual harassment reality check. I am not trying to get anyone in trouble. I think I might be part of the problem, but now I am sort of the focus in ...
A. 13 April 2022: Jacob, talk to your supervisor alone. Let her know how embarrassing it was already.
While it IS a "natural body function" and they handled it in a joking manner (instead of with disgust or disdain) THEY were not the butt of the joke or the one ... (read in full...)
Is fantasy better than reality? Cheating and enjoying vs real life relationship
Q. I am a 49 yeard old happily married man for 28 years, we have had our ups and downs like most but for the most part our relationship has been happy and healthy. We have 2 children aged 16 and 6. I have a great job and thus my wife does not need to ...
A. 13 April 2022: So what you are asking is, is it a SURE BET to divorce my wife for a BARELY adult woman?
It's not.
You are TWICE as old as your "mistress". What do you actually share in common? Great sex? Well, that is a solid foundation!
Bringing up the... (read in full...)
She and I have a crush on each other. How do I go from here?
Q. Hi A member of staff in my child's school has a crush on me ( I am married) and I also have a crush on her. She is in a senior position. I have known she has a crush on me because she kept checking me dropping time, trying to get my attention...
A. 13 April 2022: A "good morning" should suffice. She isn't a friend or relative she is a worker at your child's school.
I don't know why you think you would have to move your kid to another school, that seems a bit over the top.... (read in full...)
Is it time to let her go?
Q. I guess I should start by saying "Hi and thanks for taking the time to listen to my personal issues" There's this woman, we'll call her Mary. Mary and I have been off and on since we were both in our early twenties. We're now around our mid t...
A. 12 April 2022: OP, Good luck with the move, I think it will be good for you to get out and meet new people, see new places and better yourself as a person.
Should you tell her before you go that you care?
No, she knows. However, you two are NOT a good fit a... (read in full...)
He asked for my panties
Q. Hi so I'm seeing this guy, we started hanging out 2 weeks back. And then things escalated to a kiss and then cuddles, I am not sure if we're dating or not, I'm scared to ask him but he is now asking me for sexual favors like a handjob, even though I ...
A. 12 April 2022: Give him back the t-shirt and tell him to go kick rocks.
The guy is the RED flag here, girl.
His whatsApp status is a manipulation tactic to get you to think you are doing something wrong.
He doesn't respect you AT all. He keeps pressuring... (read in full...)
She and I have a crush on each other. How do I go from here?
Q. Hi A member of staff in my child's school has a crush on me ( I am married) and I also have a crush on her. She is in a senior position. I have known she has a crush on me because she kept checking me dropping time, trying to get my attention...
A. 12 April 2022: You are married, behave yourself! And so is she!
And she probably hasn't gotten a clue about your crush, she just saw someone who at first seemed friendly, then acted weird, so she pulled back.
Grow up and get a grip.
... (read in full...)
We are struggling to fit in
Q. My question's about dating. I've been dating this lady, since early February, and we've met when restrictions allowed. Luckily our province and town hasn't been hit badly by lockdowns or that... just masks and social distancing. However, s...
A. 12 April 2022: 1. Video "dating" works for some, for others, it might not be a "thing". So no worries there. You two have to move forward however you two feel it works ORGANICALLY. There isn't a "this is how everyone dates" set in stone set of rules.
2. " ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 12 April 2022: Good for you to have had the chat with her and perhaps "making" her see why you felt it wasn't realistic. I get why she got upset, I'm sure she has a lot more faith in her brother, but I think she needed to hear that. Also, imagine the Brother's GF ... (read in full...)
My New Flatmate Is Very Self-Centred And Narcissistic, How Do I Deal With Her
Q. I am a professional lady who just turned 30, and recently had a girl my age move into my flat as my flatmate (we are renting from a private landlord). She is reasonably clean and tidy, etc, and works in a good career as a doctor, but some aspects of ...
A. 11 April 2022: Maybe you need to find a way to suggest she moves out and you find another roommate.
She sounds exhausting!
Or you need to let her know you are JUST roommates, not besties, and then stick to doing YOU and she can do what not without you.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend’s coworker keeps asking him to cheat on me with her, and he keeps saying no. what do I do?
Q. Earlier this week, my boyfriend told me that he has a coworker that has been flirting with him all the time. she finally asked him to meet with her outside of work, and he did. (it was just next door at a food place). she somehow knew that we’ve ...
A. 11 April 2022: Your BF needs to tell her if she doesn't stop this, he will have to take it to their boss.
This is borderline sexual harassment. which is NOT to be tolerated at work.
Also, your BF is fibbing. HE has told her about the issues you two have. Or... (read in full...)
Husband is addicted to magic game and I am sick of it
Q. My (29F) husband (31 M) is addicted to Magic: The Gathering, is ruining our relationship and finances Some background: My husband and I met in our early 20s and have been together cumulatively for 8 years. We have been married for 3. He has played...
A. 11 April 2022: Well, for one I think you two NEED to have a sit-down and do a budget.
He can set aside money for his cards/game and you can set aside money for your hobby (even though cooking benefits you both).
You NEED to tell him just this:" I am fee... (read in full...)
Should I go to the wedding of an ex best friend that I can't stand?
Q. I have a friend, Pamela, from highschool that I haven't seen in years. She wasn't a real friend, when I was being bullied, she prefered to stay friends with them and even acted as if she wasn't that close to me, which hurt me and I'm glad I went to ...
A. 10 April 2022: I agree!!!
"I have to ask this: why can't you just say "no thanks" and walk away?"
Just say no. And then you block her! She isn't a friend, she is pestering you for whatever reason.
And because you won't just tell her no, you are now in t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 8 April 2022: Let us know how the chat goes.
I hope she will realize that she is babying her Brother and that isn't helping him, her, OR the relationship.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 6 April 2022: Actually, OP
I really enjoy all the updates, it gives a better perspective of what is going on. So never feel that you shouldn't do that! It's great.
One thing I have learned in my long-ish marriage (we are at 25 years this year) is that be... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 5 April 2022: I think FA hit ALL the important points.
You do NOT have an issue with the Brother, you are NOT dating the Brother.
SHE is being wishy-washy with her Brother and babying him because it GIVES her another 18 months to NOT move in with you.
IF ... (read in full...)
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